Finally coming out to myself after repressing my desire since teen years-
im gay and cd and will always crave cock
i love it
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Finally coming out to myself after repressing my desire since teen years-
im gay and cd and will always crave cock
i love it
Years back I in need of relief so i went to a place where I could receive a blow job. I was married but fighting
,with wife all the time Anyway i afterwards felt shame. I had been brought up that sex with men was wrong and bad.
After a few weeks i did it again .I went over and over always feeling bad afterwards but needing to cum i finally one afternoon
Sucked myfirst. cock and loved it. Now a new me had evolved. I was a cock sucker. I sucked guys often swallowed most times.
Next i began to want and suck multiple guys each time and love it. .i was supposed to be ashamed of these actions but no longer
was. I needed it wanted itso have been giving and receiving. many years.I am in the closet. I will want and suck guys when I can .. I am p happy to be a cock sucker .
People tend to overthink sex. It's not complicated. We all have an innate desire to be pleased and to please. The most fascinating thing I've learned is that when you have another man's cock in your mouth, you are in control. Yes... you desire the pleasure of being given the opportunity suck his cock, but you also have a responsibility to give pleasure.
The moment he puts his penis in your mouth, there is trust. He is literally trusting you with his life, and you are trusting that he will reward you with a mouth full of cum. It's a lesson that we all learn.
Darn I wish there was a like button on here. Exactly this.Quote:
Originally Posted by jjourneyman
For me its not complicated, I enjoy sex with people sucking cock is just part of the sex act, and is something I enjoy doing; so there was not cuming to terms with it for me
I am constantly thinking about this. I am pretty closeted but am to indulge from time to time. I really enjoy cock sucking most but it is something I am "dealing" with because I must be closeted. I m not homophobic or bi-phobic but I realize I'm colouring outside the lines by indulging in this. Cheating. Doesn't feel good. But it also - often - keeps me less stress3d as a husband and father. A surprise to me. But it seems to be balancing out. This is not what I was thinking the life balance would be for me but there it is. I cant NOT do it. I am so very turned on by the feeling of submitting to having a penis in my mouth. It feels like a submission to let this guy pump in your mouth. very hot.
I hope that cock sucking helps me with balance and my stress . I think about it a lot these days and have some plans to try sucking again this monthQuote:
Originally Posted by stephmtl
Took me a long time to admit to myself that I’m a cocksucker. Life was much easier once I did. Admitting it to myself also helped with the urge to suck, at least to some degree. I’m not out about it other than to wife and men I have been with but also wouldn’t try to hide it I was found out. Having a hard cock in my mouth and his hand on the back of my head feels like a natural place for me to be.
I think every guy has a masculine and feminine side of him. My feminine side used to bother me, the feeling of being weak, submissive, not assertive. It can be a source of frustration and self-hate and make you feel depressed if you treat it as a negative thing. When I realized I was a cocksucker, it gave me an outlet for these negative or "feminine" qualities in me and turned them into positive things. All of these things that I saw as shortcomings as a man, are strengths as a cocksucker. All of those things that I'm missing are filled by another man's masculine energy to complete me. I want to be submissive, I want to take orders, I want to feel like I'm not in control. I want the warmth and comfort of somebody making the decisions for me, telling me what to do, making me do something and I just have to go along with it. Sucking cock as an activity rewards these feelings with pleasure and satisfaction. As a man, sucking cock sometimes feels degrading and that I'm inferior, but as a cocksucker, I feel empowered because these are the traits I need to pleasure a man well. Feeling his hand on the back of my head pushing me towards his dick because he needs something from me would anger a real man, but it sends tingles down my spine and because I'm a cocksucker, I get aroused and turned on by this energy controlling me.
There are only two roles: the man that gets his dick sucked and the one that sucks it. When both men know their roles deeply, it is a harmonious and bonding act. I've accepted my role as the cocksucker. It's just like being on a sports team, when all the guys know their roles and accept them, they are successful. Respecting who the leader is and playing your role brings you happiness and peace. When it comes to men, the symbolic "alpha male" is my leader. He's the one with the bigger dick, the more assertive personality, the selfish confidence of being a man and getting what he wants from life. That's not me, and that's ok. I don't need to compete with a man like this, I'll never win. I admire his masculine energy, but I don't need to have it myself. I'm comfortable to just be near and around it, it's intoxicating to feel him channel that energy and direct it towards me. That's the closest I'll be to him and that's fine, because it's my role.
