Originally Posted by
KDaddy23
Yeah, I've heard the gay bar horror stories, too. I've been to some in my life and never seen any of the horror stories and, sometimes, I've sat in one for hours and not gotten anyone's attention other than saying hi to someone. Thing is you can't believe what other people say about it - you gotta find out for yourself. What would I do? I would go to a gay bar and sit, watch, have a drink or two, something to eat if they have it, and if someone wants to sit and talk, fine; if it leads to sex - and I've determined that I'm gonna be safe - fine. If not, that's fine, too. Sometimes, you gotta be seen and no one is ever gonna see you when you're sitting at home. I wouldn't expect anything to happen... but I would be prepared just in case something does happen. In this, it's always a judgement call. Regulars will instantly know that you're not a regular; maybe that will attract some interest, maybe it won't and maybe it won't unless/until you've been seen there on a more regular basis.
Only one way to find out for yourself and, honestly, if the thought of going to a gay bar scares the shit out of you, you have some serious thinking to do about not being so paranoid. There are "weirdos" everywhere; you could be living next door to one and not even know it. You just gotta be unafraid and learn to trust your gut; if a guy doesn't feel right to you, don't do anything - and with the understand that your guy ain't always gonna get it right every single time. Just a question of how... adventurous you are. Many will tell you that this is highly and "dangerously" risky and you should only keep searching for a safer FWB and if you believe that this sentiment is always true, well, I hate to be the one to tell you but it's not always true and more so when you take a high and dangerous risk just getting in your car and going anywhere. Finally, if it's something you really want and need to do, you will find a way to do it. I just can't tell you how; I just know what I'd do.
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