Hey! Jem!...YES!, YES!, YES! ha,ha,ha,ha,ha... :bigrin:
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Hey! Jem!...YES!, YES!, YES! ha,ha,ha,ha,ha... :bigrin:
Thank you for your article. I am 49 years young. Funny thing about age - the numbers don't always agree with how you feel.
It took a lot of courage for you to put your feelings out there for all to read. The life you have led also took courage and guts. You still have a lot of life left to live and share with others.
I think you are a hot woman and would be pleased to count you in my friends circle, whether we were intimate or not, it would be an honor. Cherish the friends and relationships you have had, have now and will have in the future. The people in your life are the most valuable treasures you will ever have.
I wish I were closer to you.
Many Bright Blessings. :bipride: :male: :male:
WOW, you have hit the nail on the head....hang in there, your work for society, i believe, is the important part right now, but I can say that I felt your "loneliness" as I scrolled through the sentences....much love and hugs
becca
I give you alot for opening up honey. You still look pretty to me.
Great article, it can imagine it must have been tough to write.
Our society puts way to much emphasis on youth and looks.
I genuinely feel that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I think that you have to remember that it is very hard to find real people. However, I think that you will find someone real and be very happy... Everyone needs someone. And Hopefully, you will feel better when you find that someone... or when that someone finds you....
always keep a young open mind . that is the most important thing...tooo bad i couldnt have joined you at those parties in the olde days.-----bob
:eek: we have nothing left to learn? 50 is done? maybe life is telling you something that you neglected to put into your blog. i refuse to elaborate because your education is much more than mine will ever be and i see something that obviously you do not. don't beg me to insult you :bipride: becoz it ain't gonna happen.
This is all i will say on this, after the read..and then the ponder and then ...
whoa...
Your article darling, was brilliant!
We are who we chose to be. You lived your life... to this point
I ponder, when you were so called the bell of the ball..did you think about settling down?
Perhaps you didnt meet "the one"..but i believe we are young and attractive for a reason... its like babies..they are soo cute..so you wanna take care of them..youth attracks people...
then they get older and a tad more umm..non cute?? we loose patience..like teenagers? we want them gone... we love them..we cherish them..they drive us mad..
life is a cruel instrument...we live we laugh we learn...in the end we do only have ourselves to blame to regret to relive the whole mess..
karma..thats the word..were we meant to be alone?..make a difference in this world in our own way?
are we selfish? seriously, being bi..we want ...we want..do we deserve to have it all?
to be complete...have ying AND yang? I dont think the 50 thing or 60 thing has anything to do with it..
you are dealt a hand and must deal with said hand...your destiny is already written..for good or bad...life is muddling your way through it...
my two cents..
MILF? Can someone please explain?Quote:
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You go girl! :bibounce:Quote:
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Thank you Becca, hugs to you too. :yinyang:Quote:
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Yes, yes, yes. Thank you.Quote:
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Sheela :)
Thank you, Waldo :)Quote:
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Thanks for your two cents! :color:Quote:
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To everyone who responded, whether I responded personally or not, I really appreciate your comments and they mean a lot to me. You inspire me to keep working on behalf of the bi community and bi people everywhere.
Love to all.
Peace,
Sheela :flag3:
I too miss my younger days when I was in great shape and could pretty much have any sex I wanted. Although I'm not who I used to be, my fear of AIDS also has something to do with my lack of partners these days. It's also one of the reasons I've been spending more time investigating auto-erotica. Thank goodness for the sex toy industry! I think if my wife were not with me I'd be very happy living (and playing) with myself. ;) Good luck with your life and I hope you find the perfect companion to live it out with.
I know I'm late in responding, but I have been thinking about this ever since your article was posted.
First, I need to say that based on that one small picture that I would certainly classify you as a Very Sexy Lady!
Second, I have recently been experiencing some health issues, and understand how that affects one's outlook on life.
But I don't intend to let that stop me, and I hope you won't either!
BTW, if you're ever in my part of NJ and want to "hang out", let me know!
I'm Calvin. I turned 50 years old last month, and I have arthritis and still have ADD. Fortunately for me, I'm in a religion that respects its elders, but your comments follow for me all the same. The discouraging part for me is that I only discovered my attractions to men about five years ago.
Today, I went to the Pride celebration. The only comments I got were of the "excuse me" variety. The other side of this is that I worked very hard to get this old, and one of the lessons I've learned is that what I need will come to me if I stay alert and open to the gifts.
I appreciate your writing. Minus the activism, my story pretty much matches yours. Men made passes at me when I wasn't ready; not lately. I've also tried reviving dead relationships. They hadn't changed, and didn't last as long the second or third time as they had the first time.
