Printable View
Same here, my wife is ok with a guy sucking my dick but would flip out if another woman did it.Quote:
Originally Posted by abc123jd
As for how I feel, it all depends on who I spent my time with. If it's a casual one-time thing, I feel like crap, but if it's an FWB and an ongoing thing I feel just fine.
The wife and I haven't had regular sex in about five years. At one point, when I think she began to suspect my bi urges, she calmly said that she thought it was a natural progression for some men to have gay fantasies when they get older. This made me feel like it would be okay to hook up occasionally, but haven't gotten (made) the opportunity yet. But boy, did she call that one right!
When I get home from an encounter with a guy and all went well, ( usually does as we only play together ) I am in a happy, up beat mood. My wife usually asks how was your night and then wants details of the night. This usually leads to us having sex. My play friend is also married and his wife is in the loop as well, sometimes with him or me doing a mfm with the others spouse.
Damn it's nice being bi
I don’t think it’s necessarily an age thing. I think if I were to have had continued, frequent and satisfactory sex with my wife, I’d be less inclined to think about, and act on, my bisexual urges.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bicyclist
Bet when there’s no outlet, you start to think about other ways to get satisfaction.
I think there's something to be said for the age thing. When I was younger I think I would have been more inclined to seek out another woman for sex. The thought of being with a guy would never have occurred to me. As I've gotten older, my thoughts have turned more toward being with a man rather than a woman. Don't know why it happened but it did happen.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Christopher South
That's also been my experience.Quote:
Originally Posted by Havasmoke
My wife still wants and enjoys sex, and I still enjoy it with her. But I have become enamored with everything to do with oral sex, and she's only given me token attention to blowjobs. It's clear that she doesn't really like to suck cock. For me, there's no blowjob better than one given by someone who loves to suck, and I've come to believe that another man is more likely to want me in his mouth than a woman. That also makes me a better cocksucker than a lot of women -- I like doing it, and want to fully satisfy the recipient!
i wonder how much older guys admitting to like other guys, has to do with just being older & more mature enough to accept bisexuality, than actually liking guys as u get older. so there might be young guys who are bi but the can't or wont admit there bi even to themselves but, as they get older they just accept it & able to embrace it.
Maybe but that has not been my experience. The thought of being with a man when I was younger was abhorrent. I would have been grossed out thinking about it. No interest at all. Now, very curious. Not sure what changed...
Quote:
Originally Posted by sysper
I think that there are a lot of possible scenarios here, as is evidenced by the last couple of posts. All my life, I've harbored a secret desire to be a girl, which is at the heart of my love of nylon & lingerie. But I've always recognized the biology and accepted being male. (Accepting reality -- something missing from a lot of people these days...)
Living most of my life basically as an 'All-American boy', I never developed an attraction to men in any way, and never consciously considered sexual activity with one, despite being very interested in the world of kink throughout they years. If anything, I thought of myself as kind of a 'male lesbian' -- in other words, I was a guy who felt somewhat feminine inside, but still wanted to be with women -- not men!
Yeah, that's pretty screwed up, I guess. But the bottom line is, I am now comfortable being bisexual, as a result of exposure and experimentation. This wasn't in me in my youth, it has come on with age/maturity.
I din't see it in myself until my late 30's. Looking back, I remember some thoughts that only went part way towards bi, but as a shy guy with little confidence the thoughts never materialized. Now, it's all I can think about, even with a full sex life with my wife and when she gives me an awesome BJ - I only wish I could be doing it to another guy at the same time.
i guess it goes to show ur sexuality can change overtime.......before my early 20's i was never honestly into it either. even though i had a hard time seeing myself as a guy who might be into guys. unitl 1 day i just had the urge. i guess i could of worked hard to deny it, but i didn't i was just confused. now still working to figure it all out lol........Quote:
Originally Posted by Havasmoke
As a side note to this thread, for those of you who are married and out or considering being out to your spouse, there are several helpful and supportive online groups for straight, non-straight and both members of Mixed Orientation Marriges (MOMs).
