Anal for men vs. women ??

[sweet-t]

In reading the post about Strawberry wanting to do anal, it got me thinking.

My man LOVES anal sex, we have a toy in particular that he absolutely loves. He's gotten to a point where he asked me to quit cause he couldn't breath from the enjoyment, he thought he would pass out, he had never experienced that before, but he liked it!!!

I've asked him a couple times if he wanted to do me anal and his response was, i don't see what a woman would get out of it, because men have a prostrate that when massaged correctly will drives us batty.

So, I'm thinkin after reading about all the women that actually enjoy anal sex what about it makes it enjoyable for you? I have had a guy in the past try me and he just shoved it in, hurt like HELL!!! :eek:

I also would like to try it with my hubby, give him that experience with me, but really neither of us sees what I would get out of it. (if you haven't guessed he's a VERY giving person when it comes to sex, he doesn't want to do it unless i get something out of it too).


So what's the enjoyment ya get from it girls?

[trip1]

Hi Sweet-t

First off I'd never ask my lady to let me do something that she couldn't do to me. She gives me oral she can share after with a kiss and I find that a huge turn on. I go down on her after and she's pulling me up to share with kisses as well. If I want anal with her she can and has got out the strap on and did me. For your question she loved doing me with her strap on and I loved it as well. All of this is subject to your parteners wishes of course but I'd never expect mine to do something she didn't want or if she did she could give it back to me. I hope this makes sense. I'm single now but I still think the same....

[Lorcan]

My man LOVES anal sex, we have a toy in particular that he absolutely loves. He's gotten to a point where he asked me to quit cause he couldn't breath from the enjoyment, he thought he would pass out, he had never experienced that before, but he liked it!!!

I have had that intense of a pleasure from it before, and i am female, so prostate or not, we have something equivalent. I would like to find out the mechanics of it myself so i know what causes it/ how i can duplicate it.

It may not work for you, but (taking it very gently) what's the harm in trying?

[Lorcan]

I did a quick search on the web to find out how anal sex can be pleasurable to woman. This is what i came up with:

For women, pleasure may also be derived from anal intercourse because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, making the sensation different and sometimes actually stronger.

A minority of men and women can respond orgasmically to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority even though the sheer excitement of being anally penetrated.

The anus contains many of the same kinds of nerves as the penis or clitoris.

The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated.

So that's what i found.
Also, i've noticed that there is only a thin wall of tissue between the rectum and the vagina, so i bet you could probably feel the "G'' spot anally. Which they say is really close to the paraurethral gland, the Female Prostate.
They said they don't know if the Female Prostate is sensitive.

So, to sum it all up... if ya like it, ya like it.

[jordok]

You should consider the psychological impact of anal penetration upon a man. I am not sure that prostrate manipulation is the main drive in any man seeking to be penetrated.

[bigregory]

You should consider the psychological impact of anal penetration upon a man. I am not sure that prostrate manipulation is the main drive in any man seeking to be penetrated.
True but its a great bonus.

[wanderingrichard]

look on adam amd eve.com or xandria.com under thier book section for "anal pleasure and health" . it might help with the technical details.

trust me, it's not about domination, it feels great when done properly.. it's gonna take a lot of patience and a whole lotta lube for those who've not done it before or are just getting started into that side of life's adventrues. hint, try using one of the anal lubes with a numbing agent for the first few times.. it helps the rectum muscles relax more and the stuff is made especially for use with condoms..

most recent g/f loved it, and she never failed to orgasm from it.. and like i mentioned before, she's the one who taught me so many things, and sure enough she intro'd me to this..

it's a lot of fun..take it slow and easy and enjoy it.. wham bam doesnt work well.

[candee]

undefinedundefinedundefined
My husband loves receiving anal,i hate it.It got my mind wondering whether he is a closit bi?.

[jazzer]

Personally I don't like the idea of anal sex where I am the "bottom" ( I find even small dildos painful) and never have, but recently my wife discovered that she loves it. I have a very thick penis and when we were younger I tried to have anal sex with her but she found it very painful.
Well along came the internet and she read up on it. We bought an anal douche and she cleaned herself out and said she felt her anus was really sensitive and wanted to try.
OK so I lubricated my penis with heaps of lubricant and we began. After patiently trying to get the head of my penis in and adding more lubricant if she said it hurt, I finally penetrated my wife's anus.
I slowly worked it into her, little by little until to my amazement she took the full length of my penis. That is when the fun began, with each stroke she melted under me and panted, whimpered and said "I love it, more, more".
I was overwhelmed by her reaction and thrusted harder and harder until I came. She said the sensation was amazing and my wife doesn't have a prostate. Can I say here I still prefer a vagina to an anus, but anal sex feels good too and pleasuring your partner is also important. By the way we only do anal sex occasionally, but it is fun.

:2cents: :)

:)

[mikeNJ]

okay, I will throw my two cents in here. My wife absolutely loves anal
sex, it drives her crazy and her orgasms from it are intense. She says
that it is a "different" type of orgasm than a clitoral or vaginal one.
Of course she wanted me to experience it and we have tried several
times. It does nothing for me..! To me, it hurts and is not pleasurable
at all. We have tried working things slowly with a small dildo and
plenty of lube to try and get me to relax. Then working up to a
larger dildo and then a small strap on. Hey, we tried and will
keep on trying. Hey,we love to explore and experiment, that's
what it is all about. Some things you like, some you don't.