i dont agree with ur assertion that most straight people think that bisexuality is basically homosexuality.
i think some straight people are so homophobic that they cant see the wood for the trees and foreground whats 'wrong' with you instead of whats 'right'. i understand why those guys think like that. i dont condone them making it an issue for others though.
i think some gay people are so damaged by internalised homophobia that they feel it important for people to either be with them or against them, and since there are so many men who diss gays and yet still suck them off they are naturally suspicious and afraid of being taken for fools. also they may resent closeted gays who say they are bi, who reap the benefits of gay desire with none of the social sacrifice. i understand why those guys think like that. I dont condone them making it an issue for others either.
i dont think its the majority, in any way. and if it is in ur life, u could stop hanging out with those people, and speaking online to those types of people. there are wankers in all parts of life..whatever sexuality. suss out the wankers and engage (with low expectations) or avoid completely.
i read ur post basically as about why u didnt like to be assumed to be gay. (i guess ur telling me that u dont mind this now.. cool. ) i was just interested in why ur frustrations with being assumed to be straight didnt appear as angry against straights as it did against gays. thought there was something interesting in that..., thought it could add to a better answer and food for thoug.
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yeah i know labels labels, but discussing labels is essential to respond to the OP's post. if there werent labels I cant see there'd be a problem.
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