It seems like this has all gotten a bit off topic but I have really been thinking about it and my original post because ,well, I don't know what to do.
Here I was so righteous about not dating anyone who wanted to be "discreet" and now I am doing it myself.
I am in the very very beginnings of a relationship with a guy who is so deeply in the closet that you would need a crowbar and dynamite to open the door. I am attracted to him physically but I don't know that our relationship can go anywhere because we can't go out anywhere because he will be noticed in the straight community. He passes very well. He has no desire to be out. I don't know him well enough yet to know where he is coming from. Hell he could be a right wing conservative for all I know!! All I do know is that he is a sweet handsome workaholic guy that likes having sex with me.
Life just keeps throwing you curve balls.