Have tried giving up cock but I miss it too much - am I the only one who tried?

I'm in my late 50's and was completely straight (or so I thought) until about five years ago. Went for my first nude gay massage and he blew me and rimmed me. I was hooked. Went back to him for a few years and loved getting a great massage from a hot naked guy. Went from him blowing me to me blowing him to topping and bottoming.

After he he moved away I found a gut that I'd hook up with on a regular basis even though I had a committed girlfriend who never knew about my bisexual activities. When that bisexual relationship ended, I tried going straight but would still get an occasional nude gay massage which would satisfy some of my urges. I watch exclusively gay porn and jerk off at the thought of getting fucked in the ass again.

It's been almost a year with a new girlfriend and I've been faithful. Now I have the urges again and really want to be with guys (in addition to my girlfriend).

Anyone else try going straight? Does it work?

I love pussy but I miss cock too.

Presuming you had told the girlfriend of this prior to the relationship? If not, either cheat and lose her...or have a long talk, and explain this all took place long before she came into your life, and with her permission would like to continue it on the side, if she has no objections or is not offended....being open and honest will serve you best....really should have done it before you got involved with her...very unfair to her....just sayin'

I feel your pain. I've been married for 25 years. It took me years to accept that I am attracted to guys too. I told my wife about 6 years ago. She didn't believe me. I met a nice guy on Craigslist about 5 years ago and we met a few times. I broke it off out of guilt though. I really miss sucking cock. Long story short. Severa years later my wife discovered my activities when she stumbled onto a website I was using to express my desires and past activities. She confronted me and i told her everything. She was not happy and told me we were through if I ever did that again. Not only that but she would let our kids, family and co-workers know if she caught me again.
The desire for me is very strong but I love my wife and don't wish to hurt her again. It's hard but the way I see it is cheating is cheating. No matter how much I rationalize it. Yes I'm weak though. I have a personal add up on this site but I feel I have to talk to someone and express myself.

I've been married for a number of years (30+), and also caught the curiosity bug when i turned around 40 (am in my late 50's now). i finally scratched that itch, and because instantly hooked on swallowing cum and giving head. after awhile, the little white-robed angel that sits on your shoulder in the movies, started whispering in my ear, and i tried to refrain. i stopped going to websites, answering emails, looking at porn. basically everything and anything that fed that itch. unfortunately, the little red devil on the other shoulder (let's call him the 'Itch') was much louder in the other ear, and i went back to it.

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I've been married for a number of years (30+), and also caught the curiosity bug when i turned around 40 (am in my late 50's now). i finally scratched that itch, and because instantly hooked on swallowing cum and giving head. after awhile, the little white-robed angel that sits on your shoulder in the movies, started whispering in my ear, and i tried to refrain. i stopped going to websites, answering emails, looking at porn. basically everything and anything that fed that itch. unfortunately, the little red devil on the other shoulder (let's call him the 'Itch') was much louder in the other ear, and i went back to it.

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Thanks for sharing. I find myself in the same predicament.

I also have tried to give up sex with guys but I am weak after a month away from sucking guys I get weak and just have to go find a guy and suck him I so really enjoy how cocks feel in my mouth don't think i can ever stop.........l want to experience as many as possible I love dicks ...........

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I feel your pain. I've been married for 25 years. It took me years to accept that I am attracted to guys too. I told my wife about 6 years ago. She didn't believe me. I met a nice guy on Craigslist about 5 years ago and we met a few times. I broke it off out of guilt though. I really miss sucking cock. Long story short. Severa years later my wife discovered my activities when she stumbled onto a website I was using to express my desires and past activities. She confronted me and i told her everything. She was not happy and told me we were through if I ever did that again. Not only that but she would let our kids, family and co-workers know if she caught me again.
The desire for me is very strong but I love my wife and don't wish to hurt her again. It's hard but the way I see it is cheating is cheating. No matter how much I rationalize it. Yes I'm weak though. I have a personal add up on this site but I feel I have to talk to someone and express myself.

