Sex addiction...I'm bisexual...maybe because I am an addict.

[Bi_Dave]

Is anyone on here a sex addict? What determines if you are one? I thoroughly enjoy sex with a woman, AND sex with a man. Options are good. If I can't find a woman, I will suck a cock. I used to like to get fucked, but many guys are just too inexperienced and rough. Anal with a guy who really knows how to top is most pleasurable.

I was just thinking the other day that I maybe am addicted to sex and am bisexual because that means the sex is more available. I'm not kinky. I don't go for the way out stuff, just regular sex. I did get my teeth out when I retired and got a divorce. What I had were mostly caps and crowns and I wanted to eliminate dental bills in my retired years. I liked sucking cock...so what the hell. Women like the toothless action on their tits and pussies, too!. Some love kissing and running their tongue around my gums, and having me suck on their tongue. I think of sex all the time. I love breasts and hard nipples, camel toes, and nice round asses on women. Just the cock on a man. I don't want a gay BF. I don't want to marry a guy. I like to suck a nice cock and receive the cum. I like to frot between my legs too. I like the feeling of a slurpy cock sliding between my closed thighs from the front. I just myself so the cock slides between my ass cheeks and across my anus. The warm cum there feels sexy too. I haven't yet dined on a nice fresh creampie, although I think I used to eat my wife's pussy after she had been fucked by another man. I just think of sex alot. What is it like to be addicted to sex?

[cornholejoe]

Me and my late wife had a really good sex life we did everthing she pegged my ass for about 20 years or so and we did some bdsm on me so after she passed way got on some dating sites and did some 3 somes with couples mostly married sucked some real cock and got fucked with a real cock in my ass then my gay cousin turmed me on to men and i also met some men on the old cl when it was good plus women also so i guess i am addicted to sex

[marine20]

i think being so horny my whole life , starting from about 7 or 8 , looking at pretty girls in G- rated magazines, may have been what caused be to become bi. i was nuts about women , but when you couldn't get them all the time, i tried getting my cock sucked by men in video booths. it just escalated from there. i began sucking cock,getting ass fucked , fucking ass , you name it , i probably did it. i'm still nuts about women , but my wife is to ill to fuck , so now it's mostly men. once in a while , i can get some pussy. but when you are 75 , not too many women look at you. i don't know if i'm addicted to sex , but i sure don't want to stop.

[elian2]

So, if you are able to pay the bills, have a normal daily routine that provides meaning to you and you aren't obsessed every single minute or stalking people then perhaps you have a normal sex life?

I would only worry if you are CONSTANTLY doing things that put your mental, physical or emotional health at risk. Like for example you spend all day, every day at the adult bookstore, sucking every cock you meet, sooner or later you'll likely get a disease.

Otherwise what people do in private vs what they are willing to admit to in public appear to be two different things.

I was listening to some evangelicals on AM talk radio going on and on about how Sodomy was considered the lowest circle in Dante's inferno because it "goes against nature" but honesty, I've seen plenty of things in nature enjoy sex, including anal sex on occasion.

It certainly is possible to be addicted to something like porn, it rewires your brain for visual rather than tactile stimulation, however some of this stuff DOES serve a purpose in this society .. like a relief valve, otherwise all that sexual pressure builds up.

The stuff people have been through regarding sex is really quite a lot for some folks, doesn't mean there is anything wrong with them by default. If it really makes you unhappy then you DO have the option to change SOME behavior.

Personally from as young as I can remember I was falling in love with boys the same way other boys were falling in love with girls. I can "choose" not to have sex, but I can't choose who I fall in love with. Why should I deny myself a full life as a human being simply because other people are uptight? No one goes around telling straight folks not to fall in love.

[elian2]

Let me put it this way .. I was able to go without sex for a month while I was moving, and I was fine as long as I had any little distraction to occupy my mind; but if I thought about it .. oh geesh, I -was- like a 12 year old kid again .. with a wet spot in my underwears, constantly thinking about how good that lamp post looks if I rub up against it .. I really do HATE the way hormones make me feel .. like I'm one giant vibrating hormone, about to spontaneously combust or something.

In THAT case, masturbating really DID bring relief .. I was able to STOP thinking about having a big group orgy with all the other horny males in town .. so to say to someone "don't do it" is just foolishness...

And yes, I've felt sex was always a part of my "life" too since I was playing with myself when I was like 5, just out of curiosity, "introduced" at 7, nature itself introduced me to masturbation at 9 (things just got really itchy down there), tortured by hormones at 12.

