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  1. #121

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by csrakate View Post
    Here we go again....Sorry to tell you this, Liz, but according to these activists, you are mutilated and I am a molester for having my sons circumcised. This is a hot issue on this site and it seems to bring out the very worst in some people. I'm just sitting back waiting for the proverbial SHIT to hit the fan!

    Sigh.....like I said....here we go again!
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    It would seem the first mention of molesters and mutilated in this thread was by CSRAKATE at post number 3. Not Bluebiyou.

    As she declares in this same post she had her sons circumcised, I'm assuming that her stance indicates she is pro-circumcision.

    Now you can try to move the goalposts all you want. You can try to deflect attention from a rational consideration of the facts under discussion in this thread, by introducing these perceived slights.

    It does not alter by one iota, that the routine, circumcision of infant children is morally and ethically wrong. It does not provide any protections that its advocates claim. It takes away from the infant, rights and decisions about his own body that are properly his decision, when he is old enough to make an informed decision.

    As an infant has not built up full immunity, it puts that child at risk of post-operative infection and even death.

    As infants can't be given general anaesthetic, it subjects them to unnecessary pain and suffering.

    All the medical associations in all the developed World are of the same opinion, there is no need for the routine circumcision of infants.

    Think of it this way, if the infant reaches the age of adulthood, they can make an informed decision for themselves. They might well come to you and say, 'You know, Mother you were right, I do need to cut bits off my body.'

    It will have been their choice, regarding their body. If you make that choice for them you rob them of the option.

  2. #122

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by sammie19 View Post
    In general I do agree with your assessment Katja, but must say two of the longest performances I have ever had were by two cut guys.

    One who was quite amazing, but the other went and an on without pause and it became so tedious. You will know the type I expect. A bit too much to drink and it is monotonous and just never ends and you pray for the guy to be beamed up. I had to chuck him off in the end because I like more than just to be humped by a 14 stone lump who was concentrating on his own cum and didnt really give much care to mine.

    I don't think he was enjoying it either tbh but was going at it because he felt he had to and wasnt going to give up out of pride and vanity.

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    This link might be of interest to Katja, Sammie and other women in the site.

    http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com..._northrup.html

    It gives a perspective on the issues you both raised.

  3. #123

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post
    tell that to bluebiyou .... as his remarks to people about circumcision make it very clear his stance..... and if he is not anti circumcision and people that do it.... then calling people child molestors etc etc must be terms of endearment....

    circumcision is circumcision, if you are against it for children but ok with it for adults, then a person is being a hypocrite, if they are saying how wrong circumcision is.
    the fact that circumcision is being labled as mutilation, is not saying that they are anti infant circumcision
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    One is the choice of an informed adult about his own body, the other is unnecessary pain and suffering forced upon an infant without their consent for no medical benefit.

    I don't see any hypocrisy there, quite the opposite, their body, their choice, your body, your choice.

    It's a simple concept.

  4. #124

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Darkside2009 View Post
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    It would seem the first mention of molesters and mutilated in this thread was by CSRAKATE at post number 3. Not Bluebiyou.

    As she declares in this same post she had her sons circumcised, I'm assuming that her stance indicates she is pro-circumcision.
    I am not PRO anything....it was a decision that I arrived at after much discussion and thought....an INFORMED decision with the information I was given at THAT TIME. Would I do the same thing today? I have no idea....but it still chafes that some would consider me a molester for doing something that I believed, at the time, was a healthy choice for my child. I would NEVER presume that my way is the RIGHT way nor would I chastise someone for making a different choice than myself....That's not for me to decide.

    Basically, all I was saying is that I hate it when this thread subject comes up....as it does, ad nauseum.....It never ends well and feelings are always hurt because instead of simply giving their opinion, people tend to attack the opposition, on BOTH sides.....Neither side is innocent of less than kind comments. I just hate controversy...plain and simple.
    Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one."

    C. S. Lewis

  5. #125

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post
    its the way the law works in NZ, its all up to shit.....

    I am not sure about the US, I believe that you can give consent, yet the hosital can be held legally liable but over here its very different

    the medical waiver is on the same document that you sign, giving permission for the operation to proceed, so if you do not sign it, you are stating that you do not wish to have the operation...

    you are consenting to a operation and exempting the doctors, nurses and hospital of any wrong doing, because you agreed to the operation, knowing the risks you face, so they are not liable

    they can be held accountable if they are examining you and preforming tests and you die... but that becomes a police matter and the doctors can be charged with manslaughter, as their actions or failure to diagnosis you, may have resulted in you dieing while under their care, cos you have not signed any documents exempting them......

    its human rights and right of consent gone wrong..... you may have the right to expect medical treatment but the hospital and the doctors have the right to decline it unless they are satisified that you know and accept all the risks and the responsibility for your own actions in consenting to surgery and that you will not hold them liable.......

    its the trouble with human rights, it can go both ways and that is why a lot of NZ'ers are not happy, they demanded their rights and got them, and so did everybody else
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    Not quite, LDD, when one signs a waiver at a hospital regarding an operation at a hospital, there is an implication that the surgeon performing the operation is competent in that field of surgery and that he will not be medically negligent.

    The waiver is not a blank cheque for the hospital. If the surgeon for example was drunk, when performing the operation, both he/she and the hospital would be guilty. If the surgeon was an ear, nose and throat specialist and was carrying out ones heart surgery in a manner that no competent heart surgeon would perform the operation, then again that is negligence.

    The General principle for negligence is that a duty of care exists, that that duty of care has been breached, and as a result of that breach of care, direct, consequent damage/harm has been caused/resulted.

    Think it through, if you thought the surgeon was drunk or incompetent, would you sign a waiver agreeing to him/her operating on you?

  6. #126

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by csrakate View Post
    I am not PRO anything....it was a decision that I arrived at after much discussion and thought....an INFORMED decision with the information I was given at THAT TIME. Would I do the same thing today? I have no idea....but it still chafes that some would consider me a molester for doing something that I believed, at the time, was a healthy choice for my child. I would NEVER presume that my way is the RIGHT way nor would I chastise someone for making a different choice than myself....That's not for me to decide.

    Basically, all I was saying is that I hate it when this thread subject comes up....as it does, ad nauseum.....It never ends well and feelings are always hurt because instead of simply giving their opinion, people tend to attack the opposition, on BOTH sides.....Neither side is innocent of less than kind comments. I just hate controversy...plain and simple.
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    The infant child has more than his feelings hurt.

    As I've said more than once, participation in any thread is the decision of the individual, no one is forced to read the thread or contribute to it.

