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[Intoone]

QuestionEveryone
I recently decided that I would like to Try to have sex with a man. I currently go on porn sites and watch gay and bisexual sex. I find myself masturbating to the videos and I’m discovering that has a do it I also Fantasize about actually doing it with a man. The closer I get to orgasm the more I want it The problem that I’m having is that after I come I find myself feeling guilty and not wanting to do anything about having sex with a man or even watching it and then I begin to ask myself what are you thinking. Has this ever happened to anyone

[mtnmen2]

Yes, when I was first starting to play, as soon as I would cum I would loose all desire for gay sex, but as I got more in touch with my own feelings that went away. Whenever I play with someone that's just starting out or is bi-curious I like to get them turned on but don't let them cum until after I do because as soon as they cum they cant get their clothes on and out of there fast enough. I look back and think what was the big deal about but sometimes learning the truth about yourself can be scary. You'll see this as you go down your own path. Just don't let fear or guilt rob you of some fun times

[JayGrimm]

As a very late bloomer to gay sex, there were times I felt the same way. I think much of it (in my case) had to do with the memories of what was the "norm" when I was young. I was born in '52, and even well into the 60's, there was a terrible social stigma associated with being gay, or even being sympathetic to gays.

Obviously a lot has changed since then, but every once in awhile those old feelings resurface.

You're not alone. But you can overcome it with time.

[Cum1st]

In the early '70's I was propositioned in the local bar one night. We had talked, I was comfortable with him, and wanted to do it. Afterward, I was freaked out! The stigma of being 'queer' was much heavier back then. A few years later I stopped in the first ABS in the area to pick up some (hetero) porn on my way home from work. Convenience stores only had soft porn.

It was a cold rainy night, and I was rather nervous. The place was dark inside and empty, other than the guy behind the counter. As he was trying to help me, looking around, I noticed a curtain just past the end of the counter with a sign over it that said theater. I asked him if I could go in there. He, of course he said yes. I'd envisioned it was actually a theater and there would be others inside, but I went in anyway. To my relief there were roomy booths on one side of the isle with curtains for doors, and there was no one back there. I picked a booth, and sat on the bench next to the opening. I didn't close the curtain. The urge to be with a man had been building. My cock was hard and dripping before I could get it out of my pants. As I watched the video not needing any spit lube, the clerk appeared next to me in the doorway. His cock was hanging out of his fly, and he asked, "Wanna sip?" I was on it right away. After swallowing his load I didn't last long.

I left feeling a little weird about it having cum, but knew I was was hooked. It was a dizzying, wonderful experience. After a few more 'manly' encounters I was able to enjoy finishing a man after cumming as much as I did if I didn't cum first. I made it a point to cum first with guys who want to suck and be sucked. It's easier and more of a turn on for most guys that way. Strangely, that hasn't translated as much to being with women or solo. Although, there have been instances that I enthusiastically dove right back down on a beaver full of cum and went for another round.

[Intoone]

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[zbi73]

I'd have a guess and say it's quite common. I too experienced this for many years, enjoyed they experience but once it was over, guilt took over and I'd say, "never again" or "it's just a phase". Rinse and repeat. Deep down I knew it wasn't a phase and it wouldn't be the last time either. Once I accepted I was bisexual, something I've always really known, the guilt subsided to a degree but it's a process for many, myself included, that simply takes time. Horniness seems to be a great truth serum, well was for me.

[Neonaught]

I had my first experience at 16 and never felt a minute of guilt about it. It was something new and I really enjoyed it so I could see no wrong in it. My partner at the time was the exact opposite as soon as he came the remorse and guilt set it.

[SilkyHoseLover]

You'll read a lot of posts where guys talk about wanting to eat their own cum, and are very determined to do it, but when they actually climax, they immediately lose the desire. There's just something about the way men seem to be wired, where horniness makes us think we'll do just about anything imaginable to make us cum, but our desire pops at the same time, with the speed of a punctured balloon.

My advice is to keep this in mind: You'll be the exact same person you are now, after you have sucked a cock or enjoyed being penetrated by one. If you're a decent, loving, responsible and respectful person beforehand, nothing will be changed by your interaction with a 6 or 7" cylinder of human flesh. Same holds true if you're an asshole -- you're not going to change instantly as a result of some same-gender experimentation!

Be confident and secure in your feelings and values, and you'll be fine.

[Bi-guy rick]

Absolutely common. However, it wore off on me. I came earlier today after a morning of porn and dildo play, and then immediately opened my laptop back up and started looking looking at this site and others again.

[KDaddy23]

Some guys bust a nut and they feel fine afterward; some guys bust... and feel pretty shitty, guilty, and wondering why they thought this was a good idea. Some guys only feel this way for a short period of time while others can feel like this for as much as a whole day.

That damned refractory period that hits a lot of men like a runaway train. As much as I love sucking cock, when I cum, yeah - I wanna run for the hills as that post-ejaculatory period hits me... but there's a guy there who needs his dick to get soft so I learned to fight through that shitty feeling so I can finish him. Likewise, I've finished guys before they can finish me and I recognize the signs - they wanna haul ass or they have that look on their face that tells me they ain't feeling this anymore. Sometimes it's a matter of just waiting for a few moments - maybe it'll pass and he can continue but if he can't, well, it's not his fault anymore than it is mine.

