womans views on bi guys

Interesting thread, but I think the responses are a bit biased...since I would assume most people even reading this thread are more open-minded when it comes to sexuality than the general public.

As for men being with men...to get an idea of how society in general feels, just go to your local porn shop or shop for porn online. All women on women titles are in the "Straight" section out in the most promenent areas, and men on men are always in the "Gay" section hidden in the back corner. I believe most women as well as men can't handle the idea of two men together. I know my wife sees men who are with men as "feminized" somehow, even if they are straight acting. She has several very good gay friends and has no bias against "other" homosexuals, but the idea of her husband being bisexual is unacceptable to her. :(

Yes - it is a tricky subject huh ? speaking as a bi-gentleman, I find that I don’t share this aspect of my life with my lady friends … it’s a secret for all the reasons listed here !

of course if the situation were gender reversed – I’m sure I would be a popular gal 

I thought I would share some of my own observations … remember – I’m a prisoner of my own experiences …

Guys - “couples” (with bi-males) have men that have overcome the awkward situation of telling “her” that they are “curious” – a huge step. As the men here can imagine – it’s just not easy to say – “Honey - pictures of huge cocks a turn-on – right !?!?”
The good news is that many sites have couples listed with an interest in biMFM meeting/ relationship – and what that might look like.
I’ve meet couples with bi men and it’s a wonderful experience – many times it’s geared for his enjoyment - but couples who have gained some experience, and have discussed the subject more thoroughly, find all evolved to be very satisfied.

Ladies – I know many women don’t care for “men enjoying men” … but there are some women in a couples situation that are very open to it … in fact the women encourage sharing of the oral activities – which can be most fulfilling for the recipient !

I’ve only met one woman in my life that said she enjoyed seeing perform a man perform fellatio on another man. Just for your own FYI - Men are only (usually) bi “below the waist”
So my rule is “don’t tell unless asked for the right reason” 

.hello their.you are right about society,i fortunatly found out at an early age that society was full of shit.and i am glad to see alot of women like two guys together.im also very lucky to have a wife whom simply loves me being with men.we are largly poly.and we have had some wonderfull experiences,and would not change it for the world.why are women turned on with bi guys?well our world is getting more open mined although slowly,its probably for the same reason why guys are attracted with two women.you just dont hear of it very often because society deams one wrong and one right.like i said society is full of it :bipride: :bigrin:

My beloved ex was very bi, and the 2 babes I was in relationships with prior to the 9.5 years I spent with the ex both wanted to experience g2g and really really wanted to see 2 guys get it on too. My impression is society is more accepting of two or more females showing affection (or more) than 2 men. Romantically speaking I am straight but I did have one m2m experience a year ago and it was fun. All 3 of my prior ladies would express their desire to see the m2m act while we made love...and that turned both of us on.
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i find it all good ,my husband is bi . for my self i see it as a turn on. as iam bi myself ,if a guy can see 2gals going at it why cant we have the same watching 2 guys going at it like i said i find it very sexy :bipride:

I am the the female (st8) of this couple. I have been married for over 14 years. He told me he was bi-curious (had not done anything at that time) when we were dating. A few years into the marriage, I knew he was starting to explore his bi side. I knew, but I did not want to know about it. But I accepted it, and it did not affect me and our love, so left it at that for awhile.

Then, almost like an ephimany, on our anniversary last year, I said I wanted to be part of his bi play and look into having a threesome. We talked a loooonnnnnnnggggg time about it........a lot about how each other would feel (most was guessing, as we kept saying we would not know until we were actually in the situation). He was excited and nervous for me. He wanted me to be part of this, but nervous, as he did not know how I would perceive him after seeing him in these positions.

Now after about 6 months of "playing", I can honestly say, I am fine watching my husband in any positions. My husband is full "bi" and I have participated right along with him. In one our threesomes, we have this gentleman who loves to kiss all of us at the same time......very hot!!! Also have had my fingers slide in while he is engaging the other man. The hottest thing was having the man engaging with me while the man orally pleased my husband, and the man looks back at me.......and sees that I get excited.......and he gets more excited................