    Votes for women was a controversial subject at one time. If people had not discussed it and agitated for a change in the law, you would be denied one of your most democratic rights.

    People here are arguing for another right, that of any human being to decide for themselves whether they wish to have surgery on their body that has no medical benefit.

    If you don't wish to participate in this debate by all means find or start another thread that is of interest to you. I myself, do not participate in many of the threads on this site. The reason being that they are not of interest to me. However, I understand if you do not wish to engage in controversial topics, thank you for your contribution thus far.

  7. #127

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Darkside2009 View Post
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    This link might be of interest to Katja, Sammie and other women in the site.

    http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com..._northrup.html

    It gives a perspective on the issues you both raised.
    It gives a great perspective on the issues and men too should click the link and absorb every word. It may open at least some of their eyes. I havent had time to view it all but enough of it to know that much of its practical content concurs with my own sexual experience.

    There is a difference between how men who are circumcised and those who are not go about having intercourse and there is a very different feel about the act and the penetration. The link explains very well from my own personal perspective why I have always preferred uncircumcised men.

    The more important issue of circumcision itself is covered in depth and very easy to understand and so thanx dark. It was very informative addition to this debate, and contains much that I didn't know.

  8. #128

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Darkside2009 and katja

    so that is why I asked in the thread for people to define their statements of circumcision is mutilation to see if they are applying the statement to one of a few groups, or across all groups

    the groups are
    child that have elective surgery
    child that has medical surgery
    adult that has elective surgery
    adult that has medical surgery

    the statement has been made that circumcision ( the removal of healthy tissue from the penis ) is mutilation... and by that defination, a circumcision at any age, fits the criteria of removal of healthy tissue from the penis and therefore is mutilation

    so I am curious ( being a adult male that was circumcised as a child ) as to when my penis is going to stop being refered to as mutilated and known as circumcised

    or if the posters that are making the statements are going to come into the thread and state where they stand.... or if they will avoid the thread and the question.



    as for the remark by bluebiyou and child molestors, that statement was made in another thread dealing with circumcision by bluebiyou, .... and something that a number of members are still unimpressed about
    The only thing more painful than a broken heart, is catching yourself in your zip and having very cold hands

  9. #129

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    LDD.

    Your question has already been answered numerous times, I don't propose to waste any more of my time repeating my answers to you.

    As to your second point, if Bluebiyou wishes to think of your penis as mutilated because you have been circumcised, that is up to him.

    If you wish to take offence at the way he thinks or refers to your penis, that is up to you.

    I have no control over how either of you think, or express yourselves. I would suggest that if you do not wish to read his comments, that you avail yourself of the ignore button. I would offer the same suggestion to Bluebiyou.

    I am responsible for my own comments on this site, not the comments of anyone else.

    My dictionary,(Chambers), defines mutilate this way:-

    To injure by cutting off a limb, to maim, to remove a material part of; to damage or spoil beyond recognition; to deform by slitting, boring or removing a part. Adjective, mutilated.

    Now you both know the dictionary definition, and what it covers, perhaps you will couch your language accordingly. So the rest of us can get on with the debate.

  10. #130

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Darkside2009 View Post


    Not quite, LDD, when one signs a waiver at a hospital regarding an operation at a hospital, there is an implication that the surgeon performing the operation is competent in that field of surgery and that he will not be medically negligent.

    The waiver is not a blank cheque for the hospital. If the surgeon for example was drunk, when performing the operation, both he/she and the hospital would be guilty. If the surgeon was an ear, nose and throat specialist and was carrying out ones heart surgery in a manner that no competent heart surgeon would perform the operation, then again that is negligence.

    The General principle for negligence is that a duty of care exists, that that duty of care has been breached, and as a result of that breach of care, direct, consequent damage/harm has been caused/resulted.

    Think it through, if you thought the surgeon was drunk or incompetent, would you sign a waiver agreeing to him/her operating on you?
    no cos I have the right of consent and choice...... I do not have to agree to or consent to any surgeon or doctor operating on me and I normally meet the surgeon a couple of hours before the op, when the consent forms are signed...

    if I refuse to sign it, I have not given consent for the operation.... so the power is in my hands.... but I am acutely aware that shit happens and even the best of surgeons and doctors are not perfect.....

    that is why I have a DNR order on my medical records or in simple terms, if my heart stops beating, do not restart it, let me die..... cos I am not interested in living forever and I do not want a effort made to resus me and run the added risk of me being left semi brain dead....
    and yeah before I had that added, I had been resused a few times on the operation table, and it was no fault of the surgeon that my heart stopped, it is a issue that can not be treated medically as its not my heart that is the issue

    the only time that waiver is enforced, is in the event of a life and death emergency, and in that case, operations are done to stabilise the patient only, until next of kin can be found to sign a consent form and give permission for more operations to take place......

    the hospital have the power to refuse to operate as well, and that is what people in NZ are getting pissed off about... they want the hospital to undertake risky operations on patients, when the patients are deemed uneligable for surgery.....
    The only thing more painful than a broken heart, is catching yourself in your zip and having very cold hands

  11. #131

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Darkside2009 View Post
    LDD.

    Your question has already been answered numerous times, I don't propose to waste any more of my time repeating my answers to you.

    As to your second point, if Bluebiyou wishes to think of your penis as mutilated because you have been circumcised, that is up to him.

    If you wish to take offence at the way he thinks or refers to your penis, that is up to you.

    I have no control over how either of you think, or express yourselves. I would suggest that if you do not wish to read his comments, that you avail yourself of the ignore button. I would offer the same suggestion to Bluebiyou.

    I am responsible for my own comments on this site, not the comments of anyone else.

    My dictionary,(Chambers), defines mutilate this way:-

    To injure by cutting off a limb, to maim, to remove a material part of; to damage or spoil beyond recognition; to deform by slitting, boring or removing a part. Adjective, mutilated.

    Now you both know the dictionary definition, and what it covers, perhaps you will couch your language accordingly. So the rest of us can get on with the debate.
    I was asking bluebiyou, I was asking drugstore cowboy and a few others, if I was asking you, I would have asked you.... so there is no reason for you to answer for them... they are more than capable of posting themselves.... or not.....

    now I tend to think that my posts are valid, as part of the issue is that child circumcision is seen as mutilation.... and using your defination, yes, it would fit the criteria for mutiliation

    but yes, lets go back to the * topic * of is child circumcision acceptable....
    and it appears that most people are saying no, not if its elective... yes if its medical.... but best leave it til the person is a adult....

    so yeah that works.... but most of the posts in the thread is not about children and if its ok or not, its about the nature of circumcision and the pros and cons of it....
    The only thing more painful than a broken heart, is catching yourself in your zip and having very cold hands

  12. #132

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Your post was addressed with both my name and Katja's at the top, that is why I replied.