A man has to do manly things to be brave and feel proud of himself. As a cocksucker, I have my own bravery. I feel brave to let a man use me, to let him push his cock down my throat until there's tears in my eyes and I'm gagging. To feel his thick dick slapped all over my face and beating me up. To obey his orders and feel like I have no choice. I feel brave when I open my mouth for him with a mixed feeling of fear and excitement, but ultimately I commit and let him blow a big load of his sperm in my mouth. In life, men often experience the peer pressure feeling of "don't be a pussy!" to do something outside of their comfort zone. Maybe that's jumping into a freezing pool, or skydiving, or winning a fight. I can't get myself to do those things. But I enjoy being with dominant alpha men that give me that same feeling when I'm sucking cock, especially when they're going to cum. Knowing that they are forcing me to do something so filthy, to empty the sperm from their sack into my mouth, challenging me to man up and be brave. I personally love when he shoots a thick and salty load, maybe even a bit bitter sometimes. A load with a heaviness and strong taste to it. What's more important is feeling the energy that he is totally in control and that I feel the peer pressure of not "being a pussy." I get turned on by the mixed feelings and anxiety about swallowing it all. The feeling of pushing through and eating it all ultimately gives me immense satisfaction and I feel proud that I was able to do it.
I understand that some cocksuckers feel like the dominant one in the act and that they are taking something from a man for themselves, but I enjoy the feeling of being the receiver and being given something by him. That's just my relationship with why I suck.
You share my own feelings exactly. I enjoy sex? simple as that. I put no labels on any of it. I love a woman?s body and can immerse myself in every single act of pleasure imaginable. That seems to be a comfortable area for everyone. But also, I find eroticism in being with another male, and enjoying every aspect of sex as well. Masculine Feminine? labels. To really enjoy another person open to just doing what we all know feels so wonderful? Pussy, cock, ass, tits, kissing, anal, embracing, all are amazing! I?ll go down on a woman and for me it?s bliss! Having her pull my head so that I don?t stop until she cums over and over? that?s what dreams are made of. Do the same on a cock, enjoying every inch, enjoying the head of a cock in my mouth while feeling him writhing and then shooting into my mouth or on my face, oh that is true joy. For me, it?s a shame to waste so much pleasure and excitement over? a label. I?m happy to be the open person I am.Quote:
Originally Posted by bnicks122016
I'm completely comfortable with being a cocksucker in my private life. If someone wants to say I'm not coming to terms with being a cocksucker because I don't tell everybody about my private sexual life, so be it. I enjoy getting on my knees and giving myself to a man to use for his sexual pleasure. It's an incredible thrill, and there's no reason for anyone to know that, except for me and the guy who's cum I'm swallowing.
very hot. articulates very well my feelings exactly. thanks for this thread/read!Quote:
Originally Posted by camelblue
Coming to terms that I am a cocksucker was a slow process. I had started secretly admiring and envying other better equipped guys but never took any action on it. Later, during the last years of being a teenager and finally experiencing the delights of the opposite sex, I continued to envy guys who had a definite impact on all the pretty young ladies! What was their magnetism about? Then during a couple early relationships, I noticed my gfs lose interest in what I could not get enough of and graviate, openly or secretly, to other men. It bothered me of course, but also intrigued me. I was asking myself why I was not extremely mad at the other guy, but at the same time accepted it as a given. Some guys have it, what exactly, I did not know. By this time, I had been introduced on a lark by a buddy to porn shops with booths. I responded appropriately by saying it was disgusting, but somehow knew I would venture back on my own. Venturing back found me dressing skimpy, tiny shorts that were appropriate back then, T-shirt, shoes, nothing else. I enjoyed stripping off in the booths, in private and stealing glances into the adjacent booth if I could. Wow. First I saw one, then another guy. They easily dwarfed my 3.25 inch hard on. I was intrigued. My adventures and curiosity also took me to the adult theaters that still existed back then. Oh my god. What were some of the guys doing? I could not believe it. I stayed away from the back walls or other active areas, but could not help notice how well endowed some guys were. Enjoying my foreplay, I was sitting very much alone and isolated from the others fully naked, except for shoes (yuck), when a true experienced gentleman introduced me to the world of cock sucking. He sat one seat over from me, which petrified me. How could I hide being naked? His eyes would adjust eventually. Long story short, he approached me patiently, stroking me, getting me very very hard, then stopped, unzipped, got me interested in him, and gently and patiently had me sucking him in short time, till he emptied into my mouth. The whole time I was asking myself if I was ok with sucking cock and well, from that day on, I love pleasuring bigger men, especially if they mention it!
