How many guys are afraid to suck their first cock?

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Originally Posted by DLazguy

I wasn't necessarily afraid to suck my first cock, I was more worried about anyone I know finding out that I sucked cock. I CAN'T have my wife finding out or family/friends.

I would lose the desire to meet up after I cum too. Now I resist the urge to cum if I know that I'll be meeting anyone.

Im still worried about getting found out, but my urge to suck a big cock is getting too strong to resist.

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Well after starting this thread more than 3 years ago I finally sucked a cock and swallowed cum in April of 2024. Did it again a few times, then took a break for a while. I was not so crazy about it as I never get hard when sucking. I think I was too excited, and concentrated.

Just sucked another cock after a six month break which was my 7th cock. Now I love it more than ever, and was almost getting hard while doing it, and after he shot his cum in my mouth I kept his cock in my mouth for at least a minute and did get hard then. I was naked in the forest on my knees. LOL

I think I love cock, and love cum even more.

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Originally Posted by licyou69

18 months after I posted this, I found the right man, with the right cock, in the right situation, got down on my knees, and sucked his cock like a pro until he was cumming down my throat. If you want it bad enough, it will happen for you.

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My problem too. I am only looking for married guys who want a BJ. Getting better at finding them now.

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Originally Posted by Kip2june

My problem too. I am only looking for married guys who want a BJ. Getting better at finding them now.

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What has helped you find them? That's what I'm looking for as well. Just trying to minimize risks...

The first one wasn’t an issue, as I knew him exceptionally well and we were both exclusive, just graduated and had a summer of fun exploration and kind of as much “love” as on can have at 18 before we both went off to colleges on almost opposite sides of the country. The second one was the scary one, just met the guy at a party the 2nd month of college, he was older, invited me back to his place, not familiar with what he liked, was looking for, and after making out in his living room and him stripping me down, he asked me back to his room, I sat on the edge of his bed and un-did his pants, he was a bit bigger, didn’t have the cute little curve my ex boyfriend had, kissed better though, I took him in my mouth and was still freaking out! Was I doing this right? According to my knew friend, it was ok, but he guided me with a few tips finally eased my nerves. I ended up spending the night, and the walk of shame the next day had me so paranoid I hit the student clinic, asked for all of the tests, was told I needed to wait on a few, stressed out for about a month, ignored his calls and pages(it was the 90’s) finally got a clean bill of health, and rea
out to the guy only to find it was now my turn to be ignored.

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Originally Posted by Footstep40

The first one wasn’t an issue, as I knew him exceptionally well and we were both exclusive, just graduated and had a summer of fun exploration and kind of as much “love” as on can have at 18 before we both went off to colleges on almost opposite sides of the country. The second one was the scary one, just met the guy at a party the 2nd month of college, he was older, invited me back to his place, not familiar with what he liked, was looking for, and after making out in his living room and him stripping me down, he asked me back to his room, I sat on the edge of his bed and un-did his pants, he was a bit bigger, didn’t have the cute little curve my ex boyfriend had, kissed better though, I took him in my mouth and was still freaking out! Was I doing this right? According to my knew friend, it was ok, but he guided me with a few tips finally eased my nerves. I ended up spending the night, and the walk of shame the next day had me so paranoid I hit the student clinic, asked for all of the tests, was told I needed to wait on a few, stressed out for about a month, ignored his calls and pages(it was the 90’s) finally got a clean bill of health, and rea
out to the guy only to find it was now my turn to be ignored.

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Wow. This is the kind of first-time story that guys who haven't sucked cock yet wants to avoid. The thing is that you won't ever know what's going to happen until you start doing it and it doesn't help that when you do it for that first time, you become paranoid and of a mind that everyone who sees you knows what you did last night. It can "take a while" for a guy to realize that, um, no - everybody not only doesn't know what I did, they don't even know who I am! Some guys relax after this and it's on to the next cock to suck while some guys remain paranoid and, often, to the extent that the people who do know them are asking, "Dude, what the hell is wrong with you?"

