As many of you know, I've recently decided to just give up on my search for a regular play buddy, due to all the fakes, flakes, and posers out there. I've tried three or four sites for potentials, and never had anyone follow through.
That wasn't an easy decision, and I'm frustrated by it, but there's nothing for it except to wait for something to fall into my lap, so to speak.
Things might have changed, however, as I was recently perusing (out of sheer boredom) the forums on one of the sites to which I still belong, and found in a group that there's a Bi-Only party/event happening within my travel radius!
Here's my dilemma... I have absolutely zero experience at these types of gatherings. In fact, I've never been to a party of any kind. I'm not one of those who is comfortable in large social gatherings. I don't know how to interact in groups. The most I've ever done is hosted a dinner party for two other couples (a total of six people). The conversation centered around how the food was cooked, how the menu was selected, and was attended by very close friends who are also epicureans, and are knowledgeable about food. And that's what we all talked about. Cooking, how to cook, what foods to select and how to prepare them. We all had a commonality that begged communication, and we all knew each other well enough to know how to talk to each other.
I have, literally, no idea what to do at this type of social/sexual gathering. To the best of my knowledge, I do not know anyone else who will be there. I only got invited because I know a couple who is known to the host. I've never had any encounters with this couple, but we do know each other. So, I was asked as a known-bi-male friend of a friend to attend a thing that is to be bi-only. Most likely, the only reason I am there is because bi-men are few and far between in my area. So I was asked to attend.
I know what my first instinct is, which is to sit in a corner, or an out-of-the-way chair, and wait for someone to come up to me and ask outright if I will participate.
Given how I have seen others act in some social situations, I get the feeling that I'll sit there all night, and no one will even notice I'm there. And the party will go on around me, with lots of people fucking and sucking, and I'll be on the outside looking in because no one knows I'm there. Compounding the problem is, I was asked to be there, so they do want me in attendance. Someone thought I would be a good addition to the mix, but I don't know how to "be mixed" in this kind of social situation.
So, when one goes to a party, ostensibly for the purpose of having sexual encounters with other people, what does one do? Do you just walk up to someone and say "nice shoes, wanna fuck?" What if you see a nice dick that you want to blow? Suppose a gorgeous pair of breasts come into the room, followed immediately by the equally-gorgeous owner of said breasts, and you have the desire to eat her into oblivion? How does one indicate that one is willing to be an active participant without appearing to be Leisure Suit Larry, or some other socially-unacceptable pervert? (That other perverts will be there is irrelevant. It's me that I have control over, and no one else)
I'm immediately primed to say and do nothing, with the expectation that I'll be refused, not granted permission or access, or will recieve any other form of "thanks, but no thanks" responses. I'm terminally non-social, bordering on debilitatingly reticent to be noticed. I am not the kind of person who will actively or willingly step up and ask for any type of publicly social interactions. The problem is made worse by the fact that I do not know any of the social protocols for participating in this type of group thing. I only know that no means no, and that is that. How do I indicate to others that I have a willing mouth and an available ass without wearing a sign around my neck? What are the rules in place to secure permission to join in, to be taken, to participate? And further, how do I do this in such a way that I'll get invited back? I just do not know how to "be myself" in this kind of setting, so that's not any kind of legitimate advice. Being myself will mean sitting in that corner waiting to be asked to participate.
I'm right on the verge of refusing the invitation to attend, because I don't know what to do. I know that if I do that, I won't ever get another invitation either.
This is nearly a dream-come-true, and yet I have no idea what to do!
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