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For Society.......

My Aunt (who was married, with 2 children), has been a lesbian since I was young. So to me "gay" was just normal. Sex of any form is the same wether MM FF MF (or any combination). I know society is now accepting more of the FF relationships.......but think they are still a few years away of accepting MM.....there is a double standard.

Brokeback Mountain turned a few heads the last year......and may have put the idea out in public......that MM is the same as any other relationship. The promotion for the movie was purpously not tagged "a gay movie", but a movie about two men who loved each other and had a relationship........a love story. This is what sold the movie....and got it a nomination for Oscar.....but it did not win.....

One Day..............all will be accepted!!

i'll just add my short-and-sweet bit to this very long thread: i love to see 2 men being sexual (especially if they're both attractive). i think part of it is seeing 2 men being tender with each other, which is so rare these days. :)

mimi :nrrdgrrl:

I've yet to experience the pleasure of being with 2 bisexual men, but I have always enjoyed watching porn with more than one man in the scene. I started watching gay porn when I didn't really want to look at vaginas. Now that I've finally found some MMF porn where everybody is really pleasuring each other, and it's not just 2 straight men at both ends of a woman, I hope more than ever I can find a man or male couple to live out my fantasies with.

I've only been a member here for a few days and am fascinated by peoples' stories. I find it sad that so many men with female partners can't share their bisexuality with them, as much for the women as the men. Because, oh what those women are missing out on: watching 2 men suck and fuck each other, pleasuring and getting pleasured by more than one cock at the same time! :eek:

Pardon me while I go watch some MMF videos and masturbate... ;)

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Originally Posted by sexy couple

I am married and I would find it a HUGE turn on to see him with another man... :drool: We are built for pleasure and it's all good in my opinion. We watch str8, gay and bi movies together and find it all to be very erotic. In fact, I think mm interactions in movies are so much more genuine, because, well, it's a lot easier to tell just how turned on they are! :male: We share all of our fantasies and are finding that we are both equally bi. Thinking of him with another man drives me just as crazy as him wanting to see me with another woman!

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Wow...my recently ended marriage was much like yours, except while one of my ex's girlfriends did join us from time to time we never did find a like minded couple (ladies bi guys straight ONLY). I think you 2 are extremely fortunate to have eachother!! I have had but one mm experience last year, someday I hope to meet another special lady to share with...
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in my honest opinion why does it even matter? i may not be the most qualified person to answer to this thread because as a bi male i have had a very limited sexual experience. i have only been with three male and one female partners. the only people who know about the my "bi" side is the men i have been with and the people online. i am currently with one of the guys and we r good "friends". but the fact of the matter is that, and i do acknowledge my limited experience here, i think that most bi men keep the sex with women and the sex with men as two VERY different things. i know i do. when i am with a woman i am completely devoted to her, and the same when i am with a guy. i have never mixed the two. i think that a large part of being bi has become having threesomes, or in some way being in a relationship with a male and a female at the same time. Personally for me, being bi is about loving both sexes. that doesn’t mean having a cock stuffed in u while ur with or in the presence of a woman. i have many fantasies of being in a mmf, but i still think at the end of the day that its the least of the things that makes u bi. my current "friend" and i do everything that a normal GAY couple would do, go to movies, live together, kiss, cuddle, have sex. so personally to me at this point it doesn’t matter to me what women think about it. does this make sense to anyone except me?

Hello folks...

I must say that I have a different reason for dating bi men. The main reason that I date bi men is that I don't particularly like most straight men (this isn't to say *all* straight men, certainly) and feel more comfortable with bi men. Some of that has to do with past experience, and some of it has to do with the fact that I feel bi men are more in tune with both their masculine and feminine sides. It's much more comfortable for me energy and space-wise.

I'll admit that sex with two men is quite a turn on for me, and I really enjoy seeing it. But, really, that's more of a bonus than a reason.

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My wife first told me that seeing a guy with another guy did nothing for her at all (we are swingers and we enjoy the lifestyle).

