Originally Posted by
Realist
Jem, I have thought that way too.
Soon after I joined this site, in Oct 2008...after lurking here for a while...a female member, who is much younger than myself, began writing me privately.
I enjoyed her thought process and the fact she is bisexual, too, but made every effort not to insinuate any interest. (Even though I'd had older lovers in my youth...I felt my experiences were a fluke....and never thought the roles would ever be reversed, when I became an older person)
Like you, I thought there could be no possible way she'd be attracted to me. Hell, I'm 33 years older than her!
After writing for a couple of months, we decided to meet, face-to-face, for coffee and conversation.
It was love at first sight for me, but I kept my feelings to myself. Amazingly, she felt the same way...my age didn't enter the equation!
Soon we consummated our relationship. At that first meeting, we agreed to be totally honest and open with each other. I told her I had a male lover; she was OK with that. She didn't have a female lover, then, but I agreed that I'd be OK with it, if she did.
Since then, we've both been more compatible than I'd ever been with any lover of either gender, ever. It helps that neither of us are jealous and hold views that the best way to keep a lover is let them be free.
We've been together for nearly 3 years and there's no sign of losing interest with either of us.
I look at our relationship as a remarkable gift and, as long as I can, I will love her, respect her, and treat her as she deserves. She treats me like a king, too. She's free to come and go as she wishes, but she has chosen to be with just me. I no longer have a male lover and not putting any effort in meeting anyone. However, if either of us find someone we want to be with, we are allowed to do whatever we feel is best for us.
I wouldn't trade her for the world!
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