Hi all,
This will be my first thread, I am writing it because over the last few months I have become comfortable with the people on this site, and know I will hear some thoughful comments.
I have been married since I was twenty four, over 18 years now. I have two wonderful children whom I love more than anything. My wife and I have had our ups and downs, like everyone else, but for whatever reasons I continue to be unhappy the way things are.
It has taken me all this time to finally accept myself as bisexual. I have an enormous desire to be with men... and have acted on this without her knowledge (thats right, I am a cheater).
I realize that this double life will only bring pain, and I don't think I can live with the lies and deception. I think I have to tell her about my desires, if not my activities. The problem is that I am sure that this will lead to our inevitable divorce, which would hurt the whole family.
So I think my choice is to stay, stop the double life, and hope I can keep my pants zipped up. Or role the dice, tell her, and risk everything. I know some people actually leave clues to get caught, but I don't think this is the way I want to go...
I'm sure there must be others who have faced, or are facing this sort of conflict. I would appreciate some of your opinions.
Bi-ten
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