I'm attracted to anyone feminine looking so (most) females or a TS, but do remember the sensation of having something/someone in my anus is amazing however it happens.
I'm attracted to anyone feminine looking so (most) females or a TS, but do remember the sensation of having something/someone in my anus is amazing however it happens.
Originally Posted by Tag200
Interesting article that you cite. It's certainly not the case for everyone, but for me I needed to find a label that made sense to me about my sexuality. Because all my fantasies and porn enjoyment involved everything about gay sex, and even romance with another man, but when I was with a real guy I was only interested in his cock, and this lasted for almost 20 years, I was confused, so I labelled myself bi-confused. Then I met a guy in a bathhouse who I had great desires for his ass (for the first time outside of my fantasies and porn watching), and ended up fucking him after rimming his asshole for over an hour. I was so attracted to his entire body, and enjoyed rimming and fucking his ass SO much, and felt so connected to him when I was deep inside him, that I came out to myself as bisexual. I FELT bisexual. I was so overjoyed to finally have that experience and accept that label.
But I still don't know if it's actually true. I haven't been with enough men since then to say that I'd like the entire body and not just the cock and ass. On a regular beach, the street, or anywhere with clothed people, I just look at women (though that's changed a bit since breaking up with my girlfriend of 3 years this past December: I have checked out the ass of the odd guy when I've been out and about, or at the gym before the lockdown). Of course, on a nude beach I AM checking out men, but just their cocks and ass. But I still have fantasies about romance and having a boyfriend. I've just never had those feelings with a real guy--yet. As the article says, I am "erotically moved by the idea, or sometimes the practice of, seeking out other men with whom to have sex." I'm also erotically moved by the idea of having a boyfriend, or being entirely gay. But if I don't have the chemistry or the feelings when I'm with a real guy, then am I still gay or bisexual?
Speaking of the article, I wanted to say two more things. First, before we had sex, I did tell that girlfriend that I was bisexual. I felt that she deserved to know about my sexual history. I was really scared, but fortunately she accepted me, for the most part, and we went on to have that 3-year, on again off again, relationship. But because my same-sex desires and fantasies continued during the relationship, even though I never acted on it, it became a problem. And second, my girlfriend did fuck me multiple times with a strap-on, which she loved to do, immensely. But for me, though I didn't admit this to her, each time she was fucking me I was always thinking how I wanted this to be a real man doing this to me. Will that pan out in real life, will I love a real man fucking my virgin ass? Who knows?
My gay desires have increased greatly since this break up, but I haven't been able to act on it because of the pandemic. I don't know what will happen: perhaps I'll still mostly be just interested in cock, sometimes interested in ass, or perhaps much stronger bisexuality will come out of me and I will be really attracted to the entire guy, with or without romantic feelings. Who knows? But I'm much more at ease about the necessity of labels.
RisingBi I think the reason you haven't fallen in love with a man is because you just haven't met the right man. It's no different than finding the right woman. We all fall in love for various reasons and since I feel we are all on a sliding scale it is quite possible to fall in love with either gender if the chemistry is right. The biggest thing is to be open to your feelings when they hit.
I have been a Bisexual/Gay guy for several years and now I am what some people call, a season Cock Sucker! Normally I am not usually attracted to most men, mostly and often I just craved and enjoy their Cock and enjoy mutual oral exchanges. So, usually there is no physical or emotional attraction with the normal male. Now that I am widowed, I do not mind Kissing another man. About Anal, I do not normally “Top” because it just does not appeal to me at this time maybe because, I currently have bad knees. Often, I will not engage in Anal with a woman unless she is prepared to put on a strap-on and she could Top me all she wants, but seldom will I Top her, unless she mount herself on top of me!
With that being said, I can see why, once a male who may be attracted to another male person, I would find kissing to be very erotic and satisfying. For me, I would think that kissing, would greatly enhance our physical act. Normally for me, I really never thought that I would ever genuinely enjoy kissing another guy, as much as a female and Oral with another man was often my limit. That is until, a few years ago, I had met my, Mr. Right who just happen to be labeled as Gay and also a season Drag Queen.
I had never seriously into kissing, another guy, until I had met this guy. It was my first true, Gay experience and when he first kissed me it was with emotion and not just a reaction kiss. Then we started getting closer, because of the fantastic sex he provided me. Then one time, in the heat of things, he kissed me, and I just kiss him back and it began to feel, very normal for me. I usually have to be, really turned on a bit, but then I started kissing him on more than once while, he was doing me. Not sure if I, was becoming Gayer and I would definitely repeat it! It was just so sensual! I do understand, that if you are going to engage in anal sex, that is pretty much "going all the way possible" and as such, if you are doing that, why would you want to hold back on anything else, including kissing, it simply makes no sense to have anal sex and not go ahead and kiss. Kissing often make things so much more personal. Kissing takes mutual sex, to a new emotional level, no matter what you are doing sexually, even if it is nothing at all. Once you do begin kissing sometimes, it does becomes much more personal, so in my opinion, things might change overtime. Although our relationship involved long distance and it did not last but a few months!
