Bisexual - Gay relationship

[80guitarguy]

Hi There,

I am new to bisexuality, never dated anyone of the same sex and discovered this part of myself later in life. My best friend of the past few years is gay and has always had feelings for me. Since my bisexuality has emerged our friendship has become more complicated because of the sexual vibe in the air. However, I am not sure whether I am attracted to him or not. I am confused because I can sense his "gayness" but I do not know if this means that I want to be intimate with him. We made out once and to be honest I thought it was gross. The whole time I had to pretend like I was acting in a movie or something. I can't imagine doing anything more with him, but there are other men that I would readily sleep with. At the same time though, I really love him and do not wish to see him leave my life. So I am trying to put myself in the right frame of mind to be in a committed relationship with him. To see past any superficiality and act out of love. Am I being too naive? How big a role does sexual attraction have to play in all of this? Help!!!

Thanks for the tips!

[TamLin]

While there's obviously far more to a relationship than sex, it's very hard to have a long-term relationship with someone you're not attracted to. The nature of your relationship with this man doesn't necessarily have to change just because you're coming to terms with your own sexuality, you can simply remain friends just as easily as when he believed you were straight.

[Long Duck Dong]

lol tamlin I am framing that phrase and putting it on my wall.... as advice goes.... its perfect.....

[80guitarguy]

Good advice,

My struggle is that I am attracted to him, but don't want to be, I'd rather be with a woman. I can't explore my sexuality with him because he does not want to put his emotions on the line. So I either jump into this head first with him, or try to explore with other guys first.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

You're too close to the situation, Darlin. You need to explore this side of you with someone that you arent emotionally attached to. Sex is just sex, but emotions are a whooole different ballgame. I'm thinking that you love your friend As your friend and some friends you just dont go there with.
My thoughts are: Find someone to have a good time with sexually, and decide if that's the right path for you, period. :}
Good luck Sugar.;)
Cat

[80guitarguy]

Thanks Cat,

That's really good advice.

Cheers =)