I have a couple of male friends (I am also male), who I think would be willing to try a bi experience, but am not sure how to approach them. Don't want to lose them as friends, and since I am not out, don't want word to spread that I am bi-curious. Looking for advice.
Well, you're either going to have to come out to them or forget it. You don't have to make a big announcement, but just kind of casually let them know that you're bi (I often refer to being a member of this site to do this). See what kind of reaction you get to that. If they seem pretty cool with this new information, you can start to broach the subject and kind of feel them out (or up if you're feeling bold).
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Just remember the old saw ... "The answer is NO until you ask the question." If you do not say anything, you will never know. One approach might be to ask something like, "Have you ever wondered what it would be like to J/O with a friend?" Then, judge from the answer how to proceed next.
Many of us have the same question in our minds. But, we never talk about it. So, you end up with friends that all want the same thing, and nobody breaks the ice.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Good Luck.
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You should be able to easily tell if they're interested in you sexually, even if it's not just wishful thinking or projection on your part.
This isn't something that can be taught either, you either can do it and do it very well, or you don't know how to.
let someone else approach them. most freinds are not true freinds,and you just might lose them as freinds.Originally Posted by dhatpc
dropping a hit as to your sexuality is a good idea. Then if they respond well try flirting, if they withdraw u know u need to back off.
Ok, well sorry if this is a bit late... But here goes.
If they are friends, then keep them that way.
I've seen lots of friendships turn sour when friends decide to sleep with each other. Theres more fish in the sea so to speak, so find some other men that you can be comfortable with sharing your sexuality ie kissing, etc etc.
IF you choose to come out to your friends then thats up to you, but good luck anyways!
Class, race, sexuality, gender and all other categories by which we categorize and dismiss each other need to be excavated from the inside.
Dorothy Allison quote.
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