Gay.Com -- Any experience?

[BronzeBobby]

This is a question for the boys --

Have you had any experience on gay.com? How did it go for you? How does it compare to this?

[DiamondDog]

I'm on gay.com and I like it and I've met some nice people there but I don't pay for any of it so I'm rather limited in what I can do but I have had people contact me because I've posted my profile on there.

[bisexualinsocal]

Most of the guys there are just... uhm, gay. My gaydar is off the friggin charts. Way too fem or just way too into men for my tastes. Of course everyone is different.

[DiamondDog]

Most of the guys there are just... uhm, gay. My gaydar is off the friggin charts. Way too fem or just way too into men for my tastes. Of course everyone is different.

BiSexinSoCal-Am I 'way too into men' for your tastes? ;):bigrin::):2cents:

I don't mind if I am but I just want to know your personal opinion.

[bisexualinsocal]

BiSexinSoCal-Am I 'way too into men' for your tastes? ;):bigrin::):2cents:

I don't mind if I am but I just want to know your personal opinion.

I don't know. I'll just say that I get uncomfortable with guys who want to take it to an emotional level. Sex with guys is recreational to me, not emotional. There isn't much more than sex involved.

In other words, if you start falling in love, I get creeped out.

[BronzeBobby]

Most of the guys I've met online at gay.com have turned out to be bi or don't want love either, actually. Which is fine with me. I haven't met many offline, though. I was just curious; gay.com strikes me as a lot bigger than bisexual.com, almost too dizzying for my tastes. But then again, they don't seem to have these flaming wars that go on here.

[DiamondDog]

I don't know. I'll just say that I get uncomfortable with guys who want to take it to an emotional level. Sex with guys is recreational to me, not emotional. There isn't much more than sex involved.

In other words, if you start falling in love, I get creeped out.

I actually prefer emotional/romance with men and I thrive in it, and do a lot better in closed/monogamous relationships with men than I do when it comes to relationships with women.

I probably prefer dating/sex/relationships with men, and I can get infatuated with men but I'm realistic about it and our relationship together. If I think a guy and I will hit it off and have a good relationship together I don't chase him or tell him this on the 2nd date with flowers or any of that, or try to "force" him into dating/having a relationship with me.

BisexSoCal, don't take offense at this but men like you aren’t my type at all and I don't want to sleep with you. I've been with a biMM friend who has an open marriage and while I do like him I don't want to get too emotionally attached since he's married to a woman he wants kids with, I'd always be the 3rd wheel/piece on the side in that relationship, and I don't want that type of relationship.

I also get freaked out when women want to take things to the next level, or how even if you agree with them beforehand that it's just sex and that you'll be going separate ways afterwards no matter what happens/does not happen, and then you're somehow her boyfriend or she thinks that you are or that you're both in love and somehow obligated to have a relationship together just because you've had sex together.

I’m OK with the idea of theoretically casually dating a woman or having a friends with benefits type thing but I don’t want a girlfriend/wife or a live in relationship with a woman. I’d also theoretically date a MF couple but I’d never expect to be equal in that relationship at all, or expect it to last.

Sometimes sex with women can be more of a fantasy for me and it’s not like I seek it out all that much, and I’m rather picky about the types of sex I want to do with women and what I don’t want to do.

I’m not into doing just vanilla sex at all with women, like myself and a woman. If it’s just myself and a woman I don’t want to have vaginal sex with her, I don’t want to get oral sex from her at all, yet I love doing BDSM with women and giving a woman dominant oral sex. I’m not that into masturbating women or having a woman do it to me but I prefer having this type of sex with men only; but I’ve been doing that since I was very young with the male gender. I don’t consider a MMF/MFM 3 way without erotic BDSM, to be vanilla sex at all, and if I were going to have sex with a woman I’d want a guy to be there too if I had it my way. I’d rather fist a woman than have vanilla vaginal sex with her but I would fuck her if another guy and I were having a MMF/MFM 3 way with her.

I've dated/had relationships with bi/gay men who I've met on gay.com and other sites and it works fine. I'm up front that I am into dating/relationships and how I'm not into casual sex/sex with strangers/hook ups.

[bisexualinsocal]

Sometimes sex with women can be more of a fantasy for me and it’s not like I seek it out all that much, and I’m rather picky about the types of sex I want to do with women and what I don’t want to do.


Yep, we're exact opposites. I'm very picky when it comes to guys. With women, I'd fuck about 90% of them. I'm pretty typical.

[nothings5d]

Yep, we're exact opposites.

And you two make me realize more than ever that I rate at the very middle of the Kinsey scale, because I couldn't imagine wanting a different kind of relationship with a man than I'd want with a woman.

[cliffml]

I haven't been on there in awhile, but I used to go on there for the chat rooms. Had some real good cyber gay sex i their.

[CaliChris]

gay.com is more the sexual experience of fast food. I've had some amazing chat sessions on there and some mind-blowing phone sex. I don't think people go there looking for a relationship. I hooked up with a transgendered person on gay.com and she was definitely not into a relationship. She just wanted the friends with benefits thing going, and it was perfect for me. Great place if you are horny, but I wouldn't be looking for love there.

[poconowho@yahoo.com]

For the most part, I haven't had a problem with gay.com. The chat rooms aren't bad. Only really had one bad experience on there and he was just a downright psycho. It's made me steer clear for a while, but other than that it's not a bad place.

N.

[FalconAngel]

Never go there, but I sure get a lot of spam from people advertising it and other Gay sites.

Maybe the spammers are the reason that I won't go there.

[BronzeBobby]

One of the things I noticed with gay.com is there's a weird schizophrenia about bisexuality on there. If you read their articles and the posts that people attach to them, you will see an extremely judgmental gay community that hates bisexuality and condemns bisexuals with an almost religious hatred. But then in the chatrooms, bisexuals seem to be there in almost equal proportion to gays, and a lot of the men are in open marriages.

Why do you think bisexuals on that site seem to shy away from posting opinions on the article boards, but they have no problem jumping into chatrooms?

[the mage]

I don't get sucked into paying to troll so get little from it.
No need to pay, I get approached often enough by real people...

[ready484u]

Try squirt.org it free and all about sex lot of married guys who want man sex on the side.Lots of men on there in your area no matter where your from.I have met quite a few guys on there and 99% of them just want sex.Its about equal bi and gay.

[funhunter44]

This is a question for the boys --

Have you had any experience on gay.com? How did it go for you? How does it compare to this?

My biggest criticism of gay.com is the spammers using this site. Everytime I go into a chat room on gay.com...I get spammy IM's from young guys trying to get me to go to their webcam paysite. It was so aggravating that I quit using gay.com, and I haven't signed in there for a very long time.

I guess how much you can get out of an ad there depends a lot on what you are looking for. If you are seeking a relationship, it's probably better than most sites....but if you are just looking to "hook-up", I think squirt.org or men4sexnow.com would probably be more productive sites for you.

I've heard some guys talk about manhunt.com.... does anybody have anything particularly good or bad to say about this site?