Sysper,
You have been talking about having a first experience for a long time now. It seems the two major things that prevent you form making it real are security and feeling comfortable.
You might consider going to an ABS with glory holes. Generally, you can lock yourself in a booth (secure) and if it feels good, take advantage of the glory hole. If you like what the guy in the next booth looks like, you can put your penis through the glory hole and get it sucked. On the other hand, the guy in the next booth can do the same for you to suck him, although, you are under no obligation to do so. You can find a good list of glory holes in New York here:
https://gloryholelist.com/glory-hole.../page1_35.html
Another alternative is a bath house. You can go in, but are under no obligation to engage in anything. You can get a private room (security). You can take advantage of their lounge area, meet and talk to others. I you find someone you are comfortable with, you can invite him to your room. You can find some bath houses in upstate New York here:
http://www.gaybathhouse.org/category...ates/new-york/
Just thought it might be a couple of ways for you to consider to take that first step.
Pappy
Bookmarks