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Mwm here. Been married a long time. I wish I would have found a woman that was okay with my bi-curiosity. Are there women. On this site that are okay with there man liking men as well. If so where would I find them. I love women first but every once in a while a man would be fun as well. Hope I get some good answers
Anyone? Lol
My wife knows, and accepts, the fact I am bisexual. When I see a really nice looking guy and comment on him or get caught looking at a naked guy on line, usually she asks if I would do him and I say yes, she will say if you do, let me have shot at him too.
Wow you are lucky. Thanks for responding
I have been in the "lifestyle" since I was 16yo so being exposed to bisexuality , lesbians , homosexuals and transgender , crossdressers has always been the normal to me I do understand that in society lots frown and do not accept it at least publicly , so many couples do enjoy engaging in bisexuality when attending our gatherings , we have large annual get togethers and many of our members meet for more private get togethers (smaller gatherings) you may want to seek out a well established group ........ This is probably why I have never married I got involved with my group at such a young age sharing in singles , couples , groups it has been so fun and satisfying
i have had bisexual 3 somes a lot but here we keepit on the downlow
dont think its about choosing wrong, i dont imagine to many of us knew going in that the gf, or new wife would be ok with it , u have to get them thinking in that direction , watch bi porn my first wife was not into it at all but the second wife introduced her to bi fun slowly let it sink in how hot it made u to see or talk about it , took me a good 3 years of slowly working her towards it, she liked it enough right off just talking about dureing sex , and usueng a toy betwen us sucking and licking it ,id pull it out of her pussy and suck it off she loved to se how hot it mde me , once we got a puter was easy to get first guy over and never looked back almost 30 years of swinging and bi fun,she got into trying pussy to loved it been great fun all these years .so try it with her if she freaks out just say oh i got the wrong porn by mistake lol
My wife would drop me if she ever found out I was bi when we were first married i was using a vibrator on her i tried to get her to use it on me and she said are u gay you guys are so lucky
Cannot agree more. I held off on telling my wife until after we were married that I'd played with men, women and couples. She wasn't thrilled about it, especially coming from an Italian-Catholic uptight background. I had an affair with an ex gf who knew I was bi when we dated....she told me "if we were together, I would be fine with you having fun with guys because it's something I cannot give you"...and "maybe I'd want to watch or join"...talk about buyers remorse !! lol. She was bat shit crazy and had her own issues, but she was great in bed and that conversation really flipped my head around for sure...I love my wife, our two kids, a business together, and it's all good...but boy, sometimes you wonder !! The ex is unhappily married in the same state as me, but we realized our meeting for dinner and sex was more torture than pleasure emotionally, so we broke it off... I feel your pain brother.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yohimbejoe69
FWIW: The wife has become somewhat more accepting and we actually use toys during sex. I suck a fake cock toy with her and she sometimes will even stick it in my butt or use a strap-on. She thinks "I'll do what I have-to, so you don't have to find it elsewhere"...okay...that works (usually)...
i guess u can't fault ur wife for feeling the way she does. it's just how she feels honesty. but it's very good she's willing to keep an openmind & endulge ur sexual appetites. could be viewed as a sign of love.Quote:
Originally Posted by NjbiGuy01
My wife would walk out the door faster than you could say cock!! She is very straight laced!! She had an encounter with a very good friend of hers' one night while I was out on a hunting trip!! She got kissed on the lips by her friend and her tits played with! She wouldn't go the rest of the way with her!! She burst into tears when her friend tried to lay her down on our sofa!! She would absolutely come unglued if she knew I was bisexual!!!
My situation is similar to @ghw132. Wife knows and even kids me about it. She doesn't feel threatened and we've even shared more than a few as I love seeing her fucked as well as she likes seeing me sucking a cock. They (understanding wives) are out there and maybe yours will be some day. Many women like the idea.
@ChiefH, that's a shame that she's so repressed sexually. Share some porn with her and see if it opens her up. Try lesbian porn since that's her latest encounter. Good luck.
my wife is like yours except that it wouldn’t have even gotten to the kiss part before she’d of freaked out (best friend or not)Quote:
Originally Posted by ChiefH
I consider myself blessed that I am in a small group that share the same thinking, they enjoy their sexual freedom but do not expect others to be there for their sexual pleasure.
For me, I have always had a struggle in myself over my sexual interests and desires verses the rights of other people.... it has more to do with my upbringing and the fact that my mother was not able to have sex for medical reasons and my step father having a couple of affairs....so it created a conflict in me after seeing first hand, the impact on the family and how it tore the family apart....
in a lot of different sites, there is constantly the theme of if a guy is not getting sex, its the womans fault so leave her....and I can not help but think how many guys would have a fit if if their partner left them for the same reason....
the other side of the issues was that it was very hard to find anybody that was interested in more than quickies.... as I was interested in more FwBs but that has to do with the fact that I value people and do not see them as just a sex object or pussy and cock, cos its the same way I want to be seen myself....
AS a footnote, my stepfather ended up on counselling after one of his affairs ended up in marriage and he very quickly found the grass was not greener on the other side of the fence, the female has manipulated him with sex and then married him to get a walking wallet, the sex ended as soon as the ring went on... I was honoured, years later to stand as his best man when he remarried my mother and they stayed together in a sexless marriage until her death, 2 years ago
10 years ago my wife and I could talk about anything. Using fantasies with me and other men really got her off. If we had found someone I'm sure she would have enjoyed it. Post menopause she has no sexual desire ,really tough but I still love her. Hopefully I'm close to some fun with a guy, but I will not tell her.
I told my wife when we were dating. It was great being able to do that. It meant I could be totally open about my desires. She finds it a turn on and let’s me play as long as it does interfere with her time with me. She has no interest in participating but does want to hear me tell the stories or share a video.
I have had a few Gf's who knew I was BI, and they didn't care.
A major key is talking first, not dealing with hurt feelings and mistrust that come if you go down low and then she finds stuff out. I was always open, but tried to deal with things slowly so she was never overwhelmed.
Before we married I let my wife know about my love for lingerie. Always thought it would be better to not have to hide stuff. Shortly after we married we came home from visiting her family out of state and stopped in a city of known for outlet stores. We wandered around and my wife turned it into a lingerie hunt, and showed me her preferences and finding out what mine were. I dressed in lingerie almost every day of our marriage.
She also knew about some experiences I had in my teens with friends jacking each other off, and an experience in grad school. I was monogamous in our marriage, but a few years ago I told her I'd like a FWB to help deal with my bisexual yearnings. I showed her some sites on mixed orientation marriages.Talked about the difference between being bi and being gay. And the reason I wanted a FWB instead of just going to meet strangers. To my surprise she agreed with the idea; wasn't interested in participating, but said yes and wanted to meet the wife of an FWB if I found one. She really surprised me when I came home from work the next day and found some of her oral sex books on my pillow. I was so impressed with her attitude, that I didn't even carry it out, she was ready to sacrifice for my needs. There are women like that out there.
But a caveat. One of her best friends found out some details and really gave her some grief, which started some things to the point that it all became a big part of the end of a marriage. Be aware it may not be the woman herself per se, or so much her feelings or attitude that you have to deal with. But peer pressure from friends and neighbors can be intense, so be ready when/if outsiders start expressing their (biased) input.