My Gay desires, have somewhat increased greatly, since our breakup and I have not been able to continue my quest, due to current Pandemic. I do not know if it will ever happen again. Perhaps I will continue and mostly be, just interested in a man’s cock, sometimes interested in ass, or perhaps much stronger bisexuality will come out of me and I will be really attracted to the entire guy, with or without romantic feelings. I just do not know. I do know that I am much more open to the experiencing those feelings once again. To this day, I still have dreams about meeting another nice sexy Gay guy, and sharing another deep kiss, and it surely will excited me the same way!
Understand, life is but a short Journey, people must try to experience and enjoy any, and all, of various sexual opportunities that they can, while they are able to! The lasting memories can be great!
thanks for your input . Yes breaking off with my X girlfriend And or not having a regular woken playmate often worked my internet’s in cock ...
Thank you for your response, Geoff. I think you're right, certainly in my case. Falling in love with a man (or woman) certainly has to do with chemistry, as well as other factors I'm sure. I am certainly more open to it happening since I finally really connected with another man, with that guy that I was making love with that one and only time so far.
I also connected both sexually, AND emotionally, in a friendship kind of way, with the next guy that I was with: we saw each other multiple times and even went out on dinner dates. I so wished that I had romantic feelings for him, because he was perfect in every other way. But alas, I didn't. In hindsight, years later, I kind of regret not giving that relationship a longer chance. He was recently divorced from a woman after coming out as gay, and was looking for a boyfriend, and because I didn't have those feelings we parted. But I've been thinking about him a lot lately, and missing the sex and friendship that we had. That experience definitely let me know that if love ever comes with a guy, I'll be open to it.
Meanwhile, I'll just enjoy sex with whomever I have chemistry with for sex.
Wow! I love how you and I are very much alike in this, Fred! Kindred bi spirits! I hope you find the man of your dreams!
I feel the same way, only interested in sucking cocks, nothing else. Only attracted to their cocks and their cum. Not in to kissing, being a top or a bottom, just like to suck. Not even in to being sucked by anyone other than a woman.
I've had sex with males and females since puberty. I only fell in love with women though. With men it was just the sex! i love mutual cock sucking and the feel of a cock sliding over my ass and then entering me is thrilling beyond words.
One night cruising a park I met a guy and went back to his place for some amazing sex. He was an amazing lover and we both came multiple times. I met up with him once more for some more great sex. I felt really confused because I realized that I was falling in love with him. I was scared because I didn't want to live the full gay life. I broke up with the guy, and have often regretted it.
This whole question drives me nuts, because it fits me, but I must take it further. I actually find men unattractive. As much as there is some corner of my brain that is really turned on by the idea of feeling a cock in my mouth, it remains a fantasy, because when I get on the verge of thinking "I've got to act on this," I get out in public and I look at guys and it just turns me off. I am not homophobic. I even wish it were otherwise and that I could get turned on by a guy, but the thought repulses me. I certainly can recognize a man as being good looking or well built, but it does not stimulate me erotically to do so. I look at gay porn and it turns me off. I look at straight porn, and aside from the cock, I wish the rest of the guy was not in the image. I am turned on by porn involving female transsexuals, but they have to be really feminine in their appearance, with big boobs, a nice feminine butt, and a face that looks very convincingly female after whatever hormonal and surgical treatments they have gone through. Watching men embrace or kiss, at least in an erotic context, or fondle each other's little flat breasts looks just silly to me. I really enjoy rimming a woman that I feel close to if she likes it, but the idea of sticking my tongue in another guy's butt hole flatly turns me off. I can really enjoy lesbian porn and porn of a beautiful naked woman just enjoying herself sexually. I can enjoy porn where a woman has a big cock in her mouth and is going to town on it, but bringing more of the guy into the image just turns me right off. For the longest time, I was really turned on by the images called futanari, and I was emotionally devastated to know I was never going to find a real woman with a cock, as stupid as that is.
I have considered it an odd sort of bisexuality, which is the primary reason I am even really on this site. I have seen discussion, though, where it was instead considered a fetish for cock, like some guys are straight but get off on some oddball toy or part of female anatomy during sex, and I just happen to have a fetish for cock instead, but the idea of a woman using a strap-on doesn't turn me on at all, either, so I just go with the flow and enjoy straight sex but look at cocks online when I'm by myself at times. A{s much as it might be nice to have a name for this attitude regarding male-male sex, it is far from life changing for me.
