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Are your sexual fantasies usually straight or bisexual?
I'm a bi female, but for the most part my sexual fantasies are about women. My sexual dreams that I can remember, are usually about men. When I view porn it is mostly about women, but I also enjoy male, gay porn (naked kombat ;)) . Of couse at different times I'm into different fatishes and fantasies, depending on my mood. Just wondering if other's fantasies are usually straight or bi?
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In the last few years, my fantasies have been primarily bisexual/gay oriented. Often about men or even more often about male body parts. It's this shift in fantasy that made me re-evaluate my Kinsey rating recently. In the past women were much more involved...although I still enjoy MMF porn a lot but I noticed my focus was more on the men's cocks now.
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As a CDer, my fantasies involve men. I dress for men, and indulge in fantasies in which a man (men) will treat me as a woman. I watch straight porn, and imagine myself the chick in every scene.
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My fantasies have been strictly about other men for probably 20 years.
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I have never tried same-sex. But, the porn I watch is almost exclusively male focused. I rarely recall dreams, but any sex dreams I have recalled have been about women. I have had fantasies about men and women.
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About half & half, which represents a huge swing in the past several years. For most of my life, I've considered myself 'straight'. But events have led me to the inescapable conclusion that I'm BI. And I happily accept it. I love playing with cocks -- whether it's mine or somebody else's. Can't suck my own, but I'll suck yours, if you let me!
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I have been married for more than 30 years and love beautiful women. Most of my fantasies are typically "straight" in orientation. At times I will mix both straight and bi subject matter in my fantasies. I can't say I am attracted to same sex (males)but do tend to focus on both male and femal while watching porn... I guess my fantasy I think about the most would certainly be on the bi side since It involves me, my wife and another guy where I would partake in sex with both.
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For as long as I can remember, it has been mixed 50/50.
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I would say pretty close to 50/50 for me...but with either increasingly more, or increasingly intense fantasies about men (I'm in a long term relationship with a female partner).
But I must say to the OP that "bisexual" is not the opposite of "straight". Having sex with the same sex isn't bisexual, it's homosexual. *Desiring* both kinds of sex is bisexual. I don't know if a fantasy can be "bisexual", unless it's of a 3+some with at least yourself plus another man and woman (and you participate eagerly with both)...but I somehow don't think you meant anything that specific.
You might ask why I'm splitting hairs like this. I gotta say it's because I feel like my kind of relationship gets somewhat slighted by these kinds of discussions...basically, your language is heteronormative, and I feel a need to point it out. From my perspective, the analog of your question would be "Are your sexual fantasies usually homosexual or bisexual?"...by your (apparent) meaning of bisexual, this should mean the exact same thing as your original question. But I think we'd all agree that it doesn't *sound* the same at all...but this is only due to heteronormative assumptions that fantasies about the opposite sex can't possibly be bisexual...but they can, if you allow that perfectly normal (bisexual) people can be in homosexual relationships, just like perfectly normal (bisexual) people can be in heterosexual relationships. The best solution is to not use "bisexual" to mean "with the sex opposite that of your partner", and use it to mean what it really means...and to be ok with using "homosexual" and "heterosexual" to mean what they really mean.
Meh...*steps off the soapbox*
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Like Goldenfinger, my attractions, dreams, and fantasies, average out as being 50/50.
But, like the Pendulum we've discussed before, my interest level does seem to swing from one gender to the other, at times. My GF says she's the same.
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As a straight woman married to a bi/gay man I love to watch gay porn. I do not watch very often, but I love to watch two men together. It arouses me so.
Belle in Boston
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onewhocares
As a straight woman married to a bi/gay man I love to watch gay porn. I do not watch very often, but I love to watch two men together. It arouses me so.
Belle in Boston
The world needs more like you Belle.
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Annika,
What are you , a Jesuit or something? ;)
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I watch a lot of different porn, I have a lot of different fantasies... they involve both straight and bisexual actions.. .but I prefer to not box them up and just call them sexy fun fantasies.
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onewhocares
As a straight woman married to a bi/gay man I love to watch gay porn. I do not watch very often, but I love to watch two men together. It arouses me so.
Belle in Boston
I sooo agree. Gay and bi porn? So hot!!
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voltaire
Annika,
What are you , a Jesuit or something? ;)
Although there is no connection really, this comment reminds me of the line in Identity Theft (stupid movie) where Melissa McCarthy says, "What are you, a f***ing Kenyan?" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-nPjyalmUT0
Annika makes interesting points, not surprisingly. :bowdown:
I try to avoid getting too hung on terminology. But, the truth is the terms, the concepts and the sociology involved cause all of us to get hung up at some point or another. Understanding one another better should help reduce stigma and prejudice. So, good clarification, I think, Annika.