The last thing a guy coming home from this situation wants to deal with is people asking him questions he (a) doesn't want to answer or (b) is going to tell a big fat lie to explain why he's acting weird. Just know that a lot of guys have their very first time and... none of this shows up to mess with him so, new guys, learn from stories like this but remember: Just because it happened to someone else isn't a guarantee that it's going to happen to you.

Now, go ye forth and suck cock!

Indeed! My first time led to a summer of love and joy. Second time I was unfamiliar with my surroundings, partner, and worst of all myself. As I became more aware, I became more comfortable and less concerned about “what others said or were more likely not thinking”, which can be hard. Becoming more comfortable with yourself is truly when you realize it’s perfectly ok, and you blossom into your true self. I felt like a gigantic weight was lifted, and I enjoyed possibly some of the best sex ever, as I was completely comfortable in my own skin, and was able to relax and enjoy it, became pretty good at it too!

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Originally Posted by Footstep40

Indeed! My first time led to a summer of love and joy. Second time I was unfamiliar with my surroundings, partner, and worst of all myself. As I became more aware, I became more comfortable and less concerned about “what others said or were more likely not thinking”, which can be hard. Becoming more comfortable with yourself is truly when you realize it’s perfectly ok, and you blossom into your true self. I felt like a gigantic weight was lifted, and I enjoyed possibly some of the best sex ever, as I was completely comfortable in my own skin, and was able to relax and enjoy it, became pretty good at it too!

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So good to see that you [obviously] recovered from that moment! I read that it wasn't so much that the guy you were with "did you dirty" in your encounter but, yeah, you wake up the next morning, there's a naked guy lying next to you and, fuck, the reality of what y'all did slams into you and evokes the reaction you had. Some guys... don't recover from this reaction. New guys, learn from Footstep40's moment and the part that starts with "As I became more aware..."

Go ye forth and suck cock and have fun doing it!

I can't remember if I get hard while I'm sucking. I DO get extremely hard watching video of me sucking. I can't wait to a hard cock in my mouth again.

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Originally Posted by mwmcumslut

What has helped you find them? That's what I'm looking for as well. Just trying to minimize risks...

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Sniffies.com is a game changer…just used their free version first, now have paid. It is great at finding guys, especially if you are near a populated area. With paid you can post what you are looking for and you get a lot of responses……So I will post something like the following.

Need a married guy to come to my hotel room and cum in my mouth. Or need a married guy to come to my room…let me lick and suck your cock until you cum on my mouth.

I had been fantasizing about sucking cock for years before I got up the nerve to connect with another guy. The meet up was going really well, with lots of stroking and nipple play. I was really turned on but a still nervous about sucking his cock, wondering if I would like it, would his cum taste good or awful, would I be grossed out. I just let the moment takre me and dropped on my knees and took his cock in my mouth. All that anxiety was for nothing. I loved the feel of it it in my mouth. A little later, while I was stroking him, he indicated he was about to cum. I hesitated briefly, until I saw the first drop of cum appear at the end of his cock, and then just went for it. Took him as deep as I could in my mouth, sucked and tongued his cock, while his cum spurted into my mouth. It tasted great!

Not me I sucked my cousin off then swallowed his nut. We traded blowjobs for years after that.

I was never afraid to suck my first cock. . I was bi-curious and had already let a man, a complete stranger, give me a hand job in a straight porno theater when I was 22 (this was in 1976). I knew I liked having my cock touched by a man but I wanted to see what it was like to touch another man's cock, take it into my mouth and find out if I liked sucking cock or not. I was living in LA and was very concerned about someone I knew seeing me so I decided to go to SF and visit a bathhouse there to have my first experience giving a BJ.

