Jazminedress

Tonight is suppossed to be my last night in San Diego, thank god. Sadly, no nookie for me last night at all, and I even had on tight leather pants and a corset, jeeeez.

Thats okay. So what did I learn with my grindr and silver daddies experience.

For one thing, I really learned a new appreciation for what real women go through. I mean, I knew about some of the stupidity, but I didn't know how bad. I have asked a few and they described exactly what I saw.

Now, I believe the phrase "Toxic masculinity" is complete BS, hands down crap. There is nothing wrong with being masculine or masculinity. The reality, no matter the gender, there are assholes. We could come up with a cute bumper sticker slogan for woman to show how awful feminine is, but it would upset the politically correct crowd.

The truth is simple, jerks come in all flavors

I did meet some nice guys, but in talking, eventually it comes out that trans and CD is a fantasy fetish. You don't even have to be passable, although people that are, I can't imagine the crap you deal with. At first, I thought it was cute, hey, who doesn't want to be an object of desire, but overall, it becomes weird.

From guys who immediately send a dick pic demanding to know if you like it, too guys who don't realize every CD and Trans is not trying to live a pornstar life.

I think with social media, there is a growing, and large already population of people who cannot seprate real world from online. As much as I enjoy my internet porn, it's not good for some people. I saw soo much, from wanting to spank, to use of terminology, to grabbing a throat.................all the crap you see online porn, its like they think this is reality

For way too many guys (when it comes to CD and Trans) they think this is their porn debut. What you dont realize, take it slow, be sensual, (freaking give back) and you could have some mind blowing sex. The wanting to bang at 100mph an hour, the comments of suck that big dick bitch, really, dont get you anywhere.

A gay last night, first text, you horny, send me your address, I am willing to dump a load in you as long as you suck me first. Ummmmmm dude, you aint that good looking, and go F yourself.

I went to two known gay bars, and I have a habit of listening in. You would think in theory, the LGBTQ community would want all us included right ?

Listening to probably 25 different people over two nights

- WTF are all these "bi" people doing in our bars now, make a damn choice
- oh look, more trans shit in our bars, cant they just act like men
- just what we need more of, guys who are married coming here

None of that was directed at me personally, but you could hear the disdain for bisexuals, it wasn't the older guys, it was the under 40 crowd. One little queen asked me why I don't just chop off my balls and become a woman if I want to be so bad. I explained, I have no desire, I am happy as a man............then he called me a freak of nature.

I will say, an older gay man, I think he said he was 81 (But damn he was in great shape) grabbed him by the front of the shirt and told him everyone is welcome, to take his drunk ass elsewhere, then apoligized to me, so that was cool.

I truly believe after my experiment, we have three groups with three different problems and some overlap.

Bisexual men- many times not accepted, or understood by the gay community or the hetero, they just dont get it. Then add in majority(I am guessing) are not out, or married, but have overwhelming desires, and they are stuck in a hard place. Then you have all those that want to set themselves free but, because of the way all society treats them (gay or straight) they are terrified to be who they really are.

CD- we face the same issues as bi men, but we have added flavor. There is this thought that we are a weak little sissy boys, or we want to be women, or we are just mentally ill and fooling ourselves. Not too mention too many that think we deserve what ever we get and we are really nothing but wanna be little whores, instead of people expressing our sexuality.

Trans- I have said it before, its hard to speak on this, because I am not part of that world. But, from what I have seen (gay and straight) unless trans are needed for a protest, many times look down on the. Honestly, no, I don't get wanting to be another gender, but it's not my life, I don't have to get it and my approval is NOT needed. But when you consider they are changing their body physically, they are dealing with legally changing everything..............I have ni understanding of how difficult that can be, I cant.
Then I see all the comments and guys, who think they are nothing more than a novelty act or a blow up doll ?
I have learned a very new appreciation for the trans community.

So, whats the bottom line ?

Keep in my , this is my own opinion, and I can take the flaming, doesn't bother me. I think the bi community needs better representation. What I mean by that, I have been to LGBTQ events, and other than in passing, we are the ones sitting in the corner. If we are going to be there, we need more of a voice. The gay community is different than us, the hetero community is different than us.
But, we need to be more visual when we can, and help others understand, we are all alike, no matter who, everyone has struggles , everyone has highlights...........................we are all just people

except that guy that wanted to ejaculate in me, then leave it in until he pees..........................ewwwwwwwww....................screw that guy.

So, sorry so long, just remember, I am a guy who does a personality switch to an entirely different gender and manner of dressing, so, in the end, I could be partially insane, who knows. I could be completely off my rocker, probably, but all I have in my life is my own experiences.

One thing I will say, I have heard comments, get this forum running right or shut it down. For the new people coming out as bi, CD's, trans.................I ahve looked at other forums, I have been out in the world dressed.

This place is a fantastic and quality safe haven for many. You all do a great job, from greeting new comers, to joking around, to giving advice. I like that we have a place where a new CD can talk too some of us and realize, they are not a freak of nature.

A young new bi guy, or even older for that matter, can find people who think like they do, and maybe feel better about themselves. You all do that, whether you are a good person in the real world or not, at least give yourself credit, you do some good things here