Thought my profile was posted when I read your first 2 sentences, I too am only curious about the Penis. Touching, rubbing, possible sucking, riding. Want to try it all but he male body turns me off.
I don't drink or do drugs, so no help there. I'll hopefully get the courage one day since I'll never meet a Shemale or a Sissy that's passable.
Actually, I feel much the same way, and I'll bet that there are a lot of others who share this opinion. But I have taken 'the step' and have enjoyed a number of sexual activities with men, up to and including kissing. What works for me is developing a rapport via exchanging messages or emails prior to a first face-to-face meeting. It's here that the interest begins to build, when there's a realization that we're both decent, likable people and that we share an interest in erotic play that falls outside of the mainstream. We then have a common goal that overcomes the raw reaction of being disinterested or repulsed by the typical male/masculine appearance of a stranger walking down the street.
If we have a cordial, animated and pleasant conversation, and it's obvious that we're interested in a similar range of sexual experimentation, we agree to meet for exploration. I'm not hung-up on 'looks', but I do have certain standards of appearance and physical presentation. If someone turns out to be substantially different than he has portrayed himself in his profile or private messages/emails, I may decline to follow up.
I would suggest that you give up on the idea of 'being attracted to' another man as you see him on the street, and use different criteria in deciding if you're finally ready to enjoy the pleasure of feeling that cock in your mouth for the first time. I haven't regretted it for a second, despite the fact that I'm still not attracted to men. I eager look forward to my next erotic adventure with a man or another gurl.
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We work within the premise that in order to have sex with someone, we must be attracted to them... and it's not the whole truth of things and as many of us have discovered. We also tend to not really understand what "being attracted" can mean; it could be looks but it could be other things, too, that have nothing to do with how someone looks. I've told folks that even though I've had a lot of sex with men, when I see a guy, all I see is another guy. I can note his looks, the way he's dressed, even his mannerisms; I can, if I know or get to know him, find out what I like about him and what I don't; I've explained this and have had people tell me that there's no way I can be bisexual if I'm not attracted to men.
But what I am attracted to is sex and, really, most guys just do not get my attention unless they wanna pull their dick out and what they look like doesn't mean anything to me - now it's just a matter of whether or not I like them enough to go there with them... and sometimes, I don't like them enough. Still, a lot of guys get so... hung up over the need to be attracted to a guy that it either fucks with their head when they aren't - because they believe they're supposed to be - or it keeps them sitting on the bench and waiting for a guy they are genuinely attracted to... other than wanting to get him naked and play with his dick. No one is supposed to have sex with anyone they're not attracted to... and it's bullshit. The "right" way to go about it? Sure... just not as mandatory as we've been led to believe.
I blew my neighbor last week... zero attraction to him but he's a nice and decent kind of guy and not even what I'd call a handsome guy or a fit and trim kind of guy. But when he asked me to help him out - think bro-job - and he got his dick out, that's when he really got my attention and made the decision to help him out an easy one. Neighbor, not truly a friend but a fellow vet who needed my, um, help with something... and he had a really nice dick. I learned, even if few ever do, that attraction has different meanings and comes in different ways and, yeah, it doesn't have to be there in the conventional sense if the vibe between you and him is strongly suggesting that you both get your dicks out, get them hard, and make them soft again.
You may agree or not and that's fine with me. I know the way things are supposed to be... and I also know that it's not the whole truth of things.
lol my partner is a intersex female, born with both genitalia, shes openly admitted that a lot of guys would prefer sex with her over a male, as they prefer the cock attached to a male and nothing else and with her, there is a lot more that they find enjoyable....... trouble for all those guys, is she is going to remain on their bucket list.... and thats her decision and choice, nothing to do with me.....
shes also said that sex with a male is different to sex with a female, because it feels like sex is limited with males as opposed to sex with a female.... guys have a penis, mouth, hands and an ass, females have a pussy, mouth, hands and an ass but can also use a strapon, they have breasts, they can enjoy things like their hair being pulled etc.... but the thing that my partner says, stands out the most, is that females can be more passionate and emotional during sex.... males can too but its not the same
the idea that its easier to have an emotional connection to a sissyboy, a trans person, a shemale rather than a male, does make a lot of sense to me......its just hard to put into words but it has less to do with the body and more to do with the person themselves, people with a strong personality and energy tend not to interest me but people that are more subtle or shifting between a feminine and masculine energy do... because I can have the dominant person in the bedroom become a person that wants to cuddle, kiss, hold and be affectionate after sex, where as a lot of males do not, and it does create a type of barrier between people.......