There is one publically created site http://alternatepaths.net/ which has information and links to the best known online groups.
The holidays can be a difficult time, and research reminds us constantly that bisexuals tend to suffer more that other LGBTQIA+ sub groups. Please, if you are struggling, know you are not alone and there is support.
Happy holidays, and here's to the new year,
Al
This mirrors my sexual evolution/orientation exactly, but I wouldn't consider it screwed up. The more we understand how complex human sexual makeup can be, the more I believe this kind of behavior is more common than previously thought. I also believe that the internet's expanding of gender 'boundaries' has already begun to shape what may be considered acceptable and normal by the next generations. I just wish I had found a person like silkyhose sooner to 'talk' about things and share latent desires with. (Yeah, I'm horny, but can't help it.)Quote:
Originally Posted by silkyhoselover
I've actually progressed to the point of being proud to admit (to myself) that I now really am attracted to other men and want to learn how to be the best lover I can be. I'm jealous of all the bisexuals out there who figured this out at a much younger age.
Don't know if I'm ready to use a term such as 'pride' when considering my current state of evolution, but I am certainly accepting and comfortable with it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bicyclist
And, for the first time, I'm ready to admit being actually attracted to a man, who I plan to play with tomorrow. Made contact with him through SilverDaddies and we've exchanged quite a few substantive emails and images. Met him at coffee last week, and we hit it off quickly. He's 4 years younger than I, in good shape and quite handsome. In previous situations, I'd be thinking "I really don't see anything in this guy, but I'll change my mind and get excited when we get naked together..."
This time, it's different. I can't wait to see him and get my hands and mouth on him!
I also wish that I'd discovered this freedom to enjoy bisexuality decades ago. I have a lot of lost time to make up for, and don't have that many good years remaining to do it! :upside:
lol i also really wish i had discovered this freedom decades ago too. my 20's were such a struggle to understand my sexuality, but mostly i think to accept it & be at peace with it. not that i'm completely over it now lol but at least i'm more comfortable accepting i could enjoy the hell out of spending the nite with a guy & that is perfectly fine! but wish i had this attitude when i was younger, it was so much easier to have casual & experemental sex plus i would have that much more experiance by now. i think most of my friends would even be supportive......who knows maybe 1 or 2 would be a little bit more than supportive;)Quote:
Originally Posted by silkyhoselover
I always love sucking cock and swallowing a nice warm load it's important to me. I've been sucking cock for decades now and I will continue to do so....my partner knows I'm Bi but doesn't know how much cock I suck.
After a nice long sweaty session with a guy, I go home satisfied and relaxed. Like some of the other guys, I'm actually still horny but for pussy and not cock.
I recently came out to my wife, it went better then I thought. Right now we are in a wait and see mode.
She has went so far as to buy me some sexy panties and even through out all my male underwear.
That is awesome, hope to meet ya sometime.....
last year i came out to my wife too. it also went better than i thought it would . but she never bought me panties. she must REALLY want to see you fucked by another guy. sounds like you will be having a lot of fun from now on !let us know how it goes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bottomhubby
I'm married and I've had sex several times with guys and I haven't felt guilty. It's a pleasure to screw a guys ass and cum, but now I want to have a guy fuck my ass and I want her to watch, weird how I feel but that's the truth.
It's not weird Sammy. I hope you get to do it.
Just did this Saturday night! After some other activities she put me on all fours, then told him she wanted him to fuck my ass, which he did and unloaded inside me while she watched. It was hot!
I would come out to my wife in a heartbeat if I knew she would buy panties for me. Too bad this is just a dream...Quote:
Originally Posted by Bottomhubby
Why and what I do with men is completely different than what and why I do with my wife. There is no guilt, shame, or remorse. Sometimes I come home horny. But I always feel fine.Quote:
Originally Posted by Havasmoke