Why is it so hard to find other Bi curious, Bisexual men in same boat as me?

[bikurinpa]

I am wondering why it is so hard to find other married curious bisexual men who are also married or just curious to have sex with another man? It seems like there has to be a lot of other men around in every day life that also has desires like me. How do I locate them? what are signs to look for? I am in Central Pa, centre county, seems to be worst area to find someone. I thought for sure the m/m websites like gay . com, adam4adam, squirt, bisexualplayground, silverdaddies, manhunt, men4sexnow, and all seem to be full of game players and people who just want to chat to get their rock off or just never reply back or they are 100+ miles away.
Seems like I am the only one around here!
Any opinions or answers would be a help.

[fredtyg]

That's an age old problem, especially if you're looking for other married men since they're not normally free to be open about their bisexuality or looking for other men. All you can do is keep looking.

If you haven't been there yet, you may want to try joining the Yahoo Bisexual Buddies group. It seems to be mostly, but not all, older married guys. Good conversation there and it even has a member locator map where you can look at a map and see if there's any members living near you. The map, of course, depends on how many members add their info to it and most haven't as of yet.

The group is moderated and the moderator carefully screens new members so give it a try.

[Focker]

One word................ CAMOUFLAGE ..................

It's just the way it is, and we are the best at it. I wish it were easier too.

[Bigbareman]

I hear what you are saying I would love to find someone to be friends with and have some man to man fun with on the side. I think it is most will get on sites like this and toy with the idea but when it comes down to doing the deed they aren't able to go thru with it, it's keeping things safe but flirted with their desires too. I have had a couple responses from guys and chatted thru email with them a bit but I never felt I was what they were looking for such is life.
Don't give up I know there are guys out there like us that are looking for the same as we are

[jj671]

it doesnt matter where you are! im in the south 'burbs of chicago and cant find anyone thats serious. most of the time its guys that talk big online but when it comes to meeting they turn into flakes! they start making all kinds of excuses why they cant meet, or they do set up a time and place and dont fucking show up! it shouldnt be this hard to find a nice, regular guy to play with. i must admit im getting frustrated. im going to get off my soapbox now. thanks.

[Realist]

I lived in central Pa (Montour county) for 10 years and never met one bi, or gay person, the whole time. I did meet one bi-curious guy, who was way too scared to interact with another man, though. If I had belonged to bi.com, then, maybe it would have been different.

I would have been happy to have a bisexual friend, even if we didn't have a sexual relationship. It would have been nice to communicate with someone who had the same feelings/interests.

When moved back home to Florida and joined Bi.com in 2008, I met several bi men and a couple of bi women. Although, none of the men shared mutual interests with me, one of the ladies became the most compatible lover I've ever had. We've been solid as rock, since then.

I guarantee you, there is someone close to you, who wants the same things you do. But, from my experience, that whole central part of Pa is very conservative and there's a lot of religious influences, too.

With the Internet, there's many ways to meet those with the same desires; you'll just have to keep trying until you meet someone, probably on line, then meet in a public place, at first.

In 2009, a lady I know, who lives close-by, expressed an interest in meeting a bisexual woman, for her first experience. I recommended joining here. Soon after that, she met someone and has been with her ever since.

So, don't give up, keep looking. It's like the lottery, you can't win, unless you play!

[nudistharry]

I wish I had the answer! I've met a few guys online but most of them want sex, not friendship. I want friendship, sex is secondary. The few who wanted friendship didn't work out mainly due to my busy schedule. My wife doesn't support my bisexuality so I'd have to sneak away to meet someone, making it even harder to meet up. (Even without sex, it would be tough explaining meeting somebody that I met online.)

That said, if/when I meet someone, getting together would (should) get easier over time.

[wetnude]

I hear what you are saying mate.Its difficult to met others who have the same drives as you have.You are in the USA,so i guess you need to go where its most likely you can see/meet other bi curious men. Think of forest trails, saunas and things like that. I live in Malta and have found bi curious or gay men hanging out at areas where mostly men go to swim nude. Be imaginative and you will find the men who want what you want.



QUOTE=bikurinpa;215226]I am wondering why it is so hard to find other married curious bisexual men who are also married or just curious to have sex with another man? It seems like there has to be a lot of other men around in every day life that also has desires like me. How do I locate them? what are signs to look for? I am in Central Pa, centre county, seems to be worst area to find someone. I thought for sure the m/m websites like gay . com, adam4adam, squirt, bisexualplayground, silverdaddies, manhunt, men4sexnow, and all seem to be full of game players and people who just want to chat to get their rock off or just never reply back or they are 100+ miles away.
Seems like I am the only one around here!
Any opinions or answers would be a help.[/QUOTE]

[pepperjack]

I am wondering why it is so hard to find other married curious bisexual men who are also married or just curious to have sex with another man? It seems like there has to be a lot of other men around in every day life that also has desires like me. How do I locate them? what are signs to look for? I am in Central Pa, centre county, seems to be worst area to find someone. I thought for sure the m/m websites like gay . com, adam4adam, squirt, bisexualplayground, silverdaddies, manhunt, men4sexnow, and all seem to be full of game players and people who just want to chat to get their rock off or just never reply back or they are 100+ miles away.
Seems like I am the only one around here!
Any opinions or answers would be a help.

It's even harder to find unattached & available bi men.

[JBG2YOU]

I'm curious & new looking for another safe guy to talk/chat with. Anyone out there interested? J

[swmnkdinthervr]

We're a bi couple and we are having a hell of a time finding bi guys, bi couples are tougher to find and bi females are just a figment of everyone's imagination!

We're in south central PA, it really is location, (they ALL are 100+ miles away) that's the biggest challenge but as mentioned above many of the married/attached guys couldn't get away if they wanted to! That doesn't stop them from play-acting like they can!