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Prostate orgasms came up in another thread and made me wonder:
Having never had the experience of having one, How can someone achieve a prostate orgasm?
I'd like to try it, but I am stupid when it comes to figruing out how to explain to my wife what to do to see if she can give me a prostate orgasm.
It's like giving a woman a g-spot orgasam......have her stick two fingers in your ass and squeeze them towards your cock.
I've never had one either, although I have chatted w/ those who have. They say it's very intense.
Frankly, experimenting w/ vibrators and dildoes has only left me with a desire to go to the bathroom.
There is a product called aneros on the market. But it's a little expensive (for my tastes) to just experiment w/.
Would love to hear of other's experience though.
i've had two my frist i didn't last long cause the man that was fucking me at the time was cumming at the time and pulled out before the sensation got to really get going good and i didn't know what it was but my second one was incredible this guy was on his back and i road his hard shaft til i had this wild prostate orgasm as they call it he stayed hard as my eyes rolled in to the back of my head and quivered with a sensation i never felt in my life as i orgasm deep inside if me and after i filled off his big hard cock i oozed from my limp dick all over myself. and he told me i just had a orgasm of the ass he called it. it was completely different from any thing i ever had before. someday i hope to have another.
Hello all, I'm new to this community.
I can recommend getting a prostate massager from Aneros - www.aneros.com - either the MGX (£27 from Love Honey, what I have) or the Helix (£39).
These aren't powered at all, you insert them and contract/release your PC muscle to massage your prostate.
Anal pleasure doesn't happen immediately - you have to get used to the aneros and "practice" using it, but I've had mine for nearly two weeks, used it about 8 times or so and I've definitely progressed from the feeling of "foreign object" to the beginnings of pleasurable tinglings down there.
Of course, this is all stated as my opinion...
Certainly a different type of orgasm, much more similar to (what I can only imagine) a woman's orgasm. It builds very slowly, you tend to lose erection (unless you're very young). It is very adrenaline based. It ends with tight contractions/rolling of abdominal/groin muscles (riding action/bucking as if your life depended on it).
It does not have the pure endorphin rush of a normal male orgasm.
Contrasting the two... a normal orgasm is 80 - 100% endorphin rush, whereas a prostate orgasm is 80 - 100% excitement/adrenaline high.
Yes, yes, and depending on how 'in love' you are with your partner, that adds to the emotional mix... which makes everything easier and better! I'll never forget the time I had a double (standard male, not prostate) orgasm with a girl I was madly in love with.
Calling this 'other' type of orgasm a 'prostate orgasm' may cause some misinterpretations. While prostate contractions define ejaculation (and mark standard male orgasm), the prostate may or may not experience the same ejaculatory response for this 'other' type of orgasm (never for me). More likely, semen will escape into the urethra just by pressing on the prostate (like pushing on a bag with water).
However this is a long term orgasm... There is tremendous satisfaction from your lover coming inside you (use condoms of course!). I usually 'end' it by standard orgasm... although a closer analogy would be to end the symphony with a crescendo!
Hmmmm, Feel doe... that could be fun!
They're quite nice in any respect, but play your cards right and you don't necessarily need the finger(s) in your ass to get one. It does take a little body awareness/consciousness and practice. First, have a look at what it is anatomically - wiki-Prostate.
Obviously, when you get a hard-on, the whole groin area engorges with blood. As you approach orgasm, the prostate prepares to release its fluid and actually ends up feeling like a knot located beneath your perineum. It's when it's in that state, that touching, massaging, kneading, etc. type of activities will result in a much more intense orgasm. You're physically helping the gland empty its contents quickly, as opposed to it happening at its own pace during your orgasm. A friend of mine explained it in interesting terms at one point using a ketchup packet as a model - it's like having that little hole in the corner to start, then using your fist to squeeze the contents out all at once.
I find the easiest way for myself to achieve a prostate orgasm is to be fucked or milked (fingers massaging internally). In terms of being fucked, let's say we're in a doggie-style position - as I approach orgasm, I'll have my partner press down on the top of his cock, which increases the amount of pressure being exerted on my prostate. A bit of pressure on the perineum and presto, my eyes are in the back of my head and I can take out an eye with ease.
It can be done similarly with fingers in your ass and pulling up/away from your body (similar to working a female g-spot), or with practice just by massaging the prostate itself, both when you're on your way to an orgasm. I find that pure prostate massage feels great, but isn't going to get me off in and of itself.
