bi married guys -- anyone have a regular "friend with benefits"?

If my wife accepted me< LTR with a nice friend I have. Doing it anyway. He wants what he wants, I get I what I want. It's good! Mmmmm. Not often enough tho. I need cock.

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Originally Posted by The Galion

If my wife accepted me< LTR with a nice friend I have. Doing it anyway. He wants what he wants, I get I what I want. It's good! Mmmmm. Not often enough tho. I need cock.

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Lol that's nor a LTR or actual relationship, he is nothing but a fuck buddy who you are cheating on your wife who you supposedly love and care for. Just be a man for once and get a divorce.

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Originally Posted by secret.bisexual

Hi everyone, I'm just asking this question to see if bi attached / married guys prefer to have a long-term 1-on-1 with another guy, or if they like to just meet up randomly.

Myself, I have a "special friend", another married guy that I meet up with regularly. It has been about 3 years now. It's been very hot and erotic. Also, there's the knowledge that because it's just the 2 of us, there's less potential for risks.

Any thoughts?

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…I use to live alone so was almost always available…for a couple of years I was the FWB of 8 or 10 married guys…my mouth was only a phone call away…I sucked on short notice…

I am not very experienced yet but I would prefer a fwb situation. Which is what I am desperately seeking.

There is no shortage of bi men out there who'd very much love to have a regular or semi regular FWB (or several of them) for hot, fun no strings mm sex. They are everywhere on Craigslist and the other major mm hookup sites. Peruse any of those sites, read the profiles/ads and you'll quickly notice that the great majority of those men are married men. You'll also notice that almost no matter where you live, there are plenty such men nearby. They don't hide the fact that they are down low and looking to step out on their wives to get the mm sex they crave or any sex they can find. Many are getting little or no sex at all at home. They will take the risk to meet other men rather than be forced to have boring sex or no sex at all at home. Why not seek other women? Because (A) they want cocks and or blowjobs and both are readily and easily found in men...and... (B) mistresses can be high maintenance and often bring drama. They tend to look primarily for other married men because as a general rule married men practice safer mm sex so that there is less risk of taking home an STD souvenir of their manfun to their wives. I have met hardly any married men who felt guilt or shame at having sex with me. Almost all of them say they don't feel like they are cheating when they have sex with other men, but they would consider it cheating and feel guilty having sex with other women.

Why are so many bi married men frustrated that they can meet dozens of other eager and willing bi married men online, but still not arrange to meet up in real time with a FWB for regular mm sex when there are so many of them nearby? The primary obstacle is that married men can't generally host at their homes. If they can, it is at best very seldom that they get such an opportunity. Many won't even host when their families are out off town for fear of nosy or gossipy neighbors catching on. For a FWB hookup, 2 things are needed...motive (aka mood) and opportunity (a place and a time to play and proximity to each other). No problem with the motive part. Most married bi men are horny for other men most of the time or they wouldn't be spending so much time online searching. The devil in the details is that one partner has to have or know of a safe & private place to play. Also both men must be able to get away from home or work (usually on short notice) and not have to travel too far to meet at their designated rendezvous place at the same time. Where there's a will there's a way. Bi married men need to work together, be patient and ready to take advantage of any opportunity that arises in order to be regular FWBs. Often a calculated risk must be taken by one or both but it is almost always worth that risk. Staying in touch and being able to discreetly contact each other is a must. Establishing a short term and a long term plan to meet can't hurt either ! I can only host occasionally, and I have plans in place with several men I've met and several that I'd love to meet so that I can take advantage of my opportunity when I have the house to myself ;)

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Originally Posted by cuttin2dachase

There is no shortage of bi men out there who'd very much love to have a regular or semi regular FWB (or several of them) for hot, fun no strings mm sex. They are everywhere on Craigslist and the other major mm hookup sites. Peruse any of those sites, read the profiles/ads and you'll quickly notice that the great majority of those men are married men. You'll also notice that almost no matter where you live, there are plenty such men nearby. They don't hide the fact that they are down low and looking to step out on their wives to get the mm sex they crave or any sex they can find. Many are getting little or no sex at all at home. They will take the risk to meet other men rather than be forced to have boring sex or no sex at all at home. Why not seek other women? Because (A) they want cocks and or blowjobs and both are readily and easily found in men...and... (B) mistresses can be high maintenance and often bring drama. They tend to look primarily for other married men because as a general rule married men practice safer mm sex so that there is less risk of taking home an STD souvenir of their manfun to their wives. I have met hardly any married men who felt guilt or shame at having sex with me. Almost all of them say they don't feel like they are cheating when they have sex with other men, but they would consider it cheating and feel guilty having sex with other women.

