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I'm going mad with my bisexual desires and it's driving me crazy. I am a happily married 47 year old but I long for a gay experience. I can't seem to get this off of my mind and I'm going nuts.
Any advice?
I just want somebody to talk to about their experiences without being sent dick pics and offers of hooking up - I'm not there yet!
Is there an app that anybody can recommend that's more about social networking than hooking up please?
Don't know of app, but there are a lot of folks here. Bisexual feelings, in my experience, is something that comes and go....lots of time I can only think how much I want cock...I actively pursue it so it really becomes just a part of who I am. I'm deep in closet, my wife is completely non-sexual (for about 8 years now) so for last 5 I've been full on bisexual. I do love it and have a regular (and some occasionals) and really love the feel of cock in my mouth (or ass).
At first it may seem scary, but once you start, it is so very good. Swallowing cum is so very nice and having the cock in your mouth feels so good. If you really feel the urges strongly (and for a long time) you need to act on them and see if it is something you like. If you don't really get off on it fine...you can always just stop and chalk it up to experience. Hope you can find your way and have some good experiences.
I would be happy to answer any questions you have.
Finding a good app is tough, You will always have scumbags trying to lure you into their web im sorry to say.
I was in your shoes a long time ago. Happily married, Living the straight life. My wife had Bi curiosities and I thought that was great! But she always seemd to be so negetive about 2 guys so I always kept quiet about my desires.
Sometimes I would throw out hints but usually after we both had some drinks and figured it couldnt hurt. If she reacted negetive then I would simply say she misunderstood me because of the drinks.
Finally I figured I wasnt getting any younger and I really need to figure this out. We laid in bed talking and I got up the nerve to say something. Kinda beat around the bush at first to feel the waters so to speak and she wasnt objecting... Finally I let go of my fears and just said it... To my surprise, She was ok with it. We talked for a few hours about it. Then we had some of the best sex we ever had... Next thing I know, I downloaded a bi video and we watched it. She got even more turned on than before and we had even better sex!
Now we do have some rules but the main thing is we only find other BI cpls. We can play with the opposite sex but no intercourse with them. But the main thing is we are together doing this and I must say... Its made our relationship stronger.
Hope my experience helped
Good luck
If you what to talk, please PM me, and i'll get back to you as soon as I can.
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love to chat but I am a novice myself , but I can say desire does not go away for good.. peaks and valleys depending what life is like at the time ; having great sex with a women desire goes way down , dry spell desire for cock goes way up
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Originally Posted by Alpha_1973
I felt much the same before I accepted that I was Bi...and started sucking cock. I had sucked off my brother, when I was about 12, but no cocks for decades after. I finally realized that I was Bi...and truly wanted to suck some cock. It took a lot to get from that point to actually sucking a cock, but I am so glad I did. Since I started...I cannot stop. I suck as many as I can get. The pandemic has put a bit of a damper on things, but not too much. I manage to get several cocks every week. Couldn't live without them.
I'm just a bit ahead of you. But still looking for someone to talk to about it. Send me a on if you'd like to chat. We can email or kik. Or whatever.
I had an experience in my late teens which really confused me since it was a family member (pun intentional). Didn't have another cock till my 50+. It is a desire that will drive you till you take the leap. Your brain will want it, your body will want it. Then it happens by chance that someone unknown says to you "Can you keep a secret?" So you hold your breath and they say something like "I'm gay or Bi and looking" That's what happened to me for my next "first" time. I replied "Wow, me too" So began an experience and exploration of sexuality of satisfying each others desires. We explored our bodies orally, sexually, energetically as a learning class each time we were together.
After that very first time I asked myself many questions as the experience was out of the normal. I may have beat myself up a little because of the old belief system was shattered ... for good. I now knew that two men could enjoy each other as much as male and female. Wouldn't change anything from that point on. Good luck. Go easy, go careful. Love and light to you.
Yea, Im beginning to think the apps are just overflowing with scams. Every time e I thiI found someone serious, they start asking crazy shit. Or offering the impossible
happy to chat...this was my purpose to join this site. ping me...we can do email or whatever forum you want.
In the exact same boat as you. Message me if you want to chat.
I’m in the same situation if anyone wants to talk
Me too - would love you talk to you all. That's what I signed up here today for. A genuine chat about a desire that drives me insane for time to time. Masturbating used to make it go away but lately, the acceptance is helping.
