Yeah can you really say it was molestation when you were an instigator or willing participant? I had sex with older males frequently but none of it wasn't consensual.Originally Posted by cslutt
Yeah can you really say it was molestation when you were an instigator or willing participant? I had sex with older males frequently but none of it wasn't consensual.
I was not. As I look through some of the stories (that may be fiction, may not be fiction) I wonder what would would I done had those things happened to me. Later, after I had been fucking a neighbor girl and had fucked a 40-year old woman I had no interest in men or boys at all. I expect, had I not had heterosexual experience at age 12 and 13 (the 13 age was when I fucked the 40-year old!) I might have found an interest in boys and their cocks. I did not learn about having my ass fucked and sucking and swallowing cum until I was 59 years old! I've loved it ever since.
What made you decide to take the plunge?
Growing up I was exposed to being taught that any sex was good sex. My buddies and I circle jerked, my older brothers showed me how to jack off and the pleasures of cumming. When I went to collage I kept my open mind and participated in both male and female sex. Loved it all, except something deep inside me always loved getting a man off. Now in the present my wife and I share our bed with some friends of mine and I must say that licking their dicks after they have fucked my wife is the highlight of my day.
My wife is in awe as she thinks it’s hot that we can share our bed and have as much fun as we have even after 30 plus years of marriage. Growing up I tasted my 1st load at the tender age of 15, since then I have swallowed many men and absolutely no regrets.
very good point about someone choosing to repeat a traumatic experiance in order to convince themselves they "own" that experiance. i wanna point out, another thing people do is to blame...the victim! these people on the outside can't see something could be so traumatic because they have convinced themselves the victim wanted it all along & so they disrespect the victim because how dare they object to what happened if that's what they really wanted? granted this applies more to women who are victims of sexual violence not children but still.
I've never been molested or had anything bad happen to me. I just realized one day as a young masturbating teen that I literally LOVED my dick and what it did, how it came, that I wanted to be outside of myself and suck it, swallow it, have sex with a male body as well. As soon as I wished that I could step outside myself and have sex with me I knew I had a degree of homosexual tendencies about myself. It wasn't always easy but I SOLIDLY embrace it now. I love my sexuality. I feel that it's better that many other's. Don't EVER feel ashamed of this!
No I was not. I did lust after both genders when I started my teenage years. So I think I was born this way.
Dad would come on to me when he was drunk...about 16. Only lasted for a bit till he and mom split up. Just kissing and stroking but I think it made me who and what I am.
No I wasn't
This is a good point, isn't it? An older guy introduced me to dick when I was nine and I participated willingly... and it was one of the greatest experiences of my life. Now, did he molest me? Technically, yes, although I learned later on that at the time, the legal age of consent where I lived was 10 years old (and it's been upgraded to 18 since then); did he force me to have sex with him? No, he didn't. So while one can talk about the legalities of such a thing, it still begs the question that if you don't have a reason to believe that you were molested - you did so willingly and at a time where most people would think that you didn't know what you were doing (and they're wrong about that) or you even instigated it - were you really molested?
I'm not saying it's right - I just question whether or not being a willing participant or instigator really constitutes being molested, which we generally accept as being made to have sex against one's will or engaging in sex with someone who isn't legally able to consent to sex. The law says that until you're 18, you cannot legally consent to have sex; yet, a whole lot of us started having sex way before being legally able to do so and, again, it's always been assumed that someone who is, say, 10 or 11, doesn't know shit about having sex... and that's not the truth of things.
I've had people tell me that I was molested and I should just admit to it... and that's based on the way things are now and not how they were for me back in 1964. What those folks don't know is why I said yes to him to begin with - and that's because as a present for my 8th birthday, a girl taught me some shit about pussy and I loved it and wanted to know more about this sex thing everyone was saying was good and bad and all the other stuff adults said about it so when he asked, I was more than eager to say yes.
And it was good... but was I molested? Some say yes, and I've never felt that way. The thing is that I'm not ashamed that I got introduced the way I did and I'd never lie and say that I didn't enjoy any of it... because I did. It's just a thing that, sometimes, the very bad and immoral thing we think happened didn't really happen; we think that youngsters are totally clueless about sex and are incapable of doing something like instigating sex with someone much older than they are... and that, too, isn't the real truth - it's just a truth society cannot accept and always seeks to rage against. And, finally - and I know this is long - I point to a case that happened here where a guy got four life sentences for "molesting" a girl not legally able to consent to sex.