It was a weekday morning and I entered the bathhouse, paid my money and was given a towel and a key to a private room. I went to the room, took off my clothes and headed out to explore the bathhouse and hopefully hook up with a suitable man. I went past the shower area and came across the sauna. I decided to go in and found it empty. I sat for a while by myself and after about 15 minutes or so I was pretty hot and sweaty so I decided to go back to the showers and get cleaned up. After I washed I decided to head back to the sauna.

This time the sauna was not empty. There were two men in it. One at the far end of the sauna and one sitting on a bench just inside the door. I decided to sit down next to the man sitting on the bench just inside the door. Out of the corner of my eye I could see that he was touching his cock. The man at the other end of the sauna could see this and decided to leave. I wanted to let the man sitting next to me to know that I was interested in him so I put my hand down to my pubic hair and moved my hand back and forth, careful not to touch my cock. As soon as I did that the man put his hand on my back. That was all the encouragement I needed. I got up from the bench and moved in between his legs. His cock was semi hard and sticking out. I reached out with my left hand and started to gently stroke his cock. It was very large, thick and cut. It felt amazing to actually be touching another man's cock for the first time and feeling his cock get harder and longer in my hand As much as I enjoyed touching his cock I knew I wanted to take him in my mouth so I moved in closer, closed my eyes and took his cock into my mouth. I began to move back and forth on his cock, gently sucking him and paying special attention to the very large head since that was what I enjoyed most when a woman would give me a BJ.. I knew immediately that I could do this, that I didn't hate it and that I actually really liked having him in my mouth. I could feel his cock getting bigger and harder as I sucked him. The idea that someone could come into the sauna and see me giving this man a BJ crossed my mind but I was so into what I was doing I decided I didn't care if someone came into the sauna and saw me sucking this man's cock.
This went on for about five minutes and then the man said we should go to his room. He had become fully erect by then and his cock was about eight or nine inches long and very thick. I said OK and told him I was only interested in giving him a hand job or a blowjob. I wanted him to know I was not at all interested in him fucking me. He said that was fine and off we went to his room.

When we got to his room he laid down on the small cot that was provided. I knelt at the side and leaned over his waist, reached for his cock and resumed sucking him.. After a short time he asked me to lick and suck his balls and he spread his legs so I could move in between them and have access to his balls. Like his cock, his balls were big.. I licked and gently sucked on them for several minutes, slowly stroking his cock as it leaked precum while I was exploring his balls with my tongue and mouth. His cock and balls had a very strong musky masculine smell that oddly really excited me.

I wanted his cock back in my mouth so I started licking and sucking his cock again. I decided after about 15 minutes of this that I wanted to make him cum so I stared sucking his cock with a faster rhythm, paying extra attention to the large mushroom head with my tongue while sucking him. I had one hand on his cock and I cupped and gently rubbed his balls with the other hand. He was breathing harder now and his cock was leaking a constant stream of pre-cum into my mouth. Tasting his pre-cum got me even hotter because I knew he was getting closer to climaxing.

All of a sudden he took both his hands and put them on the back of my head. I sensed that this meant he was about to cum and that he intended to cum in my mouth. I wanted to see what it was like to have a man cum in my mouth so I kept on with my sucking. I felt his cock getting even harder and a few seconds later I. felt his cock spasm and I could feel the pumping motion of his cock ejaculating his cum into my mouth. There were about four or five really good spurts. It was a big load, very thick and very very tasty. I continued sucking until he stopped cumming and swirled the cum around in my mouth before finally swallowing it down. I quickly realized that having him cum in my mouth was something I really liked and that I would want to do this again with other men. The man took his hands off of my head. He thanked me and told me I gave a very good BJ and i left..I could taste and smell his cum for hours afterwards and was glad that I did because it was a great reminder of what I had just done for the rest of the day.

Little did he know that he was my very first BJ and cum swallow.

+1 on all the "Just do it" comments. I'm also pretty sure you'll be really good at it, too. The first time I sucked a guy I was really worried that my lack of experience would be a problem, but I can assure you that it wasn't & my Top complimented me afterwards.

