That is the sameway I first brought it up to my wife. But it is really hard to find that right guy that we both agree on LOL
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That is the sameway I first brought it up to my wife. But it is really hard to find that right guy that we both agree on LOL
Maybe I did jump to a bigger conclusion than he meant. I've just never been on any forum where I was told I "didn't qualify" to post. But thanks to you all for being so supportive. I just thought it might make a difference to some of you married men to realize that while not all of us wives are going to be excited to participate or overjoyed that you want to participate, it doesn't mean we don't love you. I know it makes me feel better reading that, impulses aside, most of you love your wives.
All these same boats.
I told my wife when we were dating that I liked anal stimulation. She said a lot of guys do and she would finger my ass when giving me a blow job. I had been using a dildo on myself for years and I asked her one day if she would like to use it on me and she freaked out. "Only fags want a dick in their ass!" If you want a dick up there then go live with a fag" So I told her sheesh, I was only kidding. And have never brought it up again. She didn't know that I actually had a dildo. She even got upset if I asked her for two fingers. So now, 7 years into this marriage, our sex life has dropped to about once a year, and I fucking hate it. I never get the finger treatment and with all the resentment, when we fuck, she comes but I don't. We are more like roomates who fuck once a year then we are a spouse. So I spend a lot of time jacking off to porn and as straight porn got boring, I started to look at more and more gay porn and love to fantasize that the guy getting his ass stuffed was me. I even find myself wanting to suck another man and have him suck me. And another turn on is watching a guy having sex with a woman while another man fucks his ass. So I have developed into a straight out Bi guy. I have to much to lose outside of the marriage if I was to come out, so I just keep my thoughts to myself and live life. Now I found this site and hope to meet my "Friend" here and we can enjoy fulfilling the void in our Bi side and still keep the marriage and nobody looses.
Me too ! Lol, I love women the look taste touch feel, the emotional compatibility, but... I do love cock ! Not the man , don't get me wrong I would love to make a special guy friend , one who I can chill wit go to the bar with a friend I can laughs and joke with, some one I can trust to keep my sexuality private and have around my non bi or gay friends and nobody knows what we do behind closed doors it does sound like a non emotional thing but it isnt picture your best friend with a bonus, and my girl knows I'm bi but she's not cool with me fuckin antround so its just strickly fantasie
Being that I am not a bi man I wonder, how easy is to just up and leave your wife to be with another man, so I could be fully sexually satisfied. Cause apparently most bisexual men find more sexual pleasure from men, rather than women, or they don't find women sexually stimulating at all. :confused:
Your talking about homosexuals. You wouldn't be a bi man if you only liked men.:)Quote:
Originally Posted by The Bisexual Virgin
Yup. I'm super open-minded sexually, but after 5 years I've realized that fantasies are NOT going to happen with this girl- it's all formula sex. My occasional outlet is online....Quote:
Originally Posted by MrDeville
If I (the Female of the couple) may add, I have to admit that when my husband told me about his bisexuality I actually jumped out of my skin. :yikes2: But from how happy I was. I feel that a man who can enjoy both M and F is amazing. Knowing that my husband craves cock is a real turn on for me. Hey! just thinking about it I can easily have an sweet orgasm.
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Originally Posted by HappyHedonic
We're either married to the same woman (That would be conveinient) or we're brother inlaws
I realized I was bi in my early teens. Had emotional and sexual relationships with women but just sex with men. I told me (ex) wife after we got married. Hence the reason she is an ex. But now I've hit the jackpot. My current girlfriend was a swinger Before we met and is not only ok with me being bi but is turned on by it and she is exploring her bi side too. We both have high sex drives and play with couples and single bi men too. We regularly go to our local swingers club and have a profile on sdc.com where we are both listed as bi and can meet other members who are also bi. The last 10 months we have been together has been amazing sexually , thrreesomes and moresomes, and I am now comfortable in identifying as bi - all her friends know, not my kids or co-workers. Small steps. And im learning to get in touch with being bi really means to me. I just kissed a guy for the first time last month. Im in my mid forties.
There are women out there who are open and accepting, but I learned that keeping it a secret and trying to disclose after marriage is not the best or the easiest way to do this. My suggestion is to discuss before you get married and if they don't want to get married once they know, then it is probably for the best. Painful at first but much better than years of pain, guilt, shame and deceit. One common thread in the thread (sorry about that) is not IT DOES NOT GO AWAY ! The desire to be with the same sex is there and will return even if one can suppress it for a time and then cause more pain for the spouse.
Great response!!! I met a tough masculine guy who had a wonderful marriage and his wife fucked him nightly with a dildo...He asked her if his friend could fuck him and she said yes.....Wow It does work..They are happier today!!
Mickie,Quote:
Originally Posted by Mickie
Thank you for providing the view of the "wife" or "female partner" to a bisexual man. Very enlightening and much appreciated.
I am partnered with a woman who I've been with for awhile but we are not married. She is bisexual. I have fallen in love with men before and I have a male lover who sometimes joins us. Any bisexual man who claims they can have sex with men but has never had romantic feelings for a man is a man that's full of internalized biphobia and homophobia, and a lot of heterosexism as well. In some cases they've convinced themselves that they can't fall in love with a man or have romantic feelings for a man so it doesn't happen. I can understand that you don't fall in love with everyone who you're having sex with or who you've had sex with; but to claim that you'd never fall in love with a man or have romantic attractions to even just one man shows how men who think this have lots of internalized biphobia, homophobia, and are heterosexist.
I'm in the same predicament. I too have no desire to get emotionally involved with a man but I often fantasize about sucking cock and getting sucked. If I could suck my own, I would.
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Telling my GF & now Wife I was Bi, is the best thing ever.
Your Partner in life should be able to accept all of you and support you in Life.
Frankly: if they don't, then you should figure that out waaaaay before you decide to commit your Life to them.
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