I don't think there is any "coming to terms" about it. Once you do you know.
Knowing and accepting are two different things. I fought myself like crazy for the first 20+ years, I HATED what hormones did to me, and I hated myself because of it. I still had no choice, you can choose not to have sex, but it's a lot harder to "choose" who you fall in love with.
People who NEED rigid rules in their life HATE the idea of gender flexibility but it's such a relief to me to know that young people these days are at least able to TALK about it .. maybe they won't have to WASTE all the time and energy I did.
I spent a bit of time chastising dickhead trolls on Quora .. all those guys who like "the good old days"
Like where were you when all this happened to me? You didn't even know about it because we all deny it even exists? Moral purity bullshit. The "good old days" may have been simpler if you think it's okay to fuck anything with a skirt but not all of us fit into that category. Maybe simpler, not all that good. So many people confuse "Ozzy and Harriet" sitcoms on TV with real life.
I have been a cocksucker all my adult life, beginning as a teenager at the tender age of 15, sucking my best friend Larry's HUGE cock at least once a day and frequently 2 or even 3 times that same day. I was INSATIABLE!!!! He was very aggressive and conditioned me into accepting his thick cock all the way down my throat. I was unable to breathe while being throat fucked like this, but I loved the way that his cock felt deep in my throat and the slutty way that doing it made me feel. I love being a Cocksucker!! I like being seen and watched by others while I'm down on my knees, sucking cock, wondering what they must be thinking of me for allowing myself to be "used" in this degrading fashion. I like giving blowjobs to groups of men, one after another.
has your wife accepted your cocksucking yet ?
As you can see from the number of replies here, you are not alone!
I was so fucking confused during my teen and early adult years about my bisexuality. I'm a masculine guy and I really couldn't understand my desire to suck cock. The first time I did it I "didn't know whether to shit or go blind" as the old saying goes. It took a long time for me to chill out, forgive myself and accept my bisexuality. When I finally did, it brought real peace.
After being corerced to sucking a cock when I was young, never thought about it again until Jr High, when me and a couple school friends started 'experimenting'. Turned out out of our group of 4, I seemed to 'really' enjoy the fun rather than just getting off. This the early 70's, so no one wanted to get labeled cocksucker. So, got a girlfriend, forgot about cock (kinda), got married, divorced, later married again. During the 2nd marriage, I did get out to bookstores on occasion, suck or got sucked a very few times, got with a couple different guys I knew once each. Always that guilty feeling after. Got married for a 3rd time (go figure). We started swinging a bit, couples first, then mfm fun. After a few mfms, i gave fucklicking a try, kept getting cock shoved in my mouth - brought back the "feeling", lol. My wife isn't bi 'at all' and pretty much does not like male bi, i brought up what had happened with our friend and me getting cock shoved in my mouth after the mfm. She was netural in her response, which I took as a positive. When we found another mfm friend, i asked and found he enjoyed some bi play too. Our 2nd time with him, she'd been sucking him, turned to kiss me, after kissing, his cock beside my face, I just went down on it. In a minute, we were both sucking his cock (great fun, btw). Going home afterwards, she told me how hot both of us sucking him made her. Win/win! But, having my wife's hand on his cock, watching me with his cock in my mouth, that was the moment I "came to terms with being a cocksucker" I guess. Was a good feeling
I haven't thought much about being a cocksucker. I just know that when I'm in a situation where I'm expected to suck a cock that I get on my knees and do the job. When I meet a guy in a bar and agree to go home with him it's an unspoken agreement that I will suck his cock. It doesn't make much difference if he sucks my cock or not because I know what I want to do with his cock. I must have known right from the start because when I was offered a cock for the first time I sucked it without any hesitation!
ATTABOY!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by happymouthandtongue
I have all those feelings and tinglings!
