taking little steps

[looking for more]

Like some i had a brief gay encounter in middle school which wasn't much more than a touch. Now
in my 40's connected with a friend last year which was oral, some hand job and once
we came it was silence and odd. Last time we meet up i was ready and had my first anal
and was prepared for bareback. It was great did know being fuck was so much fun. Actually it is making me a
better lover with my girlfriend, i now know how it feels to take some dick. Well by first was a creampie ending which i was looking forward to but didn't feel it, guess i was expecting something.. Now i have gone, from just wanting to cum and experience anal to craving dick. Getting to the point where im start to think about dick while with a woman.
but I love women (no desire to fuck a mans ass). Seems like each encounter, makes me a little more comfortable to the point of wanting ro experience more.

Was it gradual for most? Going from just wanting a BJ, to full out wanting a complete gay experience.

It seems so normal to be with one man and one woman and enjoy both experiences. Now making me want to experience sex with a couple.

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[NJwood]

For me it was more gradual. From giving and receiving a blow job to experimenting with anal and wanting to try with a couple.

[zbi73]

I think it's natural. For me I've always had a fascination with anal but was when I first accepted I was bisexual I would've said I was a top now I'd definitely be versatile as I would want both, likewise for sucking. I wasn't keen to suck either but now I would want both, it just took me a while to be comfortable with who I am.

[Neonaught]

Unlike many here I never really struggled with my bisexuality beyond being very discrete so that the word wouldn't get out. I have always enjoyed oral, especially the happy ending in my mouth. Sadly that is almost impossible now due to a jaw reconstruction and I do deeply miss it. I have always been something of a natural top but have experimented with the bottom on 3 occasions. I guess I have yet to meet the right top to have the job done well as I was not impressed with how any of them made me feel really good. Having survived multiple bouts with head and neck cancer I say we should at least TRY anything we think we might enjoy while we can. Naturally having the right partner is of great importance. My first top was totally inexperienced and hurt me but, if nothing else, the experience made me a much more empathetic top.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I started my evolution at a rather advanced age, and readily accepted being orally-versatile. It didn't take long for me to realize that I'd love to bottom. A couple of activities were slower to make their way to my radar screen: kissing and topping. Both of those were - for a time - on my list of 'only with women'.

But kissing came into play rather quickly. I still don't have romantic feelings for my play partners, but kissing is a great part of sexual experimentation and I love having a tongue in my mouth as much as fingers in my panties!

The remaining holdout is my being a top. It's more an age thing than anything else. I still get hard, at 68, but not as hard as I used to, so penetrative sex, particularly anal sex, where the opening tends to be tighter, is somewhat difficult for me these days. When it comes to giving anal, I'd prefer the soft, smooth skin of a woman's body. But I do understand the desire to receive on the part of some of the men I've been with, and I would love to be able to accommodate them, especially after they've made me feel special in some way.

[looking for more]

Thanks for sharing, it seems like becoming bisexual thoughts came later in life (30s) with first real experience in my 40s. Looking back I had several opportunities but lacked the interest. Now that i have experienced both, maybe due to the excitement I real want both or even crave dick more. With so many married men in this situation, I'm surprised I have not met more like minded but understand it is a hard subject to talk about. Had i not taken a chance due to some signs with a friend i would have never experienced this new chapter.

[Flypaper]

It’s become clear to me, throuh this board and other communities, that there are more of us guys discovering our bisexuality later in life than ever before. I was introduced gradually to my desires, at 52. Seven years later my desire to experiment has ballooned, but I’ve plateaued at giving and receiving oral, and wondering how long it will be before I top or bottom.

it’s a fun ride to be on, and I think it would have been wasted on a younger ,e.

Thanks for sharing, it seems like becoming bisexual thoughts came later in life (30s) with first real experience in my 40s. Looking back I had several opportunities but lacked the interest. Now that i have experienced both, maybe due to the excitement I real want both or even crave dick more. With so many married men in this situation, I'm surprised I have not met more like minded but understand it is a hard subject to talk about. Had i not taken a chance due to some signs with a friend i would have never experienced this new chapter.