She admitted, in court and under oath, that she instigated the whole thing and that she knew exactly what she was doing and why she seduced and fucked the guy - and it was because she was in love with him - and the court/jury pretty much disregarded her sworn and documented testimony and that guy is gonna die in prison (if someone hasn't killed him already). They said that there's no way she was capable of such a thing and that he was at fault and instigated her molestation; they were looking for the truth, heard it, and ignored it in favor of what they thought and, again, the law saying that one cannot consent to sex until they were, at the time, 16; it was the case that got the age limit changed to 18.
Was she molested... or was she "guilty" of molesting him? You decide. I'm just saying truthfully that what one might think as molestation may not be the case every single time. Now, flame away if you want to.
I was never molested by an older man. If it was not for the fear of extreme punishment if caught, I would have been an instigator and willing participant in sex with an older man from age 5 to 15. After that I developed a desire for female companionship which suppressed (not eliminated) my desires for sex with men.
JEM
Yes my next door neighbor set me up by having his wife lie around the backyard in a bikini. She had a great figure and I loved looking at her. One day in their pool I was looking at her and was hot and horny. He "accidentally" brushed his hand on my cock. I did nothing except look at her. Soon we were in an upstairs bedroom overlooking the pool area. She took her top off when we went up stairs. That was too much for me. I was all of 13 and they were in their mid 20's. Soon I became aware of his hand on my cock and I loved it. Soon it was in his mouth and I loved it. Eventually she joined us and that was delightful. In time she confided in me that she loved girls. She'd take me to the mall on a Saturday afternoon so she could look at girls in tight sweaters!! Once she was hot shed blow me and made me play with her tits. I did as I was told!
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Molested? Not sure how to answer that; I would say more of a willing accidental participant perhaps? Nextdoor neighbors nephew was visiting for a week during the summer. There wern't any other kids so we started palling around. I was 13ish and he was 15. We decided to have a sleepover and camped out in the RV in our backyard. We were doing the stay up late thing with flashlights, goofing off and running around in our boxers. Snooping around we found the golden egg: a few hustler and playboy mags stashed in the cabinet. As we flipped through the pages talking bout women, sex, (I was ignorant of it all) he wipped it out and started stroking. I was suprised, didnt know what he was doing. He said come'on you do it too! I didnt know what to do, so he suddenly reached over into my shorts, grabbed my dick and started slowly stroking me. I was caught off guard and a bit in shock but it felt so good his hand on my dick. I was lying there on my side facing him with the playboy mag between us, and him reaching over with his hand on my cock. I was wide eyed and flabbergasted but at the same time in ecstasy. A few seconds later I shuttered and convulsed to an orgasm.....something Id never felt before. Long story short we wound up doing a few more sleepovers and he showed me more cock play. Finally at one point he wanted to suck me off but I was uneasy bout that. I knew Id get talked into sucking him off in return and I wasnt ready for it. Few days later he went back home to his parents and I never heard from him again.
I fantasized about those nights off and on but not much. I was more straight than not and went on to chase girls and eventually got married/kids. However sometime in my late 30s the idea of sucking cock came on like a whirlwind and I started watching BJ (both gay and straight) porn a LOT. there was nothing made my dick harder than fantasizing bout getting naked with a guy amd swapping blowjobs, licking each others balls and letting him blow a load in my mouth. Problem is Ive never been able to find another married trustworthy guy to explore with. The ones who are cant meet regulary due to logistics (something all married guys suffer from).
Im starting to let go of the fantasy and just let the whole thing go. It'll prolly never happen and Im beginning to be OK with it.
To answer OPs question though, yes I think had that never happened in my early childhood Id never of considered m2m play an option.
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Yes i was basically a country club latch key kid when a teacher in 6th grade, age 12, waited until the School year was almost over then started by feeling me up when i was "allowed" to run the projector giving me my first hard-on.
When i asked my parents what was going on, and what liquid came from my penis that was not pee. Then there was a big confrontation with the principal, vice principal, someone else i don't remember, and my parents and me. i had no idea what was going on except i thought i was in trouble and got switched to a more advanced class for the last month where i felt lost in the class work and confused by questions from my classmates as to why i was moved. What i learned from that was to keep my mouth shut as i was really traumatized by the entire reaction and consequences of asking what i thought was a simple question and that was the start of my need for humiliation that culminated with a paddeling and rape by a science teacher / gym coach the next year who was also the first person to make me ejaculate and to piss on me.