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most porn does not interest me because there is really no emotion, its generally a sound track and over done voicing, sound effects..... but there is some porn out there that does get my eye because its more than just a sex scene for the camera and the majority of what catches my eye has been bisexual / pansexual porn (bisexual meaning mixed gender sex / pansexual covering trans / intersex )
fantasies have mostly been the same, bisexual / pansexual... and most of my fantasies do involve intense emotional contact and connection with the people on various levels....
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voltaire
Annika,
What are you , a Jesuit or something? ;)
Hmmm...must say I've never been asked this before! I'm afraid I'm not sure I get what you're referring to Voltaire...are Jesuits known for getting on soapboxes and splitting hairs over language? Certainly not over heteronormative language?? I did work with some Jesuits for a couple years a while back, and I learned something about their style and philosophies...but I still don't get the reference.
Can you please unravel that one for me? Just a *wee* bit? Pretty please?
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Annika
To be compared to a jesuit is a high compliment imo. Great analytical thinkers who are not restricted by conservative simplistic approaches to life's questions. The Jesuits live outside the box of mainstream Catholicism. ;)
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LizaLynn
I'm a bi female, but for the most part my sexual fantasies are about women. My sexual dreams that I can remember, are usually about men. When I view porn it is mostly about women, but I also enjoy male, gay porn (naked kombat ;)) . Of couse at different times I'm into different fatishes and fantasies, depending on my mood. Just wondering if other's fantasies are usually straight or bi?
Though Most of my sexual contact has been MF and most of my M2M contact, all but one time, has been MMF, All f my sex dreams are BI. All of m fantasies are BI or being pegged.
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tenni
Annika
To be compared to a jesuit is a high compliment imo. Great analytical thinkers who are not restricted by conservative simplistic approaches to life's questions. The Jesuits live outside the box of mainstream Catholicism. ;)
Oh yes! Let me be clear: I wasn't offended! Like I said, I have some experience with Jesuits, and yes, great respect there. Just wasn't sure what Voltaire was saying, or what specifically brought it to mind...was wondering if something specific I'd said made him ask the question (in fun, naturally).
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For me women, me and a couple and me and a passable cd
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My porn habit is about 95% hetero. But that's prob coz my sex habit is 100% m-m.
Am wondering if that kind of balance is common, and if its a case of fantasising about what we don't have?
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All of my dreams involve women. But my sexual fantasies and porn selection are of exclusively men/bisexual situations.
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Gearbox
My porn habit is about 95% hetero. But that's prob coz my sex habit is 100% m-m.
Am wondering if that kind of balance is common, and if its a case of fantasising about what we don't have?
With porn, I'm right with you, Geary...90%ish hetero...and almost certainly for the same reasons as you.
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... am never sure wot peeps mean by bisexual fantasies.. if they r about having naughties in some way wiv one's own sex r they not more properly gay fantasies? They may arise from a person's bisexuality, but they arise from the homosexual part of that bisexuality, surely? Not every1 agrees but that's ok... cos 2 me it isn't that important and becomes less imprtant as I approach me middle 30s.... as it happens things r happening in me life of a more heterosexual bent (laffs), and I s'pose I do indeed have a heterosexual fantasy after a fashion, but dusnt mean I am ne the less, les, so 2 speak.... but ere long in 1 way or t'otha that bent will b str8ened out an' that dusnt involve becoming str8.. or indeed bisexual... the nhs in end may have 2 step in... pay them wee visit after Easter for that very purpose... but just as ne nookie wiv me own gender is nev bisexual.... neither wud ne sex wiv the opposite b bisexual wud it?
.... but me fantasies? Well apart from that teensie weensie wee 1 of wich I speak, they r exclusively lessie... so ther..
Clear as mud, hey? Gud.. but not 2 me.....;)
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Our dreams certainly can tell us a lot about ourselves.
I've discussed this with my GF and our differences are revealed in the way we dream about sensual issues.
I will often dream of her, or past lovers, both male and female. I'll be immersed in their figures, sexual acts, and gentiles.
She will dream of a previous girlfriend's smile....how a male, or female, lover dressed....a special moment she and I shared, laughter......her sexuality is more cerebral and intellectual, while mine is usually more physical and orgasm oriented.
We will often dream of similar things, but they will be more intrinsically focused according to our own gender's idiosyncrasies.
We have both felt love for special past lovers and enjoy those dreams of them, but how we arrive at that feeling is so different.