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not gonna judge u for what u did with guys but excuse me that sounds fucked up ur wife is holding this over u. i understand this hurt her & it would hurt her again if u did it again she's got every right to be angry. but why does she feel she needs to blackmail u? sounds like u got some trust issues it's not very healthy to hold something like this over someone.

u probably were completely str8 or very close to it before that day 5 years ago. or maybe u had the desire all along. that's not really important. the important thing is, u should know who u are right now. it all comes down to how commited u are to ur gf. maybe u feel she would be ok with u going off with a guy every once in awhile & u might risk asking her if it's allright. but what if she says no or worse, what if that makes u distant to her? u culd sneak behind ur back but then u wouldn't be honest with her u deserve honesty from each other. how commited are u to ur gf, how much ru willing to give up for her? when u begin thinking of the answer then u will have a better idea of what to do & how to deal with it. it's tough but is she worth it?

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Originally Posted by Peterevans1959

I'm in my late 50's and was completely straight (or so I thought) until about five years ago. Went for my first nude gay massage and he blew me and rimmed me. I was hooked. Went back to him for a few years and loved getting a great massage from a hot naked guy. Went from him blowing me to me blowing him to topping and bottoming.

After he he moved away I found a gut that I'd hook up with on a regular basis even though I had a committed girlfriend who never knew about my bisexual activities. When that bisexual relationship ended, I tried going straight but would still get an occasional nude gay massage which would satisfy some of my urges. I watch exclusively gay porn and jerk off at the thought of getting fucked in the ass again.

It's been almost a year with a new girlfriend and I've been faithful. Now I have the urges again and really want to be with guys (in addition to my girlfriend).

Anyone else try going straight? Does it work?

I love pussy but I miss cock too.

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I'm in my mid fifties, and have been good with my bisexuality since my early twenties. My GF of 8yrs knows I'm bi and is quite okay with it. She doesn't know about my recent, really strong desires lately though. I would love to find a guy friend for a long-term sexual relationship but a combination of guilt and the inability to find a guy that fits the bill is really frustrating. I really miss the sexual connection I get with men. And, of course, sucking cock. :-)

I think I'm coming to the conclusion that if sucking cock and getting fucked by guys makes me happy, I should continue to do it. I spent 30 years in a loveless marriage with no sex. When I got divorced I found women my age who loved sex. I also found the joys of my bisexuality. I'm not morally opposed to being with guys, although I have no interest in a long term relationship with one other than for sex. That's part of what I like about having sex with guys. You don't have to be romantic. You don't have to do what you don't want to. Everybody has a good time.

i do worry about disease although my doctor tells me that condoms for anal should provide a reasonable level of protection and blowjobs are not inherently dangerous. I don't sleep around. I had one guy I was with for almost a year and we both had girlfriends (who didn't know the two of us were fucking around on the side). He's available again and would like to meet. I really miss his cock. We used to play in the shower and I loved his wet soapy cock between my ass cheeks (something I can't get from my girlfriend).

Thanks for the responses - going back to playing for both teams.

It is something with cock---it seems that once you try it in any form and like it---you come to REALLY LIKE and CRAVE IT---then you are hooked on it pretty much forever. It seems to be much more "addicting" than is the female counterpart.

I was str8 & hetero until I was 32 at which time my swinging hotwife coaxed me to try mm oral sex in 4somes with a bi couple or 3somes with a bi man. I too was instantly enthralled and liberated from heterosexuality. I got to suck many cocks with my hot wife watching and almost cheering LOL. We ended up divorcing over non-sexual issues and I was then free to explore my fantasies about 1 on 1 mm oral sex and things other than sucking cock. I met many men before I married my 2nd wife 3 years later. I never did embrace anal sex with men, but I did find I love to kiss & make out with men and get into kink, like panties, piss play, Dom/sub games etc. I gave up men for her, but my secret mm desires remained with me during my 10 years of faithfulness. I missed sucking cock and getting sucked by men, but it was relatively easy to do without because she happened to be one of the rare wives who loves mutual oral sex much more than fucking. 2 to 3 times a week for 10 years, I'd eat her pussy to several orgasms then she'd return the favor by sucking me to completion, swallowing every drop, then rolling over to go to sleep. We fucked only once or twice a month. We eventually split up and I moved out and was sucking cocks and getting mine sucked by men again within 2 weeks.