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Originally Posted by awibiguy

I'm in my mid fifties and have been thinking about it for about 10 years. I'm worried about STDs. Everytime I get close to meeting a guy; I shut it down. Any advice on getting over the fear?

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I hear ya. I don"t want to take chances either because I am married.

I go to adult stores that have private booths. Preferably with a glory hole. I only suck with a condom. Not the best but I can feel a cock in my mouth so it works for me.

Sniffies.com is an awesome site you can use anonymously and for free to find guys who want to be sucked. I only look for married, and less active guys who only want to be sucked. That way I can sort though those I want to suck and those I don't. Mostly I don't want them because of them being too active. Then you have to count on about only 15% actually showing up. That is another story.

the first time i was creeped out by it, in high school my friend went to the music room alone... he pulled his dick out and asked me to suck him, i got soo creeped out... i decided to suck his dick, when i put it in my mouth i started liking it... i started sucking him until i made him cum.... after that i wasnt scared anymore it felt normal..

I felt more afraid of my first man kiss. I had no idea if It would turn me on or if I would be repulsed by it. I am happy to say I loved it! As for cock sucking, I had already received a few blow job's from guys so returning the favor was easy.

Never had the chance, but if and when I do I will be really nervous.

When your ready you will know!
Dont push it or let anyone else push you into doing it.
It will happen when it is supposed to and trust me...
You will love it and wonder why it took you so long to try it
Good luck

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Originally Posted by ct_sounder

I hear ya. I don"t want to take chances either because I am married.

I go to adult stores that have private booths. Preferably with a glory hole. I only suck with a condom. Not the best but I can feel a cock in my mouth so it works for me.

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Wish adult stores in my area had booths. As far as I know; they no longer exist.

Wow my first time was with this new guy in town.... we was all drinking getting high.... We was talking about getting pussy.... None at that time.... He jokingly asked me hey can i suck your dick..... I was like yeah whatever.... funny.... well i always wondered what it was like..... So one thing lead to another..... I was back at his place getting my dick sucked..... I was getting close to busting and i said stop let me suck yours.... So i did it like my ex girlfriend did to me.... He said he was close... I let him cum in my mouth....He finished me off in his mouth......

My issue is, someone who I may be around with all the time is knowing if they may be open to it without being bold and bringing it up and hope things dont go the wrong way!.

Ever since the school gym shower room I was interested but too scared to try it so for years just fantasized about it. About 19 years ago in a chat room got talking with a guy. We sent cock photos to each other he wanted to meet. I balked for about 2 months then finely agree to meet. I went to his house nervous and anxious but excited. I knocked on the door he answered it in just a pair of red sheer panties. I followed him in the living room he sat on the sofa. I took my clothes and still soft sat next to him he smiled then surprised and shocked me I never even thought about it. He grabbed the back of my head pulling me to him landing an open mouth kiss tongues in each other's mouth. we made out like school kids. It was different kissing a man with his stubble rubbing on my face. We rubbed each other's cocks then all of a sudden, he stood up. I slide to the edge of the sofa he turned facing me taking his panties off. His cock inches from my face. I reach up and grabbed it jerking it fascinated with his fore skin as I don't have one. His cock head pink his shaft a darker color. I put it in my mouth tasting his sweet percum. I started work his cock in my mouth loving ever inch of his cock till he exploded in my mouth. We would meet every week and I couldn't wait to get his cock in my mouth.

This is my 2 cents. Please feel free to share your thoughts.
Sadly, i got to suck a Duck only once, and I had to give up because he didn?t cum after 30 minutes of deep
throating him.

The only thing that would make me hesitate or fear sucking a cock?
It is the fear of catching a bug. Of course one could say - Why suck a stranger?

Good question, but when do you get to know someone so well that you know he has no bugs to give you?

It's not polite to answer a question with a question but how long would it take you to get to know someone that well? How long would it take for you to trust him? Why suck a stranger? Why not? Oh, that's right: Current belief is that a stranger is guaranteed to infect you, but an FWB won't. When in doubt, either do nothing... or wrap the dick in a condom and get to sucking on it.