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QUITE bi here, almost ALWAYS and thnx for asking ;)
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Gearbox
My porn habit is about 95% hetero. But that's prob coz my sex habit is 100% m-m.
Am wondering if that kind of balance is common, and if its a case of fantasising about what we don't have?
I think Gear nailed it. I'm in a hetero relationship but my fantasies are usually same sex. My porn habits now are another matter...they're all over the map. With the net being an all-you-can-eat-buffet of smut is it any wonder?...lol
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stonebow
I think Gear nailed it. I'm in a hetero relationship but my fantasies are usually same sex. My porn habits now are another matter...they're all over the map. With the net being an all-you-can-eat-buffet of smut is it any wonder?...lol
Sexual reality is a little different for me. I am in a homosexual relationship and my fantasies are same sex. My porn habits are 90% heterosexual.
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Both my fantasies and my porn tend to be all over the map, esp. in the past couple of years, while I've been settling into a very happy relationship where none of my desires need to kept secret.
I think it's been that huge relief to be able to say, feel, think and act in a way that I'm not worried about that has made my fantasies and my taste in porn go everywhere.
We were walking out of one of the Super Stores the other day when this tall, dark sweaty muscular man walked by us (he looked as though he'd just gotten off of work) and both me and the wife looked at each other, mouthed "yes" while nodding our heads and then laughed.
Ahhh, the joys of settling into that middle-aged type of lust...
@Annika - I agree with the others and was impressed with your response as well. Great points made and one of the aspects of this board that I really love.
Drunk Uncle
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I'm 50/50. I like to involve romantic foreplay in my fantasies. I fantasies about different people-male, female, different arc, eve alien lookalikes. I love watching different porn. Also love to watch male/ male action even though my straight husband likes only straight & lesbian porn.
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My most vividly remembered dream was way back when I was an inexperienced teen. I was on my back both in the bed and in the dream. A woman was slowly lowering herself on my cock. Before she she made contact I woke up and grabbed my hardon which was cumming uncontrolably in my jockies. Probably all the better, as I had no idea what it would have been like. I hadn't even figured out how to jerk off yet. Girlie mags never showed even as much a pubic hair at the time.
I’d rather watch my cock slip into a woman’s mouth than a man’s. Every square inch of a woman turns me on. With a man it’s what’s in the shorts. On the other hand, having a cock, balls, or asshole to mouth or just burying my face between his balls and thigh will get me to cum in his mouth before his jaw gets tired. Afterward I’ll still want to play with him, get him off and have his cum inside me at either end.
69Ã*ng with a woman or man is about even. The tastes, scents, and ‘equipment’ of either are both a turnon. Tits do add to the excitement, but a man wanting to suck me off will work pretty hard at it and know what I’m feeling.
Fucking a man is great, but fucking a woman has its plusses.
My favorite porn by a head is lesbian seduction.
Cream pies, drinking piss from the source M or F, groups, etc. will do.
Taking the place of a woman that gets many men off and then gets pissed on is good. The other changes I’d like to make are to get to keep the cum, and drink as much of the piss as I can. Facials are such a waste of precious jism, even though it looks great on a woman.
Too much detail? :tongue:
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Annika L
Hmmm...must say I've never been asked this before! I'm afraid I'm not sure I get what you're referring to Voltaire...are Jesuits known for getting on soapboxes and splitting hairs over language? Certainly not over heteronormative language?? I did work with some Jesuits for a couple years a while back, and I learned something about their style and philosophies...but I still don't get the reference.
Can you please unravel that one for me? Just a *wee* bit? Pretty please?
"...and splitting hairs over language?" The Jesuits are infamous for their love of pretzel logic and quibbling over minor points. I don't think you are doing that as such but part of what you wrote was runaway philosophical..I was just teasing you.
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tenni
Annika
To be compared to a jesuit is a high compliment imo. Great analytical thinkers who are not restricted by conservative simplistic approaches to life's questions. The Jesuits live outside the box of mainstream Catholicism. ;)
That's not the style of Jesuitry I know but Annika is a keen analytical thinker and has a wonderful sense of humor.
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mine is having two cocks in my ass and suck the third and they all cum at same time
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Porn; 95% gay, 5% transgender, m/f anal, lesbian, and female ejaculation
Fantasy; 99% gay, 1% other
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My fantasies are primarily 50/50, while my dreams are more like 99% straight. That's because I usually dream about people I know, and the guys I know tend to be on par with your 'average joe' not exactly what dreams are made of. LOL
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50/50. Sometimes fantasies involving just women, and sometimes both sexes.
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I fantisized about men or mmf