[travelingman5000]

For me it has been and still is a very gradual thing. Mutual touching when I was a teen, then nothing till I was in my 30's. Still have only been into touching, stroking, and geting sucked. I will suck a guy some day. Probably never get into anal, just not my thing. I am a bit of a clean freak.

[chongster]

I never had a bi urge in my life till I saw trans porn. I realized how much cocks turned me on. I have always loved ass play and loved using vibrators on and in my ass while masturbating.
When I first became interested I wanted to bottom and feel a real cock inside me, the thought of it swelling up and cumming in my ass was a huge turn on. I had no interest in fucking another guy.
My how things have changed.... I have been with quite a few guys now and a couple trans, I have only been fucked in the ass once and didn't find it to be very enjoyable at all. I like my vibrating toy much better. I have found that I love to top, in fact I won't meet a guy just for oral. I love young smooth guys, CDs or trans very much. I have a very nice cock and have found that guys really want it.
Seems like every new experience I have these days is very enjoyable. My last encounter was my first kiss, I wouldn't do that with just anybody but I did that time and rimmed too. Seems so far that I reserve those things for CDs & trans. But you never know what might happen next, I keep an open mind.

[Biwolf]

Took me a while to explore. I knew I always loved women. Did not start developing gay feelings until my 20s. Had my first gay encounter when I was 30 when I had a bi threesome with a female fuck buddy and her bi boyfriend, they had an open relationship.

[can2020]

i was 49 my first time. only done oral and kissing

[jonfranklin]

I was a late bloomer, first time was when I was 27 but I probably fantasized about being with another guy since my teens. The first time I gave a BJ and got topped (figured I might as well go all the way since it took me so long to get up the nerve to go for it).

I'm very much into women but do crave having fun with guys sexually, I have typical guy friends that I don't see anything happening with.

[alljackdup65]

Extremely gradual steps here. started sucking cock as a late teen, elevated to body contact mid 30's, and finally got fucked at 49. At 54 now I am a bottomed and love most every aspect of male on male sex. not interested in any other woman than my wife, but shes had some medical issues so we dont have sex near as much, so I'm probably 70/30 bi/straight nowadays. Enjoy yourself and play safe

[KDaddy23]

A lot of guy ease into being intimate with other guys which, I think, is better than "going for it all" the first time out - but guys do that, too. I've seen that with a lot of guys, it's a progression, from being able to be naked with or around other guys, to touching each other, then jerking each other off, to sucking, then graduating to fucking. Things like time and opportunity can put a lot of space in the mix, giving guys time to think about what they're doing and why so they can decide to keep going or not. For guys late to the party, little steps tend to work best because they have to overcome years of behaviors that are the opposite of what men are traditionally supposed to do or, in this case, not supposed to do so taking little steps works to ease themselves into things.

The path of discovery is sometimes slow and deliberate and sometimes one huge rush and, honestly, neither way is what I'd call wrong - it's all about what works for the individual. When I was a much younger man, I had a friend who used to love wrestling with me even though, as a student of judo, I'd wipe the floor with him and it took me a while to figure it all out. We'd tussle and I never failed to notice how hard we both would be or how he'd allow himself to wind up in a headlock with his face buried in my crotch or how he'd grind up against me - and disguised as trying to escape - when I'd pin him with my whole body and more so when he'd be face-down. I had spent the night with him and we wound up tussling in our underwear and I'm roughing him up pretty good - but not to hurt him - and when he wound up with his face in my crotch, I was surprised - but not really - when I felt his mouth on my very hard dick.

The rest of the night was filled with a different kind of wrestling. Afterward, we talked and he told me that he had been taking his time to work up to that moment with me and I told him that I had figured it out a while ago and was just waiting to see what he was gonna do. He was embarrassed that I wasn't fooled by his actions but said that he wanted to take baby steps so he could do what he wanted to do with me, that and he was afraid to just ask me if we could do it. And it made sense and from there I could see when other guys were taking little steps to get to the place they wanted to be in this.