Why are so many bi married men frustrated that they can meet dozens of other eager and willing bi married men online, but still not arrange to meet up in real time with a FWB for regular mm sex when there are so many of them nearby? The primary obstacle is that married men can't generally host at their homes. If they can, it is at best very seldom that they get such an opportunity. Many won't even host when their families are out off town for fear of nosy or gossipy neighbors catching on. For a FWB hookup, 2 things are needed...motive (aka mood) and opportunity (a place and a time to play and proximity to each other). No problem with the motive part. Most married bi men are horny for other men most of the time or they wouldn't be spending so much time online searching. The devil in the details is that one partner has to have or know of a safe & private place to play. Also both men must be able to get away from home or work (usually on short notice) and not have to travel too far to meet at their designated rendezvous place at the same time. Where there's a will there's a way. Bi married men need to work together, be patient and ready to take advantage of any opportunity that arises in order to be regular FWBs. Often a calculated risk must be taken by one or both but it is almost always worth that risk. Staying in touch and being able to discreetly contact each other is a must. Establishing a short term and a long term plan to meet can't hurt either ! I can only host occasionally, and I have plans in place with several men I've met and several that I'd love to meet so that I can take advantage of my opportunity when I have the house to myself ;)

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If they're married and their wife or husband doesn't know they're having sex with other people regardless of if it's with a man then it's cheating.

Not all bisexual men are into cheating on their female or even male partner/spouse. A lot of times if a man is married to a woman and cheats on her with men he's gay and not bisexual.

LTR all the way. I'm not a one night stand kimd of guy. In fact over the weekend I reconnected with an old "friend".

I have one buddy i see maybe once a month. Wish it was more often but will take what i have. I enjoy the sex and so does he.

Did have but she moved, looking for another special person

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Originally Posted by cuttin2dachase

There is no shortage of bi men out there who'd very much love to have a regular or semi regular FWB (or several of them) for hot, fun no strings mm sex. They are everywhere on Craigslist and the other major mm hookup sites. Peruse any of those sites, read the profiles/ads and you'll quickly notice that the great majority of those men are married men. You'll also notice that almost no matter where you live, there are plenty such men nearby. They don't hide the fact that they are down low and looking to step out on their wives to get the mm sex they crave or any sex they can find. Many are getting little or no sex at all at home. They will take the risk to meet other men rather than be forced to have boring sex or no sex at all at home. Why not seek other women? Because (A) they want cocks and or blowjobs and both are readily and easily found in men...and... (B) mistresses can be high maintenance and often bring drama. They tend to look primarily for other married men because as a general rule married men practice safer mm sex so that there is less risk of taking home an STD souvenir of their manfun to their wives. I have met hardly any married men who felt guilt or shame at having sex with me. Almost all of them say they don't feel like they are cheating when they have sex with other men, but they would consider it cheating and feel guilty having sex with other women.

Why are so many bi married men frustrated that they can meet dozens of other eager and willing bi married men online, but still not arrange to meet up in real time with a FWB for regular mm sex when there are so many of them nearby? The primary obstacle is that married men can't generally host at their homes. If they can, it is at best very seldom that they get such an opportunity. Many won't even host when their families are out off town for fear of nosy or gossipy neighbors catching on. For a FWB hookup, 2 things are needed...motive (aka mood) and opportunity (a place and a time to play and proximity to each other). No problem with the motive part. Most married bi men are horny for other men most of the time or they wouldn't be spending so much time online searching. The devil in the details is that one partner has to have or know of a safe & private place to play. Also both men must be able to get away from home or work (usually on short notice) and not have to travel too far to meet at their designated rendezvous place at the same time. Where there's a will there's a way. Bi married men need to work together, be patient and ready to take advantage of any opportunity that arises in order to be regular FWBs. Often a calculated risk must be taken by one or both but it is almost always worth that risk. Staying in touch and being able to discreetly contact each other is a must. Establishing a short term and a long term plan to meet can't hurt either ! I can only host occasionally, and I have plans in place with several men I've met and several that I'd love to meet so that I can take advantage of my opportunity when I have the house to myself ;)

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…this goes along with what I said about living alone so having a safe place for us to get together…there was a time when I wasn’t working so had all the time in the world to be on the net looking for dick…there was almost a year & a half when I averaged 2 dicks a day…the majority married…because I was available 24/7 there were days I blew a guy on his way to work…another at lunch…another late afternoon…& another on his way home from work…..& then another in the evening…the thing that slowed me down was the price of gass…most of my visitors lived in other parts of the metro-plex…far enough away that they wouldn’t be seen by anyone they knew…….when gas went up they were no longer able to conceal theextra miles driven to their wives…

I got lucky, (pun intended), and found a true friend almost two years ago. We live very close, our wives know we're friends and we even do things as two couples at times so it's not an ordeal to see each other.