But before then, that summer we had a new swim coach for our Country Club swim team and i learned to give blow jobs and quickly found out the rest of the "liquid" story and began 4 years, all through Jr. High and the first year of High School, having sex with a series of teacher and 2 coaches that were part of what now would be called a pedofilia ring. When my parents finally found out the shipped me out to a co-ed boarding school.
Yes and no. I had just turned 16 and was driving that summer. Last day of work and the guy I worked for said my check was left at the bank. He would go get it and meet me back at the office later. Business was closed and everyone was gone. He let me in and I followed him to the office. He had some porn mags laid out on his desk, it was early 70’s. He asked if I’d join him in a drink as he thanked me for being a good worker. I accepted and we sat and he started pointing out pictures in the magazines. He was married and had a daughter, good looking not much younger than me. Never suspected a thing till he pointed out a guy that was getting sucked off. He told he thought I looked like him and asked if my dick was like his. I just laughed a bit until he said “let me see it.”
i stood up and said I should probably get going and he followed me to the door saying “please let me just see it.” Then he began telling me about his college days. He was maybe 40 or so. He asked again and I hesitated as he pushed the door shut. I just said okay. He started on my Levi’s and had them down over my thighs as he took my soft little dick in his hand. I had been touched a lot by a guy my age, a friend so I wasn’t totally freaked.
I immediately began to stiffen and he was already on his knees so he began to suck me. I had been sucked by two girls I had fucked but not like this. The two girls didn’t intend for me to cum in their mouth so it was never close. In seconds I realized I was getting a fantastic blowjob and then he started sucking my balls. Oh my God, once he took me in his mouth again I could feel it coming and I pushed as deep as I could. I was shaking as I came and he continues to suck as I went soft. I must admit it was much better than the limited sex I had.
It it was all I could think about for days and it made me wonder about what it would be like to suck a dick. I always hoped my neighborhood friend would suck me but it was always a handjob.
So technically I was molested I guess but I wasn’t complaining. While driving home I kept wondering about his dick, I could see he was hard when he stood up and was sure it was much bigger than mine. Funny, he also told me he expected mine would be bigger when he finished. He was the first to say that but definitely not the last.
Yes I was. I was about 16 and hitchhiking when this guy stopped and picked me up. Ended up watching porn for the first time at his apt. and getting a fantastic bj almost to finish. Then he wanted me to poke him so I did cuz it was hard. Shot my wad and haven't been the same since. After that I kept going back and made $20 a visit and got some jollies. But I still like women too. good ole bobbie.
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This is a very thought-provoking thread and it has me reminiscing my own history. There's some well-written and soul-stirring things written above! Thank you guys for sharing!
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I think I must have been sexual-flexible since birth. Like most kids, I began innocently to explore. I chose a male cousin, first, because girls had cooties and I certainly didn't want to get 'em, too! At about 4, I remember doing some "show me yours and I will show you mine" games. Nothing was very inspiring, though, and he wasn't as interested as I was.
At about 5, I discovered that girls really didn't have cooties! This was the time when I met twins. The twins (a boy and girl) were the children of a client of my mother's. They took it upon themselves to broaden my horizons, by showing me the difference between girls and boys.
They encouraged me to touch and fondle them, which was great fun. They would climb a grapefruit tree and stand on a limb above me, then entice me to reach up their shorts, or skirt, and feel away! It was a learning process and a revelation to me. Up to that time, I took it for granted that we all had the same plumbing! Our visits didn't last long; Mom got a different job and I don't remember seeing the twins again.
Later, that same year, I was at a birthday party for a boy, who was in my Sunday School class. A group of us were standing around in the back yard, listening to a boy and girl arguing about who was the best kisser ...a girl, or boy?
I decided to find the answer to that question, myself, so I took the initiative and began kissing first willing person...a boy!
The timing was terrible, because my mother just happened to look through the back door, to see me locking lips with a cute little blond boy!
Before I knew it, I was snatched off my feet and drug into the house, then spanked with some vigor. Mom was saying, "Girls are for kissing, NOT BOYS!" She threatened to tell Dad, too, but if she had, I would have surely known it!