It's not consistent - and I don't really know why it isn't - but for as many times as I can cum and I'm fighting my "flight or flight" instinct, there are many times when I can cum and not feel shitty at all.

[csreef]

Maybe it is because you are exploring your sexuality that you are feeling guilty. I would say just give yourself some time to become more comfortable in your sexuality and see how you feel.

[Intoone]

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[Str8WantsWife]

I am in your exact shoes. I haven't had sex with a man yet, but am horny to. I've been surfing porn the past year, chatting online, doing some phone and even a few webcam sessions (no faces of course). Once I cum, I wonder what the heck I was doing. Then the next day, I am all horny about cock again. My next step is to have an in-person sexual experience with a man. I might end up having the same "what the heck" thoughts after I cum, but, based on my history so far, I'll likely want more when I get horny again. I think if I find that's not the case after a few live experiences, then it will have just been a curiosity and I will have gotten it out of my system. But, maybe after a few times I will discover that I enjoy sex with men as much as I do with women. Good luck with your journey.

[Neonaught]

I am blessed with a short refractory period. As long as I stay focused on my partner by kissing, caressing or something I am ready to go again in 5-10 minutes. I do have a favorite bottom partner that turns me on so well that, often when we fuck, I come inside him and keep going to a second orgasm. We both love that!

[stonebow]

You'll read a lot of posts where guys talk about wanting to eat their own cum, and are very determined to do it, but when they actually climax, they immediately lose the desire. There's just something about the way men seem to be wired, where horniness makes us think we'll do just about anything imaginable to make us cum, but our desire pops at the same time, with the speed of a punctured balloon.

My advice is to keep this in mind: You'll be the exact same person you are now, after you have sucked a cock or enjoyed being penetrated by one. If you're a decent, loving, responsible and respectful person beforehand, nothing will be changed by your interaction with a 6 or 7" cylinder of human flesh. Same holds true if you're an asshole -- you're not going to change instantly as a result of some same-gender experimentation!

Be confident and secure in your feelings and values, and you'll be fine.

Perfect answer!

[stonebow]

It's a very common thing. I didn't truly get past this until I met my current wife and was taken into her circle of FWBs. It was her acceptance that allowed me to explore my bi side guilt-free. That said, the refractory thing is very real. You're only really interested in sex until you cum. That's just how we're wired. Once you've fulfilled that natural imperative of transferring your seed, why would you still want sex? But the initial shame and guilt that accompanied it when I was younger and still coming to grips with my sexuality is...thankfully.. a thing of the past.

[Intoone]

Yes, when I was first starting to play, as soon as I would cum I would loose all desire for gay sex, but as I got more in touch with my own feelings that went away. Whenever I play with someone that's just starting out or is bi-curious I like to get them turned on but don't let them cum until after I do because as soon as they cum they cant get their clothes on and out of there fast enough. I look back and think what was the big deal about but sometimes learning the truth about yourself can be scary. You'll see this as you go down your own path. Just don't let fear or guilt rob you of some fun times

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[harmless]

When you are done cumming your brain shuts off the urge for sex so you can RELOAD. That's where the guilty feeling comes from. Once I discovered this I was able to shut off the guilty feeling and continue having fun.

[cbxer66]

It was back in February or March, guy came over to my place, we met on A4A. Anyhow, I sucked him first and he came. Quite surprisingly, he got down on his knees and took care of me. So I guess he has this "refractory period" quite under control.

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[Mmpmm]

Thank you for this thread! I thought I was the only one who suffered from cummers remorse. I have always expected and secretly hoped that the other guy would not accept my excuse and make me stay to finish him off. I guess I have just picked nice guys who let me off the hook.

[Tonycurinmass00]

While I haven't had my first experience with a man yet. I do get this 'what the hell did I just do' feeling sometimes after I cum. It's usually after I've been doing some really 'gay' activities, like being nude and sucking a dildo while rubbing another between my ass cheeks. Things along that idea. My concern is will I feel this way after cumming during sex with a real man?!

[SilkyHoseLover]

W My concern is will I feel this way after cumming during sex with a real man?!

Good chance the same thing will happen, but you won't know until you try.

Here is something to keep in mind: sucking a cock, or taking one in your ass doesn't change you. If you are a decent, respectable person before welcoming another penis into your body, you'll still be a decent, respectable person afterwards. Don't let religion or the narrow-minded opinions of other people influence the way you feel about yourself.

I was -- as far as I knew -- straight for my entire life until I sucked cock for the first time. My actual, stated-out-loud reflection on the experience was: 'I don't see why anyone would NOT enjoy this!'

You may find that you like it, or you may find that you don't. But you're still you. Be confident!

[Warren63]

Occasionally I feel odd after orgasm, but the feeling goes away. Can't wait till I get a guy to cum down my throat , then if I get to fuck him and after I orgasm who cares ,the feeling will go away and then hopefully he'll fuck me. And when my wife finally gets in the mood I will work her over good while remembering!

[Christopher South]

QuestionEveryone
Has this ever happened to anyone

I had been bicurious for a long time, had always masturbated to gay fantasies and felt guilty and shameful afterwards. When I finally decided to have sex with a guy I figured I would feel the same way. Add to that I had never been naked in front of anyone other than my wife and had only had sex with my wife so the whole experience was going to be nerve-wracking. Met a guy, got naked and exchanged oral with him and when we were done there was no shame or guilt and I wondered why I didn't do this long before.