Nowadays, I am, however, married (just under four years). I have 12-step recovery to help, too, and as I said, I've learned that what I need will come to me. If I have my way, patience will come too. I'm not betting on it, though.
Calvin
Time to move on. I'm a 50-something lifelong bisexual guy in great physical and psychological shape and I've have a lot of fun being bi because I've refused to get bogged down with one location, type of person. or set of circumstances. Lots of nice bi people outside NYC, so maybe you should try meeting a few.
MILF (n) Mother I'd Like to F*** :love1:Quote:
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Just FYI :bigrin:
You're not so bad! ;) I think you're still hot.
I am 47 now, and I find that it's harder to meet people than when I was younger. I still get approached by men on the street, only not as much as when I was younger...and I'm glad of it because it made me uncomfortable. Most people our age are monogamous and married, so that's why it's hard to connect--it's NOT because you're so unattractive that no one would want you!
I've actually met some cool people through online dating sites (particularly Poly Matchmaker, which I recommend). I came out in my profile because I thought it was important to let people know up front that I'm bi. Of course, I had to weed out the wankers by saying don't contact me for cheating on your wife, three-ways, to get you into a sex club, etc.
Another way is to join a Meetup group in your area organized around polyamory (you'd be surprised how many exist in different cities). Even if you don't meet any potential loves that way, it's a great way to meet new people and have fun, which will make you happier during this dry spell.
Finally, keep in mind that it's not just you. Probably there are very few of us out there who haven't been through a period of celibacy (and loneliness, and frustration). It's tough to go through that and it feels like it'll last forever. (Like the one I went through last winter!) But if you are able to reach out enough, it won't, fifty years old or not.
Best wishes to you!
My honest opinion is that suicide would be your best bet. Maybe wait until the boy's 18, but then just end it all. It's got to suck to be old and fat.
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well that was completely appropriate and not stupid in any way shape or form...
You are as sexy and hot as the person you are.
Think otherwise and it will be that way.
Chin up, the world is not ready for us :)
Cheers
Oscar
NEVER GIVE UP- NEVER SURRENDER -
I think your still hot sheela :)
TOO MANY AGEAPHOBIC PEOPLE TODAY :eek: LOL
Youre still hot. Don't let others say you are not. I seen that pic, and I think you're attractive.
I understand how frustrating a change in perception of the "public" can be sometimes. Being ill does not help. However, I think there is more purpose in life and relationships than the bedroom. Sure, who doesn't love to be loved and touched. Absolutely it's a basic human need. But you know, there are a lot of ways to get there and sometimes in order to be touched, one needs to reach out and touch.
There are a lot of people who have lived their whole lives never really being appreciated, or touched or loved. The strength of people to persist in that kind of deprivation is phenomenal.
There are people in hospices, retirement homes, halfway houses, women shelters, schools, universities etc with people who would just love someone to give them a hug, hold their hand, or listen to them.
Even the doctor's office can give one opportunity to touch people's lives...ease the anxiety or the boredom of the wait, share a story or two and listen.
No it's not wild sex. But it can be just as meaningful. And who knows?
I love optimism. I do. My great grandmother out-jigged the mayor of her town when she was 92. Life isn't over until you say it is.
Catherine
Sheela I'm one of those who thinks you're hot :-) What amazing hair you have :-)
I totally agree with the tone and content of your post which kicked off this whole discussion. There is absolutely nothing wonderful about aging, and in my opinion mother nature (I'm not giving capitals because she doesn't deserve it) is a total cretin.
Yes, as we get older we become more and more invisible. And there's no getting around the fact that physically we become less and less attractive. There is nothing sexy about a wrinkled up old neck.
Workwise, we get passed over for young people with little knowledge or skills, and little commitment either. It's assumed that our grey cells have leaked out over the years.
I'm not going to pretend to be optimistic about all this because I've got no intention of living in a fool's paradise for the rest of my life. I'm just getting on with stuff that matters to me, trying to milk out whatever pleasures in life are left. My work, my children and grandchildren, my sport as long as I can play it. I'm lucky to have a husband to share things with but there is that loneliness in my life that I have to face now will probably never be resolved. My time has gone.
This is the truth of getting old.
Sheela I'm so glad that you have your activism to provide you with real pleasure. I'm not really an activist, so much as someone who works in the background to spread information and knowledge. And my work in mental health is a source of purpose and pleasure. I think as we get older this stuff becomes more and more important.