What that spanking did for me was; it made me realize that I had an inclination for things my parents didn't think was appropriate and, if I was going to continue doing them, I had better learn to be more secretive! I never stopped being drawn to both genders, but I did quickly develop covert Modus Operandi! In the future, my covert abilities would save my ass, on more than one occasion!
At about 8, I began a 4-year journey of enlightenment, with a female cousin and her neighbor's boy. With absolutely no knowledge about sex, we began to explore oral gratification, which generated my first recollections of erections. I feel retarded to admit I did not have an orgasm, during that time, and I don't think my cousin's neighbor did, either.
However, my cousin developed some odd behavior, that included some moaning and hip thrusting, during some of our naked play. As I recently told one member, the other boy and I decided she must have had epilepsy! We felt sorry for her, but regardless, continued to hone our oral skills with her and each other!
OK, what part of the above has anything to do with being molested? I'm building a story, here...be patient!
The fact is, I was never molested, as far as I'm concerned, by an older person.
(During the Summer, previous to my first year in military school, I did have consensual sex with a much older man, but I was the aggressor and it took me almost a year, to talk him into taking my virginity. The old guy was absolutely the best person I could have chosen to lea me into that phase of my life! I kept that secret for many years.)
My roommate, thinking I was a virgin, was delighted to "teach me the ropes".
The only unpleasant thing I can reveal here is.......one time, my roommate in military school, talked me into sucking him. He'd taught me how to masturbate and sucked me off a couple of times, before, and he was thinking it was time for me to reciprocate.
At first, I was eager to do it, but didn't realize how much bigger he was, than my first playmate, years before! Almost immediately I discovered severe discomfort; his cock was poking hard against the back of my throat.....it really gagged me!
Instead of backing off and giving me time to catch my breath, he grabbed my head and furiously fucked my mouth. I really thought he would asphyxiate me and I was going to die! I finally was able to grab his balls and began to squeeze them, just as he began to cum! Part went down my throat and part sprayed all over the place, but he did let me go!
When I finally got loose, we had a hell of a fight and I got a broken tooth and a black eye. He had a bloody lip and bit his tongue so badly that his mouth was filled with blood!
From then-on, I never wanted to be with anyone with a large cock and I had to know them well and trust them, before I'd be intimate with them. That's been my policy ever since.
I think I haven't had any guilt, or remorse about being bisexual, because I haven't endured being forced, or coerced into doing anything, like those above have. You all seem very aware of the past, but if there's any lasting effects, you all appear to have overcome them. I hope so, anyway.
I hope this discussion continues, as it's good, sometimes, to reveal things that bug you!
My dad kinda molested me when I was 8-9. But I was already given that treatment from 'alpha' boys at school. I liked how it felt so i let them lol. I wasn't attracted to my dad that way tho and would definitely not let him pull my shorts down. My dad never pushed it though and I never resented him for it. But both the boys and my dad verified my role when I have sex with men and I really like being approached like I was when I was little.
I've always had fantasies of having like a bearish step-dad similar to the men I sleep with, and wonder if I would let him touch me deeper. I would have let an older guy who saved me at the beach molest me. he carried me on his arms and i instinctively gave him signals but he didn't. Bottoms who are more feminine almost always get some form of molestation from either other boys at school who 'notice' us, older men, or both. But I think the whole older man fetish will fade away soon. Unfortunately.
Thankfully that never happened to me.
Yes I was at a very young age, and enjoyed it as I recall. It was gentle etc and pleasurable but still, molesting a 4-5 year old sucks in the worst way. According to my therapist, the current thinking among those who study this issue is that this type of experience doesn't make you gay or bi; that's innate.
In the late 70’s an old dude on the train offered me fifty bucks to suck my dick. I was maybe 19 or 20. I kinda freaked out and passed on it. Fifty bucks was decent cash too back then... but he was literally a creepy old guy...yuck.