I very seldom get an orgasm from another guy fucking me. They seem to cum way before I get there. My wife, with either one of her strapons or her finger can get the job done. She knows when I am getting there because I have a steady flow of precum that is way more than normal. It is one of the most intense feelings I have ever experienced. Much to my delight she enjoys doing it. She did it the first time when she was blowing me when she was 16 or 17. We both enjoyed it then and still do now.:bipride:
this reminds me of a video I saw once that totally intrigued me, this person used one of those electric current kits and hooked it up to his meat and two veg - and with a series of electric shocks he climaxed.
Was freaking hot but ... at the same time, yeootch!
Prostate stimulation has resulted in some very good orgasms for me. Very much like I'd imagine a g-spot orgasm to be . I have both the Helix and Progasm from Aneros. I must admit that bigger isn't necessarily better in this case as I prefer the Helix. You do have to relax and take your time but well worth it in the "end". Nice that it's hands free and no need for a partner , if she's not in the mood. We also keep a feeldoe handy for when she is ;).
I have had one Prostate orgasm in my life and it was not that long ago. I can say it was like nothing I have ever felt before, it was amazing!
The way I was able to achieve this was through my wife’s toys. Since men are always at lost to a dildo due it’s a ability to vibrate :P
I started very slow and found the right spot and applied a gentle massaging motion to the Prostate while pulling the back to my Perineum. I took a little getting used to as I was not used to the initial shock or pain but once that passed I was surprised on how comfortable I was and how good that experience was.
I would never say that I have good advice or anything like that but "doing it yourself" first may help in walking someone else through the process once you now how it works for you.
Can every man climax from prostate? Because I seem to not feel any pleasure there and my best friend told me the same thing - he feels nothing....
Is this normal?
Totally normal.Quote:
Originally Posted by sometimesitbethatway
You have to want it.
Vaginal sex for a woman is often/usually not great until a woman has had a bit of experience, and wants it.
And a woman who doesn't want, or has some type of penetration phobia... not enjoyable at all.
Same for a guy.
But things are different for everyone. Maybe you're not 'built that way'.
Yes it is normal.Quote:
Originally Posted by sometimesitbethatway
I'm this way and while it's not pleasureable to me I prefer things on the outside of the anus and when I have experimented with receptive anal sex it doesn't give me any pleasure even when everything's done correctly and I wanted it, and I'd rather just have jacked off alone or been whipped/paddled/flogged.
If you're not wired for anal sex like me you're not going to find it pleasureable, so what's the point in even doing it?
Also anal sex is only a small part of homosexual/male2male sex and it's not a necessity and not everyone does it or even wants/like it.
yeah I totally get that. My boyfriend enjoys it extremely so of course I wanna know whats so great about it... but other than the idea of what he is doing to me, it's not really enjoyable. I mean... I can want it and like I said, sort of enjoy it for the moment of whats happening, but physically... feeling no pleasure...
so I wonder if it would even do any good to keep experimenting with it to see if anything works for me?
Can't say for sure from my own experiences (I've always enjoyed it) but it could be analogous to women not discovering ejaculation until 30s, 40s or even 50sQuote:
Originally Posted by sometimesitbethatway
God allbi..wottan 'orrible thot... an peeps call em the gud ole days..no ta!!!:eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by allbimyself
Prostrate orgasm..ooo luffly... :bigrin:
o...yas talkin bout prostate....:tong:
It sounds like you've found your answer.Quote:
Originally Posted by sometimesitbethatway
He likes to get anal pleasure, and you either like to give it or are going to give it because he's your boyfriend and it pleases him.
FWIW I don't think we should be comparing queer/homosexual sex to that of heterosexual sex since they're two completely different things, and not even all heterosexuals focus on oral/anal penetration as the main goal/main event/purpose when it comes to sex.
Men can have toe curling excellent orgasmic sex and sharing of homoeroticism with each other and even multiply this with more than just two men, without anal penetration and even without oral penetration.
There are dykes/bi women who don't give oral sex, gay men who don't suck cock or get fucked, gay men who don't like to rim someone else at all but will get rimmed, people of all orientations who aren't into rimming at all, bi/homosexual men who aren't into anal sex at all, bi/gay men who only do anal sex with a finger/hand/toy and not their penis, and bi/gay men who aren't into getting oral sex at all.
As far as non-vanilla sex/kink goes there are tons of people who aren't into any of it at all and they're vanilla and others who just like to give sensations, only take sensations, take restraint from someone, give pleasure in restraint to others, and as far as piss or W/S goes some just like to be covered in piss and don't drink it at all while others only drink their own, and some like to be soaked and drink as much piss as they can! Also just because someone is into one certain kink it doesn't mean that they do everything.
Sometimesitbethatway, find out what works for you and don't think that you have to do something sexually just because of your sexual orientation or because it's expected of you because you're partnered/in a relationship with a guy.
