Originally Posted by
mpine86
Just as we see in every corner and facet of our lives as human beings, the diversity in the answer of why certain men love to suck penis is extremely vast. I have done an immeasurable amount of research on this topic in order to attempt to explain my own drive to suck another man's penis, and while there does seem to be some common threads that link one to another in very superficial ways, the overall theme seems to be that each man has his own very unique reasons. In fact, the common threads that do exist seem to only successfully present the what and not necessarily the why. For example, there is a good amount of evidence to suggest (to me at least) that bisexuality among men, and especially the desire to orally please another man specifically, is in fact a very common phenomenon and one that a staggering amount of men share. One theory that I have found extremely interesting (and one that I directly relate to myself) is the idea that we all have essentially two separate sexual identities - the 'things' that arouse us and get us going, and the 'things' that get us off. And as much as we tend to link the two and believe they are one in the same, there is very good reason to believe that they are in fact separate from each other. This has been my direct experience. A good example of this is the way in which I have never 'checked out' another guy, never entertained the notion of having sex with a specific guy or had a 'crush' on another guy, and have never fantasized about other men in the same way I do women. When I'm at the beach, my eyes and dick are naturally drawn to the half-naked girls. And typically what gets me going or gets me aroused is the thought of sex with a woman and all of the endless things that I love about the female body. However, when it comes time to get off, nothing does it for me like a beautiful penis or the thought of worshipping that penis. Dicks simply take me to a rarified place that almost no other fantasy can (except for my naughty wife, that is!). So, what does all this gobbledy-gook possibly mean? When it comes down to it, there are many human behaviors and desires that simply cannot be boiled down to broad, one-size-fits-all explanations - and sexuality is at the top of that list. And as much as we want to super-analyze our own behaviors and desires, this is one of those things that may be best relegated to the realm of the unexplainable; something that is explained best in the absence of words rather than with words.
All of that being said, I believe that my own desire to suck another man's penis can somewhat be explained by the events in which my sexuality was developed and the fact that I never had a loving father in my life. I spent a lot of time playing with, visually examining, and eventually sucking on, my own penis for many years. I believe that all that 'dick time' for me caused a direct link between my notion of sexual pleasure and the penis in general. When I was very young (maybe 5 or 6), a friend and I used to give each other mutual oral (not really even knowing what the heck we were engaging in), and I also had at least one experience that I can remember of seeing another boy's erect penis right in the height of puberty. And I believe that the effect of not having a loving father in my life has also caused me to seek out a replacement for that in suckling at another man's penis (I think this is referred to as "feeding" ?). Of course, as I've attempted to establish above, my own reasons cannot be simply boiled down to these facts, but I think an understanding of these things at least gets me closer to an understanding of why I am an otherwise straight, female-obsessed guy with a gigantic 'penis fetish.'
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