    As you did not ask Blue personally for an apology on the way he thought or expressed himself, but merely couched it as a complaint that anti-circumcisionists, had referred to you, and others, in certain terms, that you regarded as abusive.

    I disassociated myself from the tarring by association, as I am entitled to do.

    As regards your second point, much time and effort has been expended on stating why people believed routine circumcision was wrong for infants. This was to counter the perceived benefits put forward by those in favour of such routine circumcisions.

    I would add that much of the discussion on various points has been in answer to queries that you raised, often repeatedly. I'm quite happy to stay on topic, rather than wandering off on a tangent. However, if any contributor raises a comparison that they think is valid, it would seem churlish of me not to answer them, in as far as I am able to.

    Throughout this debate I have sought to deal only with the issue because I think personal abuse does not serve any useful purpose. I have tried to present my arguments as best as I am able in order to persuade others to share that view.

    Whether they listen to and consider the points I raise is entirely up to them, I have tried to address their concerns, I can do no more than that.

  13. #133

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    What it comes down to are people's personal opinions. Comparing circumcision of infant boys to the mutilation of females at puberty that have their entire clitoris removed is not kosher. One is done for medical reasons, and even if you don't agree with the reasons, it is still a valid medical procedure. Should it still be routine? It's being argued amongst medical professionals but for the time being it is considered preventative care and covered as part of the birth expenses on most major insurances. The other is something that is horrifying not because it's on a female but because if the same was done to males the world would end, they would all be made eunuchs at bith.

    There was a heated thread on here regarding the American Pediatric Association approving a small nick to satisfy the customs of the patient's families without them taking the child out of the country to have it done fully and without anesthesia. It was a step in the direction of eradicating female genital mutilation.

    But telling people who had their children circumsized that they mutilated them, indeed telling a circumsized male they were mutilated is insulting. We have had several circumsized males post on this board about the fact they don't feel they are missing any pleasure and that they don't feel "mutilated". Now granted there are times that some circumcisions are not well done, it could be ineptness of the doctor or a problem with healing. But those are not in every case.

    To the poster who claimed that circumcised males have smaller penises....I wonder if you lined up everyone in the world that was circumsized and everyone who wasn't circumsized and compared averages exactly who was longer.... gee they would be about equal. Circumcision removes skin, not erectile tissue. So please read more about medical issues if you are going to make inflammatory statements like that.

    Now as long as the thread stays on the topic of circumcision without derailing into personal attacks then it's a good argument. But when you sit there and state that studies are not valid just because you don't agree with the results you invalidate your entire position.
    Standing hand in hand with my love

    Cara ch' 'm blaidd



  14. #134

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by DuckiesDarling View Post
    What it comes down to are people's personal opinions. Comparing circumcision of infant boys to the mutilation of females at puberty that have their entire clitoris removed is not kosher. One is done for medical reasons, and even if you don't agree with the reasons, it is still a valid medical procedure. Should it still be routine? It's being argued amongst medical professionals but for the time being it is considered preventative care and covered as part of the birth expenses on most major insurances. The other is something that is horrifying not because it's on a female but because if the same was done to males the world would end, they would all be made eunuchs at bith.

    There was a heated thread on here regarding the American Pediatric Association approving a small nick to satisfy the customs of the patient's families without them taking the child out of the country to have it done fully and without anesthesia. It was a step in the direction of eradicating female genital mutilation.

    But telling people who had their children circumsized that they mutilated them, indeed telling a circumsized male they were mutilated is insulting. We have had several circumsized males post on this board about the fact they don't feel they are missing any pleasure and that they don't feel "mutilated". Now granted there are times that some circumcisions are not well done, it could be ineptness of the doctor or a problem with healing. But those are not in every case.

    To the poster who claimed that circumcised males have smaller penises....I wonder if you lined up everyone in the world that was circumsized and everyone who wasn't circumsized and compared averages exactly who was longer.... gee they would be about equal. Circumcision removes skin, not erectile tissue. So please read more about medical issues if you are going to make inflammatory statements like that.

    Now as long as the thread stays on the topic of circumcision without derailing into personal attacks then it's a good argument. But when you sit there and state that studies are not valid just because you don't agree with the results you invalidate your entire position.
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    Kosher means pure or clean according to Jewish law, in regard to food, prepared according to Jewish dietary law.

    In Judaism the female is not circumcised, just the male at eight days old.

    A valid medical procedure in the eyes of whom? Certainly not in the eyes of your own countries medical associations, or cancer associations. Not in the eyes of their counterparts in Canada, Australia, New Zealand, UK, Germany, France, I could go on but suffice to say of every other industrialised country in the World. Hardly my own personal opinion.

    Considered preventative care by whom? Insurance companies? You pay the premiums they will happily insure you against any risk, even that of a satellite in outer space falling down and hitting you on the head.

    And there are fewer such insurance companies accepting that it is preventative care each year, which is why the rate for routine circumcision of infants is falling year by year in the US.

    Calling an uncircumcised person a freak is insulting too. I got over it so will they and you.

    As to a circumcised male posting on this board that they don't feel they are missing any pleasure. If they were circumcised as infants, how would they know? They don't have a history of having a sex life whilst having a foreskin to compare it with. I've never been to Vegas, how am I meant to know what I might be missing if I've never been there?

    In circumcision, a great many nerves are removed completely. The nerves simply aren't there to transmit the sensation they would otherwise have had. If the nerves and sensation are absent, the pleasure can only be curtailed, it cannot be enhanced without the nerves to transmit it.

    No, studies are invalid if they do not prove what they set out to prove. In order for a study to be viable the correct methodology has to be adopted. Too many variables and you just get useless data.

    The study has to be capable of achieving the same results if the procedure is followed elsewhere. Verification is the key.

    Now if you had been following the thread from its inception and the links posted, you will have seen the holes in the Ugandan experiment and how it was discredited.

    Not just, that it was discredited, but that it put poorly-educated people at risk, by making them think they were immune to HIV. Leading many of them as a consequence, into behaviour that increases their risk of their being infected by HIV and other STI's. So instead of providing protection from what it set out to do, it makes the complete opposite more likely to occur.

    So in conclusion, it is not just a matter of personal opinion. It is a matter of a human infant being allowed to grow as God and Nature intended, free from the whims of any other person. To make cosmetic choices about their body a choice for them, and them alone and all the excuses in the World can't change that.

