I occasionally read the threads on here and almost every single on about fucking ass or sucking cock as if that is what being bisexual is all about. If I want that I'll go to a gay website.
What about being bisexual?
We're all different and I've long known that I'm not like others in many ways. I don't attempt to categorize myself, or others; we are who we are. I can say that I've known I was bisexual, since long before I knew there was a word for it. My 1st and 2nd sexual experiences (non-orgasmic) were with both genders, at an very early age. I am presently in a relationship with a bisexual lady and a bisexual male. We are romantic, but not involved together...for now, anyway. I have had two LTR relationships with married couples. Most arrangements have been one-on-one, though.
What does it mean psychologically and spiritually to desire both men and women?
Since, I am only interested in being in relationships with those I care for and trust (before sex occurs) I really can't differentiate between the two genders. Opportunities have been more forthcoming with the ladies, but I've feel pretty much the same with both, spiritually. Psychologically?.....other than a brief period in my youth, I've felt OK with who I was/am, but always knew there will always be friends and family, who would be aghast if they'd known. So, My private life has remained closely guarded and private; other than my partners, why should anyone else need to know?
How is being sexually different than straight or gay effect your life, your mind, your relationships?
I can say, as a bisexual, it's afforded me a greater variety of experiences and each gender has had their attractive gender-specific aspects, for me. In one way, they have been similar, since I've never wanted a one night stand, sex with strangers, or any sort of contact with a person I don't know well, feel compatible with, or share mutual interests with. I've actually had more success with the male relationships, with only one failure. However, I have had 3 failed marriages, none of which were related to my bisexuality.
How is it being a man and yet wanting to be taken?
With me, it's about being versatile....to give as good as I get. I've never been a big fan of being on the receiving end of anal sex, but have enjoyed being the top with approximately half of my male lovers/partners. However, during LTRs with males I cared deeply about, or loved, I have bottomed for them. My goals have always been to please my partners, as well as possible. That may be one reason I have always preferred male partners with below-average endowments.
How does that affect your masculinity or for that matter, femininity, how you view yourself?
Since I've been bisexual as long as I can remember, I don't remember doubting my masculinity. I've never felt feminine, nor have I ever wanted to be. I have had a couple of male lovers, who had some feminine traits. I was OK with that.
There is so much more to being bisexual than liking pussy and cock. Do any of you ever address these issues in your own life?
I admit to having superficial attractions, that generate an interest to meet someone, but, for me their personality, character and compatibility, always determines if a relationship can be built. Looks, alone, have never sealed a deal for me. I've actually had relationships with persons I cared deeply about and, in a case, or two, the sex was lackluster, but their traits still made it worth while. I'd say that the sex was a secondary concern.
In many primitive cultures being bisexual, transgender, gay, epileptic were signs the "gods" had touched you. So many bisexuals became shaman or priests.
You're right! The ancient Romans, Greeks, and others, felt bisexuality was just as normal as breathing. There used to be a bisexual American Indian lady, who frequented this site, who said they always thought bisexual people in her tribe were considered special and often sought-out for their advice. She had long been a mentor of gay and bisexual, tribal members.
My avatar, was given me by a History scholar, who was a member here. He said it was a depiction of an ancient Egyptian god, so, liking hieroglyphics, I took it for my own.
How do you feel being bisexual has touched you and made you different?
I've long thought I was different from most I've known. As I said in the beginning, I've always known we're all different and that few of us have the same interests, motivations, or goals. But, it does not change how we function, did our jobs, lived our lives, or served our country.
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