Is there that "One" for me?

[Sean-Templar]

I know I am bisexual, and I know I don't value one less than the other. I know that to me each one can be the most amazing experience with the right one. I love sex, sometimes allot, and I love the feeling one gets when its not just sex but when bodies entwined like the swirls of paint on a canvass. Even before you see the complete picture the magnificence of the paints blending into each other is so passionate. I love the physical attraction of the masculinity of the male body and a woman's body is so sexy, even when they are pregnant. I have been in relationships with woman and with men, I have learned that with the right partner I can live to be the happiest man on earth. No matter what problems we face, just as long as we are together then everything will work out. I have an idea in my head in what I am looking for. Every time I find that someone it isn't really it. Actually I seem to be attracting the psycho/ stalker's, but that's what you get sometimes. If they look that good something has to be wrong somewhere. So I stop searching so I can find my next adventure. Recently I made a fool of myself on 4th of July weekend and I put myself out there and he was so middle ground about everything and figuratively letting me know that it's ok that I just acted like a 13 year old getting ready for his first kiss, laying in bed in the dark, and not knowing how to act but to tell him all this out loud like talking about it will make it better. Why is it your cool when its casual, a dork when you actually like someone? If so does that mean if its the right one it will be perfectly natural? I would like to think so but I don't know, but today I feel super lonely, and hopefully will feel better tomorrow. Thanx for my ramble, reply if you choose. :2cents::banghead:

[DiamondDog]

Get out and meet more people. Or maybe take a long break from dating and having relationships with people?

[Herbwoman39]

The amazing thing is that we're all human. We live, we experience, we learn and...hopefully...we walk away from each experience knowing something we didn't know before.

Life is a learning process hon. Eventually everything works itself out. You can still be a dork with the right one :-) The great part is...the right one will love the dorkiness in you.

[Gemini25]

Hey Sean, I know how you feel... Although I tend to go by what Diamond dog mentioned, I like to get out and meet new people, but I am also perfectly happy being by myself as well.

I work with this lady who when I first met her she was jumping in and out of relationships every month. I used to think how sad it was for her to NEED to be in a relationship So bad that she would put herself through all the stress, hassel, heart ache, and bull shit, over and over again. Then one day I was thinking about it, and I came to the conclusion that Hey at least she's putting herself out there, having fun, and getting laid for fuck sake.

So the answer is there is no answer, just what's right and works for you. Have fun, Play safe, and enjoy yourself. The perfect person will come when you least expect it. Just my :2cents:

[onewhocares]

when bodies entwined like the swirls of paint on a canvass. Even before you see the complete picture the magnificence of the paints blending into each other is so passionate.

I do like the picture that you have painted for us.


I have often wondered if we should in fact search for "the One"....my thought is that you should never be afraid to go out into the world and search and enjoy those people who come into ones life. You NEVER know what lies ahead...inside someone you meet perhaps on a lark or where a relationship may go...be it friendship or more. Could there be a chance that you could be hurt..oh yes, will you? Most assuredly. But in amongst the hurt and pain may be a diamond in the rough...someone to make all the difference in the world to you. Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all.

Wishing you the same luck that has brought so many wonderful people from this site into my life.

Belle