  15. #135

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Darkside2009 View Post
    Your post was addressed with both my name and Katja's at the top, that is why I replied.

    As you did not ask Blue personally for an apology on the way he thought or expressed himself, but merely couched it as a complaint that anti-circumcisionists, had referred to you, and others, in certain terms, that you regarded as abusive.

    I disassociated myself from the tarring by association, as I am entitled to do.

    As regards your second point, much time and effort has been expended on stating why people believed routine circumcision was wrong for infants. This was to counter the perceived benefits put forward by those in favour of such routine circumcisions.

    I would add that much of the discussion on various points has been in answer to queries that you raised, often repeatedly. I'm quite happy to stay on topic, rather than wandering off on a tangent. However, if any contributor raises a comparison that they think is valid, it would seem churlish of me not to answer them, in as far as I am able to.

    Throughout this debate I have sought to deal only with the issue because I think personal abuse does not serve any useful purpose. I have tried to present my arguments as best as I am able in order to persuade others to share that view.

    Whether they listen to and consider the points I raise is entirely up to them, I have tried to address their concerns, I can do no more than that.
    I am not offended by blues stance, I have said that blue has offended a number of members with his statements....... personally I would love to see blue make that statement to peoples faces if he believes it and see what people think of being called by the label he used..... cos I already know what would happen.....

    with the statement that children should have the right of choice in regards to circumcision... it works, it sounds good, its positive but when it comes down to medical needed circumcision, the rights of the child are null and void, as we make the choice for them.... so we are making a statement that we will exercise when it suits us to apply it, and other times, go against what we stand for....
    in order to make ourselves look better, we try and limit our statements only to the aspects of surgery and medical treatment of children where a choice is a option so we do not look like hypocrites that do not practice what we preach

    with the remarks that circumcision is mutilation of a child, well any operation can be deemed mutilation of a person, child or adult, elective or medical... and even if we deem the term mutilation as offensive and abusive, by defination its correct, we alter the human body by changing it with cutting and removing tissue from the human body......
    but the statement is used to target certain people while exempting ourselves from the same label, so rather that say that any person that has been through a operation has be mutilated, it is limited to circumcised people are mutilated......

    that is why I have thrown in the variables, as it shows that we will change our stance on any issue, while avoiding the simple facts of the issue and its the way a lot of debate is done in the forums.....

    and pretty much everything posted has not shown that circumcision is right or wrong, only that people can come up with any number of studies that they will throw around as * proof *.... and not admit that circumcising a child is something that is right in some eyes, wrong in others.... and that we are happy to tell other people how to be parents and live their lives, but god help those that tell us how to be parents and live our lives.....

    in NZ we have removed the ability of parents to discipline their children as its child abuse, but retained the expectation that parents are responsible for their children until the age of 18....
    under the age of 16 a child is not deemed to be responsible for their own actions and therefore can not be touched by the police.... but their parents are responsible for their actions

    in NZ, there is a move to apply that to medical issues, in that the parent doesn't have the right to say yes or no to medical procedures for children, that it becomes the right of surgeons and medical experts to say yes or no...... and we are talking about completely removing a parents rights

    its already in the US.... you may not deny a child access to medical treatment and care, so as a parent you are already limited in what you may do for your child and that includes saying no to treatment of a child for whatever reason.....
    its only a matter of time before the US follows in NZ's footsteps and turns parents into human incubations with no rights and all the responsiblity.....

    but what would I know... I only live in NZ and am watching a country imploding, using the same principals that people in the us and uk, believe are the right things to do....

    learn from our mistakes, don't repeat them, cos the next generation of our children, is the future of our country.... and what we see as freedom and rights of people, we are already moving to cap again....
    The only thing more painful than a broken heart, is catching yourself in your zip and having very cold hands

  16. #136

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Let us examine this accusation of hypocrisy of which you seem so keen.

    Is it a hypocrisy for a parent to refuse to have a child circumcised when the foreskin is perfectly healthy, and then if at some future stage it is damaged in some way, or disease makes it necessary to remove it before he is old enough to evaluate the issues and decide for himself? Is it a hypocrisy to believe in the rights of a child and then inflict upon that child any treatment or other without his say so because he is unable through immaturity to properly understand the issues involved?

    The answer is plainly no. Parents have a duty of care to their children and there are times when in the childs best interest, at a time in their lives when they do not understand what is happening to them, except possibly in the most rudimentary terms, that parental responsibility means that things will be done for the sake of that child's continued well being.

    Sammie mentioned her appendix operation. Was her parents decision to give consent for her to be operated upon in such circumstances when had she been left untreated, her life would have been threatened a hypocrisy? Of course not.

    There are times of medical necessity when parental responsibility means that occasionally, the wishes of the child will be overridden. In the case of case of infant circumcision, when medical necessity is not immediate or an issue, there is no such pressing need. And until such a pressing need appears, then also quite plainly, parents have no moral right to insist on the removal of an important piece of bodily tissue.

    In the UK, children who are able to consider the issues of circumcison and are thought by paediatricians be mature enough to have some say in whether or not they are circumcised. Should parents disagree being one such instance, then the wish of that child is paramount whether to be circumcised or not in accord with his wishes. If two parents disagree (about religious circumcision) when a child is too young to be involved in the discussion and understand the issues involved, no circumcision of a healthy foreskin will be undertaken. Other than for religious reasons or pressing medical need the NHS does not allow circumcision of infants or young children.

    The above is but a weak half way house in protecting fully the rights of a child and not entirely satisfactory but it is better than a child having no say whatever until he is of maturity. This is a hypocrisy because it recognises that the child will at some time in his life be able to understand the issues and make the decision for himself, but until that time will only be the arbiter of his own fate in the case of parental disagreement.

    On the question of mutilation every disfigurement we have in life is a mutilation however great or small. The word raises many negative emotions within us. Darkside has quoted from one dictionary but there arent many which would differ much from that definition. We often couch the disfigurement with other words which reduce our sensitivity and do not allow us to think of that disfigurement as a mutilation but that is exactly what it is from the childhood scar on the knee to amputation of a limb and worse. And indeed, circumcision.

    If you truly believe that circumcision has not been proved right or wrong that is your right, and in a way I agree with you. What we do with our bodies is our concern and our decision to do with them as we will. What we insist on doing with the bodies of others, in this instance the body of an infant child in my opinion, has been plainly demonstrated to be a wrong over and over again. Not simply in these pages, but in society on general which is why infant ciircumcision is on the decline, even the circumcisons which are performed for religious purposes.