Then, shortly after I turned 52, I made the decision to stop swallowing other men's cum for safety/health reasons. I adjusted to it quite well because the visual eroticism of having a man pull out and watch his throbbing cock spurt his cum on me was quite a turn on.

Just in the last few months I have given up sucking cocks. I began to get violently ill the day after sucking a cock. This happened to me 9 times in a row, both with men I've been with before as well as with new men. I've been getting nausea, diarrhea and headaches the day after sucking a cock. It feels the same as when I catch a stomach bug that's going around or when I eat tainted foods. The only thing I can figure is that my system has developed an allergy or hypersensitivity to common bacteria/viruses from cocks which never affected me before. But again, since I've always enjoyed getting bjs more than giving them, its been fairly easy to give up sucking cock to seek only men who love to suck cock and submissive men who worship cock. It's actually allowing me to explore my Dom desires with submissive men and use other ways to make them cum :)

You have to love a hot male massage therapist.

The first massage therapist I saw for about three years. First massage he took off his shirt and was barefoot. I was a bit taken aback when he put my cock in his mouth but I went for it. After he asked me to roll over and he stuck his tongue deep in my ass and went to town. I was in heaven. Next session he was naked and I sucked my first cock. I was surprised how much I liked it. Next session he got up on the table and rubbed his cock between my ass cheeks and I asked if he had a condom. Wow! I couldn't believe how great it felt to get fucked. He had the perfect cock. Over the course of the next few years we'd get together every other week and fuck and suck each other. I remember the first time his girlfriend walked in on us. She proceeded to get naked and masturbate. She never joined us although she loved to watch us fuck. Every once in a while when I'd fuck him she would blow him at the same time.

He moved away and I haven't found as good a massage therapist.

As they say once you suck you want it all the time.

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It is something with cock---it seems that once you try it in any form and like it---you come to REALLY LIKE and CRAVE IT---then you are hooked on it pretty much forever. It seems to be much more "addicting" than is the female counterpart.

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Men have been sucking each other off since the beginning, but our social stigmas toward cocksucking are so pervasive, it's amazing that anyone breaks through. It's a testament to the power of the urge that men have. For those of us who are submissive, the taboos, and urges, are that much stronger. So it's very understandable that, once the veil is lifted (or pants dropped) a huge wellspring of desire and lust is unleashed, and along with that there is the knowledge that yes, you CAN suck cock. Also, for some of us who are truly cocksuckers, the satisfaction and fulfillment can be enormous, and doesn't come any other way. So enjoy it.

My interest in guys is purely fulfilling a sexual drive. When my wife showed less interest in sex I started experimenting with guys. After a while, we went to marriage counseling (lack of sex wasn't our only problem) and things got better. At that point I did give up guys for years. But my wife has decided that sex is no longer important in our marriage and I've given up trying to persuade her differently so my interest in guys has returned.

I would never give up sucking cock I luv the reward I get for a job done right A mouth full of cum I've sucked some of my best friends and they never knew

You most likely won't find anyone here who has given up cock because they wouldn't be on here if they did.

This may not exactly answer the question, but I can’t stop thinking about the urges to do so. The images alone get me horny & weak. I feel like these thoughts won’t go away unless I give in & go through. Maybe I’ll be addicted maybe I won’t.

Yes after t4m was sabotaged and m4m became extinct. I couldn't give up cock entirely though and I still do gloryholes here and there. But I'm not as sexually active as I used to be

I suppressed my same sex desires and thoughts for many years but I wouldn't say I missed it as I was in complete denial.

> Anyone else try going straight? Does it work?

No, I have not tried being another orientation, or blood type.
It is not in my nature, and it would fail.
You are what you are, and truth will out.

Why would I even try?
To have better chances with a woman who wants a straight man?
This is a bad idea on so many levels.

I made the attempt a long time ago. My interest in cock has increased to a need and hetero sex has ebbed to a passing thought.

When my sex life is good with a women my need and thoughts go down. When I don’t have that my thought go way up but actually being with a guy is still very rare for me.. I don’t know I just get nervous or cold feet many times. I know if I was in a situation where I could just do it without planning and driving and thought I would.. so I have only played with 4-5 guys and sucked two cocks... still want to taste some cum from the tap