Maslow called it the "generative stage" and at times I wonder do we move into this by choice, or because it's all that's left?
I was very hot. I am still very hot. I am just retired from the constant need of reassurance that I am hot.
Life changes -- you change with it whether you like it or not. Honestly, many people have had very serious illnesses -- some of those illnesses take
your hormones and hence your identity. Then you realize "hey ... I'm looking at things a different way now and I like it. I like the freedom of not being emotionally wrecked by someone else."
Sorry Sheela but to me you are feeling sorry for yourself.
There are many issues and causes that would benefit from a loving and kind human being. Stop thinking with your ego.
Let me start by saying I find you soo sexy that i would ravish you and totally delight you in limitless pleasures. I am also having to deal with the passage of time on my body my hair is grey, my waistline is at a dimension I would never have imagined but i still in my mind conserve the feelings of youth that I had when I was in my 20's. I however am a much more skilled and attentive lover. Maybe I can't cum 5 or 6 times anymore in one night I may not be as athletic in bed but I have learned the art of a slow hand, the attention to detail. the importance of communication. Experience does have it's rewards. Sweetie I no longer seek to perform in bed I choose to have fun and be with those who equally are able to have fun as well
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Originally Posted by Eddie altamonte
You are a young man with a good perspective on how to maintain happiness as you growing older.
Please, be sure and keep your outlook on life! Us, even older, happy people need new recruits.
JEM
I am new to the bisexual community as well as this website so forgive the late response. I was just browsing thru the comments and was literally floored by this piece. Your writing style is so, I can't even find the right word, all I know is you write the way I think and I find it so illuminating. I would like to converse with you, if at all possible, sometime. I'm not suggesting I would have anything even remotely interesting to say to you but I'm new to Philadelphia and I'm finding it hard to connect with people; we live in an ever increasingly isolating time. If your interested, and when you have time, I'd love to hear from you. No pressure, of course. I'm leo32.
Lovely to have met you!
Thank you for sharing this article with all of us. It really put things into perspective for me about why I'm on sites like this and what a bitch it is to find a good relationship (or even a good date).
god, I mean your article is beautiful, so I'm having a hard time trying to comment on it. just thank you love, and good luck.
You are still hot and beautiful to me.
Your still a hotty in my book.:tong:;):tongue:
Sheela...I am 32 & the other day a 20 yr old woman on the internet told me I wasn't hot. I was like, "I know I'm much older than you, but I'm not 80 or something!" *sigh* It's hard letting go of the youthful vibe & accepting the wrinkles that are quickly forming on my body. However, I am proud of the wisdom that comes w/ each passing year & the financial stability that I have now that I never had when I was young.
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My wife is almost 50 and she is still hot....it just comes in flashes now!
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Take her to see Menopause! The musical!
There are songs about hot flashes, craving chocolate, and I'm sure they had a song about how once you hit LOL THE PAUSE how your womb is now and will be forever barren! :(
Sheela,
People can be so cruel you know. Those people you met years ago..well, it seems they must not have been real 'true' friends in the first place. Where are they all now? Now that you have grown older, wiser, have an illness, and might need them? I think that is down right cruel !!
To me you are one 'hot' lady simply because you are so intelligent, honest, and also funny. :) Also, I absolutely LOVE your hair!! Omg...I'd die for a head of hair like that honey. I'm 48 and mine gets thinner all the time. :eek:
Honestly though, you made me stop and think about life and the people in it. I knew already that there are some real jerks out there, but to read your article it really brings it into perspective. When these people you speak of (maybe some of them are there already) get to be older, they will hurt deeply for the way they have done others. And, you know what, they deserve it .. ten fold. I just can't imagine being friends with someone as brilliant as you, and just walking away. Are they stupid??? You are one awesome lady in my eyes. And beauty...dear lady..you have it!!
I am not writing this to make you "feel better" at all. I'm writing this from my heart. I mean every word. May all those heartless people wake up tomorrow with their teeth missing, and BALD! ;)
You just keep on writing and being who you are. The right person will come along..I just know it!
Big hugs to you dear lady. You are amazing and beautiful!
Phyllis
i would never say you were no longer hot, growing old is manditory growing up is optionial lol. there will always be someone younger or older who will see the beauty in you as i do. you just stopped being in the flesh market when you reach a certian age. people tend to take an involvement more seriously and anyone who comes on to you now more likely to be sicencere. personaly i like older people, most seem to know what they want and are more stable. i would rather find someone a littel older then myself that is stable and sicencere then a young person who dosent know what they want and is enexpirenced. just my thoughts on this of course. peace and blessings > pan /|\