    Fewer parents in western societies are taking the decision to have their infant circumcised. Even those Jewish, and I believe Islamic people who have immigrated to or live in those societies. In time infant circumcision will become a thing of the past just as have many unpleasant practices throughout our social history. Should it be made illegal except in cases of immediate medical need? Yes, without doubt.
    Last edited by Katja; May 31, 2011 at 6:54 AM.

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    to answer your question, in a sense, yes.... I am refering to preachers hypocrisy... cos if people like bluebiyou and drugstore and bidaved had children and they had to have them circumcised for medical reasons, then they have done exactly what they condemned and judged others for doing and that is having a child circumcised.... and the reasoning doesn't apply as they have the stance that circumcised children are mutilated so in effect they have mutilated their own children while condemning and judging others for the same thing


    preachers hypocrisy is when somebody * preachs * a message about how wrong people are for what they do, and what sort of people do that etc etc etc....
    then they turn around and do pretty much what they have been condemning in others, and trying to justify it by changing the nature of what they have done ( the elective versus medical circumsicion )

    parental hypocrisy is different in that first time parents will make statements like they would never do anything to hurt their children they love them too much, then they sign off on surgical consents .....
    many parents that are second ( or more ) time parents, say things a lot different with their second ( or more ) kids

    any parent that has children will know that parental hypocrisy is something that most parents have done... it doesn't make them bad parents, it makes them honest parents.... such as sammies parents, they acted in the best interests of sammie and possibly went against their own stance that they would never do anything to hurt / harm her..... and I do know from something sammie posted once, that her parents love her and care deeply for her.... but that was more to do with protecting their daughter and accepting her choices in life

    its why I say circumcision for me, is a grey area.... its not right and its not wrong.... but I do not just narrow circumcision down to a child and the removal of a healthy foreskin..... ( again back to the elective v's medical circumcision, child and adult circumcisions ) and so I have to sit with the grey area aspect....

    if you want a simple answer about child circumcision and should it be banned.... my answer is no.... it should not be... there are better ways of dealing with circumcision than removing the choice for people......

    we like the right of choice, we advocate the right of choice,... banning it is the removal of a right of choice.... and if its banned, we can not use the argument that its for the benefit of the child, as we have also removed the right of choice for the adult as well.....

    more and more people are moving away from circumcision now....freely and by choice.... not cos its wrong, but cos they can not see a reason for it.....
    and at times that is the best way to bring about change.....

    the shift in LGBT acceptance is a example.... more and more people are accepting of the LGBT not cos we got in their faces all the time and rammed our opinions down their throats but cos we didn't.... we call those people our friend, our lovers, our supporters... and they stand with us cos we do not stand against them
    Last edited by Long Duck Dong; May 31, 2011 at 10:00 AM.
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  18. #138

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    mu·ti·late *(mytl-t)
    tr.v. mu·ti·lat·ed, mu·ti·lat·ing, mu·ti·lates
    1. To deprive of a limb or an essential part; cripple.
    2. To disfigure by damaging irreparably: mutilate a statue.
    3. To make imperfect by excising or altering parts.

    When I read this meaning and compare it to the thoughts of those who believe that circumcision is a mutilation of a penis, it makes sense in part. It does disfigure the penis from its original natural state but sometimes there is no difference in appearance between an erect cirumcised or erect uncut penis from my experience. With comments about the sensitivity of the foreskin's nerves, it makes sense that they would see it as damaged irreparably as far as sexual pleasure. Those of us who are circumcised at birth have no idea what that might have been like. Most of us seem happy as we are though. We are deprived of something but I don't think of my former foreskin as a limb. Is it an essential part? Not for me and many others who were circumcised at birth. We don't consider ourselves crippled but some seem to resent their circumcision and attempt to "regrow" the foreskin. Is it imperfect or altered? Yes.

    It seems appropriate to claim that a child's foreskin has been mutilated imo. It isn't how we in North America normally think of ourselves but it does make sense to me now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post
    to answer your question, in a sense, yes.... I am refering to preachers hypocrisy... cos if people like bluebiyou and drugstore and bidaved had children and they had to have them circumcised for medical reasons, then they have done exactly what they condemned and judged others for doing and that is having a child circumcised.... and the reasoning doesn't apply as they have the stance that circumcised children are mutilated so in effect they have mutilated their own children while condemning and judging others for the same thing


    preachers hypocrisy is when somebody * preachs * a message about how wrong people are for what they do, and what sort of people do that etc etc etc....
    then they turn around and do pretty much what they have been condemning in others, and trying to justify it by changing the nature of what they have done ( the elective versus medical circumsicion )

    parental hypocrisy is different in that first time parents will make statements like they would never do anything to hurt their children they love them too much, then they sign off on surgical consents .....
    many parents that are second ( or more ) time parents, say things a lot different with their second ( or more ) kids

    any parent that has children will know that parental hypocrisy is something that most parents have done... it doesn't make them bad parents, it makes them honest parents.... such as sammies parents, they acted in the best interests of sammie and possibly went against their own stance that they would never do anything to hurt / harm her..... and I do know from something sammie posted once, that her parents love her and care deeply for her.... but that was more to do with protecting their daughter and accepting her choices in life

    its why I say circumcision for me, is a grey area.... its not right and its not wrong.... but I do not just narrow circumcision down to a child and the removal of a healthy foreskin..... ( again back to the elective v's medical circumcision, child and adult circumcisions ) and so I have to sit with the grey area aspect....

    if you want a simple answer about child circumcision and should it be banned.... my answer is no.... it should not be... there are better ways of dealing with circumcision than removing the choice for people......

    we like the right of choice, we advocate the right of choice,... banning it is the removal of a right of choice.... and if its banned, we can not use the argument that its for the benefit of the child, as we have also removed the right of choice for the adult as well.....

    more and more people are moving away from circumcision now....freely and by choice.... not cos its wrong, but cos they can not see a reason for it.....
    and at times that is the best way to bring about change.....

    the shift in LGBT acceptance is a example.... more and more people are accepting of the LGBT not cos we got in their faces all the time and rammed our opinions down their throats but cos we didn't.... we call those people our friend, our lovers, our supporters... and they stand with us cos we do not stand against them
    Watching a child suffer and doing nothing while claiming to love and care for that child. Now that is a hypocrisy. Not acting to stop that suffering. Having the child go through surgery to stop suffering is not a hypocrisy but a true act of love. So lets throw that one out of the window for the stupidity it is.

