Death in the family

[DuckiesDarling]

Today my cousin's wife died at 10:30 am. Rose was 54 years old and had battled cancer for years, despite rounds of chemo and radiation it never quite got rid of it and this last round of cancer recurring in the brain did her in. They sent her home from the hospital in an ambulance day before yesterday cause there was nothing they could do for her.

I remember when my cousin first brought her home to Kentucky from Rhode Island where he met her waitressing at a Red Lobster. She was the tallest woman I'd ever seen, she stood 6'3", same height as my cousin.

Oldest of 12 kids and they are coming in from all over the states right now to pay their last respects. It is often said that so and so was a good person, why did that have to happen to them. In this case, Rose was a good person. But she never complained once that life was unfair to her, she only kept gardening until that was denied her, then settled for taking pictures with her new camera for as long as she could manage. She truly lived each day and she was blessed with seeing her daughter marry and have two grandchildren for her.

She is not in pain now and that does make me smile, but I will try to remember the example Rose set for us all and just live each day to live.

[Vikkster230]

Sorry for your loss...

[darkeyes]

As I said in a pm to you Darling darling, the problem with living is all the dying we have to experience and I'm truly sorry for your loss. Huggles to you and all and I hope that the relief that she is no longer suffering in some small way compensates for the pain which those closest to her must now be suffering. My thoughts are with you all.

[MarieDelta]

I'm sorry DD...

hugs DD

[citystyleguy]

...admist tears, know that you are in my thoughts, and for your, cousin, that she left so much love behind, as she goes off into whatever comes next.

[Canticle]

DD, my condolences are extended to you and your cousin and other family members. Your cousin's wife appears to have been well loved. Such a very young age. So very sad.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

It is my prayer and hope that she walked the path Home in peace and tranquility, Sweetie, and was met at the meadow with love from those gone ahead. :}
Hugs Baby.
Cat

[DuckiesDarling]

Thanks y'all.

[Hephaestion]

Commiserations on your loss DD.

[Long Duck Dong]

there is no greater battle in life that a person can fight, than the battle to start each day with a smile...... as it makes the day that bit easier to get thru.... and every morning that we win the battle to smile first thing in the morning.... is a tribute to all those that give us a reason to smile


I have a saying... that a person is not truely gone, until the last memory of them is forgotten..... until then, they will live on forever in our minds and hearts and if a single memory can make us smile.... then their life was lived well ......

[PolyLoveTriad]

So sorry to hear this, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family luv

[alli_smiles]

*Hugs*

[DuckiesDarling]

Thanks, I was trying to describe how she looked when healthy to LDD and the closest I can come is she slightly resembled Julie Kavner. Not overtly pretty, not ugly, but not plain either. A face full of character and a personality that was pretty damned awesome.

[darkeyes]

I have a saying... that a person is not truely gone, until the last memory of them is forgotten..... until then, they will live on forever in our minds and hearts and if a single memory can make us smile.... then their life was lived well ......

I picked that saying up from my grampa Duckie.. he remembered his great gramps who died when my gramps wos 8.. I have stories of that old man related to me from the smell of his pipe tobacco and the clouds of smoke he created, to his one eye, the fact that he was in the Navy as a young man and ran a Chandler's shop.. and that when he was at school he ran up and down the Eildon Hills near Melrose in midwinter with his own father stark naked (and stark raving bonkers if you ask me) come rain, snow or shine every Sunday morning before church.. this is but a small part of what we have in family folk memory of a man born in 1859. So in a sense he still lives if only in family memory as will Darling's cuz...

[Realist]

What a treasure people like her are...and how lucky you were to have known her!

In this world of deceit, pain, and cruelty, comes hope for us all, in the form of special people like her. She wasn't here for that long, but look at what a positive influence she had on others.

These are the ones it's the hardest to lose. It's most difficult to not feel sad for yourself, because they are no longer in your life. How rare but wonderful they are!

I'm not a religious person, but if there is some kind of reward after death, this sweet lady certainly deserves it.

My heart-felt condolences, DD.

[Robinium]

Dear DuckiesDarling,

I feel sorry for you and your family and your loss...

Don't know what else to say, I always lack words in these situation.

Best wishes

[onewhocares]

My sincere condolences to you and your family. Your loss is in my thoughts.

Belle

[BI BOYTOY]

so sorry for your loss.... my big sis died last year of cancer.