Happy to chat mate - feel the same. I'm going to use an escort this year, or find someone - but a massive step....
I am very experienced in bi activities. Started masturbating friends when I was 11, sucked my first cock when I was 13 (sucked many in my teen years through my late 20's/early 30's) then one day about 35 yrs ago one of the men that I was seeing every week (just sucking him and his friends) he talked me into giving myself up to him. I have been a bottom since then. So if you have any questions about being bi, things you might like to try (believe me, I have done just about anything you can think of as a bottom), ask away.
I did come to this site thinking I just might find more men for real, but seems all the locals just want to "talk" about it and not act on it in my area. They don't even contact me because I state in my profile I am looking for real...THAT scares them away. If you are going to keep thinking about and it drives you "crazy" with your desires, get out there and do it for real. I did and I have pleased so many men (many times with their woman watching) and I am glad about it. Especially pleasing the men that are NOT getting anything at home.
The kik app is a great way to chat with individials. They have chat rooms to but you have to search for them by keyword.
Hi Alpha. If you want to talk without all that dick pic stuff etc, I am game to talk to you too, as that is also what I am looking for. So, if you are up for chatting, so am I.
Very sexy, Godownonit. How do you manage to get several a week? I've sucked a couple of dozen in my life, but I'm ready now to get down to it. I haven't had one in the 18 months I've been in Santa Rosa. I suspect, though, that you can host. The building I live in won't allow visitors during covid. Please tell me your secret.Quote:
Originally Posted by Godownonit
I think I'm also in this boat. I'm 30 something, happily married for 10 years or so. But I have a craving in my soul to explore the gay urges and hungers that I have.
It's not easy finding someone who just wants to talk. Most places I've found have been hookup focused. There's nothing wrong with that but sometimes I really just need someone to talk to.
I hope you can reach out to some of us if you need. I know I don't have all the answers. But I'll do what I can for you.
Hi Alpha and welcome to the group. I only have one word of caution: Once you have a dick in your mouth you will want many more. It is very addictive! I am lucky enough to now get an average of almost 3 a week and 3 years ago I was a virgin.
Might be an idea to post some of the more active rooms keywords. Say for example there is a general bisexual chat room that seems to stay up but it's called The Back Porch. I don't know any of the chat rooms or their keywords on Kik, don't use it. But I'm sure some here do. Why not post some keywords here in this or another thread? It would help provide a resource to those using it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sigstache
Hello, I hope you are well. I am also in the same conditions. I am happily married I am 48 years old, but I have had bisexual fantasies for a long time. I could define myself as bi curious, when I was a teenager I felt like masturbating to put a finger in my anus until once I did it and it was strange, I would not know how to describe it. Then over time I felt that need to know or know if you can have an anal orgasm. So far I have not experienced it, I have never sucked a cock or they have put one, but there are times when I am very excited that I would, I have inserted dildos and I have ended up in my mouth, but I feel guilty after That, I do not know ... I have seen videos of bisexuals and transsexuals and it catches my attention, but I do not see them much. This could tell you I do not know if it is the same case.
Wow...seems as if there are alot of us in the same boat....42, married 20, 2 kids, and recently feeling the "urge" here as well...wife doesn't know yet.
I have no advice, as I'm asking the same questions as you...but knowing there are so many others here in the same situation helps a little. We are not alone!
This is the first chat group thing I've ever even participated in....sure, I have a FB, Insta, etc...but this seems way more private, with way less chance of people I don't want to know finding out.
I fully intend to keep this part of myself as hush hush as possible...I want my wife to know (and I want her to use a strapon on me), but apart from that, if I'm lucky, a male lover on the side (or with the wife, grrr) is my desired outcome. I think that is probably important...asking yourself what you want, what you expect, and inevitably what compromises you are willing to live with.
Hopefully you found someone to chat with. I am always happy to chat.
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I actually came here because I was looking for the same thing as the OP. I'd like to explore my bisexual side more, but I don't want to deal with creepy strangers sending me unsolicited dick pics or expecting me to drop everything and meet them for a quick fuck or a blowjob. Most of the time, I just want to chat with like-minded people. I've lost count of how many times creepy guys have scared me away from apps and sites like this one.