Originally Posted by
Avalokita
Statistically-speaking, the married guys I've met with *are* cleaner than the single guys I've met with. Drugs and heavy drinking are usually not a prat of their usual behaviour, and they are--on par--much more settled in their demeanor, and discrete about their conduct. Moreover, more of the married guys have actual proof of their health status; where most of the single guys I've had initial contacts with seem to feel that everyone can "just trust" their word on it.
Are there exceptions? Of course there are, but it's best not to base an argument and evidence oriented discussion on the insignificant <5%, while ignoring the +95% out there that drives the generalization.
That said, I spend a good amount of time getting "a read" on the online personality that I am discussing the prospect of getting naked with, and there are a host of online behaviours and indicators that will cause me to bow-out of making firm arrangements to actually meet. As far as actually meeting goes, I have sat down, over coffee, with guys who advertise themselves as being married, when they actually are not. That's when I get up and leave--and there have been a lot of untouched cups of coffee that I have left on the patio tables of Starbuck's all over Southern California.
Your experience may differ, but that has been my experience since about 1994, and I have certainly learned that the generalization of marrieds being cleaner and more discrete is pretty-well on target. But remember that, a general statement is NOT a universal statement--there is room for variance, but such variances do not over-turn the validity of the statistical norm expressed by the generalization.
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