Are your sexual fantasies usually straight or bisexual?

I fantasize about men more than I do women, but I think thats at least partly because of how long I've gone (decades) without any sexual contact with men.

Upon further reflection I realized my fantasies aren't simply gay in nature, they're kinky! I never had much experience with BDSM but then as a bi man who came to acceptance of his orientation late in life perhaps it's not surprising that my interest in kink is also a recent development. Guess I'm just a late bloomer...lol.

When I watch porn it's 95% straight porn, mostly lesbian porn. But when I masturbate without porn, I usually fantasize about being used orally by a bunch of old, uncut guys. But that's just one of many fantasies. About 1/2 are about women, the other half about men.

They are equal parts gay, straight and transsexual.

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Originally Posted by voltaire

That's not the style of Jesuitry I know but Annika is a keen analytical thinker and has a wonderful sense of humor.

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Actually, it is the style of Jesuitry I was exposed to (ooh, now that sounds dirty, doesn't it?)...and ty *blush* on the rest. :love87:

I have always fantasized about having oral sex with either a man, a woman, or both at the same time. So I guess my fantasies are bisexual in nature.

i'm a man. i'd say about 75% of my sexual fantasies are about me. i like pussy, but lately its been all about the cocks

I identify as a bisexual man. I enjoy sex with both genders. However for close to the last 10 years my fantasies and dreams have been with the same sex. Plus my sex partners for the last ten years have been men.

My fantasies have been bisexual and also with my wife watching.Next month maybe somthing else.

"Are your sexual fantasies usually straight or bisexual?"

..Yes..

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Originally Posted by Annika L

Actually, it is the style of Jesuitry I was exposed to (ooh, now that sounds dirty, doesn't it?)...and ty *blush* on the rest. :love87:

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Glad to make you blush. I think it is all true

This mostly depends on my mood but it tends to swing towards my bisexual side most of the time.

I am most definitely a bi-sexual male. After reading some of these posts I am leaking like the Titanic. I just wish my wife felt the same. ( maybe she does) as she is aware that I would drop to my knees in a New York minute. Just not in her presents.

Both!...sorta. My fantasy is to watch several hung guys fuck my wife while I watch and jackoff. I wouldn't have a problem if one or two of them came over to me and let me suck her juices off their big cocks

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Originally Posted by like2bepegged

My fantasies have been bisexual and also with my wife watching.Next month maybe somthing else.

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My biggest fantasy is sharing a cock with my wife just both eager to please him and share his cum:bigrin:

Both I really want to eat creampie lick pussy and cock while another guy fucks my wife

Since this thread has resurfaced, I figured I would say again that it is unclear what is meant by a "bisexual fantasy". Perhaps one involving sex with both men and women.

It feels like it is meant to indicate "involves sex with the same sex as the fantasizer", and my only point there is that that is a *homosexual* fantasy; not a bisexual fantasy.

A person may be bisexual by virtue of having, desiring to act out, and/or acting out *both* straight and homosexual fantasies (along with perhaps the occasional bisexual fantasy as described above, lol).

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Originally Posted by Annika L

I would say pretty close to 50/50 for me...but with either increasingly more, or increasingly intense fantasies about men (I'm in a long term relationship with a female partner).

But I must say to the OP that "bisexual" is not the opposite of "straight". Having sex with the same sex isn't bisexual, it's homosexual. *Desiring* both kinds of sex is bisexual. I don't know if a fantasy can be "bisexual", unless it's of a 3+some with at least yourself plus another man and woman (and you participate eagerly with both)...but I somehow don't think you meant anything that specific.