If you read Kinsey, and some of the posts on here you learn that in fact EVERYONE goes through some of these stages of development and it's NOT that uncommon, but a lot of folks just end up straight when their hormones finally die down as an adult. There is a LOT of social pressure to conform, even now, but young people these days can at least talk about it or acknowledge it exists.

I was being honest with myself and I didn't get a choice right? A lot of folks are also in denial or push those feelings way down.

Go figure that people USED to live to the ripe old age of like 47 before they were crushed in a grain silo, eaten by a tiger or died of an ingrown toenail infection. Seems a little crazy now that we've managed to double our lifespan eh? People can now take time to figure things out.

So, I'm no longer going to apologize for wanting to love people and share pleasure, no need to feel guilty about that, I think that's a natural part of life, we ARE social creatures and sex is used for bonding just as much as anything else.

I do think you need to do so in a respectful and healthy way. (Don't use a large difference in age, experience or authority to take advantage of anyone who isn't ready or interested for example.)

It might be fun to play at it when everyone understands what's going on, but people really are NOT sex toys .. that's why toys were invented in the first place.

What I think is healthy, and what evangelical minsters are willing to admit are apparently two different things.

I really wish people could be honest .. I bet a lot of folks would RATHER be numb and come up with stupid rules such as "girls wear skirts!" and "men can't have multiple orgasms!" than go through 30 years of study and introspection the way I was forced to ..

[Neonaught]

I think there is a big difference between having a high sex drive and having an addiction.

[chongster]

I don't know if I am a sex addict but I do think about it daily. I'm always looking for that next thrill, things that used to turn me on have lost their luster and I look for new things. When I discovered I was bisexual that opened up a whole new world of sexual things I hadn't tried yet.
I've had a lot of same sex encounters, some very intense and some not so much. I learned a lot about myself and what things I enjoyed and things I didn't.
I keep looking for that next thrill.

[Bi_Dave]

I do the same. I can't look at a woman's breasts w/o wondering what they were like to ouch and squeeze and caress and suck. I don't do that with guys. I have to see their cock before I start getting turned on. I don't look at the face, the ass, the hair...show me your cock and I'll start fantasizing. I don't do anal any more. I have to be turned on. I used to love a cock sliding in and out of my ass when I was really turned. I would have done a gang bang sometimes. I'd like a gang suck before I end. I want to kiss a guy with cum in my mouth. I want to take one guy's cum in my mouth and start sucking another guy's cock while it's still there. I want to lick a woman's clit and lips while she's being fucked. I guess being bisexual mainly opens me up to enjoy more pleasure.

[elian2]

You sound perfectly normal to me .. with preferences, likes and dislikes similar to anyone else.

The way I think about bisexuality is that I have always had the capacity to form deep relationships with either sex. Just because I have the ability does NOT mean I have to sleep with EVERYONE I meet.

[jjourneyman]

I think there is a big difference between having a high sex drive and having an addiction.

You nailed it Neonaught! There is a fine line between having a high sex drive and having an addiction. It's like the difference between having a fetish and a preference. My ex-fianc? had a sex addiction (also a drug, alcohol and gambling). And she kept all of them well hidden until I started digging.

[Bi_Dave]

If you were a strict hetero, you would go after strictly your opposite gender. Gay, the same. To me, I'm not looking to form a LTR. If I'm in my "Bi-cycle"...I want cock! Anywhere in between that I want either cock OR pussy. I never want ass. Even with a woman. A pussy is designed with ripples and things inside to rub against the head of your cock to make you cum. If an asshole has that, they are called hemorrhoids! My 2nd wife(ex) have wonderful ridges on the roof of hers! Sounds like a potato chip commercial! I'll admit, I married her for her pussy. But I swing into Bi-cycles and marriage didn't work. The only emotion I feel with a guy is between me and my libido. I respect the guy and his cock, and will suck it in earnest to get him off, but that's it. That's kind of it with a woman I don't love, except with her libido.

[bibliss]

If you look forward to a walk along the beach or a hike in the woods because it feels as satisfying as a good sexual romp with a man or a woman, then you're not a sex addict.

[elian2]

This makes a lot of sense, but then I realized that a walk along the beach with someone I desire maybe makes me want them even more. Can we define sex addiction based on the number of holes you are willing to get sand into at the beach vs just waiting to ravage someone at the hotel?