Never molested or molested anyone, but as early as 5 years-old I loved playing with my cock and I really don't think I would've minded someone playing with it or sucking....by 7 I was already actively sucking and being sucked by guys my age and active through teens
My very first sexual experience with a man’s cock, was with a much older widowed male, who had lived in my neighborhood. I was around the age of 12 or 13. I was unaware of the term of “Bisexuality”, until later in life. The old man had so expertly seduced me, into having sex with him. I did not know it at the time, but looking back, the reality was he had molested me. To be honest, I was also very curious about sex, and I had not yet had, any true sexual experiences so, with others so, I had let the old man introduce and by forced me to have male sex, but afterwards I did feel very guilty, for allow him to molested me. At that time I did not seem to enjoy my first male sexual experienced at all, it did terrify me a little. I had heard something about the people who did things like that, were called “Queer” and I knew that I did not want anyone know about what I had done.
I then started, to focusing on female gender, and I was fully into the female body and the female sex so that drove me, far into the closet so to speak, for several decades. I was married in my early twenties, and I was committed to a normal relationships with my wife. My wife was, able to satisfy, most all my sexual needs and I did enjoy, being happily married and having a family. I enjoyed being, who I was! That is, until her death from Cancer and I became, widowed and all alone!
I then found myself needing some, human personal contact. Often, I found myself reflecting, back on my first experiences as a young lad, the ones that shape us into who we truly are and now and maybe, I did enjoy sucking a cock much more, than I was willing to admit at that time. Now for me being a Bisexual, “Sex is Sex”, on my own terms, regardless of gender and I was desperately longing, to return to master male sexual experiences. So maybe that first early contact, may have causes me, to become and often active “Bisexual or maybe a true "Cocksucker"!
Understand, life is but a short Journey, people must try to experience and enjoy any, and all, of various sexual opportunities that they can, while they are able to! The lasting memories can be great!
I was never molested.
Nope.
I know this original post like most posts about sex is intended for guys. It is little wonder so few women post on site or are active members of it, however...
... most women have been molested by older men, younger men, men their own age and even boys of various ages. I don't mean necessarily rape or serious sexual molestation, but a grope in a crowd; an unwanted feel in a club or pub; a grab of the arse or even "just" a pat; being upskirted, now illegal here; a stolen peck on lips, neck or cheek, or worse a forced smacked on the lips; the pinging of a bra strap, or as happened to me only recently in my first return to a beach, having some shite run their tongue up the back of my thigh while sunbathing with my sister and daughter. These and other unwanted assaults on women are everyday hazards we all face.. and worse. Much worse.
I know that men and boys do get sexually molested and worse, especially and more traumatically, though not exclusively when young, and I do not intend to minimise their traumas. However, if as some men on site claim really want more women members of .com I suggest they give more consideration to us and remember we exist too.. We have our own issues of molestation, assault and rape. I hesitate to say worse than men, but I believe it to be the case very often and certainly more commonly.
I have never been raped, but have been "molested" frequently in my life, not exclusively by boys and men, but overwhelmingly by them.
Please don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound like some old harpy misandrist. Those of you who are old hands on site will know that I have been called those things and worse. I may not be sexually attracted to men, but in general like them and even love a goodly number I am privileged to call friend. So take this wee tome as an affectionate pat on the hand from one friend to another who is not perfect herself, but is asking that you give us the consideration I asked for, not by changing the written language in your posts as such, but perhaps by making it and them more inclusive, pertinent and welcoming to women, and if I may be so bold, transpeeps and intersex alike. Maybe then this site can then return to its former vibrancy, and gain more women and other members which can only enhance its relevance to bisexuals and anyone else who cares for them and has their best interests at heart.
Luv n kissies 2 all. B safe and stay safe.
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Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.
Yes when I was 13 he was 14 went to his apartment he took his huge cock out and asked me to suck it said no he got naked and came over to where I was siting and said come on suck it I said no he got up on me and started to rub his cock on my lips I got hard he reached around and felt my cock he said I know you want to you got a hard on when I said no he shoved his cock into my mouth and said now suck it shook my head no he started to fuck my my mouth I liked the way he cock felt in my mouth he fucked my mouth for about ten min he started to leak pre cum I liked the taste they he started to cum he filled my mouth with his first load had no choice but swallow it loved the taste he gave me to loads of cum when he finished I had swallowed all his cum I got up left went to my apartment jerked off and swallowed my cum next day was in the basement with another friend we sucked each other off and became suck buddies I kept going back to the first guy and we played the forced thing for months I latter measured his cock it was 11 inches one day I went their he was naked and was soft he just got out of the shower I dropped to my knees and sucked him off for the first time after that I was his cock sucker he never did me and yeas I did him for years
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