We enjoy each other's company whether just socially or sexually.

I had an old friend I used to PLAY with when I was younger come back into my life. We rekindled the old flame over the wrekend.

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Originally Posted by donttellnehismy

I had an old friend I used to PLAY with when I was younger come back into my life. We rekindled the old flame over the wrekend.

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…sounds like an interesting story…tell us about it…don’t skip the details…

Well it started when we were well I'll just say young because I know drew frowns on posts like that. We found a copy of Penthouse in my parents bathroom which had a girl girl and a guy girl pictorial. We just started imitating everything we saw. Then we broke up became on and off friends. This last week we found each other on Facebook and met up. Over the weekend we started talking about old times and one thing led to another. If you want more details you can inbox or yahoo me.

UOTE=charles-smythe;288194]…sounds like an interesting story…tell us about it…don’t skip the details…
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Yes! I saw one guy for five years. It only ended when he moved a long way away. His wife knew about it, mine did not, though my wife knows I am bisexual. It was really hard to keep the secret, but it was worth it. Being exclusive is always better, safer, and a lot more comfortable. I met a guy recently, and it looks like it could go the same way. His wife knows he is bi, but does not know he wants to act on it. I will be seeing him in about an hour and am about bursting with anticipation. A good FWB is worth a lot! The guy I saw before, and his wife, were very open. She was bi as well, and I think that helped.

I would love to have a FWB (male that is). I hope that if I find the right man, the logistical details would fall into place. Meeting that persons seems to be the challenge for me.

My first FWB was my best friend Larry. What started out as jerk off sessions morphed into mutual masturbation and inevitably, the exchanging of blowjobs. It became immediately apparent that although I delighted in sucking his cock, he was less than enthusiastic about returning the favor. We eventually arrived at the mutually agreeable understanding that he would permit me to continue sucking his cock if I would agree to allow him to savagely fuck my throat. This happy compromise set the pattern that has followed me all my life. I would alternate between brief but intense episodes of virtually non stop oral servitude and degradation followed by extended periods of strictly heterosexual relationships. You could call me a serial cocksucker. Although I'm presently married to the woman I love and consider my best friend and life partner, I also meet on an irregular basis with my latest FWB, another married man like myself, to suck his cock and also occasionally suck the cocks of a few of his friends too. Friends with friends with benefits! Or, friends with benefits with friends?

I have a FWB, saw him yesterday, all we have ever done is blow each other, after years of knowing each other this is what we have become comfortable with, there's no wanting to kiss or fuck, just 69, it works for us.

I had one some years ago and miss it a lot. The guy I was seeing moved out of state and that ended it unfortunately. The comfort level is so good, and it becomes so easy to put together times to see each other. We met multiple times a week, and had sex at least twice a week. I took a video at one point and my wife got hold of it accidentally. She approached me about it and told me I needed to be open about it so there would be no secrecy. Her knowing did nothing to stop our own sex lives at all at the time, and having to try to be careful to time meetings became redundant. That changed with menopause unfortunately, so if I am lucky enough to find the right person here, I have to go back to being down low, and I hate that.

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Originally Posted by Oztrich

I had one some years ago and miss it a lot. The guy I was seeing moved out of state and that ended it unfortunately. The comfort level is so good, and it becomes so easy to put together times to see each other. We met multiple times a week, and had sex at least twice a week. I took a video at one point and my wife got hold of it accidentally. She approached me about it and told me I needed to be open about it so there would be no secrecy. Her knowing did nothing to stop our own sex lives at all at the time, and having to try to be careful to time meetings became redundant. That changed with menopause unfortunately, so if I am lucky enough to find the right person here, I have to go back to being down low, and I hate that.

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Why can't you just tell your wife how you recently met some random guy and sucked him off? She does want you to be honest.

I would really like to meet a guy who is into a regular FOB gay sex relationship with no strings and no commitments agreed by both of us up front. A top with a huge dick, black preferred but not mandatory, who knows the difference between making love and just fucking.

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Originally Posted by man4girlgirl4man

I would really like to meet a guy who is into a regular FOB gay sex relationship with no strings and no commitments agreed by both of us up front. A top with a huge dick, black preferred but not mandatory, who knows the difference between making love and just fucking.

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As time goes by, it can be difficult to keep the difference between making love and just fucking a sharp demarcation.

