When was the FIRST time you realised you were Bi?

One always has regrets in life. When i was about seventeen and working at a large department store in London the aftersales serviceman for the department that i worked in came downstairs to the storeroom with me to pick up product. the storeman was there and when we walked in he locked the door. After a bit of discussion where my options were explained to me he grabbed my wrists and pulled me across the table. The serviceman reached around and took my trousers right off, not just down to the ankles,, got a jar of vaseline and give me a pasting with that. He got is cock out and with a bit of difficulty he fucked me until he came. They then changed places and the storeman, who was much larger and rougher gave me a good fucking before cumming. I didnt know what to do. Then the storeman held my arms whilst the service guy got down and gave me oral sex. First time for every thing. Borderline rape. But i kinda liked it. Never went back for any more because it was 'naughty' although the invites were there. Whilst i have had many female lovers and kids, it has only been recently that I have developed a very strong desire for male attention. I just like fucking and being fucked. By both sexes. Good eh???:bipride:

Damn folks, some of you have had some hot experiences! Mine have been, for the most part, significantly less hot.

When I was a young kid, like 10ish, I remember catching myself looking too hard at a woman and being afraid I was becoming a lesbian. I was terrified and would not even let myself look in the direction of a pretty girl, and would pray for forgiveness and that God wouldn't let me turn gay. After awhile of this, I managed to repress it completely and convince myself that the idea of two girls together was gross. About a year or so later, a friend told me her brother was bisexual, and my first question was "what's that?" She said it meant you dated both boys and girls, and I just shrugged and didn't say much about it. I was surprised because it hadn't really occurred to me that it was possible, but I still didn't recognize that that was me because I had stopped thinking of girls "that way." I also stopped masturbating around this time because I thought it was a sin and felt terrible guilt over it, and succeeded in pretty much repressing my sexuality as a whole, not just my sexual orientation. Through this period I continued having crushes on boys, but trying dilligently not to think too hard about it, and having crushes on girls without even realizing it. I would be staring at a girl in class, thinking how beautiful she was, and how interested in her I was, and would sometimes even think the word "crush" in connection to these feelings, but would quickly reprimand myself and tell myself it wasn't a crush, I just found her interesting was all, nothing sexual about it. I would be afraid I was teetering on the edge of lesbianism until I reminded myself of how much I liked boys, and breathe a huge sigh of relief, sure that I had to be straight if I liked boys that much. It wasn't until my junior year of high school, after I had shed my religious devotion (thank the Lord) and started to become more accepting of homosexuality and bisexuality that I thought, well, could I ever be interested in a girl? I thought not, but realized that if I ever was, I would be ok with that. I didn't think it likely to happen, but decided that if I ever did become attracted to a girl, it wouldn't be such a bad thing. As soon as I decided that, I started to have more "friendly interest" in girls my age, and kind of considered I might be attracted to them, but still didn't really think I was into girls that much. Then, the summer between my junior and senior years of high school, there was The Moment. A couple of my female cousins were staying at my house for a week, and there was a pool at my house, so we went swimming a lot. One cousin has really big boobs and her bikini was too small, and there was a diving board involved... suffice it to say I was wet in more ways than one watching her jump up and down on that thing. I couldn't stop looking, but looking was all I did. I was also starting to get involved with a guy at that time too, though, so I was really confused. One day I'd be sure I was a lesbian, then the next day I'd be making out with a guy. After a week or two of this back and forth that practically gave me whiplash, I suddenly remembered there was this thing called bisexual. Some people liked both, and it became clear to me that I was among that number. I became really eager to experement with a girl, but I was involved with the guy at the time, and I almost broke up with him to explore my other side, but he proved so accepting when I came out to him that I couldn't say the breaking up part, although he briefly did think I was breaking up with him just by coming out. I didn't break up with him, but I figured hell, we'll break up eventually anyway, so I'll just enjoy this for right now and date a girl next, whenever that is. A year later, the guy and I were not only still together, but got engaged. This woke me up to the idea that I might never get to be with a woman, and that scared me. I told him I didn't want to get married without having tried that, and we discussed the idea of FFM many times throughout our engagement, but it never happened. Now we are broken up, I am single, and I just went on my first date with a girl a few months ago! Nothing happened and it was kind of a boring date, but hell, you can't expect much your first try, right? I'm looking for a girlfriend now, still have yet to do anything sexual with another woman unless you count cybering; I've done that on this site a few times. Hopefully the start of classes will see me meeting a lovely bicurious lady, keep your fingers crossed for me!

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Originally Posted by eatmeplz_803

I think that I always knew that I was bi. It started at a very young age maybe 7 or 8 me and my girl friends would always play "boyfriends and girlfriends" is what we called it. We would mostly pull our pants down and hump on each other. Probably when I was in the 5th grade one of my girl friends ate me out for the 1st time boy did that feel great. Me and her fooled around alot I always wonder is she bi too but I haven't seen or talked to her in many years. but now as a women I still enjoy hummping other females and eating them out and them doing the same to me.

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OMG We played that game too lol! I was always the boyfriend but I am soooo fem its ridiculous!

some how i think that i have answered the question some where else here; dont remember my exact answer but i was like any one and horny as hell in my adolescent years, but found my interests wanting both girls and guys!

then the talk was only straight or gay, and talk about being confused!!!; by university, though still confused as hell, i no longer gave a damn, and plunged head long into a serious relationshiop with the most fanatastic guy on the planet!

some where along my sexual discoveries and what i was willing to do, some one put a name to my confusion, i said great, and kept plunging head-on into my relationships

so i knew that guys turned me on as much as girls, somewhere in my early teens, maybe even pre-pubescent, i just didnt have a moniker for by state of being!

when I was 12-16 i use to always jack off to porns or mags and I loved looking at the hot ladies and their pussies but the guys cocks always seemed to grab my attention. I really didn`t think about it but as I started to get older and had a girl friend I loved eating her. When she sucked on me I use to stare and wander how it felt to have a cock grow inyour mouth. One night a couple at a bar asked me over for a drink. She was hot and her pussy looked so good. as I started to eat her he came and stood by us she grabbed his cock and lifted my head to see it in front of me...well my chance to see finally happened.Now I still love eating pussy but also love having a cock to hold and suck on too

I always was fascinated with women and their breasts. I was in a pool one day and a guy I knew joined me. We started talking about sex and I was looking at his sister. She was well developed. I was extremely hot and I suddenly felt his hand on me. I loved it. I reciprocated and enjoyed holding his. His sister was enjoying what she was seeing. I reacvhed out and touched her breast. He put his hand in my suit and I was in heaven. The three of us had several encounters after that and I learned how to kiss a male and swallow. I have been doing it ever since. She was great at experimenting and loved having her breats kissed. he loved having his manhood kissed as I did ! It was a great time for all of us.

This is my first post. I joined about an hour ago, lol.

Yesterday, after what felt like a long personal battle (I'm only 20), I finally admitted to myself that I am a bisexual woman. And I feel SO happy about this revelation. Calling it a revelation doesn't really fit. That sort of suggests that one moment I was straight, and the next POP I'm bi. There have been a lot of instances I've always cast to the side. Instances I ignored out of shame.

It all started when I was about 5 or 6, and there was this little boy who would spend the night sometimes. One night he asked me if I knew what sex was. Obviously I didn't. And he proceeded to show me. Mostly we just played with each others privates. But what I liked the most was when he would perform oral on me. All I knew is it felt amazing. As this went on, there was a girl I was friend's with in class who I was obsessed with, and who I wanted to be my girlfriend. I just thought it was all normal. Years later, I was friend's with this slightly older girl. We did everything together. We kissed the same boys and during the summers, spent every night in her bed. I looked up to her. I wanted to be her. She was so pretty, and I was such a tomboy back then. I remember this one instance where she mentioned a friend of hers said she was bisexual. My friend said that she didn't believe bisexuality/homosexuality was right. So I think that one conversation with her is one of the biggest reasons I've kept myself from the truth. One day she and I were driving around, going nowhere like we always did and she smiled at me in a way no one ever had before. I think I fell in love for the first time in that moment. From then on, whenever we were together I was constantly testing myself. Wondering if I wanted to kiss her or more. Truthfully, I didn't. But I would have if she wanted to. The only thing we ever did was feel each other up. It wasn't sexy at all though.

Around the same time I had this other friend. We held hands a lot, and one of the first times I slept over her house, it was me and another girl. The other girl fell asleep right away. So me and my friend stayed up talking. And then we were spooning, and she started caressing me in a playful/chaste way. I really liked it. I was about 12 at that time. After high school, I had this friend whom I'd known for a while, we just never really spent time together outside of school. There was this weird energy between us. I could never really make it out, until at this lame party we were all playing spin the bottle. The bottle landed on her, so we pecked. Then she spun, and it landed on me. When this happens you're supposed to make-out. I slipped her the tongue, and then we both pulled away immediately. That just confirmed what had been in the back of my mind. We had sexual chemistry. But it was freaky since we were friends.

All along I've felt ashamed of my feelings. It didn't help that my father openly teased me about being a lesbian, and then said he didn't believe gays should get married. Just knowing that if I were gay my father wouldn't want me to get married was devastating. Even though I still see myself ending up with a man, who knows what love with throw at me. And if I do decide to spend my life with a woman, I won't give a crap about what my father thinks. At least that's what I hope.

Only in the past year or so have I begun to watch porn. I like both hetero and lesbian porn. Actually, gay can be nice too. What I found in some lesbian videos is sensuality that is lacking in the hetero videos. That sensuality turns me on more than anything else. Although strangely, I like to climax thinking about being with a man. Up to that point though, its all about the woman.

Yesterday, I had sex with a guy. It wasn't my first time or anything but afterward I just felt clear. Clarity had come and I knew I was bisexual. Now, I'm just waiting to find a nice girl to explore my sexuality completely.

Welcome to the site, LF!

You are going through the same things most of us did .........and are still doing. Like the rest of us, you are learning more things about yourself s you go. I hazard a guess that your learning process will continue for the rest of your life.

You should find some good answers to your questions, here. There'll also be some who will attempt to irritate and confuse you. Take what you can use and ignore the rest. Only you can do what is best for you.

Sure, it's good to have some positive folks to discuss your inner-most thoughts and desires with, but ultimately, the answers for your happiness lies with you.

You are among friends!

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Originally Posted by loopfruits

This is my first post. I joined about an hour ago, lol.

Yesterday, after what felt like a long personal battle (I'm only 20), I finally admitted to myself that I am a bisexual woman. And I feel SO happy about this revelation. Calling it a revelation doesn't really fit. That sort of suggests that one moment I was straight, and the next POP I'm bi.

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Ah, loopfruits (I love your name, by the way), "revelation" is exactly what it is...it has finally been revealed to you what has been true for a long time!

Welcome to the site!

(By the way, in the interest of full disclosure, I'm probably one of the ones who will try to irritate and confuse you.:tong:)

I realized I'm bi the first time I was with a man, at age 37, my first real adult homosexual experience. It just felt so right. It was an epifany, an overwhelming revelation. Right away I knew there was no going back.

I'm looking forward to being irritated and confused, lol. The best parts of life, I say! ;)

Thanks for the kind welcome and understanding.

Been on my mind and confusing me since i was 14 years old, in chat rooms talking to guys and got turned on by sex talk with them. Tried to fight it since then (now 22) and only fully accepted it and admitted it to myself just a week ago. I tried things with guys since i was 16, and always tried to tell myself, no i didnt enjoy it, i dont like guys. But i did enjoy it, and i do like guys sexually. I like girls, and have a gf atm, and she knows im bi and is ok with it. Just that i wasent ok with it for 8 years, even though deep down i guess i knew i was, so yhe only recently did i admit to myself, ok i know i like women, but i also like men. And do you know what, after 8 years of confusion, trying to fight it, trying not to like guys in a sexual way, i an finally happy, and i enjoy it that i am a greedy guy who likes both!

For starters, I'm a 51 yr old bi mwm. I discovered my sexuality when I turned 40, about 11 yrs ago. Up to that time, I always considered myself straight but due to circumstances beyond my control, I got bit by the "bicuriosity bug and I've been bi ever since. Being a married man and a dad, I try to conceal it whenever I can but it's always lurking out, as many of you know. So I need to be very discreet at all times.

I didn't know what bi was, but upon reflection first noticed it when other girls were equally and sometimes more attractive to me than boys. I remember thinking it seemed odd girls were always after boys and less each other.

And then there were the few times girls approached me directly, at which point I was sufficiently confused by religious and societal influences that I ended up pushing aside my attraction for women. That backfired for a long time. Never felt wholly committed to a man because something always seemed to be missing. Yet women annoyed me to no end with cattiness, jealousy and 3rd grade behavior among themselves and toward men, generally speaking.

I've always empathized with men about girl toys 'cause I see them as such myself. Not that women aren't people by any means and not that I don't have a close female friend to whom I am not sexually attracted at all, just that I've never had romantic inclinations towards women, only purely sexual attractions. I've never looked at a woman and thought I could have a lot of fun with one outside sex, or felt differently even if I got to know a woman I was attracted to. Just hot, sexy girl toys ;) Is that bad?

I think it is. Women have more to offer than just their bodies. Women are complete people, just like men are, and have brains and emotions and likes and dislikes.

If I were you I would examine why you feel that way.

Wow!; where to begin?....
I know for a fact that it started when I was just a boy and with other boys in the bathtub when left to bathe by our parents...the usual curiosity of seeing each others penises and then fondling one another and getting excited seeing the others get hard and then my own reacting to it.
And then as I got older into my teens I had certain encounters at age 12 and 13 with another boy my age who lived 4 houses down and would come over whenever my parents left to run errands and we'd suck each other and jack each other off...and it continued with other guys from the area who hid the fact. One encounter was particularly a turn on at the swimming pool. Again it was at about the age of 12 or 13 and he would swim under water and play with my cock through my bathing suit giving me a real stiffy where I couldn't step out of the pool without it being obvious......
All this time my fascination and interest in girls was also very intense and I also had experiences with the girls too....the girls intrigued me more because it didn't happen as easily with them. But when it did, it was like magic; I always felt like I was in a trance. So though I was interested in both sexes, something about the girls always was more intense on an emotional level. With the guys, it was always and only about the sex as it has been to this day.
In my late teens and early twenties I decided to be open about it after reading, "Stranger in a Strange Land" by Heinlein and then also the influence of David Bowie who at the time was very open about being bi. But for some reason once I reached my mid twenties I became paranoid about being bi and then didn't want to be bi anymore and went into intense denial about it. This was a struggle that continued for years and I hid my urges and desires from everyone except those guys I played with of course. But the more I tried to deny to myself that these things were real in me, the more complicated my life became and miserable too. No matter how much I adored the women in my life, I just could never shake my desire for the need for male sex from time to time. My first wife knew accepting and allowing me to play with males. And my next serious relationship with a woman after that marriage also knew and allowed it too and even encouraged it. Just as long as I never crossed the boundary to play with women besides her. Both of these women never felt threatened by my encounters but for some reason I always felt it was wrong at that time and would return back to them feeling guilty. Strange.
It wasn't until 1998 when I finally once and for all made peace with it and stopped hiding it from everyone and especially from the women in my life after the two mentioned above. Prior to 1998, it was a very miserable time as I was so much in denial but continued to act out. It became a deep dark secret and I hated myself for hiding it from those women who never knew. And the more I tried to deny it, the more I felt the urge for it. It was such a relief when I finally came to terms with it and accepted it....in fact, it was beautiful. At least now I can live with myself about it.
I don't wear my sexuality on my sleeve and there are still some who don't know. But if they were to find out, I now know I wouldn't panic as I would have 15 years ago.....
It's great to be open and accepting within yourself about your sexuality regardless of whether gay, bi, tg, or straight...
Always a lengthy reply I know, but one thing leads to another...thanks for reading.

Really like ErosUrge's reply there. I can relate to that bigtym. When you are in denial about it, its so difficult. The urges are there to have sex with other men, or to look at bi porn or whatever. And you try to fight it, you try to convince yourself that these arent real, or ok this time ill think about it or do it, but thats the last time. But in actual fact, these feelings are very real. Same with me, my interest for me is purely on a sexual level,abd only recently after 8 years of confusion, denial, have i sat down and finally admitted to myself that im bi, and these urges are real. And now i feel so free, altho telling other people is something i dont want to do right now. But to admit it to myself makes me feel happy, and a feling of releif, to admit that yes i do like men sexually, i get turned on by them, and i want to have sex with them. Women for me are still the number one if you like, and my current girlfriend is ok with me bieing bi. But in the future with any girl im with, i want to be able to tell her that im bisexual, and for her to be ok with it, and for me to feel free, and not trapped. I want to continue to have relationships with women, and sexual ones with men. Long reply to!

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Originally Posted by bemyonlyone

I think it is. Women have more to offer than just their bodies. Women are complete people, just like men are, and have brains and emotions and likes and dislikes.

If I were you I would examine why you feel that way.

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I think it's an innate physical attraction and having never been romantically inclined toward a woman.

I didn't imply women are not complete people or that we don't have brains and emotions and likes and dislikes :.) I certainly do. Would never assume that of anyone. Just not romantically inclined toward women, so I get it when other people aren't. Otherwise, I love everything about women ;) They smell so good, soft and curvy, tasty.... *sigh*

Hey evrybdy :) Before I fully realized that I was Bi, every once in awhile there would be another girl that I thought was really pretty and would think to myself, this would b really akward if I was a lesbian. And also feeling like I strangely wanted to be near her, look, and... touch?no, of course not! I really really liked guys after all. Well, not to blame my parents, but they raised me strictly as Christian and " strongly disapproved" of homosexual lifestyles- which made me ignore my feelings until I developed independent thought at age17. After I had slept with guys, I felt I was still missing something. Then I saw her. In my gym class(yes and changing in locker rooms) an innocent, shy, beautiful girl crossed my path and I couldn't get her out of my mind. She made me realize I was bi because I visualized exactly what girls can do to each other. I talked to her and was sure she was gay, but I read the signals wrong. I told her I'm bi and we're still friends today, but she'll never know she broke my heart! Sry long post but I'm a newb on this site and a newb to being bi- this was a year ago.

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Originally Posted by Lady_Passion

I think it's an innate physical attraction and having never been romantically inclined toward a woman.

I didn't imply women are not complete people or that we don't have brains and emotions and likes and dislikes :.) I certainly do. Would never assume that of anyone. Just not romantically inclined toward women, so I get it when other people aren't. Otherwise, I love everything about women ;) They smell so good, soft and curvy, tasty.... *sigh*

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Yeah but you referred to them (us) as toys.

I guess...as someone who is mentally and emotionally attracted to women, it's hard for me to understand only liking them physically. In fact, I am always more attracted to a person's mind than anything else.

I would not want to be involved with someone who only liked women for physical reasons, I would get pissed off. I mean, what are you supposed to do, just have sex with her and then say goodbye? What about conversation? You're honestly saying you don't want anything from women except sex? That's ...hmm. Yeah. OK then.

^I think that's one of the reasons I found my sexual orientation confusing. With women I don't find sexually attractive unless there is some type of emotional connection. Although, women on tv shows/movies are exceptions to this lol. But one could argue you do develop a sort of connection to the character. I just never had the experience of seeing a pretty lady on the street and having the urge to throw her on the ground and fool around. ;) Obviously I think they are attractive, but wouldn't move things to another level. With men though, I don't need that emotional connection. I guess its more of an animal thing.

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I'll go with loopfruits and concede it's my animal side with a tendency toward being more primal sexually. I see it, I want it BAD! Not that I give in to every urge, though if less evolved I might.

Honestly, I admit I am as bad as some men. When there is nice cleavage in front of me or perfectly perky breasts, I can barely talk eye-to-eye. And though I prefer men over women, I hate it when men do that to me, but love it when women stare at me. In fact, I shamelessly encourage it. There's a double standard for someone to parse *lol*

Who doesn't check out someone's cleavage? ;)

There's this girl in one of my classes who is constantly looking over at me with what I think is "the look." Who knows if it really is though...

Haha! Next time you catch her watching you, smile then casually run one hand from the inside of your knee up your inner thigh toward the outside of your hip or pocket. Watch where her eyes linger :.) Unless she's a tough cookie, you'll have your answer quick enough. People have difficulty not looking when they're caught by surprise.

Thanks for the tip, lol! I think I'll give it a whirl.

I stared at my friend's cleavage. I find it really hard to ignore bare skin, whether it belongs to a man or a woman. But I can control myself from looking.

I have a thing for a woman's bare shoulders. Should we not talk about this in here? Its sort of off topic, and I'm just not sure what the rules about that kind of stuff are here.

I love bare shoulders... women or men. Not off topic at all, I think. The first time I recall being attracted to women was watching an older girl, probably 18 or 19, at a swimming pool. I still remember how her swimsuit fit, nicely rounded ass, the muscles in her back as she pulled herself out of the water on the edge of the pool, the shapeliness of long thighs, and when she turned around the smooth line of her neck gracefully stretched like a swan as she turned around.... *warm in here*

Yeah, I'm kind of a rubbernecker when it comes to what you just described. I know it's rude to gawk but it's hard to help it sometimes.

Yet I don't like when others look at me...such a hypocrite I am. lol.

I'm not sure how the last entries including this one I am adding have to do with the topic actually; somewhat related but in a roundabout way. But I somehow felt compelled to add my thoughts to some of the last posts here.
I really do understand the comments made earlier about experiences where attraction for some isn't fulfilling unless it's both mental and physical as I too have had those moments as well. But they are reserved for those who I am interested in on a more emotional and deeper level.
I take odds with the comment(s) in that it sounded like anyone who is interested in the physical only is somehow inferior for admiring and indulging in that way....
It is my preference to have substance in a relationship with someone that means something to me of course like anyone else. But there's also that side of me that enjoys the moment for the moment where passion and the willing to surrender to the moment is what's important. And it is with women that I primarily seek beauty,intelligence, sexual passion, and become emotional with. With men it is primarily physical and sexual passion. Contrary to what some believe, it is possible to enjoy the physical for only the physical and be very filled with that for the moment and for what it is, whether male or female....I don't think people should try to promote that the combination of intelligence and physical attraction are superior yet I understand why people do. Like anyone else, I also enjoy beauty and intelligence...it has a certain quality that is absent from just the physical to say the least. But I don't have to have both to enjoy the moment physically with someone to take it to the level of erotic joy and ecstasy. Again, all the better if there is a mental quality with the individual which is always an added bonus...but to reach the spirit of erotic bliss can be done if we're willing to let go of certain points of view that cloud our vision...then again maybe it's me who has clouded vision here.