Originally Posted by
ErosUrge
Again another example of someone who doesn't get it and is very self-righteous. She never said ANYTHING about cheating or being deceitful; that is entirely your take. No one is speaking about lies and deceit here. Hiding and being deceitful are definitely not good for anyone including the person doing it. However, people do stumble and fall and make mistakes. And are they to be condemned for it and forever? How is it YOU are the one that is in charge and sets all parameters? You probably consider yourself a Christian also or that would be my guess. And the ones that profess to be usually don't live it but are ready to talk it. So if it is, once again, "He without sin cast the first stone"....I mean really...
She never said anything about cheating.
I think that monogamy is an amazing thing and beautiful, but not everyone can do it. But that doesn't make those who do not choose it less than those who do choose monogamy. If indeed it is made clear what we are when entering a relationship or what we at least intend, that is a beginning. Deceit and lies don't just happen with bisexuals and there you are mistaken to say that it gives bisexuality a bad name...so much deceit and lying goes on with straights and gays also; it has nothing to do with orientation. Deceit and lying is what it is and it's ugly and applies to everyone.
And how is it one calls oneself bisexual and is here at this site claiming monogamy? If one is truly monogamous, then claiming to be bisexual is a bit of an oxymoron. If indeed one is monogamous, then it would mean that person is no longer participating sexually with anyone except that person they are supposedly committed to. They may have been bisexual prior to entering a committed relationship, but the reality of it only remains in past experiences only. I know there are bi couples here that are monogamous and committed only to each other...and that they're bisexuality has more to do with the past than with the present. And I think they have a right like anyone to be here. Sexuality is so multi-faceted and everyone has a story. And as has often been pointed out by many at this site, labels get ridiculous after a while but we choose to use them to somehow describe something about us somehow.
However, when someone such as luv2eatass goes into an attack frenzy or just about every post he puts up is on a negative slope, things become quite clear about the makings of such an individual. But interestingly enough, luv2eatass has absolutely no information in his profile....which in itself is a bit suspect for someone who is so ready to make attacks on anyone here. It's okay that he doesn't have any info on himself as that is his prerogative. But it looks to me like he's hiding by not divulging anything about himself. Is he afraid that somehow someone he knows might find out he's here? Or have an idea it's him? And yet he is ready to come here and talk nonsense about lying and cheating, blah blah blah. Very suspect indeed.
Anytime anyone attacks someone so viciously as luv2eatass has, it says more about the person on the attack than the one they're attacking. There are other methods of presenting opposition than coming at someone from a self-righteous attitude. And anyone self-righteous in my opinion reveals what is obvious about them for everyone to see. I too am obviously a bit self-righteous by even addressing this and spending so much energy on it. It would probably have been best to not even respond to this as for those who can see do see what is at work with luv2eatass.
I expect a very intense retaliatory response to this and of course when one is on the defensive after having been on the offensive, they will usually show their true colors as has already been the case with him taking to the offense.
This doesn't have to be so ugly...and I do wish you well in your monogamy. That in itself should be enough for you. And if you are monogamous, what are you doing here at this website and is it with your 'committed partners' knowledge? I wish you well; truthfully.