I have always questioned if the ratio of females with cocks was higher, would we see as many people say they are bisexual because of the number of guys that would love a female with a cock or a intersex female, either as a friend with benefits, a long term lover or a partner...... and if they had that person in their lives, would they still have the attraction to males cocks or not........ and before anybody rushes in to say its bi erasure or trying to push bi invisibility, its simply a question based around what other people have said about how they love cock but a shemale etc, would be a dream partner
The only thing more painful than a broken heart, is catching yourself in your zip and having very cold hands
I’m also in the cock hungry crowd. Men don’t turn me on while women do. Sucking cock gets me hot.
How does "blowing a neighbour" happen in real life? Super curious how this happens. I've almost never had a sexual encounter that didn't involve online CL-like list, or going to a sauna.
I have to admit, I'm not really attracted to guys much outside of sex, but I am super turned on by sex with guys. This is why I'm basically only into hookups and saunas. Love the naked bodies, cocks, etc, love kissing and stroking. I'm good with chatting after with a fellow traveller. Zero chance I'll ever develop a stronger emotional attachment than FWB.
@Fredward, it happened like this. To kinda set the stage, I'd been helping him with some stuff he's dealing with at the VA re his retirement benefits and we'd get to talking about being in the service, stuff like that. One day, he just started telling me about his wife and step-daughter and how much drama there was that, as a long-haul trucker, there were times when he didn't want to come back home. Tough situation. Time is marching on but now I could more easily see what he was talking about and I felt bad for him and more so when he just came out and admitted that she - his wife - had cut him off for sex - even tougher. A couple of days before the "big event," we were talking about being in the shit - bullets flying, people getting wounded and killed, and how that changes a person and how it can sometimes make brothers in arms close... really close. I had wondered where he was going with this even though I knew exactly what he was talking about and especially the stress of such a life and death situation. He'd just said, "I know you know what I'm talking about..." and I said I did, having spent a short period of time in Vietnam and being exposed to what it's like to be in the shit.
Two days later, he's knocking on my door and telling me he needs my help with something but he has to show me what he needs help with; could I come up to his place so he can show me what he needs help with? I get to his place and wait for him to show me what he needs help with... and he just kinda breaks down and starts talking about how he's having such a hard time with things and he feels like he's back in the shit of Operation Iraqi Freedom and could I help him - and I knew exactly what help he needed... but I asked him, "How do you know I can provide this kind of... help?"
He said, "Because you've been there and I know you ain't gonna tell me you didn't help your brothers deal with the stress like that." And he was right, of course, so all I said was, "Come here..." pulled his dick out and went to work on him until he cut loose what I'd call a seriously huge load. The man cried, either out of happiness or relief and said, "I knew that you'd know what to do!" before he returned the favor. Was there any attraction to him? None whatsoever but that's never mattered all that much to me; it was one vet helping a fellow vet in a time of great need and, you know, being a very avid cocksucker, I was more than happy to help him out. Also, my life - and sex with men - has always been one of those things that if I go looking for dick to suck, I can't seem to find it... but when I'm not looking for it, it finds me. Maybe this will turn out to be a regular thing, maybe it won't... doesn't change the fact that I'm still not attracted to him.
I'm also not really attracted to men in general. I have and do enjoy recieving a pounding. Oddly enough, its always anal, never done oral. Most of my fantasies involve the thought of the man being taller and heavier than me and heavily tattoed. But I've never seen a man and got horny. Usually I'm horny and then start looking for a top. Fluid. I like that.
I have the same interest as you, I like to suck and be sucked, like rubbing my cock against another as well. But I don't have any romantic thoughts of men either...
KDaddy, that's an amazing story. Wow.
You are one awesome dude, my friend.
Here I was, hoping to get a lump in my pants. Instead I got a lump in my throat. You're a good man, Kdaddy.
Why label it ? I was "straight" for years. Until someone suggested I let them suck my cock and asked if I wanted to try, no judgement, in private....and I embraced being bi, before I even know what the word was or meant. Today, the world is a bit more different, and sexuality is more fluid and at 62. When my GF comments on a guy's ass at a pool party and I chime in "I'll say" it's a casual joke and most people chuckle about it. I'm starting to not give a f*ck the older I get.... I told my kids "whatever you do in your bedroom is your business"...period. NO labels, NO judgement, safe, loving, pleasurable fun.
