Can a married couple keep their sex life exciting?? [Archive]

loveatl

Jul 11, 2010, 6:19 PM

Jackofalltrades

Jul 11, 2010, 6:50 PM

-I see that bi-sexual acts are for the pleasure. No feelings, no connections,no obligations after, just for fun? No relationship, maybe you don't even have to like the person?
:yikes2:WHAT!!
No way, I was having feeling for guys way before I ever got busy. I mean yes sex is a part, but it is with any loving relationship. To that, why not start a thread call, "tell me about loving relationships you have had with the same sex and I bet you would get a bunch.
As for your question, yes. I feel as soon as the "newlywed" fire has gone to a smolder and the kids are always like, "can we sleep in your bed tonight" it's time to explore what else make you happy in bed, or on the floor, or in the back seat of you friends car, or in front of a web cam. It does not have to end in bisexual affairs. it just so happens that you are on a "bisexual" site so we kinda are a bit one sided in our view. You know open to Bi sex:rolleyes:
I know a bunch of folks, married, that are hetro, don't swing, and have very fulfilling sex lives. If you can be open minded and be open with your spouse then you will be able to keep that spark alive
Jack

Bilicious1950

Jul 12, 2010, 9:40 PM

Hi I am new to this site:) I think if the relationship is healthy the sex will be healthy at least that is my experience. My relationship with my guy is an open one. We try not to get into any of that ownership stuff that kills affection. Also I am a Bisexual female and to fully express and experience my sexuality threesomes are the answer with another bisexual female. I think it is important to be attracted to the person and have respect and affection though it will be a different depth of feeling then in the primary relationship. We prefer the Adonis (FFM) threesome because everyone can be intimate with each member of the trio. My guy is straight so the MMW trio would not be as satisfying.

Bluebiyou

Jul 13, 2010, 1:06 AM

After reading the post "are you married and bi"---I see that bi-sexual acts are for the pleasure. No feelings, no connections,no obligations after, just for fun? No relationship, maybe you don't even have to like the person?
I know I got bored at home, with the same sex, day in and out, and unless she was going to try a threesome or more, what was left. Had affairs, but they turned out to be the same, and came with problems. So, the most exciting thing to try, was another guy. That's about the only thing left, I don't do animals,lol--
How can a married couple keep their sex life new and exciting???

Well, to bypass your preamble of bisexual misconceptions, blunderings, and presumptions...
how can a married couple keep their sex life new and exciting???
I would presume a hedonistic tangent, with lots of imagination, a manipulative/somewhat sociopathic psyche, and perhaps a few other despicable ingredients.

Point blank. If you love someone, you love them. Whatever sex you come up with will be fine for that relationship. It will be normal to expirement, wax and wane...
If you're not in love then no variation will satisfy you.
If you're bisexual, then you're bisexual. No amount/variation of sex with one gender can meet your basic needs.
Just some simple sex with both sides including talking, cuddling, kissing, touching, sucking, fucking.
Once you move beyond these basic satisfiers, you're venturing into mind fucking (including your own) with ego, control, and all sorts of other issues.

Bisexuality is mostly about having very strong sexual feelings for both gender.
If you want to ignore some of these feelings and stay puritanically straight, gay, or married, then do so and call it so.
To try to distract, sidetrack the issue... is... just that.
Sorry to be so mean and direct.

NEPHX

Jul 13, 2010, 5:55 AM

Well, to bypass your preamble of bisexual misconceptions, blunderings, and presumptions...

If you're bisexual, then you're bisexual. No amount/variation of sex with one gender can meet your basic needs.

Bisexuality is mostly about having very strong sexual feelings for both gender.....

You seem to be adding your own share of "misconceptions, blunderings, and presumptions" about all bisexual people or about who ever you are reference to with "you/you're" (the reader, the original poster?).

The second two sentences above your post should probably all be in the first person.

The statement "No amount/variation of sex with one gender can meet your basic needs" Firstly, you don't know that person or every other person so its very presumptuous.

That statement is an inaccurate generality. In reality, there are many people in relationships who claim to be very satisfied monogamously coupled (many published book such as GettingBI Voices of Bisexuals Around the World Robyn Ochs/Sara Rowley 1st and 2nd edition. I'm sure there are lots that haven't been asked. Many will likely speak up here. And, it doesn't make them gay or lesbian by default either :rolleyes:

This is basically the infamous "bisexual myth" that says all bisexual people need one of each (by definition could include more than two genders) and they can't commit to one person.

The statement "Bisexuality is mostly about having very strong sexual feelings for both gender....."

Some would tell you otherwise; some agree with you, some would question what they thought about it in general and not be able to answer or have to change their answers every once in awhile or sooner. Some have emotional attraction only, others sexual only, still others have various levels and all can wax/wane over time. So, while that may well be your definition of being bisexual, and it could serve you well, not so much others. Nor, would the more notable academics suggest it is the only or primary definition from their research and writings.

The one I have seen that I like the best is Robyn, in the book above,

"I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge in myself the potential to be attracted, romantically and/or sexually, to people of more than one sex, not necessarily at the same tine, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree. I expect that this definition will change yet again as I continue to learn."

julbug

Jul 13, 2010, 3:17 PM

After reading the post "are you married and bi"---I see that bi-sexual acts are for the pleasure. No feelings, no connections,no obligations after, just for fun? No relationship, maybe you don't even have to like the person?
I know I got bored at home, with the same sex, day in and out, and unless she was going to try a threesome or more, what was left. Had affairs, but they turned out to be the same, and came with problems. So, the most exciting thing to try, was another guy. That's about the only thing left, I don't do animals,lol--
How can a married couple keep their sex life new and exciting???