You might ask why I'm splitting hairs like this. I gotta say it's because I feel like my kind of relationship gets somewhat slighted by these kinds of discussions...basically, your language is heteronormative, and I feel a need to point it out. From my perspective, the analog of your question would be "Are your sexual fantasies usually homosexual or bisexual?"...by your (apparent) meaning of bisexual, this should mean the exact same thing as your original question. But I think we'd all agree that it doesn't *sound* the same at all...but this is only due to heteronormative assumptions that fantasies about the opposite sex can't possibly be bisexual...but they can, if you allow that perfectly normal (bisexual) people can be in homosexual relationships, just like perfectly normal (bisexual) people can be in heterosexual relationships. The best solution is to not use "bisexual" to mean "with the sex opposite that of your partner", and use it to mean what it really means...and to be ok with using "homosexual" and "heterosexual" to mean what they really mean.

Meh...*steps off the soapbox*

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Interesting, and somewhat arousing. I could fantasize licking your pussy while you stand on the soapbox and, er, split your hairs :)

Seriously, though, I had an interesting thought while reading this, which is that my fantasies of men are almost always of married men, and I'm most aroused by men who are sexually active with women. Rarely is the woman present, but the fact that the cock that I fantasize exploding in my mouth is regularly lubricated by his partner's vagina is definitely part of my arousal, and often an image that puts me over the edge. So I would call that a bisexual fantasy, because although the fantasy (and reality) is a homosexual act, the heterosexual component of the object of my attraction is decisive.

Can we have a scholarly opinion on this? Perhaps from a Jesuit who likes married men?

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Originally Posted by whispering

Interesting, and somewhat arousing. I could fantasize licking your pussy while you stand on the soapbox and, er, split your hairs :)

Seriously, though, I had an interesting thought while reading this, which is that my fantasies of men are almost always of married men, and I'm most aroused by men who are sexually active with women. Rarely is the woman present, but the fact that the cock that I fantasize exploding in my mouth is regularly lubricated by his partner's vagina is definitely part of my arousal, and often an image that puts me over the edge. So I would call that a bisexual fantasy, because although the fantasy (and reality) is a homosexual act, the heterosexual component of the object of my attraction is decisive.

Can we have a scholarly opinion on this? Perhaps from a Jesuit who likes married men?

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i understand how this can be a bisexual fantasy even if it's not directly bisexual...........my "bisexual" fantasy is being with a man while a women watches especially if it's my wife/gf if i had 1, or his wife/gf. or if such a women encourages me to be with a man even if she has no intention of watching or any direct participation.

Hmmm when I think about giving, I think about sucking cock and being ass fucked. When I think about fucking, I think about mouths and ass, no matter what gender. I'm a sadist too so I'm an equal opportunity abuser if it's consensual. I must say tho, today, I really consider cunt only good for abuse. I'm glad my wife/slave agrees...

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Originally Posted by whispering

Interesting, and somewhat arousing. I could fantasize licking your pussy while you stand on the soapbox and, er, split your hairs :)

Seriously, though, I had an interesting thought while reading this, which is that my fantasies of men are almost always of married men, and I'm most aroused by men who are sexually active with women. Rarely is the woman present, but the fact that the cock that I fantasize exploding in my mouth is regularly lubricated by his partner's vagina is definitely part of my arousal, and often an image that puts me over the edge. So I would call that a bisexual fantasy, because although the fantasy (and reality) is a homosexual act, the heterosexual component of the object of my attraction is decisive.

Can we have a scholarly opinion on this? Perhaps from a Jesuit who likes married men?

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*cough* lol

Um...I'm not sure what I said that was arousing...I think that part came from inside you.

But I agree that your fantasy is bisexual, as you describe it.

My issue is simply with the equation of bisexual = same-sex as an exception...when for me, same-sex is my usual, and it's hetero sex that would be the exception. You're not making this equation...so I'm afraid we can't fight about it *snerk*. We'll just have to wait for that Jesuit to weigh in.

Definitely bi-sexual, involving my wife.

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Originally Posted by Annika L

*cough* lol

Um...I'm not sure what I said that was arousing...I think that part came from inside you.

But I agree that your fantasy is bisexual, as you describe it.

