Shy bi-guy

[Long Duck Dong]

welcome to everybody from SBG...... and yes we do know that bisexual.com is a shadow of what it once was, there are many reasons, 1) loss of the site owner 2) lack of poster interest in anything outside of pics of naked people 3) member conflict over what was allowed to be posted and shared, even down to who was welcome here.... and the only way to fix that, is ourselves, and what we post and share, ourselves..... but if we are only going to see bisexuality as sucking cocks and posting nude pics, thats all this site will be......

[playful808]

SBG was designed as a support site. Hookups + porn were discouraged.
It attracted newbies who felt safe enough to really spill their guts, sometimes painfully.
Many being honest for the first time in their lives. Some freaking out.
Even guys from muslim nations where homosexuality is a capital offense.
Seeking support, and often finding it.

I am genuinely grateful that we found this place.
It is not a support site, but it has its own unique charms.

[Long Duck Dong]

There was attempts by some to turn this site into a almost mirror image of SBG, now SBG had its positives as a support site, but for a number of the members here, the attempts did not read as having more support here for people but an attempt to exclude people from the site and tell them they were not welcome because they were straight or trans etc and they should only be here to learn how to accept their bisexual partners and open up relationships and marriages.....You can imagine the shit storm that turned into because it went against the owners dream for this site as a welcoming place regardless of who people were.......

I am the type of person that perfers to talk with and learn from people of all walks of life, gay, straight, lesbian, bi, asexual, flexisexual, MsM, trans, cross dressers etc which is why I loved this site as to me, bisexuality is more than just sex, in the same way that bisexuals are more than just an attraction to two sexes and we span the world.....some of my own friends came to the site as I told them they needed to hear more perspectives than just mine, as I was openly jaded because of years of abuse by people in the LGBT community as well as the non LGBT communities, sadly most of them did not stay ... and my experiences were my own, I was sick of being told I was wrong or had no idea because other peoples experiences differed from my own.... but I would really love to see bisexual.com include the support and help of SBG as well as the open and welcoming aspects of bisexual.com with its multiple personalities and different walks of life.....

[zbi73]

I was a only a lurker on Shy Bi Guys, wasn't ready to talk but was keen to read and learn. Once Shy Bi Guys went Bi-Bi (pun intended :P) I looked for another resource, I found very little in the way of support or resources for bisexual people, in particular, men.

Some went to justusboys but looking at that site, it wasn't for me and I never created an account. It seemed to offer very little in the way of support so I settled here. The one criticism I have here is it's not particularly active and we only ever seem to get the same few offering opinions and support. I understand that it's now a shadow of it's formal self, bit of a shame. Any plan or ideas on how to get it back on track?

[Long Duck Dong]

yes, post what you want to talk about and discuss, there are many that lurk in the site but do not post in the forums that would love to see a good intellectual sharing of minds and ideas..... I used to post a lot but it got more difficult to post anything that a certain member did not want in bisexual.com cos he would go out of his way to disrupt the thread and indulge in personal attacks, it was the same person that did not want any hetero females posting or having an opinion here and would openly tell them that this was not the site for them.... and he was also a member of SBG


I enjoyed things like what is easier, being discreet or out, how much sexuality awareness and interaction has changed over the last few decades, being LGBT and in the military, dealing with people that are not understanding or accepting, being mentally ill and coping with bisexuality.... I just tend to get annoyed with the constant labeling of people as biphobic or people being told they have internalized biphobic cos they are not out, by a person that is closeted themselves... but cos I live in NZ, my experiences differ to the US as we have a different mentality and laws so its nice to learn about things for people in other countries and learn to understand their world through their eyes.....

I am involved in NZ LGBT businesses, I deal with a depressive disorder that I have had all my life, I struggled with my sexuality and the rule book that I was supposed to follow but threw in the virtual fire, I have been a barman / doorman for a LGBT, had at times to decide if I support or go against parts of the LGBT community because of their need to start conflict with LGBT parades ..as well as living part of my life as an asexual / pansexual / bisexual that is now in a companionship / relationship with a male and 2 females...... so a few decades of understanding and experience, just no threads to share, assist and help others, lol.....so yeah post away, I may even be inspired to start a few threads myself lol... and yes there are other members lurking that will come out of the wood work over time if they see intelligent threads and discussions

[DD788Snipe]

Hi all. I know I've been absent for a while but I found a much better site that has a section for us Bi guys and it's a lot closer to what we had on SBG. I've made more friends and had tons of conversations. It takes some time to figure out how to navigate the site because it has so many different topics but its well worth the effort of checking out and my screen name is the same. Hope to see you there.
Here's the links:
https://www.hipforums.com/forum/
https://www.hipforums.com/forum/forum/413-bisexual/

[Engman69]

I have been having the very same thoughts. It does not appear that the aspects I found most appealing about SBG are repeated here. One look at the home page was enough to give me the impression that SBG was unique. Though most won't remember, I was once very active on SBG. Then it, (or possibly I) changed, and it seemed less about support and sharing and... well I won't judge. Suffice to say I miss the site, the conversations and the many friends I made there.

Here I see many familiar names but the tone is not the same. So I'll quietly sit back and limit my interactions to those threads I feel I have something positive to contribute to.

[DD788Snipe]

I know. kdaddy seems to have found a home here and I have tons of respect for him and enjoy reading his blogs but I spend most of my time on hipforums. It has a bit of everyting and is more of a support site for guys like us. That's the reason I posted the links on here. I felt compelled to share it for those of you that still feel lost since the demise of SBG. See you there.

[Grant_Norman]

Hi all. I know I've been absent for a while but I found a much better site that has a section for us Bi guys and it's a lot closer to what we had on SBG. I've made more friends and had tons of conversations. It takes some time to figure out how to navigate the site because it has so many different topics but its well worth the effort of checking out and my screen name is the same. Hope to see you there.
Here's the links:
https://www.hipforums.com/forum/
https://www.hipforums.com/forum/forum/413-bisexual/

Thanks for forum link...will check out

[Arsamatoria]

Hi all. I know I've been absent for a while but I found a much better site that has a section for us Bi guys and it's a lot closer to what we had on SBG. I've made more friends and had tons of conversations. It takes some time to figure out how to navigate the site because it has so many different topics but its well worth the effort of checking out and my screen name is the same. Hope to see you there.
Here's the links:
https://www.hipforums.com/forum/
https://www.hipforums.com/forum/forum/413-bisexual/

Snipe, thanks for the suggestion. BTW: Has anyone heard from Papa Smurf? He has not posted in a very long time. I hope he is alright.

[Mmpmm]

I checked out that site too. Looks like a good one. I haven't joined but I might.

[willj]

Yes I talk to Papa on occasion. He is well.

[DD788Snipe]

Yes I talk to Papa on occasion. He is well.

I've been meaning to email him. Just get busy and forget.

[JJPHoser]

Perhaps this has already been mentioned, but a fairly good site for older gay and bi men is https://oldergay.men.
"... a site for older gay men and their admirers. Since 1996, we've provided a home for older men and the men who love them, …)

It does have its share of adult content, including nude and cock pics, some involving sexual activity. But it also has some interesting discussions at https://talk.oldergay.men/.

[dicktrobing]

I used to be a moderator on Shi bi-guys, it was a great forum, I do miss it

[DD788Snipe]

I used to be a moderator on Shi bi-guys, it was a great forum, I do miss it

Come to hipforums