Bisexual.com and Facebook?

[Brian]

Looking for feedback...

The latest version of the framework software we use to run bisexual.com has a bunch of features to link with Facebook (example: When you start a thread here, the title and a link to it appears on your Facebook page). We have them disabled, because I think I know most of our members, and Facebook seems to me to be a privacy monster, so I assumed people would be concerned about revealing too much.

I think they try to make it clear when you link the two so you know beyond any doubt that your accounts are publicly linked, but wow what a disaster it could be if you are in the closet and link them in error.

Did I assume right? Would people be concerned at the thought of linking their Facebook lives with their Bisexual.com lives (particularly doing it accidentally)? And therefore that suite of features should not be activated?

- Drew

[**Peg**]

for my two cents, you assumed correctly. Facebook "privacy" is a misnomer (to put it charitably), and Timeline isn't even fully instituted yet...the worst is yet to come IMO.

[Long Duck Dong]

is there a way to make it optional for the people that want to have their lives revealed on facebook ? its a compromise for those that do and those that don't......

personally, I am one of those that think that facebook would tell the world when you go to the toliet if it was possible...and many of the people I fix computers for, are often asking how to disable a lot of the facebook *nosy neighbor * settings.... and based around insider info from facebook staff.... there are serious concerns being raised about how invasive facebook is, on legal levels

[void()]

Negative on Facebook connection here. If others desire using a connection, their business. No thank you from me.

[Herculoid Poirot]

Bisexual.com is a great way for me to voice my innermost thoughts, worries, fantasies, etc.

Facebook is a great way for me to talk about what I had for lunch.

[Herculoid Poirot]

Plus my octogenarian in-laws don't know I'm out and they're on FB!

[DuckiesDarling]

I'd hate to accidentally share something here on Facebook, as many have posted, it's not just nosy family that might now know you or out or are involved with an LGBT person, but there are many many ways of having your facebook posts seen by people you haven't blocked per se, it is annoying to the extreme.

[Brian]

is there a way to make it optional for the people that want to have their lives revealed on facebook ?

It would definitely be 100% optional. You would have to enter your facebook account info into your account here on bisexual.com as some do with their Yahoo messenger info and Skype info - it is just a question of people doing it accidentally, or not thinking about the consequences, or changing their mind ("OMG what have I done!").

It looks like the prevailing wind, so far, is toward caution which is what I originally thought too.

- Drew

[bityme]

Thank you for disabling the Facebook links. Not interested in all of my information being totally public.

Pappy

[Doggie_Wood]

Negative on Facebook connection here. If others desire using a connection, their business. No thank you from me.

Ditto that from this side of the garden.

[jimdawg]

If its optional, I'd put it there, but if someone checks on the box, I'd put up a warning or recommendation saying that you might want to be very cautious about selecting it if you are closeted. If non-closeted people want to link, go right ahead!

The main reason I don't want to link to facebook isn't that I'm closeted-half the people I know know despite being closeted-so much as I don't want facebook selling information to people that I'm bisexual.

[Hephaestion]

If its optional, I'd put it there, but if someone checks on the box, I'd put up a warning or recommendation saying that you might want to be very cautious about selecting it if you are closeted. If non-closeted people want to link, go right ahead!

The main reason I don't want to link to facebook isn't that I'm closeted-half the people I know know despite being closeted-so much as I don't want facebook selling information to people that I'm bisexual.

Jimdawg has my vote

[CurEUs_Male]

No. If I wanted to tell my mother, inlaws, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, coworkers, business associates, etc that I was looking for a same sex relationship to go along with my marriage, AND have it published on a site I could not retract, I'd have done it on facebook, not here....
Lets face it, facebook is to personal privacy as herpes is to sexual activity... ugly and not worth the risk!

[welickit]

We are both out but DO NOT use facebook, myspace, google etc. We could care less who knows we are bisexual. We care who stores and shares our information, that is why we monitor cookies that are allowed to be set and other sites where our information, pictures etc show up without our knowing. Most people never read the EULA and wonder about why their info is out there.

[elian]

Yeah Drew, you can enable facebook features if you want but I deleted my account a long time ago. I came home one day and their security software alerted me to a login from Britain with a browser that had Win 7 in the user agent string. I don't have any Win 7 machines here. Every third party app has to have access to ALL of your profile data so I figure somehow one of those figured a way to compromise my account.

I stripped everything down in the account, when I went back to the "Privacy" settings (which I know I went through before) I found out I was publishing my mobile number globally and some other data as well. They seem to bury the privacy settings in different places so they are hard to find. People are giving Google flack for their privacy policy but at least they are trying to make it easier for you to see what data is available.

Publishing all that stuff doesn't seem like a really big deal until you lose control over your account.

When I started to realize just how much time I spent on the site and how much it was feeding my ego I decided to give it up and try to meet people in the REAL world. At the urging of family and friends I once started to sign up again but I was amazed at just how much FB got to dictate just what I could use for a user name and how much I needed to share with others..I decided against joining up again and am working on my OWN site..where I can retain ownership and control over the info I publish.

FB really is neat, it's sort of like an interactive blog, it's a great soapbox and it also solves the problem of not writing your relatives as often as you should but the cost of being facebook's product is too high for me.

[FinkDoodle]

Facebook has no privacy whatsoever . . I definitely would not be interested in the links.

[Gearbox]

I can't for the life of me think what benefit it would have. Except for outing members and making thread-starting a dangerous sport here.
I'd die of embarrassment if my neighbours saw my 'Granny porn' thread. Fekinell!!!

[bluesky55]

There is nothing redeeming in the entire facebook bs. I met a private investigator doing background checks for employers and he says the first place he goes is facebook. I see facebook listed, I leave. If an option even pops up it says to me that there is a possibility of things being compromised. I'd leave here the same as I would any other place.

[Brian]

Okay, Facebook is out. Just too scary I think. Thx for the feedback everyone.

- Drew

[Bicuriousity]

I agree, d be very concerned if my innermost thoughts made it to a facebook page. I am pretty convinced i may delete my facebook account soon. Never been a fan of the guy who created it.

[darkeyes]

I agree, d be very concerned if my innermost thoughts made it to a facebook page. I am pretty convinced I may delete my facebook account soon. Never been a fan of the guy who created it.

Facebook is a very dangerous thing for people to expose their innermost thoughts and feelings to.. as they do... companies keep tabs on the thoughts of employees through Facebook and people have and will lose their jobs for expressing those thoughts or have had careers harmed because of what they have said or is contained in profiles... this site is best staying well away and my advice to members is for them to do so also...

[*pan*]

facebook used to be cool, but have went the way of the facist government.
personaly i done away with facebook. had over 300 friends on there. but privacy issues yea, they want to know anything and everything you do on there. everyone monitors it including the government. don't believe me just read the articles where someone posts something on there and the next day their in jail. every time i tried to log on in a different location or with a different computer they wanted me to verify it was me so they can associate that ip address with your name. they want your phone number emails and anything else they can get just to track you. i called them a facist web site. if it's an option fine one dosent have to use it, but i personaly will not have anything to do with a site that is anything evenly remotely like facebook. people worry about their personal information and who's watching them, then they sign up for facebook , dosent make any sense to me lol.

[67torinouy]

I'd have to vote a big flat no! not interested in seeing a connection between this site and facebook at all!

[**Peg**]

Okay, Facebook is out. Just too scary I think. Thx for the feedback everyone.

- Drew

correct decision IMO - watch this : http://tinyurl.com/7q24939

[welickit]

This is a wonderful thumbs up for Drew. It shows that people trust this site where they doubt other sites. Mega sites don't begin to compete with a family type site.