Hear, hear!Quote:
Originally Posted by DiamondDog
DD has it right.
If you want to do for your own feelings, or are compelled to do something out of pure love. Go for it.
Don't be totally stoic. Be open. Yet be true to yourself (if you really don't like it, if it exceeds your limits, don't do it!)!
Then go from there.
You would not be the first in this world to have some type of activity that was marginally enjoyable, to fulfill a love that escalates the meaning of life for you. (here comes the balance) But never compromise yourself. Only you can make this value decision.
I had a plastic egg attached to a battery pack. I tried it once in my ass, and I guess it rested near my prostate, because when I turned it on, the feeling was incredible. It gave me a feeling of helplessness because the arousal built and unless I turned off the electrical stimulation I could not stop the build-up - not that I wanted to stop it, but nonetheless the helpless feeling added to the exciting feeling. I came and produced more semen then usual and the orgasm lasted longer but that may have been because I kept the power on. But I didn't have to stop due to my penis being too sensitive as in the case with an ordinary orgasm.
Unfortunately the egg was poorly made and the electrical connection seemed to be very fragile. All I could think of was the worry that it would get stuck in my ass because the cord would become disconnected with the egg and I'd have to go to the ER to have it removed. So I never tried it again, but if I could find a better made device at a reasonable price, I'd love to try it again.
Mike
Ride your boyfriend while he's lying in bed.
You control much of the action.
If your boyfriend's penis curves upward, added mechanical advantage.
Good luck!
:)
No. Our arrangement works out fine. Like you said, he enjoys it and I enjoy giving it. So we stick to that pretty much, but I can't help but be a little jealous of how over the top it is for him and I wanna know what it's all about. I don't feel pressured to do it for any reason (honestly I never ever thought I would do it: give or receive), I just want to experiment for myself. Honestly the few times we've tried, it's just whatever.. I enjoy it because it's him but that's about it. I just wanna know what he feels..Quote:
Originally Posted by DiamondDog
What did you say no in reply to? I just wrote that based on what you've wrote about yourself you're probably not wired for receptive anal sex since it doesn't give you any pleasure at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by sometimesitbethatway
I'm sure there are things sexually that you love that he's not wired for, or not that into doing at all. I don't know you personally or what you're into but it's like that for most people, even for those who are in the best compatible relationship they both have.
Looking back at some of the original posts, they reminded me of an experience years ago... My wife and I were considering pregnancy, and she encouraged me to go for a fertility check. One of the docs I went to performed a procedure on me that sounds almost exactly like a prostate orgasm. Though it was clear he was uncomfortable with the situation, he had me lean over the examining table. After inserting his finger and pressing HARD on my prostate, I began to ooze cum like no tomorrow. Not an orgasm per se, as I wasn't even hard, but definitely ejaculating. It was most unusual and from the descriptions here, very, very similar...just add the emotional / hormone laced element of sex and wham!
-Sparks
Honestly, I don't remember why I said No at the beginning... thats weird.Quote:
Originally Posted by DiamondDog
Anyways I came back to this thread because this is still bothering me. Can my body just not be wired for it? Do I have no prostate or male g-spot or what? One of the earlier posts posted a link to aneros.com for this little toy that got crazy excellent reviews. So I bought my boyfriend one and it was all super intense for him..... when I tried it... nothing. All the reviews said it was amazing. From what it did to him... clearly the thing is amazing. I'm so mad that I can't get in on this, it's insane. How can some people feel this and others not? :( sad...
You do have a prostate but you're probably just not wired for internal anal sex/stimulation of it.Quote:
Originally Posted by sometimesitbethatway
Don't feel bad I'm the same way. I've tried it internally and honestly I felt cheated and bored since there wasn't any pleasure from it, and I would have rather just jacked off since I get more pleasure from that.
I'm OK with external prostate stimulation and with having my anus externally stimulated by a toy/tongue/hand but I don't like anything inside me.
I personally enjoy/love other sensations that others who are way more wired for anal sex don't like such as giving/getting oral sex from men, Abrasion (rubbing scratchy things against the skin), I like having certain body parts stretched/stimulated like the balls/nipples, and I like to give/recieve SM like paddlings/floggings/spankings and being cropped/caned.
I'm also big into all things oral with men including kissing and swapping spit with each other, and I also LOVE body contact with men and all that.
Don't feel sad everyone's different. I know bi women and dykes who happen not to like giving/getting oral sex and there are even bi/gay men who don't like to suck cock at all.
Figure out what works for you to pleasure yourself and do it. I'm not saying that you'll be into B&D or SM like I am; but figure out what gives you pleasure and do it, since receptive anal sex is out.