what does it feel like to take a mans cock up the ass? i'm willing to try but would like to here of experiences first. thanks
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what does it feel like to take a mans cock up the ass? i'm willing to try but would like to here of experiences first. thanks
There are a lot of variables, Jimmy. First of all, I'd use a condom. I'm no expert, as I've only allowed two lovers enter me, when i was much younger, and (thankfully) both were endowed with smaller erections. Even then, it wasn't easy for me.
With care and a lot of lube ( lots of lube is almost enough) and a very considerate and gentle lover, your first time shouldn't be too rough. Some have enjoyed it from the very beginning. I'm sure others will provide better information, than me.
What I will do, when I am invited to enter a lover, is prepare by asking them to use an enema, beforehand. Then, I ensure I've got plenty of lube, some towels, and make sure we are not rushed, or interrupted.
I will usually begin with them in the kneeling position, with their head down on the mattress. Both standing is an option, but some like to lie flat on their stomachs. It all depends on your lover's desires. Usually, I will begin with them on the bed. They will kneel on the bed and I will stand behind them. With their anus and my erection coated, with a generous coating of lubricant, I will slowly apply pressure to their anus and ask them to relax. The initial entry will be the most difficult, usually.
It may sound odd, but doing as you would, when you defaecate, you will allow your anus to relax and hopefully allow entry to take place. If there is too much pain, you need to ensure that your lover will stop, if you ask him to.
Some people may become so aroused that they will have an orgasm from anal sex! I have been lucky enough to have experienced that with one female and two males cuming when I was with them. I've never felt it myslef, though, when I was on the receiving end. It was pleasurable to know they enjoyed it, however.
Hang on, I'm sure more and better advice will follow. Good luck!
Another good option for your fist time taking it would be to have your partner lie on their back with you straddling them on your knees. That way you can lower yourself onto their erection, and for the most part you then have all the control in the situation. Like realist said, I would suggest going very slowly and using copious amounts of lube your first time. I guarantee that it won't be like anything you've experienced before. Personally, I'm not that fond of taking it up the ass, but that's because I've found that it has the tendency to upset my stomach if my partner is too well endowed. Make sure your first time is with someone you love and trust. This is a very important moment in your psycho-sexual development.
Lube, lube, and more lube...lol. And a slow, easy lover is the best way to go, Sweetie. :} Just my humble :2cents:
Cat
(Who doesnt like it in the ass...lol)
...ehhhhh... me.. an Kate...:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Cherokee_Mountaincat
I cannot emphasize this enough. With anal sex, I'd suggest you both get tested for stds' beforehand AND use a condom. I'd also suggest that you continue to get tested for stds' for once a year if you continue to have anal sex, no matter if you are only doing it once a year or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Realist
DB :bipride:
Everyone goes on about lube, lube, relax, relax etc.
In my opinion, the tightest part, the hardest part to overcome is your mind.
You really need to want to do it. You're looking forward to the coupling.
Once that happens for real, its amazing how easy the rest is.
And of course take all the health warnings/precautions given very seriously. Unless its a purely monogomous relationship ............. :eek:
1) lotsa lube!
2) BIG pillow because you're gonna BITE it... HARD!
Sweeeet agony!
in my past experience's i've never had a mans cock in my ass,but would love it i know, cause my wife takes a strapon to my ass quite often and the feeling is tremendous. we will start out with her giving me 3-4 bottled enemas from your local pharmacy to clean out real good, then after some extended ass play i am ready. depending on the size controls how fast she enters me, but once its in and you're relaxed you can go at a faster pace. i'll jack off as she is fucking me and the orgasm is intense. like everyone says though use a lube, i still do....ENJOY....:bigrin:
"willing" doesn't seem like you're all that eager. The feeling is totally different if you climax via anal. There are so many nerve endings and then there is the prostate massaging that comes into play. It can be awesome with the right lover, lube, etc. or a disaster if you don't know what you like, how you like it or the top isn't somewhat experienced and caring (about you).Quote:
Originally Posted by Jimmy Splash
I'd suggest that you try using a dildo first... start with a small one... then work up to a bigger one so you can feel how/if you like it. You'll get to see what you like and if you like it. Do it a few times so you get a feel for it. The first time is not necessarily going to be a great "entry" but you will likely find it awesome and probably cum instantly if you get close to the prostate. So further exploration will likely be needed. Then, you'll know if you like it enough to try it with a lover for the first time. I found the first time I used a dildo the sensation was very very odd but after trying a few times, I never had that odd sensation (on initially entry) again.
If your lover is larger (or even if not), try lying on your stomach and having him/her enter from behind you (your legs closed). Again, see below, lube is key. I find this is often the best position for someone that has little or no experience with being a bottom (male or female bottom btw).
Also, many suggest lube. I'd suggest Silicone-based lube like Wet Platinum or ID Platinum. I can't personally use water-based lube. Also, its been my experience that all water-based lubes gets sticky pretty fast.
Silicone-based lube IS condom safe but check, it will say so on the bottle. You can get Wet Platinum at Walgreens and Walmart these days as opposed to paying huge $$ as some adult store.