I've come to terms that I love sucking cock. I sucked my 25 year old side guy for the 4th time now 2 weeks ago. He wears a jock strap and has a very nice cock. He told me to KISS his cock through his jockstrap and I complied. Jerked him too. I'm hooked and will suck cock to the day I die. Now I need to create a network of guys I can suck on a regular. I'm working on 2 other guys atm. Looks promising
I want to suck cock for a few reasons:
1. Being "straight" and married to a woman, I shouldn't be sucking dick.
2. I enjoy sneaking around in order to play, and be with a guy is huge rush.
3. There's something about being between a guy's legs, with his cock in your mouth.
4. I enjoy the fact that I suck dick better than my wife, and I try to suck dick how I want her to suck me.
5. It's a rush thinking about my wife while there's a cock in my mouth.
i'm a very masculine man , so sucking cock took me years to accept . i had the strong urge to do it , but after the fact i felt terribly guilty about it. after a long time i finally accepted the fact that i love cock as well as pussy. i told my wife after many years and she was very surprised , because we had a great sex life. she loves me very much , so she is ok with my being bi. she knows when i go out for cock and doesn't say a word. i know i'm a lucky man.
You and I are in the same camp. I have a very sexy, gorgeous and always-horny wife, and many men would give their left nut to be with her and the thought of sucking cock would be the last thing on their minds. But, my desire to suck cock has only increased in the years we’ve been together. I never used to do this, but now I find myself thinking about cock when I have sex with her. When she sucks me, it turns me on to watch her and imagine what I look like when sucking cock. Even when I fuck her, I often think about guys I’ve sucked or am planning to suck. Maybe it’s just a phase, but I think I’m finally accepting the fact that, in spite of my love and desire for all things female, I also love the whole experience of sucking and man’s cock and balls, giving him an amazing blow job, and swallowing his sperm. I would never want to be intimate with a man on another level l, but there is something tribal about this experience. If my wife found out, she would be disgusted and divorce me in a heartbeat. I’m not happy about doing this behind her back, but now that I’ve accepted my status as a full-blown cocksucker l, I can’t resist the opportunity when it arises.Quote:
Originally Posted by DLazguy
My wife would also divorce me if she found out. I'm not submissive or want to be in a romantic relationship with a guy, I just like how sexual most guys are. I like watching my wife sucking me and thinking to myself, "If you only knew that I've sucked dick, and better than you". The sneaking around (especially with a guy) is such a rush.
Re: Coming to terms with being a cocksucker?
I have never had an issue or coming to terms with being a cocksucker. I knew from the moment I first touched another man's cock and proceeded to give him a BJ that I loved sucking cock and having a man cum in my mouth and swallowing his cum. I was bi-curious when I gave my first BJ to a man and that led me to wanting to see what it was like to receive a blowjob from a man so a few months later I went to a bathhouse in West Hollywood and hooked up with a man who gave me my first male on male BJ. It was the most intense blowjob and orgasm I had ever had to that point and after he had me cum in his mouth I gladly and enthusiastically returned the favor. Sucking a man's cock, sucking and licking his balls and having him cum in my mouth and swallowing his load after I have savored the taste of his cum is my favorite thing to do with a man.
In the last few years, I've been coming to terms with being a cocksucker/bottom.
I'm in a straight marriage and love my wife and women. I would usually meet up with a guy in order to have him suck me off real quick and then I'd go about my straight life. A few years ago, I decided that I wanted to relax and embrace my bi side in order for me to thoroughly enjoy it. I stopped worrying about what the guy I was playing with thought about me (being a cocksucker, gay, etc.). I know, it's weird to worry about someone thinking I'm gay while they're sucking me or I'm sucking them, but that's where I was. Now, I want to meet up with a guy and take my time and worship his cock. I like both of us to be completely naked (I like seeing the guy's body. Kind of like, yep I'm sucking a man's cock). I used to watch straight porn and hookup with women for one night stands or affairs. Now I only watch gay or trans porn, enjoying the long, thick cocks, in hopes of finding one similar to put in my mouth. My sex life with my wife is great, but I want what I can't get at home, cock. My wife sucks me often and she's gotten better, but she's not that good. I enjoy the fact that she doesn't know that I suck cock or that I suck cock better than her. I know I'm better because I enjoy it more. She says that she enjoys sucking me, but I love sneaking around to have a cock in my mouth. I've met up with a guy and we sucked each other off on my way home from work. Unfortunately, I didn't swallow. However, I did enjoy going home and deeply kissing my wife after having my mouth full of cum. I hope to find a fwb in order to have more frequent hookups, so I can give my wife more cum kisses.
I'm masculine and do not/would not enjoy being feminized or humiliated by another guy.