    We ban many things, LDD, which remove from us choice. In respect of infant children alone are not allowed to deliberately kill one, or break his bones, torture, punch or kick him or poke his eyes out. We are not allowed to starve that infant, neglect or act in a cruel manner towards him in any way. We must in law provide for education of that infant which meets with the approval of the education authorities, and seek medical care for him when he is unwell. We are not allowed to abandon that child to his fate or sell him for monetary gain. When he is older, we are not allowed to throw him into the street to fend for himself until he reaches the age of 16 or force him into work (part time) until he is 13 and we cannot stop his education until he is 16 or force him into full time work rather than continue his education until the age of 18. We are not allowed in law to force a marriage upon that child. We are unable to supply him with alcohol in public house until he is 18, or allow him to purchase it from an off licence or supermarket. Similarly he is not allowed to purchase cigarettes until he is 16 and we are not allowed as adults to enter a tobacconist, supermarket or other retailer and purchase them on his behalf. We are not allowed to supply him with listed narcotics. Parents are not allowed to have removed from that infant any other part of his body when there is no medical need.

    LDD, there is a whole raft of things parents have no choice over when it comes to infants and children. Just what is so frightening about this small piece of a penis which justifies its removal from an almost new born child and that parents must retain choice over whether he retains it or not? So just who are we removing choice from if we follow your logic and advice? Lo and behold, certainly not a young child. We are empowering him, and restoring to him and his peers rights over his body which have been stolen from him and generations of infant boys.
    Last edited by Katja; May 31, 2011 at 3:05 PM.

  20. #140

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post

    ...if you want a simple answer about child circumcision and should it be banned.... my answer is no.... it should not be... there are better ways of dealing with circumcision than removing the choice for people......

    we like the right of choice, we advocate the right of choice,... banning it is the removal of a right of choice.... and if its banned, we can not use the argument that its for the benefit of the child, as we have also removed the right of choice for the adult as well.....

    more and more people are moving away from circumcision now....freely and by choice.... not cos its wrong, but cos they can not see a reason for it.....
    and at times that is the best way to bring about change.....

    the shift in LGBT acceptance is a example.... more and more people are accepting of the LGBT not cos we got in their faces all the time and rammed our opinions down their throats but cos we didn't.... we call those people our friend, our lovers, our supporters... and they stand with us cos we do not stand against them
    -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    As a society we have banned lots of practices, speeding, drunk driving, foot-binding, abortions by unqualified people, human sacrifice, the list is endless.

    We have banned those practices because we deem it of great benefit to our society as a whole and to each individual within it.

    Now some individuals might wish to climb in their car when drunk, and drive over the speed limit back to where they live. We denigrate such practices and penalise the individual caught engaging in them. Is it a curtailment of the individual's choice? Absolutely. Should it be? Of course, because that curtailment of the individual right to drive as and when they please, ensures the rights of everyone else to walk, or drive home in safety, without some drunk crashing in to us in his car

    We make human sacrifice illegal, we curtail the choice of those who might wish to perform such rituals, by deciding that to allow it, would impinge on the right to life of the person to be sacrificed.

    As a society, we make such balancing acts all the time, between the rights of the individual versus the rights of society, always have done and always will do.

    Homosexuality was once a hanging offence in the UK, attitudes changed, homosexuals were no longer hanged, they were given a prison sentence.(Oscar Wilde, served two years), attitudes changed again and society decided that homosexual acts performed in private between consenting adults should not be illegal. It was left to individual choice.

    However, we still ban homosexual acts between adult and child no matter if they are performed in private or public. As a society we do so to protect the right to the child to live an innocent life, free from molestation or predatory behaviour, until such time as they reach adulthood, and can make an informed decision for themselves as to where their sexual inclinations lie.

    Of those who break this law we heap odium and abuse. Yes it has curtailed the right of the paedophile to engage in sex with whomever he/she wishes. We regard it as a greater good that the right of the child is protected from interference by the adult.

    To give another example, you may exercise your choice to park your car on your lawn, that does not give you a right to park your car on your neighbour's lawn and impinge his right to enjoy his garden

    As an individual, your rights end where mine begins. In the exercise of your right, you do not have carte-blanche to impose upon mine.

    As a society, we allow branding of our livestock, but we don't permit branding of our children.

    Yes, the attitude of society can and does change over time. It changes because like-minded people have banded together and agitated, and educated for that change. They continued that agitation until such time as the law was changed.

    You are doubtless aware of the actions taken against the Suffragettes, force-feeding them when they went on hunger strike etc, but the result of their actions was a change in the law, and votes for women.

    Women were no longer considered a chattel of their husbands or Fathers to dispose of as they wished. If they had not organised, educated and agitated votes for women would not have come about. They forced society to stop, think, and rationalise its position. That rationalisation decided there was no valid reason why women should not have the vote.

    There are few if any, that would wish to return the law to the state it was previously. There may well have been individuals within the Suffragette movement that we would find, personally obnoxious, and who used inflammatory language in order to try and get their point across.

    That does not and did not denigrate from the message, that votes for women was the fair and decent choice to arrive at.

    We are meeting on a site that once would have been deemed illegal, times have changed, laws have changed. What might have been an acceptable practice at one time has in the light of increased human knowledge become less acceptable, and the reasons for prolonging it, less rational.

    Your right to circumcise ends where my foreskin begins. By all means make choices and decisions for yourselves, but don't impinge upon the choices for your children to make, they have rights too.


    Those advocates for a change in the law in San Francisco, are seeking to give the individual the choice for themselves, once they reach the age of eighteen, and are able to make an informed choice, as to what modifications they make to their own bodies.

    As of the time of writing, I understand that they have gained enough people in support to trigger a ballot on the motion. It seems to me an entirely reasonable proposition and I wish them every success.

  21. #141

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Katja View Post
    So just who are we removing choice from if we follow your logic and advice? Lo and behold, certainly not a young child. We are empowering him, and restoring to him and his peers rights over his body which have been stolen from him and generations of infant boys.
    I have made a proper dogs dinner of these last few sentences of my last post.

    If, much belatedly I can amend them to read;

    So just who are we removing choice from if we follow your logic and advice? Lo and behold, the young child. We on our side are empowering him, and restoring to him and his peers their rights over their bodies which have been stolen from them and generations of infant boys.

  22. #142

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    When I entered this discussion it would be too much to say I had an open mind, because on the subject of circumcising infants I did not and this hasn't changed. I held the opinions expressed in the thread because of a belief that our bodies are inviolate without our express permission except in circumstances in which we are too young or incapacitated to be able to take a considered decision, but only in the most exceptional ie immediate life or health threatening circumstances.

