4 biggest contributors to relationship breakdowns

[Domino]

Here are the ones I think will break or cause trouble in any relationship.

1) Sexual incompatability/ drives. having a partner that does not want sex as much as you is frustrating.

2) Financial difficulties.

3) Not understanding eachother.

4) Infidelity.

I guess it's different for everyone, just stuff I have noted in past relationships that caused tension.

What are everyone elses.

[ambi53mm]

Here are the ones I think will break or cause trouble in any relationship.
1) Sexual incompatability/ drives. having a partner that does not want sex as much as you is frustrating.
2) Financial difficulties.
3) Not understanding eachother.
4) Infidelity.
I guess it's different for everyone, just stuff I have noted in past relationships that caused tension.
What are everyone elses.

Lack of trust
Inability to be honest with both yourself and your mate
Lack of communication
Lack of respect

[Daisy999]

Heroin addiction is a big one.

[Domino]

That's right Daisy .I was also going to put Axe murderers,pedos and rapists. They must be so fucked in relationships. If anyone like that came up to me I would be like No WAy DUDE I have standards Bro.

[bohemian69]

I agree with you Domino, those are 4 very good ones, but personally, I think that communication, or the lack there of, is probaly a leading cause also. :2cents:

[julie]

Lack of trust
Inability to be honest with both yourself and your mate
Lack of communication
Lack of respect

all of these in addition to your thoughts bohemian, plus the dynamics of one or both parties being bisexual and trying to find a way forward through different needs regards polygamy...

this has pushed tom_uk and i to limits neither of us imagined we could survive... and would not have survived this far without confronting the mutual soul searching honesty, communication and respect that ambi cites above.

thanks for this thread bohemian, i've wanted to share this in the forums for some time now but just couldn't find the words...

julie :female:

[Solomon]

Heroin addiction is a big one.

how addicted to heroin are you?

[Solomon]

personally, i think that all of those things actually involve a lack of integrity on some personal level.

it's been my experience that integrity is the mother of all challenges lol.

[innaminka]

There's one aspect, which I think is encompassed in the other reasons, but I find that both personally and for many of my friends who are now single or being "recycled" (great term.... :eek: ) its a far less obvious cause.
That simply in a modern world, often the reasons "we" started a relationship in perhaps our early 20's cannot carry the individuals as a "couple" past a certain stage.
"Growing" is/was a very popular psychbabble term. "I've outgrown you - (yuch!) but it actually holds more than a kernal of truth.
Too often we married because we were deeply in lust. Love? Of course we were "in love" - but how often after a few years, a few kids, a mortgage (the "Full Catastrophe" as Zorba put it) have people found that maybe "love" never really existed?
We don't till fields to eat, we don't battle the Wilderness etc - things which enabled non-loving marriages to survive in the past (along with the usual violence, drunkeness and infidelities) - we have access to so much today which enable us to take different options.
I was lucky - I recognised my 1st marriage was founded on sexual naivety - lots of it! - not much else! I bailed out without much damage, and 2nd time around was wiser and recognised love as opposed to lust.
So much I have seen couples trapped in boring marriages - where the fabric is torn never to be repaired. Its not their fault, just part of modern living.
Just my :2cents: