Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
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catalyst
wow
this thread really had my fixed attention
i am non judgemental of any posts
I am sending warm wishes to crskate for being so compassionate - your attempts to welcome in Straight Wife is what an online community is all about
reading straight wifes exp walking in on her husband sounds very distressing if its a blast from nowhere
bottom line for me is you can change and accomodate a relationship to accept sexual differences but in some ways if a non-bi person is suddenly placed in a position where their partner wants both genders
it could a big area of intimacy they dont share and that is difficult to manage, expecially if they had very close sexual relationship
the idea of trust, self esteem, validity in your sexuality may be threatened
your sexual desire may be confused or lost as you may not get any arousal from their bisexual activities
also straight wifes experience is not just about bisexuality, she signed to a monogamous relationship and it sounds like her husband has been having an open relationship, he has been cheating on her and when she finds out he threatens with deal with it
she hasnt been given time to think, was he even using contraception??
theres alot of things to consider, even though im bi if a partner was cheating on me i would be very shocked and dissapointed
straight wife i am wishing you well, please dont think you are hunted from here, come back if you think we can support you in anyway
bisexuality is so individual and yes, there is a high level of sexual content to some posts, but we are also trying to support everyone bi or not
cat xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
cheating is breaking trust..decision is yours
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
I thought this article would help me a bit but NOT...I have known since the beginning of the relationship I am in that my partner is bi without much experience at it but would like to explore a little more as a couple on a limited basis. So here we are a year later and finally getting to the point where we have met another bi man and have had a couple of great evenings.
My partner and I have talked about everything and I mean everything since the very first day we met and I am unable to believe there is something I'm actually embarrassed to admit to him. I am jealous. Our new partner calls him at night and wants to be sexually explicit then wants to talk and tries to get him to come over on his own or go out which he will not do.
I am jealous of this because it has been very private time of the day that we share I am the last person he speaks with at night. Another person treading in that area when for a year I am the one he has spoken to last at night is causing some feelings I am unable to say are not rational, this is the only thing about it all that bothers me...another person who wants a portion of the limited time we have on a nightly basis..he goes out of his way to make sure I know I am the predominate in this relationship. How do I discuss this with him, without sounding like a completely whining, sniveling woman...because I am not..just do not know how to deal with this.
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
Strong31
The sections of the article that you may want to pay more attention to deal with:
a/ your needs b/ communication
It seems from what you have written that you have discovered a need that is not being fulfilled and this is creating jealousy inside you. You seem to have a need to end the day with your partner with you. You wish or need to be the last person that he talks to. Now, this desire of being physically present at the end of the day to chat may not always happen as he may be away on a business trip etc. The other man seems to want to spend time with him in a one to one situation. Can you be comfortable enough to permit that or are you only comfortable if you are present when your partner is being sexual with this other man? Maybe, you will be comfortable with your partner being alone with the other man if your partner is with you at the end of the evening and not this other man?
It is up to you to communicate with your partner what your needs are. You may want to consider them "rules" of your relationship with your partner and his bisexuality. If you want him to have you as the last person that he talks to at the end of the day and not this other man, make that clear to him. It would then be up to your partner to communicate that the other man is not to call him late at night when he is with you.
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
not sure how I feel about the article... its insightful and well written, a brilliant article, but like so many articles and authors.... its reducing bisexuality to multiple dual sex partners, porn and the need to have multiple sexual encounters
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
hi im new to being" out " with my wife ,i just told her a few days ago .she is willing to accept me as bi which is more than i thought was going to happen ..but i'm confused about everyone alking about the role playing ,strapons etc...its not the same .im 37 and was in the closet since high school ive been with a few guys and well its just not the same i enjoy giving a man oral immensly.i long for it ,i enjoy him enjoying it...i really good at it .lol....but anyway she s not into much role playing ,shes not assertive in bed ,at all, i just dont know what to do does anyone else agree its just not the same and what can say or do to help her understand ..i know be patient ,i am, its been a real long time since i was with a man and its a deep down burning desire right now to have some suculant man meat ,i want it so bad i cant sit still ...please help
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
am so happy to have found this forum. i am trying to learn as much as i can regarding my relationship.
brief history: i am in my 40's, divorced with grown children and straight.
boyfriend is a year younger, never married, no kids and bi.
we are very much in love, compatible, a true perfect match also in the fact that i support him and love him for who he is and i actually dig that quite a lot. we have many common interests. cut from the same cloth, and all.
when i met him, he didn't come right out and tell me, but he dropped hints that i picked up on.
we met on an online dating website where he also listed no indication of his preference other than straight. no big deal.
we have come a long way in a few short months and steadily make more progress. we have visited an adult "bookstore" and watched gay porn together.
it is a big turn on for me anyhow and has been long before i met him.
i am sure this pleases him and makes him feel more comfortable to be himself.
it was hard finding websites where the woman always knew and wasn't "shocked" years later to discover it.
not the case at all.
am just looking for support in areas as they may arise.
am not opposed to him entertaining males in reality and not just in a fantasy world. i even would go so far as to encourage it.
i am secure in his love for me and he stresses it to me daily, that i am the most important thing in his life. he is my world also.
i may need to learn the lingo a bit more. example: he said once that he has been a proud gay male for most of his adult life.
am i splitting hairs here by thinking he means "bisexual?"
he is completely turned on by me, and that is quite evident.
am one of those petite little packages of beauty, brains and personality - i don't say that to boast, but to clarify. straight men are routinely attracted to me and i have always dated such. until now.
he is all of those as well, (but not petite!) and we spend a great deal of time laughing. we are funny!
he excels at oral sex and it is frankly, the best i have ever had, and it's not my first time at the rodeo.
i reciprocate, of course.
i have yet to make him orgasm, but ONLY because he has me stop before he climaxes. i am anxious for this to happen, but i am trying to be patient.
also, we have yet to have intercourse and being a hetero woman, it is a big part of my sex life. it has been, anyhow. he has said we will, but it just hasn't come to pass.
perhaps he's saving it for a special time, as you can't put the genie back in the bottle - the toothpaste back in the tube - and so forth.
that is cool.
the next time we watch porn though, i may casually say that it's getting me hot and i fear i need to be railed.
again, not sure how to proceed in all areas yet, but am learning and extremely happy - as he is.
thank you for the forum! i enjoy the posts and look forward to any and all feedback.
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
oh well - i don't see this is a high traffic/get a lot of advice website.
other than receiving private messages for chat, which i am not interested in, i guess i'll figure it out as i go along and trust my instincts.
thanks anyhow.
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Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
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Originally Posted by
Merely
oh well - i don't see this is a high traffic/get a lot of advice website.
other than receiving private messages for chat, which i am not interested in, i guess i'll figure it out as i go along and trust my instincts.
thanks anyhow.
:(
How about you try posting in the forums instead of articles. More people read forums than articles.
Re: For Better or for Worse, in Straightness and in....Otherwise…When One of You is B
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DuckiesDarling
How about you try posting in the forums instead of articles. More people read forums than articles.
thank you! no idea.