The reality is, sex is scary, the unknown is scary.

Think about the first time kissing a girl. the excitement, the build up, the nerves. Will you kiss good enough, how do you know when, how much tongue is too much tongue.

Then the first time you had sex with a girl, you were probably so excited at the thought of getting it in.

Now, you have been hetero all your life, you have these feelings and desires and not sure what to do with them. You have been told most of the time, find a nice girl, have a family, maybe you have one.

And now you are thinking about giving a blow job to another guy, of course the first time is scary, thats normal.

Dont let anyone push you, on your own time, when you are ready and it will be much better............just doing it to get it over with, many times wont make it what you want

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Originally Posted by KDaddy23

It's not polite to answer a question with a question but how long would it take you to get to know someone that well? How long would it take for you to trust him? Why suck a stranger? Why not? Oh, that's right: Current belief is that a stranger is guaranteed to infect you, but an FWB won't. When in doubt, either do nothing... or wrap the dick in a condom and get to sucking on it.

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you are absolutely correct.. that?s exactly why I haven?t sucked a dick in 8 years.
in my experience, be it a duck or fuck.. ask the other guy if he has test results to share, and they?ll disappear before you can say ?hello?!

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Originally Posted by dowmass

you are absolutely correct.. that?s exactly why I haven?t sucked a dick in 8 years.
in my experience, be it a duck or fuck.. ask the other guy if he has test results to share, and they?ll disappear before you can say ?hello?!

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Of course. Test results require a visit to a medical facility and professional - and that means telling them that, gasp, you have sex with men and need to be tested! Answering questions like what kind of sex; how long you have been having sex with men; very personal shit that a lot of guys aren't of a mind to reveal. If there's no facility that'll do such a test for free, fuck, I've seen what my routine blood work costs and if you don't have decent insurance, you could be paying that yourself. Two reasons why if you mention sharing test results, it's an instant deal breaker and you're being ghosted so fast you might wonder if you were actually talking to someone.

If this aspect of things scares the shit out of you, unless you wrap a dick in a condom, you're not going to be sucking any dick because a lot of guys are scared of having to ask to be tested and the cost of lab work if you have inadequate or no insurance can give you a bad case of sticker shock. Just because a guy has no test results to show you doesn't mean he's dirty, but some will assume that he is and using some faulty logic like, "If he was clean, he wouldn't be afraid to get tested!" If it's going to take you weeks or months (or longer) to get to know a guy and be able to trust him, well, just think of how many times you could have been sucking his dick while you were trying to decide if you could trust him so you could suck his dick.

And if you can't trust your own judgement, you're shit out of luck.

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Originally Posted by KDaddy23

Of course. Test results require a visit to a medical facility and professional - and that means telling them that, gasp, you have sex with men and need to be tested! Answering questions like what kind of sex; how long you have been having sex with men; very personal shit that a lot of guys aren't of a mind to reveal. If there's no facility that'll do such a test for free, fuck, I've seen what my routine blood work costs and if you don't have decent insurance, you could be paying that yourself. Two reasons why if you mention sharing test results, it's an instant deal breaker and you're being ghosted so fast you might wonder if you were actually talking to someone.

If this aspect of things scares the shit out of you, unless you wrap a dick in a condom, you're not going to be sucking any dick because a lot of guys are scared of having to ask to be tested and the cost of lab work if you have inadequate or no insurance can give you a bad case of sticker shock. Just because a guy has no test results to show you doesn't mean he's dirty, but some will assume that he is and using some faulty logic like, "If he was clean, he wouldn't be afraid to get tested!" If it's going to take you weeks or months (or longer) to get to know a guy and be able to trust him, well, just think of how many times you could have been sucking his dick while you were trying to decide if you could trust him so you could suck his dick.

And if you can't trust your own judgement, you're shit out of luck.

