Married and want to hook up with another guy very badly. I played in high school with a friend regularly. Married and wife doesn’t know and can’t know. I am very nervous meeting a stranger but love the idea of m/m sex. Advice?
Married and want to hook up with another guy very badly. I played in high school with a friend regularly. Married and wife doesn’t know and can’t know. I am very nervous meeting a stranger but love the idea of m/m sex. Advice?
The Fairfax Men's Club is having a party on Monday. I've found a group of guys milling about stroking their cocks to be very empowering.
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I know how you feel Nova.
A while ago (and my last encounter) i put an advert up online asking for a blowjob.
I was absolutely shitting myself with nerves to the point where, when he came round, i couldn't get it up!
I ended up sucking him off to completion but i felt i'd missed out!
wait, what? There’s a CLUB?Originally Posted by Opportunist
First encounters can be nerve wracking but in time you get past it.
YA, come visit Seattle and I will come visit you in your hotel room. Married guy here in the same boat lol
How many of you are married and would get killed by your wife. That’s why I’m nervous.
Meet him at a coffee shop, and tell him that you are inexperienced, tell him that you need to take things slowly.
If it is to be, let it be with me
novaguy027....How long have you worked for this site?
I don’t work for the site. Looking to meet someone in NW Virginia and be friends.
Happen to me TOO often! I think it’s because I’m wanting it so badly & nervousness because it’s happened before
i end up sucking mostly (love that too) and getting fucked more than doing the fucking. Doesn’t seem to happen with someone I’ve been with but I have more one offs than repetition.
Shame you aren’t closer. I have no luck. Have trouble on line and no idea how to meet a bi dude in public.
I was shaking so bad,, My knees was trembling,, I can remember him touching my cock through my pants saying your ( mine) cock was large,, and he had noticed my dangle,, and wanted to suck it for me,, I was so confused,, He was married, & I was with my GF they was both in the house,, we where out by the pool,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I let him go down on me because I was so hard,, I unloaded in his mouth so hard he chocked on my cock,, I shoved it in so hard like a bitch pussy,, put my hands on his head,, shoving him down harder taking all my cum.. he was about to pass out when I let him up.. I can tremble the trembles
I want to so bad and every time I think I’m going to do it I get so nervous.
Yes, the line you are crossing is not with a guy, but with her, even with yourself.
You are nervous because you understand the gravity of the decision.
I think many couples can not talk honestly about sex.
Before you cross that line, try it.
Ask her to agree to have an honest talk.
About what you (and she) like, want, expect, fantasize about, etc.
Talk about orientation and non-monogamy and fears.
Maybe that talk with fail.
You can at least say that you gave honesty a good try (before moving to its alternative).
I write this as a bi man in an honest, open and happy marriage.
Playful has some good points. Be patient, approach this openly, and respectfully, as adults, so you can explore and understand both her and your needs or desires. (Important -not just yours!). If you address the topic and talk before, it's one conversation. There are ways to do that. But if you cross the line and then later have to deal with hurt feelings, anger, distrust and other emotions (due to her feeling betrayed or lied to, and for a guy, which adds a different spin on that), that's an entirely different conversation.
It may need more than one conversation, she may need to talk to understand why you need something other than what she offers. If you talk you may find there are some compromises that can work. Most women are scared of a guy doing NSA's with strangers, but a little less fearful of a FWB if you are being careful, DDS--free, etc, because the STD fear is very real (and understandable). You may even find you have a wife who has interests you don't know about, ones she didn't know how to bring up. (Mine mentioned pegging...). There are a lot of forums and sites out there about these conversations, and people in your situation and similar ones. Some covering mixed-orientation marriages tend to include discussions and material on this exact topic and how to have these conversations.
I was up front with my wife, honest and open about bisexual curiosity/interests, my preferences, and a love for lingerie. We were married over 25 years. Not every situation works out that way, but for me it did.
Growing up , I never had the circle jerks or traded blowjobs with a friend like most start out. The one's that did carried that "name" all through school or life if word got out . Looking back now, I wish that did experience same sex play, because it would be a lot easier to get the first one down now as an adult. I have always love women and had sex with only women. But, through the years, from time to time I would have gay thoughts. Then later, I would think , how could you do something like that. But being older now, I would love to try sucking a cock or be sucked. If I was married I'd probably never get the nerve to do it, because of maybe getting caught and she would tell all my friends. I'm hoping this is the year that I get to spend a night doing all the things that I have fantasize about when jacking or watching porn. I'm old school, but I don't believe in labels or name calling. Times are changing fast, but I would have to still stay in the closet, even after I had sucked a cock. Probably in another 20 or 30 years, people will be so open on their sexual preference, that there will only be pockets of name calling or labels. I love the outdoors...camping, fishing, hunting or just walking through the woods. I think the only way that I could experience M/M sex would be to camp out with someone, or spend a day hunting … fishing or hiking and get to know the person. Being comfortable around someone and having time to feel them out, as friends first, would be my dream come true. Not that the first one has to be special, but I don't want the quick suck and go, in high risk areas of being caught. I over-think things...don't think I'll ever change...lol. I get super horny when camping or out in the woods with a lady-friend. Camping out with a friend that is bi, would get me very interested in dropping to my knees or work up to maybe a long lasting caring friend that's mostly straight until we get alone. They say a bad day fishing is better than a great day at work. The fishing might be bad at times, but I love to make sure that the lady I'm having sex with gets all the attention she wants. That's why I think most bi-guys suck and don't want no return favor or bottom not top, because they feel that they are satisfied . I don't want to date or live with a guy, just spend time alone enjoying each other's companionship or sex then go back to your everyday life. People that label you are only jealous or want to be you most of the time. Life is short and your "Taste-Buds" change with time. "Food" that you tried years ago and didn't like, maybe now you would love and swallow every drop...lol I didn't try it when younger, but my "Taste-Buds" are wanting a change of flavor to try. If I could just take the train wheels off and try-bi... I would be hooked..Camping is fun with a new lady-friend. But, they hate to rough it, with a guy there would be nothing to complain about. Just do what needs done.. feels right...
On the whole, I think you gave some very good advice, but I'd guess that there are some spouses that would find even the discussion of such topics enough to cause serious damage to the marriage.
I applaud you and am happy to report that my marriage is much like yours: 48 years, stable, happy and honest.
I don't think of it as 'open', although it really is. I have a hall-pass to play with other men. I don't think that would extend to my being with other women, though. (We haven't talked about that.) But I have no problem with her being my only woman. She has said that she wishes she had a dick so she could satisfy my desire to suck cock and be fucked by a real one instead of a dildo.
Great ladies we have!
Very Bi, I love to suck cocks and eat pussies. I had a lot of mutual cock sucking sessions before I was married, I also ate a lot of pussy. When I got married, that all ended until I simply couldn’t stand not sucking cock, so I went on the DL. We’ve been married for almost 50 years and she has never discovered my secret. I do remember being so nervous the first time I sucked a guys cock after I got married. I canceled seeing the guy, then a week later I met up with him. We had a great time!
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