    Earlier in the thread I said that while I felt it was wrong, that there were far more important issues faces us than this one. While this remains still true, my error has been in the almost trivial place I have always given to the issue, but as it has gone on, my attitude to it has hardened and hardened quite substantially. There may be many issues which are more important, but this is still an important issue even if only to generations of unborn children.

    My attitudes have partly been hardened because of a number of contributions by people who are of a similar opinion to myself, but more so by some of those who are of the opposite opinion. They have twisted and turned and shown me by their defensiveness, bankruptcy of thought and the increasing desperation of their arguments that deep inside themselves they know their case is being dismantled brick by brick and will continue to be so. They have singularly failed to show justification for inflicting upon a new born little boy an operation to remove a healthy part of his penis.

    In some cases, such is the desperation of their argument it is almost as if they have grasped into thin air for anything which will be of use as justification and instead of convincing they have been descredited in my mind and in some cases made to look foolish and even worse pathetic, however sincere they are in believing their own words. They, more than any on my own side of the argument have proven my case for me to me as if any were needed, and confirmed and strengthened my belief that circumcising an infant's healthy foreskin is a grave wrong we should erradicate and as has been suggested, make unlawful.

    The very history of infant circumcision in Europe, North America and elsewhere and the reasons for its spectacular rise at the beginning of the last century outwith the religious sphere alone should convince us of that.
    Last edited by sammie19; May 31, 2011 at 8:27 PM.

  23. #143

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    katja,

    hy·poc·ri·sy

    noun /hiˈpäkrisē/ 
    hypocrisies, plural

    The practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform; pretense

    unless people are signing for people to have totally pain free surgery... then they have consented to them to suffer pain and harm as a delibrate ac

    if i was to sign for a child to have surgery, I would do it knowing its going to hurt cos I have had surgeries, and I know the children will suffering cos of the surgery regardless of what it is for and what suffering it may ease

    people like you that want to say that you will not harm a child and have not cos under exemption a,b,c,d, e, it was done out of love, it was done for their own, it was good cos it was needed, are the people that willl justify any action you undertake......

    I will stand up and say, yes I will harm a child in it is deemed needed, IE surgery cos I would have no choice but to sign the forms knowing the child will suffer cos of my delibrate actions in signing the papers, regardless of the reason I am signing them......

    but if you want, katja, I will say I am wrong for stating that yes I will harm a child if its deemed needed medically... I will say that people are not hypocrites for saying that they will not harm a child, then do it and make excuses for the harm ...... and change my stance when I need to to justify my actions that contradict my statements....

    cos according to you, i can say that and not be a hypocrite.... cos I sure as hell do not believe it and it goes against what I say I will do, regardless of my reasoning for doing it
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  24. #144

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Katja View Post
    I have made a proper dogs dinner of these last few sentences of my last post.

    If, much belatedly I can amend them to read;

    So just who are we removing choice from if we follow your logic and advice? Lo and behold, the young child. We on our side are empowering him, and restoring to him and his peers their rights over their bodies which have been stolen from them and generations of infant boys.
    sure empower them, go for it...... be like nz, and watch the under 16s commit crimes cos they are empowered by the knowledge that the law can not touch them, so they know they can get away with it.....

    be like NZ and tell the children they are no longer allowed to be punished by their parents, then blame the parents for not disciplining the children and not keeping them under control

    be like nz with the 3rd highest teen pregnancy rate in the world, one of the highest teen binge drinking rates in the world, one of the highest teen drink driving causing death rates in the world....

    we have empowered the children alright.... and we have lost control.... and the thing is it started from something simple... the right of the children to have a choice... and it grew from there.... now we are a country out of control and they are starting to pass laws to try and regain control again... and failing.... and the teen suicide and death rate is climbing faster and faster as the teens has too much freedom and no boundaries and many of them can not handle it......

    but what would I know.... I have only buried a good number of them and and had to counsel their friends who ask why it is that nobody stopped them.... and my answer is that we gave them rights and empowerment, but not the maturity or guidance to use them constructively
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  25. #145

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Darkside2009 View Post
    -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    As a society we have banned lots of practices, speeding, drunk driving, foot-binding, abortions by unqualified people, human sacrifice, the list is endless.

    We have banned those practices because we deem it of great benefit to our society as a whole and to each individual within it.

    Now some individuals might wish to climb in their car when drunk, and drive over the speed limit back to where they live. We denigrate such practices and penalise the individual caught engaging in them. Is it a curtailment of the individual's choice? Absolutely. Should it be? Of course, because that curtailment of the individual right to drive as and when they please, ensures the rights of everyone else to walk, or drive home in safety, without some drunk crashing in to us in his car

    We make human sacrifice illegal, we curtail the choice of those who might wish to perform such rituals, by deciding that to allow it, would impinge on the right to life of the person to be sacrificed.

    As a society, we make such balancing acts all the time, between the rights of the individual versus the rights of society, always have done and always will do.

    Homosexuality was once a hanging offence in the UK, attitudes changed, homosexuals were no longer hanged, they were given a prison sentence.(Oscar Wilde, served two years), attitudes changed again and society decided that homosexual acts performed in private between consenting adults should not be illegal. It was left to individual choice.

    However, we still ban homosexual acts between adult and child no matter if they are performed in private or public. As a society we do so to protect the right to the child to live an innocent life, free from molestation or predatory behaviour, until such time as they reach adulthood, and can make an informed decision for themselves as to where their sexual inclinations lie.

    Of those who break this law we heap odium and abuse. Yes it has curtailed the right of the paedophile to engage in sex with whomever he/she wishes. We regard it as a greater good that the right of the child is protected from interference by the adult.

    To give another example, you may exercise your choice to park your car on your lawn, that does not give you a right to park your car on your neighbour's lawn and impinge his right to enjoy his garden

    As an individual, your rights end where mine begins. In the exercise of your right, you do not have carte-blanche to impose upon mine.

    As a society, we allow branding of our livestock, but we don't permit branding of our children.

    Yes, the attitude of society can and does change over time. It changes because like-minded people have banded together and agitated, and educated for that change. They continued that agitation until such time as the law was changed.

    You are doubtless aware of the actions taken against the Suffragettes, force-feeding them when they went on hunger strike etc, but the result of their actions was a change in the law, and votes for women.

    Women were no longer considered a chattel of their husbands or Fathers to dispose of as they wished. If they had not organised, educated and agitated votes for women would not have come about. They forced society to stop, think, and rationalise its position. That rationalisation decided there was no valid reason why women should not have the vote.