One time when she was in a 69 with a friend of our husband, I jumped in and helped her suck him off . . . .and he turned from her pussy and sucked on me as well . . . .

she's been hooked ever since

On the other hand women are supposed to love queer men. At the end of the day neither impression are as valid as the other. The fact is is that many straight people talk the talk, but when it comes to walking the walk, they don't want to go out with someone who isn't straight. Even many men who get turned on by women kissing would feel too threatened if they were in a relationship even if the woman was monoganous.

What always amused me were girls who have the opinion that they're so great in bed you'll never think about men again. Self inflated egoism bullshit, but not without entertainment value :rolleyes: I mean, I might settle down with a nice girl one day, but I'll never stop liking other men and vice versa.

LOL, Azrael. I'd sure let her try! :tong:

Well of course, but that's neither here nor there *blushes profusely* :tong:

This thread is good news and bad news.

It's good, no it's great, to see so many women who like and get turned on by bi guys.

The bad news is that all of the women who like that are accounted for as members of this web site leaving all the rest uninterested.

But I keep looking anyway. Any (bi) Memphis ladies? <g>

I've just read this thread through from beginning to end. It's amazing reading - it is a shame that it cannot be written up and published as part of a book. (or could it? Idea for site owner - is that "Drew"?). Lots of people would find huge reassurance from it.

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Originally Posted by tomboyea123

few women seem to find bisexual men to be a turn on.Why is this,or am I just wrong?

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I think you're wrong, personally. I'm EXTREMELY turned on by man-on-man action and look at gay porn all the time. I think women are just more shy to admit that this turns them on (or for that matter, that anything turns them on) because of society's obsession with women being pure and its haste to label them sluts if they enjoy sex. Also, plenty of women have simply never seen two men do anything sexual, so they don't know if it would turn them on or not. I certainly never suspected it would turn me on until I saw something by accident, but I've been hooked ever since :)

I like two guys together, I find it very beautiful, and I am more attracted to bisexual men as I feel they can understand me in a way that straight men just can't, like another poster said.

I work with a gay guy and a bisexual guy and the two of them flirt a lot with each other. I think to most straight people it looks like they're just joking around as friends, but I know they're attracted to each other.

Most of the men I've been attracted to lately have been bi or gay. I've been through so much pain because of my sexuality in the last five years and I am instinctively drawn to a man or woman who understands that.

Which might make you wonder why I love a straight woman now, but that's another story.

You're probably onto something, there. I'm in the best relationship of my life, right now, with a wonderful, loving, bright, and extremely sensual lady, who is also bisexual.

For me, this is an indicator that I should have never settled for less than a bisexual lover. I know there are those of both genders, here, who are straight with bi/gay lovers, but for me, no one could be better for me.

I would also find it really difficult to be with a woman who was not also attracted to men.

That might be why I like a straight girl, because I know she likes men. Haha, she might only like men, but if she likes me, I know she likes men too. It's for the same reason, bisexual women understand me better and I feel like I can be completely free and myself. I feel like there would be a greater level of intimacy...

Since I don't have to date a lesbian it's very unlikely that I will. There are enough bisexual women around (though I insist on loving a straight one *facepalm*). Just my personal preference.

Yeah, definitely bisexual guys understand me more.

It's all very interesting, isn't it?

I know a bisexual woman who said she could never be with a bi man, but she wasn't sure why, and she knew it was completely bigoted, but being with a bi woman was all right with her.

I'm a bi-curious guy who hopes to end up some day in a long-term relationship with a woman, but I doubt I could have a lasting commitment to one who didn't accept the possibility of a bi boyfriend, and who wasn't bi herself.

That may sound a little strange, but I know it's true. :)

If there are any biM-biF couples out there making it work, send me a note. I really want to hear about your experiences!

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Originally Posted by tomboyea123

I am sure this topic has been discused before but society is a little bit of a two sided sword.It is accepted that men are turned on bi bisexual women but few women seem to find bisexual men to be a turn on.Why is this,or am I just wrong?

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I guess society generally allows women to be more sexually transgressive then men. i.e. men are either into women Kinsey 1 and therefore straight or they have even an iota of incidence of same-sex attraction and they are gay Kinsey 2-7.