I'm the same way. Love women but want cock
I try to be, Fredward. There are some things that goes beyond attraction and preferences and I wouldn't feel right to let someone suffer when I know there's something i could do... like give a blow job to someone I'm not even really a friend to or with. Sometimes, a bro-job just works for what ails a guy and attraction and all that other shit doesn't mean a damned things - but making him feel better means everything.
Interesting thread. I have emotional and romantic feelings for women, typically more mature and slightly older, but no interest to date or have a romantic relationship with a man. However, the sexual fantasies and desires around certain activities with a man turn me on more some days. I'm in my mid-thirties and I don't call it anything other than awesome - being attracted to more than one sex opens the door to a lot. And even penis owners with boobs are hot if they are attractive. I'm sure there area lot of people out there like me. It's been my mindset since I was much younger too.
On the money! To me, it's all about the cock. And I'm fussy too. Gotta be cut. Just my preference, but that IS MY preference. Men's faces, asses, even big ol' hairy balls do NOT turn me on. Pussies with flappy inner lips turn me on. I like prominent clitorises. Hairless pussies are a big turn on. Women's nipples and aureoles turn me on. Women's or men's puckered assholes are a turn off! A big mushroom headed cock is one I want to suck. I'd rather you CIMM. The skin behind a woman's knees feels wonderful on my lips. An uncut cock without the skin pushed back turns me off. I am bi sexual organed. Give me a cock and a pussy and I am in ecstasy! Give me a cock fucking a pussy and I am over the moon! I don't care if a person is ugly as long as their cock or pussy is healthy, hygienic, clean, and they smell good. I'm not going to be looking them in the eye. I do like kissing a woman more than a man. I did try a man once...didn't care for the stubble or the big tongue. I guess I am as biSEXual as one could be!
Oh, I wear dentures and BOTH sexes LOVE THAT!!! Women say it's like being suckled by a baby. They can relax more not having to worry about getting snagged by a sharp tooth! I have made out with a woman who had no teeth....THAT was actually pretty hot!
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If the issue is saying you’re bisexual, just go with what you like, don’t worry about the label
When I cum, I lose the mood. I derive pleasure from my sucking. I can beat off when I get home. I let them suck mine, but I don't want to cum. I guess I am a heterosexual that sucks cock.
I find the cock to be very beautiful with it's shape and lines. I have been a member of this forum since 2013 and before here I was a member on a shemale forum since 2008. I am attracted to women and the womanly figure. And like my attraction to women with their shapely lines and feminine figure that is how I look at a cock but in an entirely different way. A cock is a cock and woman's body is a woman's body.
I don't know if I will always simply just admire cock from afar online or if I truly want and will get a cock in my mouth. A man can be handsome, well groomed with a fit body and that is not my main focus. When looking at pictures of cock it is difficult to not notice the man's body unless the picture is strictly focused on the cock alone. But that is not my focus. My main focus is on the cock. I may not be attracted to the man or the manly body but I know if I suck cock my hands will be moving around. I don't doubt I will have 2 hands full of man ass and legs during that time of sucking cock. If he wanted a finger on or his hole that is where I will say no. And although they are not the cock I am sure I will be sucking on balls as well.
On the shemale forum there is a thread where guys talk they would fuck a shemale but not touch their cock. I find that odd but not out of ordinary. To them that is "gay". But in the same there are also Trans-Girls who don't like or want their cock touched. To them it is too close to who they born as and not who they are. If I were lucky to have sex with a Trans-Girl I of course would touch her cock. Suck on her cock. It would be the same as having sex with a woman. Or as they say on that forum.... Girl/Girl. If I eat pussy when having sex with a woman than yeah I would suck a cock if I were having sex with a T-Girl. Unless she was a T-Girl who does not like that for her reasons. There is also a thread asking "If you could suck shemale cock, could you suck man cock?". I don't remember my answer but I am sure it was "NO" and 5 years later I am on here.
In the past few years there has not been no other forum I frequent more than this forum. It is safe to say that my interest has been focused on cock. Where all this puts me as for labeling I wouldn't know. Maybe a Cock Admirer or a Future Cock Sucker or a Cock Worshiper. Or maybe as the name of this forum titled a Bisexual. The labeling is just that a label. It's what you feel and believe what you are.
I have no romantic desires where men are concerned. I don’t enjoy kissing or cuddling but sucking a cock, having my cock sucked, giving and receiving anal and depending on the person swallowing a load is as exciting and pleasurable to me As eating out and fucking a woman. I find them both incredible but I can only get romantic with a sexy woman.
I think it’s the animalistic energy that turns me on. I’d like to try two or more men and have them dominate me while I struggle to overtake them and force my will on them. I’ll be ok if I never succeed in taking control. It would just be hot and exciting.
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