    There are few if any, that would wish to return the law to the state it was previously. There may well have been individuals within the Suffragette movement that we would find, personally obnoxious, and who used inflammatory language in order to try and get their point across.

    That does not and did not denigrate from the message, that votes for women was the fair and decent choice to arrive at.

    We are meeting on a site that once would have been deemed illegal, times have changed, laws have changed. What might have been an acceptable practice at one time has in the light of increased human knowledge become less acceptable, and the reasons for prolonging it, less rational.

    Your right to circumcise ends where my foreskin begins. By all means make choices and decisions for yourselves, but don't impinge upon the choices for your children to make, they have rights too.


    Those advocates for a change in the law in San Francisco, are seeking to give the individual the choice for themselves, once they reach the age of eighteen, and are able to make an informed choice, as to what modifications they make to their own bodies.

    As of the time of writing, I understand that they have gained enough people in support to trigger a ballot on the motion. It seems to me an entirely reasonable proposition and I wish them every success.
    and as I have said darkside,... I am not supporting or opposing circumcision, I am saying simply that it is a medically needed operation at times.....

    I do not have the right to tell others how to live their lives, in the same way they do not have the right to tell me how to live my life...... but many people will believe their way works and their way is best.....

    who am I to decide what way is right and what way is wrong...... unless I want the world to conform to what I want the world to be like......

    I thought that the LGBT community would have understood what it is like to be told that they may not have rights cos others say so.... but its clear that we will scream blue murder about others doing it to us, but we are ok with doing it to others.....

    so i go back to my original statement, which is as long that the medical exemption exists do that a medically needed circumcision can be done if needed, then I do not really care who is trying to change what for who and why.... and that I do not see circumcision as right or wrong, merely a medically needed op at times.....

    otherwise, i would have to do the double standards thing and say that non medical circumcision is wrong, so is medical circumcision but its needed so its ok to do but its not ok unless the child is old enuf to choice, in which case its right, but circumcision is still wrong and mutilating people is wrong but its right when its for a medically needed op in which case its still mutilation but its ok cos its done out of love.......

    and people wanna tell me that I have screwed up thinking ???? roflmao, oh please...
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  26. #146

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post
    and people wanna tell me that I have screwed up thinking ???? roflmao, oh please...
    I do believe I shall allow others to make their minds up about that.

  27. #147

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post
    cos according to you, i can say that and not be a hypocrite.... cos I sure as hell do not believe it and it goes against what I say I will do, regardless of my reasoning for doing it
    In the context of medical need as opposed to whim, belief, vanity or plain old want, or taking the decision away from another when there is no medical need, and not accepting your interpretation of the word harm in the context of this argument, you can indeed say (in the context of this debate) that you are no hypocrite. I am sorry if you do not believe it, but I can't help how your mind works.

  28. #148

    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong View Post
    sure empower them, go for it...... be like nz, and watch the under 16s commit crimes cos they are empowered by the knowledge that the law can not touch them, so they know they can get away with it.....

    be like NZ and tell the children they are no longer allowed to be punished by their parents, then blame the parents for not disciplining the children and not keeping them under control

    be like nz with the 3rd highest teen pregnancy rate in the world, one of the highest teen binge drinking rates in the world, one of the highest teen drink driving causing death rates in the world....

    we have empowered the children alright.... and we have lost control.... and the thing is it started from something simple... the right of the children to have a choice... and it grew from there.... now we are a country out of control and they are starting to pass laws to try and regain control again... and failing.... and the teen suicide and death rate is climbing faster and faster as the teens has too much freedom and no boundaries and many of them can not handle it......

    but what would I know.... I have only buried a good number of them and and had to counsel their friends who ask why it is that nobody stopped them.... and my answer is that we gave them rights and empowerment, but not the maturity or guidance to use them constructively
    We are discussing circumcision of infant children not the social problems of the world. That is quite a seperate issue and a distraction from this discussion.

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    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by sammie19 View Post
    When I entered this discussion it would be too much to say I had an open mind, because on the subject of circumcising infants I did not and this hasn't changed. I held the opinions expressed in the thread because of a belief that our bodies are inviolate without our express permission except in circumstances in which we are too young or incapacitated to be able to take a considered decision, but only in the most exceptional ie immediate life or health threatening circumstances.

    Earlier in the thread I said that while I felt it was wrong, that there were far more important issues faces us than this one. While this remains still true, my error has been in the almost trivial place I have always given to the issue, but as it has gone on, my attitude to it has hardened and hardened quite substantially. There may be many issues which are more important, but this is still an important issue even if only to generations of unborn children.

    My attitudes have partly been hardened because of a number of contributions by people who are of a similar opinion to myself, but more so by some of those who are of the opposite opinion. They have twisted and turned and shown me by their defensiveness, bankruptcy of thought and the increasing desperation of their arguments that deep inside themselves they know their case is being dismantled brick by brick and will continue to be so. They have singularly failed to show justification for inflicting upon a new born little boy an operation to remove a healthy part of his penis.

    In some cases, such is the desperation of their argument it is almost as if they have grasped into thin air for anything which will be of use as justification and instead of convincing they have been descredited in my mind and in some cases made to look foolish and even worse pathetic, however sincere they are in believing their own words. They, more than any on my own side of the argument have proven my case for me to me as if any were needed, and confirmed and strengthened my belief that circumcising an infant's healthy foreskin is a grave wrong we should erradicate and as has been suggested, make unlawful.

    The very history of infant circumcision in Europe, North America and elsewhere and the reasons for its spectacular rise at the beginning of the last century outwith the religious sphere alone should convince us of that.
    Be careful of those feelings, darling. Occasionally when attitudes harden we lose sight of what is important and the attitude becomes more important and even detrimental to us than the issue.

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    Re: The good news, when some of us are too tired to stand the good fight

    Quote Originally Posted by Katja View Post
    In the context of medical need as opposed to whim, belief, vanity or plain old want, or taking the decision away from another when there is no medical need, and not accepting your interpretation of the word harm in the context of this argument, you can indeed say (in the context of this debate) that you are no hypocrite. I am sorry if you do not believe it, but I can't help how your mind works.

    my interpertion of the word * harm *
    harm
    –noun
    1.
    physical injury or mental damage; hurt: to do him bodily harm.
    2.
    moral injury; evil; wrong.
    –verb (used with object)
    3.
    to do or cause harm to; injure; damage; hurt: to harm one's reputation.

    now if my defination of harm is incorrect, feel free to show me when my defination of harm is wrong, so we can rewrite the worlds dictionaries with your defination of harm
    Last edited by Long Duck Dong; Jun 1, 2011 at 9:32 AM.
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