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I think you're wrong, personally. I'm EXTREMELY turned on by man-on-man action and look at gay porn all the time. I think women are just more shy to admit that this turns them on (or for that matter, that anything turns them on) because of society's obsession with women being pure and its haste to label them sluts if they enjoy sex. Also, plenty of women have simply never seen two men do anything sexual, so they don't know if it would turn them on or not. I certainly never suspected it would turn me on until I saw something by accident, but I've been hooked ever since

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Well said, TSN! Thanks for your comment.

Though this thread is directed at woman's view points on the matter, I do want to say that I have been wanting a relationship with a woman who could understand and accept my bisexuality. So far and every time I come out with it which is always from the very beginning, the relationship either never happens or goes sour as it did with the last serious relationship I had with a woman. She tried, but just couldn't handle the idea of it any longer and pulled the plug on everything. And I understand how some women just can't accept that.
I have had two women in my life that accepted this in me but it's been years ago now. Our reasons for parting were mutual and not because of my bisexualiity...to this day, all 3 of us are still great friends.
When I am with a woman in a relationship, I'm no longer interested in pursuing anything else with other women outside our relationship. But I can't deny my urges and desires for men sexually....and only sexually.
Ideally, I would love to find a woman who would understand this and be into our relationship knowing I would never depart from it. Yet I understand the fear and the threat from it emotionally. It's hard to convey that I would never stray from what we have sacred in our relationship. And I already know some women and men from reading this are already thinking how I am straying by engaging in sexual play with men. That's okay, they're entitled to think this. But when one of them makes a comment on this in a negative manner, I know they just don't get it and again that's okay. I'm not out to change anyone's mind. One either accepts this kind of thing or doesn't. I know many out there to judge this sort of thing and what their thoughts would be or are. Again, to each their own.....
It's great to see many of you women here who responded to this topic to be accepting of this in your men and not feel threatened by it. You all are truly of a rare kind. I know of 2 couples who are in this sort of relationship with each other. One couple where both are bi and allow play with the same sex and have been together for 23 years; the other where the husband is bi and the wife is straight, but allows her man to be with other men and married for 32 years. Hopefully one day such a woman will cross my path again who is single and willing to accept it.....
I know this was mostly about just the moment of watching men with men playing sexually, but all of this is part of the mix too.....thanks for reading.

Personally I think two men together is hott. I am finding that more women than I thought think so as well. The problem I think, is that it is not as socially acceptable to say you find two men together hot. Most people try to hide it. Then again a lot of the women I know that are attracted to women hide that as well. Society still has a long way to go in accepting sexuality in all of its variety. :bigrin:

Hot!

But then, I think it's all good. I watch bi-men and gay men on youporn and xhamster to masturbate to. I already know how it is with women. MM piques my curiosity and sets my hormones churning. I liiiiike it! :color:

After reading all these posts, think I'm gonna take a break and.... ;)

Although I'm not a woman but a bi sexual male. To see 2 men loving each other or even just to enjoy the sex itsel is a turno on just as it is to see 2 women or a mf couple enjoy the most pleasurable pleasures of life. It sure is a lot more enjoyable than seeing men fight or wrestle or boxing or others wise hurting each other.

I can only speak of this from a writer's pov, as weird as that sounds. If I am in the mood to write about a romantic relationship (fine, fine if I want to write a romance), I prefer writing about men in love. I think it's because I generally don't get women as a gender. No, I suppose that doesn't make a lick of sense since I'm female.

Hm...if I really wanted to analyze the interest, I suppose it would boil down to the fact that I don't write about heterosexual relationships because it usually becomes too personal and I don't write about women in love because...My bisexuality has always been incidental. I'm attracted to the person more than a gender. That's not to say that I'm not attracted to both genders it's just...complicated. Ugh, how did this get to be about me? Annnyyyywaaayy, the point I'm trying to make is writing about men in love allows me to explore the characters and their motivations and stretch my imagination while keeping myself (mostly) out of the equation.