I am a whore to a friend of mine who I have been with for a couple of years. He knows he can do anything to me anytime he wants. I am a total bottom and he fucks me sometimes 3 or 4 times a month. I have swallowed so much of his cum that I could fill a gallon jug. My ass is his play ground and he takes it anytime time he wants. Many a night I have passed out with his cum leaking from my hungry ass.

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Originally Posted by hungandhard

I am a whore to a friend of mine who I have been with for a couple of years. He knows he can do anything to me anytime he wants. I am a total bottom and he fucks me sometimes 3 or 4 times a month. I have swallowed so much of his cum that I could fill a gallon jug. My ass is his play ground and he takes it anytime time he wants. Many a night I have passed out with his cum leaking from my hungry ass.

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Does he ever share you with his bi and gay male friends who also cum in your ass?

Mine was a regular hookup on the side of whatever else was happening

No but I am looking. Any takers

I have had a good bud now for the last 6 years. He is an old high school bud, we met when we were 17 through another buddy. We hit it off, he was my first uncut dick, and I was his first peice of ass. I was so into sucking his dick, I wanted to taste his cum. but he was so turned on about fucking me, he pulled away and moved around to my back side where he finished up.

We played till we both married and did not hook back up till 6 years ago. Now its once or twice a month, older but still like our younger days.

I had just met a FWB, another married man who liked to play with men. We started chatting on-line for awhile and we lived in the same town. We finally saw each other for the first time in March at his auto repair shop after work. I was very excited to totally strip for this man. He just wanted to jerk me off, so he kept his clothes on, too bad. He applied lube on my hard cock and had me cumming on his cement floor in no time.

I just received an e-mail that he was no longer playing outside of marriage, oh darn ! I wanted badly for him to fuck me in the ass, oh well. Back to step one, what a bummer. Anyone in Bellingham, Wa ?

Met a guy on Craigslist and we've met a couple of times, but it's difficult since he's only in town M-Thu (usually) and we're both married so we have to work around that as well. But the times we awe together awe awesome. Looking forward to our next encounter

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Originally Posted by charles-smythe

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He can use my mouth or ass ANYTIME!

I'm in the same situation as you and wife knows about it but I can't seem to take the next step and bring a guy into our marriage. Wife is ok with it but I need to find a regular guy, not these theater guys that I meet once in a while.

Yes, regular friends with benefits are so much fun!

We have engaged in multiple partners on occasions. I have taken up to 5 loads in my hungry man pussy.

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Originally Posted by hungandhard

We have engaged in multiple partners on occasions. I have taken up to 5 loads in my hungry man pussy.

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All from the same man, or from 5 men with one cum load each, or another number of men with multiple cum loads?

im am so fortunate that I have a couple that I play with fairly regularly, whom I consider friends (he's on this site... Hey T!) and friends with Crasy good benefits.
we have the most amazing MMF threesomes. Seems we set records everytime

Pole_smoker, to save everyone time, I'll just say "go fuck yourself you pathetic loser" now vs waiting for some shithead response from you.

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Originally Posted by querty

im am so fortunate that I have a couple that I play with fairly regularly, whom I consider friends (he's on this site... Hey T!) and friends with Crasy good benefits.
we have the most amazing MMF threesomes. Seems we set records everytime

Pole_smoker, to save everyone time, I'll just say "go fuck yourself you pathetic loser" now vs waiting for some shithead response from you.

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If you choose to cheat that's your problem and I retain the right to see you as a inconsiderate douchebag. Don't want to be judged? Then keep your dick and ass in your pants. :rolleyes:

I've got 4 friends...2 of them I met golfing, so when we get together we call it, "Golfing with the guys"...one of them is gay, so it's no big deal...the other is an older married guy, so he kind of needs the alibi.

One of the others is a 21 year old kid my wife introduced me to.

The last is a classic retired bachelor and is into watersports...so there's that.

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Originally Posted by blatant_bi_guy

I've got 4 friends...2 of them I met golfing, so when we get together we call it, "Golfing with the guys"...one of them is gay, so it's no big deal...the other is an older married guy, so he kind of needs the alibi.

One of the others is a 21 year old kid my wife introduced me to.

The last is a classic retired bachelor and is into watersports...so there's that.

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The bachelor sounds gay. Do you drink his piss, or have him piss up your ass?

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Originally Posted by pole_smoker

The bachelor sounds gay. Do you drink his piss, or have him piss up your ass?

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We'll put it this way...if you can do it with piss, chances are we've done it...and he's at least somewhat bi, because we've done 3ways on at least 3 occasions.