I have an old friend that I worked with for years and I think he'd be receptive for maybe some play, he's divorced and I just get the vibe that he would go both ways, my question is what would be the best way to approach him about this? I know for sure that he would have no idea that I am bi and I'd like to keep this private if he's not on the same page as me. So what are your thoughts? Thanks in advance!
make a joke............." With the way things are going with women, maybe you need to swing to the other team"
That's an idea but he's been divorced for quite a while and doesn't really talk about those kind of things, usually tv shows, grilling, and other random stuff.Originally Posted by Jazminedress
After a couple of drinks, tell him it's been so long since you've had a decent blowjob you'd probably give one to get one. See how he reacts to that.
If you are getting a vibe, start with that. Do you get any specific thing that you see as a vibe? It is a gamble if it is a long established work pattern of communicating. Can you introduce sex chat amongst the other chat?
There is always self disclosure. It really depends on him. Be subtle.
Consider something like this, to get the ball rolling:
“Hey Joe, you sure have been through a lot lately. A divorce is so stressful ... it can really tense you up.
How about I grab some burgers, a couple of beers, ... you come over to my place, and we chill some afternoon?
By the way, if you like, I can give a great massage.”
"I was propositioned by a guy yesterday and didn't know how to respond. What would you say?"
I suggest that you take it as a compliment and thank him for the offer. Tell him: “Wow, what an offer, I will certainly give it some thought.” Then give it some thought.
Always a tough one! I've seen and have had guys trying to find out if I'm interested (or some other guy is) and sometimes, it's pretty hilarious; they try to be subtle and they just suck at it. Sometimes a guy would or will say something about "sexuality" or ask a question they think is innocent like, "What do you think about all these guys going around sucking dick? Is that crazy or what?" One of the things I learned is that even if you can find a way to bring up the topic, you may or may not really find out what's on their mind about it - if anything. A guy can have an opinion about it but that opinion may not reveal any interest on their part.
Chtampa mentioned one "ice breaker" that I've heard a lot over the years; I've also heard, "What would you do if some dude asked if he could suck your dick?" Both questions seem innocent enough, right? I've heard guys respond to both kinds of questions like they have no interest in such things and say that it's not something they've ever thought about... only to find out later that, well, they told a fib about that. The biggest thing I've seen happen is the guy asking, "Is there a reason why you're asking me this?" or something similar... which now puts the guy asking the question in a tough spot: Do you say that you were just wondering or do you dare just say something like, "Um, because I'd really like to suck your dick because (add the reason why here)"?
There's no tried and true way that I know of to find out if a guy would be interested; it's always trial and error and potentially risky since bringing the subject up could cause you to lose a friend. If I were to suggest anything, it's that you sit and think a whole lot about the guy you want to ask - everything you think you know about him - and think about what might be the best way for you to ask him about it... and give some thought about what makes you think he'd be open to this. Let us know how it went if you say anything to him about it?
From what you said that you wouldn't want anyone to know about yourself but if you like this guy and your friends with him see how it goes
Thanks for the replies everyone, not sure what I'm gonna do yet, if anything. We don't work together anymore but do keep in touch once in a while. No I'm not out to anyone, I've told my wife I'm curious and she was ok with that but doesn't know about my past experiences. So yeah I'd like to keep it private lol, Wife was open to a 3way maybe, so if all the planets all align maybe this could work out. When we did work together I noticed a porn mag he was looking at that had a bit of bi mmf pics in it. He didn't know I seen it, that and some of his mannerisms give me the vibe.
If he’s a good friend maybe you should look elsewhere. An old girlfriend of mine used to say, “never fuck your friends”. She didn’t stick to her own advice though, the slut.
It’s tough to find a suck buddy these days if you’re in a MF relationship, you’re trying to keep it on the DL, and you’re concerned about safety. Gay guys have all the fun.
Last edited by JordanCD; Feb 28, 2021 at 9:01 AM.
I think what I'm gonna do is just try to hang out with him more and just see how it goes, I'll start some innocent sex talk about me and the wife and ask him how things are going and take it from there. I know one thing if I was single I'd be staying that way lol
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