My issue is simply with the equation of bisexual = same-sex as an exception...when for me, same-sex is my usual, and it's hetero sex that would be the exception. You're not making this equation...so I'm afraid we can't fight about it *snerk*. We'll just have to wait for that Jesuit to weigh in.

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Any time girls with glasses talk about sex, no matter how dryly, it's arousing :) ...I wonder who might be dressing as a priest tonight--perhaps I can, ah, interview him.

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Originally Posted by whispering

Any time girls with glasses talk about sex, no matter how dryly, it's arousing :) ...I wonder who might be dressing as a priest tonight--perhaps I can, ah, interview him.

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Wait...are you calling me dry?? And what makes you think I have glasses? (beyond martini glasses...yeah, I plead guilty to those) Ok, damn it, I *do* wear glasses...but what have I said that tipped you off? (I do take them off during sex, btw, if that makes a difference. I see quite well without them.)

I'm pretty sure priests all over the country will be dressing as priests tonight...pretty sure they can't help themselves, so maybe you could help them *wink*.

Absolutely bi-sexual. :)

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Originally Posted by voltaire

In the last few years, my fantasies have been primarily bisexual/gay oriented. Often about men or even more often about male body parts. It's this shift in fantasy that made me re-evaluate my Kinsey rating recently. In the past women were much more involved...although I still enjoy MMF porn a lot but I noticed my focus was more on the men's cocks now.

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yours mirrors my feelings

My fantasies and sex dreams are mainly bisexual. Most involve mfm 3somes with me enjoying sex with her and him. But I also fantasize a lot about 1 on 1 mm sex and male group sex. My most exciting actual experiences as a bisexual man were in mfm 3somes with my 1st wife where I had sex with her and him. That's probably why mfm 3some fantasies are foremost.

My hottest str8 mf fantasy involves passionate lovemaking and being totally pampered by a very exotic Asian woman or by 2 exotic Asian women in a fmf 3some. I have a recurring sex dream along the same lines and one of those dreams was the most intense, lifelike wet dream I've ever had !

I am bi but think about cock a lot and my fantasies lean more toward men.

Mine used to be all female but over the last few years I find mine are gay or bisexual. Now to make it come true.

My sexual fantasies are usually about women, very orally focused fantasies. But I regularly have fantasies about sucking a nice sized cock, along with some great mmf fantasies.

They can be either or both depending on my sexual mood. My gay fantasies are usually the hottest

my have been mostly about men but one about women can sneak in once in a while.

My sexual fantasies are men, but I am bisexual, I like a girls and want to have sex with her.

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I've had the most straight sex in a long time these past few years. I still fantasize about the sex I've had with men. Very hot

Both for me both men and woman. I want to have a guy fuck me while I eat my wifes pussy. Then trade places have him eat her while I pound the hell out of his ass. I like to pound hard doesn't matter if its ass or pussy I'm rough and like to slam my cock hard.

Hello, I am bisexual woman, too. and I don' t mind my sexual fantasies is men or women. before, I just like, I was so confused, most of the time what I can do is find some bisexual dating sites, such as www.datingbisexual.net, because only here, can I find someone I want. But now, I understand, I must accept myself and I should follow my heart. do you understand me? Follow your heart!

My fantasies fall on the two ends: straight or gay. I don't have that many that are "bisexual," meaning a sexual encounter with men and women at the same time.
I want a compliant, very horny, cock starved woman out in the woods. Or perhaps a half-dozen at once.
Or I want to be in a gay spa playing with a half dozen men.

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Originally Posted by LizaLynn

I'm a bi female, but for the most part my sexual fantasies are about women. My sexual dreams that I can remember, are usually about men. When I view porn it is mostly about women, but I also enjoy male, gay porn (naked kombat ;)) . Of couse at different times I'm into different fatishes and fantasies, depending on my mood. Just wondering if other's fantasies are usually straight or bi?

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bi male, late 60,s for last 10 or so yrs almost exclusively male