Where to meet bi guys? What am I doing wrong?

So what am I doing wrong? Why is it so incredibly hard to connect in real time with mature bisexual or bi-curious guys in my area?
Apps seem like a waste of both time and money. Websites, including bisexual.com, typically lead to ongoing message and email exchanges with gameplayers who have no particular interest in meeting face-to-face.

I?ve always stressed a desire for friends with benefits, however, the dozen or so encounters I've managed over the last 15 years or so have all typically turned out to be one-and-done affairs that leave me feeling more than a little used and deceived. We have a little fun, enjoy a couple of good cums, then . . . crickets. Calls and emails aren't returned, messages go unacknowledged.

Look, If I?m going to share myself with you sexually, if I'm going to let you see an intimate side that I keep carefully hidden from public view, if I'm going to suck your cock and let you cum on me or in me, there has to be some promise of an ongoing relationship.

Am I asking too much?

I am in same boat too buddy, I been looking for years too and same thing, apps are a waste of time, so many on them with blank profiles, they just want to chat then ghost you. Or they just want sex with any randoms and blo n goes. it seems all apps and sites are exact same thing.

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Originally Posted by Orgasmus

So what am I doing wrong? Why is it so incredibly hard to connect in real time with mature bisexual or bi-curious guys in my area?
Apps seem like a waste of both time and money. Websites, including bisexual.com, typically lead to ongoing message and email exchanges with gameplayers who have no particular interest in meeting face-to-face.

I?ve always stressed a desire for friends with benefits, however, the dozen or so encounters I've managed over the last 15 years or so have all typically turned out to be one-and-done affairs that leave me feeling more than a little used and deceived. We have a little fun, enjoy a couple of good cums, then . . . crickets. Calls and emails aren't returned, messages go unacknowledged.

Look, If I?m going to share myself with you sexually, if I'm going to let you see an intimate side that I keep carefully hidden from public view, if I'm going to suck your cock and let you cum on me or in me, there has to be some promise of an ongoing relationship.

Am I asking too much?

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I don't know what sites or apps you are using where they actually chat. Most of the guys that message me are like, "wanna fuck". I want to chat and somewhat get to know someone. I don't and won't meet up with just anyone. It seems that most guys on any of these sites will suck and fuck anything.

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Originally Posted by DLazguy

I don't know what sites or apps you are using where they actually chat. Most of the guys that message me are like, "wanna fuck". I want to chat and somewhat get to know someone. I don't and won't meet up with just anyone. It seems that most guys on any of these sites will suck and fuck anything.

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Yes, exactly! There's a huge creep factor involved in making an online connection with a total stranger, then inviting them into your home for sex, and knowing all the while you’ll probably never see them again. Maybe it’s unrealistic, but I don't want anonymous sex. I didn’t enjoy that when I was a young man cruising the bars for women, and I certainly don’t want that now. There’s an old saying that holds "Sex without love is only assisted masturbation. I’m not looking for love, but I guess the same holds true for friendship. If you want me to be sexual with you, be my friend first. Over the years, I’ve had only three guy-guy friendships that went on long enough for me to feel comfortable inviting them into my bed or for me to feel at ease crawling into theirs.

While I like the idea of a regular FWB, but the longest I've had one was 6 months. Most are much shorter. I move a lot for my job, and married so have limited free time, and need discretion. So, I usually only hook up with other people when I'm traveling for work, and its much easier to find a willing guy than a willing gal. Though I do prefer a bit of a chat first, meet in public, then if all's well head to my hotel. But the majority go silent before it gets that far.

I would like to emphasize the friendship part of friends with benefits. Do i want a nice hard cock to suck on a fairly regular basis ? Heck yah. But, I'd really like to have a friendship too.

So if you are near Connecticut, and you are looking for a clean, sane friend that won't "out" you, send me a text.

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Originally Posted by bob onit

I would like to emphasize the friendship part of friends with benefits. Do i want a nice hard cock to suck on a fairly regular basis ? Heck yah. But, I'd really like to have a friendship too.

So if you are near Connecticut, and you are looking for a clean, sane friend that won't "out" you, send me a text.

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Problem is, once you mention wanting a regular and friendship, see how quick you get ghosted!

I've been blessed. Met my current boyfriend on Silver Daddies. He is my lover and best friend. We've been together for 6 years and going strong.

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Originally Posted by bob onit

I would like to emphasize the friendship part of friends with benefits. Do i want a nice hard cock to suck on a fairly regular basis ? Heck yah. But, I'd really like to have a friendship too.

So if you are near Connecticut, and you are looking for a clean, sane friend that won't "out" you, send me a text.

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Unfortunately, I'm 986 miles away from Connecticut!

well, it is probably a little different for me I am guessing.............I generally have pretty good luck with grindr, but I think it makes bi guys more comfortable the way I look.

My other account, I find it harder when dressed male, plus add in my age (almost 60), but I can meet 2 or 3 guys a month.

Doublelist is 50/50 and silverdaddies I found was a waste of time

but grindr has worked the best for me