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You have some wonderful insights into human psychology. In Dallas where I live, there are more cock suckers than cocks to suck. There are a few places where Testing is free, and people are treated respectfully. But then the question is WHY SHOULD I TAKE THE TROUBLE TO TEST??
Besides if this dude doesn?t trust me when I say I am DDF, why should I care? There are dozens waiting to suck my dick.
Maybe I am just being ?Yoo careful? and that doesn?t help.

I'm one of those people who has to know why something works the way it does and this is included. I have listened to hundreds of guys talk about why they're afraid to suck cock and the disease card gets pulled out and slammed onto the table and as a matter of course. It is something that, well, if you're going to have sex with anyone, you're accepting a modicum of risk and the problem is not being able to really discern who is a walking science project and who isn't.

You can adopt, "Trust but verify..." and in a sexual world that's dominated by instant gratification. You can ask for test results but, yeah, you read what I wrote about that and the answer to why you should be bothered to get tested is that you aren't stupid and if you can't trust other men, you still have to speak the truth when you say that the only thing you're infected with is a bad case of being crazy horny for a hard cock. I'm also betting that in a city the size of Dallas - and I've been there 'too many times', there are a lot of cocks to be sucked but it's not all that easy to find them and if you're looking for a specific kind of guy to ply your oral skills upon, you're passing up an untold number of men you could be sucking but if you're pathologically afraid of catching something - and you believe that if you get into casually sucking guys off it's a guarantee that you will be infected with everything out there - then you're not going to be able to find a dick to suck.

I tell the story of the guy I've been mentoring for a few years now and how he insisted on getting an FWB (or several of them) because it would be safer than just having sex with any old guy on Grindr and the other apps. He got to be FWB with a really nice guy... and one who infected him not once but three times. See, I told him that putting that kind of trust in an FWB doesn't make sense because if your FWB isn't with you all of the time, um, how do you know where his dick has been or who's been in his ass? He trusted his FWB even though there were red flags flying everywhere including a reluctance to get STD tested and being totally dishonest about who else he was sleeping with casually or otherwise.

If you think an FWB is the safest way to go, you might want to rethink that but it remains true that if you decide to have sex with anyone, you run the risk of possibly getting infected... which is why you see your doctor, tell him or her about your sexual activity with men (or women if they're on your menu) and be tested accordingly so that, if nothing else, you are free of the bad stuff - and you have the lab results to prove it.

If there are dozens out there waiting to suck your dick, then you should be about letting them suck it so you can talk them into letting you suck theirs. Are you being too careful? Yes, and so are a lot of guys who have the same concerns you do but if you let those concerns keep making decisions for you - and when you damned well know how to protect yourself - guess what you're not going to be doing? So, yeah - if the dude you're trying to bed doesn't trust you, to hell with him - move on to the next guy and it's just my opinion but if you're one of those "no-recip" guys, um, you might want to rethink that and put yourself "on the list" of guys who want their dick sucked and, again, giving you the chance to talk him into letting you return the favor.

Sometimes, it's not about knowing why things work the way they do but finding out why they don't work the way they could work, and this is just one of many reasons why guys looking to suck the soul out of a guy are sitting on the bench and not sucking cock.

Oh, before I fuck around and forget this. One of the things I learned about test results - and thanks to that period of time when HIV/AIDS were killing people left and right - is that you go to the lab, give them the blood/urine needed for the tests and you get the results that says you have zero STIs/STDs and no trace of HIV... at the time the samples were tested. Does it mean that you're clean and safe to have sex with, say, a month later? You could be but I wouldn't assume that but if you tell me that you've tested negative for anything and I feel that I can trust and believe you, we're going to be spending the day sucking each other off and if I have a reason to get tested before my usual testing - and I see something that's not supposed to be there - I'll let you know so you can get retested and treated and I'm not going to be pissed off because if I've learned nothing about having sex, it's that it's always been risky. Always.

When in doubt, either do nothing... or wrap the dicks in a condom so both of you can be safe.