I really enjoy silicone-based lube even as a top just because its so sensual and also helps prevent me from getting sore. But as a bottom, its the only thing I would ever consider. Since its slicker, it also protects the bottom more from possible "rips" and the top from possible ribs as well.
And, its also recommended by most health care professionals to lube the top's penis before putting on a condom with a bit as it will help keep the condom from tearing more easily.
Search on anal sex and you'll see a few more detailed posts by me and others on the topic with references to books too.
There always seems to be at least one recommendation to use an enema . Use WATER only if you chose but not the chemicals that come with some enigmas.
If it hurts, its not being done right... Use the right lube. see my other post.Quote:
Originally Posted by open2both
The top should be communicating with the bottom and making sure the bottom lets him/her know how it feels.
IT SHOULD NOT HURT.
The first time I did anal, the guy was really big. I'm talking maybe.. 9 inches. We didn't use any lube.. unless you count some spit. It didn't hurt for me, I loved it a first try. But I have a high tolerance to pain, so I guess I'm the not average person of the street to be asking. I never use a dildo anally before hand either.
You may be surprised, you might have the same experience I did. I'm not saying that you will, but I hope my story comforts you to know that it might not be as painful as you imagine it to be.
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When I was younger I was a bottom a lot. It may sound like I am repeating others, but use more lube than u think u need, and always play safe. It is something u either like or hate, I don't think there is any in between. Personally I love it. Dildo's are lots of fun to play with and get an idea of the positions u like best, but most of them, at least to me, give a more intense physical feeling, the real thing is much more erotic and has a greater "mind effect" for lack of a better description. The feeling of giving yourself totally to another person. If it hurts u are not doing it right. Anyway, have fun, and ALWAYS BE SAFE.;)
oh gods people it don't hurt i say just use some toys first get some that are 1" in diameter and work your way up use lots of lube and go slow then start going up to biger and biger toys a male can stretch his anal up to 3" to 3 1/2" .. you just need to go slow and ez don't rush it and enjoy the fun :bigrin:
I enjoy anal intercourse very, very much. Both recieving and giving. Before AIDS my lover at the time could cum in me several times until I couldn't take it anymore. And my anus would pulsate and his cum would leak out. He would hold me and place his hand on my wide open ass, applying the right amount of pressure while we kissed ever so passionately. Then I would give him my cock and cum until he couldn't take it. Very pleasurable and erotic.
I loved kegeling his cock, which drove us both wild. It also kept my anus is shape, ready for action every time.
You will find your way. Everyone had very good suggestions The only thing I would add is ... clean, clean, clean! Inside and out. I have never, and never would have anal sex with out being very clean inside and out.
The first time is a bit unnerving no matter how much you want it. Lots of lube will help. Personally I really enjoyed my first time, but I was lucky, the guy was long and had a narrow cock. If I hadn't of enjoyed my first time I might not have enjoyed the feel of my partner driving in deep. He is rather well endowed and lube was a godsend as long as your partner doesn't screw up and grab the menthol lube in the dark....but that's another story.
well for me i like it more than i do anywhere else .. I am a girl and i love it cant say anything else about it .. oh yeah Take is slow :~)
use lots of lube and relax just take it easy and comunicate if it feels uncomfortable let your partner know:bipride:
I feel the same, I have yet to have a real one but my wife has used many toys on me including a strap-on and it is wonderful........like anything, the more you do it the more you get used to it. The most imprtant thing for us is cleanliness. I know I would enjoy a real one.......like everyone has already said though....lube and a condom, we prefer baby oil, alot of it!Quote:
Originally Posted by readyagain
MTSS is a hoot ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by notsostr8
LOVED THIS!Quote:
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Belle
well obviously everybody else has said lube. that being said... you can never have enough. now. what worked for me was starting with a finger... slowly. once that gets a little loose, move to two, and repeat until you've got three, maybe four fingers. nice and open. add more lube then you're good to go for anal. but you have to relax and have a partner who knows what the word slow means... at first. if you enjoy it, it gets to the point after a while where you'll love it fast.
then if ur like me, you'll want more and you'll convince your partner to try fisting you. but that's a topic for another discussion.
LUBE!!!!!
I enjoy recieving very much and will quite often cum during good pounding . I have been at it 38 years now . Started out with a male cousin of about the same age . In the beginning we did each other everytime . Eventually he decided he didn't enjoy it as much as I did . So I became his bottom . I understand it has to do with just where your prostate is located . Those with one lower tend to enjoy it more and those that have one higher don't . Mine must be lower because I like it . LOL . Being just 12 or 13 at the time , our lube was the tub of margerine on the dining room table . Eventually all I needed to except him was just his precum . He had about 6" with a banana curve upwards . Always hit the spot for me ! We continued into our late 20's well after marriage and kids . Playmates were few and far between before the home computer came along .
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Originally Posted by Cherokee_Mountaincat
I am with you Girl
Not much to add except go for it!
I love anal play.
I started with small dildo about 3/4" in diameter, took it slow with LOTS of lube(heard that before) and have progressed to an 8" dong 1 3/4" to 2" in diameter which I can now take all the way in.
I am currently looking for the real thing... Hint, hint...:)
Had the best one of my life today!