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The thing that I absolutely HATE, is when I'm talking to someone who is Gay, and when I tell them that I'm Bisexual, first they give me a look of disgust, then, they say " You are really gay, but you don't know it, or, you are just denying your gayness...
Screw you Tinkerbell...Or madam Dyke . . .I like what I like and, who are you to judge me !
This is my opinion and it's how I personally define and delineate the line between bisexual and gay. I believe that if a person desires to love and be in loving relationships with his/her same gender ONLY, then he or she is gay or lesbian. Sex is important, but is secondary and an extension of his/her love of a man/woman. It's the same way with heterosexual people desiring love, relationships and sex with his/her opposite gender ONLY. When it comes to bisexual people, they may love and want love/relationships/sex with either gender or with both genders. Or bisexuals may prefer love/relationships with one gender, but desire sex with both genders. Or they might not want love or serious relationships with either gender, just sex with either gender.
If anything, in my case as a bisexual man, I am only romantically into women. I did have a boyfriend that I fell for once but I can't seem to get it back. I have a girlfriend and I have only ever been with other bisexual people so I am not really too worried about the stunt you just attempted.
Yes any preference can change.
This is an interesting question with no easy, one-fits-all answer. And the discussion here reveals the interesting paths we've taken to figure out and become comfortable with our sexuality. I'm an older guy who resumed m2m play a few years back after a long, hetero-only hiatus. I was always interested in men, but was having great success (no brag, just fact) with women and still find them fascinating and fuckable. Laziness and fear kept me from acting on my attraction to men -- and I think that's pretty common for aging boomers like myself. Since resuming m2m play, I've run into gay guys who want to insist all bi's are in denial -- some even go so far to say we're cowards and want to stuff folks into the rigid (no pun) gay/hetero categories that seem just as oppressive as the damnation of gays that is still rampant in our society. Enough preaching. The first thought that popped into my mind when reading the questions above is that I find m2m sex not only hot, but much easier and with less drama baggage. And, in truth, I'm at the age where women tend to look right past me whereas I'm still found to be an attractive bear daddy by men. I could easily find myself slipping into m2m-only sex, but would that make me gay? Doubt it.
I'm bisexual, but very much enjoy feeling gay and acting gay with other masculine or feminine bi or gay men. It's like a switch I can turn on when I go to bed with a man and then turn off after we've played casually or made passionate love. It is so very exciting to me to be secretly bi and only out to my bi or gay partners and lovers. I too have had gay men try to convince me that I am gay and then want to hear me admit it. I found the best response was to tell gay men that I am gay when I'm with men but that I'm not gay when I'm with women unless it's in a bisexual 3some LOL.