If there is a problem with your marital sex life, look at the marriage itself. Sometimes you need to make time for yourselves, especially if you have kids or stressful jobs. How long have you been married. I've been married for 10 yrs and we still have a healthy, adventurous sex life that does not involve affairs or other partners. I know he has fantasies and urges, but like anything else its about self control. I like men, that doesn't mean I'll have an affair. So why should my spouse have one, just because he likes guys too? Our sex life is anything but the mundane. Try role play, toys, mutual masturbation, a date night that leads to a quicky in the not so well lit parking lot...the list could go on and on.
There are plenty of ways to have a good sex life, don't blame the marriage for your cheating. Maybe you and your spouse need to take a long weekend away together and revitalize your sex life instead of you trying to justify looking elsewhere.

onewhocares

Jul 13, 2010, 7:55 PM

After reading the post "are you married and bi"---I see that bi-sexual acts are for the pleasure. No feelings, no connections,no obligations after, just for fun? No relationship, maybe you don't even have to like the person?
I know I got bored at home, with the same sex, day in and out, and unless she was going to try a threesome or more, what was left. Had affairs, but they turned out to be the same, and came with problems. So, the most exciting thing to try, was another guy. That's about the only thing left, I don't do animals,lol--
How can a married couple keep their sex life new and exciting???

After reading your thread, I have a couple of comments:

1. I do not agree that bisexual relationships are just for no strings attached sex. Perhaps in your eyes, but not mine. I have had several relationships with bisexual men and while I did not fall in love with the partner, there had to be a basis of attraction and chemistry to even consider moving forward with a sexual relationship.

2. You give the impression that the total responsibility of the ad venturesomeness of your marriage is, or was left up to your wife? May I be so bold as to ask what you did to contribute to making it new and exciting? How did you perhaps encourage her to want to add some spice to the mix.

3. Maybe I see a pattern...if the women that you had affairs with were trysts which ended like the sex with your wife, then perhaps there was a common denominator.

There are MANY of us on this site that have adventurous, exciting sex lives with our spouses. If we choose with the consent of our spouse or a threesome it is more often than not with interest, be it physical,sexual and intellectual arousal.

MY, and only MY two cents :2cents:

Belle

littlerayofsunshine

Jul 13, 2010, 8:23 PM

There are too many reason's to state as to why a couple's sex life hits a slump.

But, it all can get better and adventurous if both work on it. No matter if the lack of sex is due to hormonal, emotional, situational reasons.

Being a woman. I know.. that women do need a certain amount of emotional nurturing and enticement, before our vagina's begin to quake in our panties. And that statement is in regards to whether a fling or a long term relationship.

Basically, whenever i hear someone complain that their sex life is boring.. What i really hear is "I'm a boring and uninteresting person. I have no imagination and rarely take initiative."

And that just doesn't turn me on at all.

Luckily for me. Even after 11 years.. Sex is hot.. 3-4 times a week and is never boring.

BTW. Quite odd that the OP almost makes it sound as if, his wife and maybe women in general made him start thinking about having sex with guys.

Weak, powerless, lacks ownership..

*checks her panties*

Nope not even flutter.

NEPHX

Jul 13, 2010, 8:25 PM

There are MANY of us on this site that have adventurous, exciting sex lives with our spouses. If we choose with the consent of our spouse or a threesome it is more often than not with interest, be it physical,sexual and intellectual arousal.
Belle

Nice statement.... And some of you in Mass even get to be married to same-sex partners!!:bowdown:

Adventurous activities just for the two of us does have its own rewards.... and if I/we chose to involve someone else to whatever extent, its always that combination of attraction because, after all, its not like we can't "get it" at home just for the sake of "getting some.":love1:

(not sure exactly what you mean by "a bisexual relationship" since if I'm bi and have a same-sex spouse/partner its just "a relationship" to me.... but I think you must mean outside of a heterosexual marriage as seems to be the general thread discussion.)

Bluebiyou

Jul 14, 2010, 1:09 AM

...blah blah blah.. (with a middle of the road good point thrown in)...

NEPHX,
I don't believe you really 'listened' to the original post of this thread (that I was responding to directly).
Reread the original starting post. Contemplate it; where the author is coming from and where the author clearly sees as a destination point; his logical construction.
I'm pretty sure my words hold true, here, in this case especially.
It's okay if you disagree.
I think the original poster loveatl is simply falling out of love and is trying all sorts of things to...
feel that way again :) ?

Long Duck Dong

Jul 14, 2010, 1:20 AM

I agree with you. If you are bisexual you will not enjoy a monogamous relationship with just one sex where you only have sex with that one sex.

You may be forced into a monogamous relationship based on your romantic attractions or by a partner but you will still be sexually attracted to both sexes and it will never go away and you will always be wanting what you can't have.

No matter how understanding your partner is or how much you fantasize or watch porn of the opposite sex it's not going to be enough as actually having sex with a different sex than your spouse you are monogamous with if you're bisexual.

I love being *forced * into a monogamous relationship.... it beats the fuck outta having to fit the expectation that as a bisexual * I have to do hook ups, casual sex, and the open relationship stuff....
if I had to live that * bisexual * lifestyle, I simply would not be in a relationship or married.... cos it would be clear that my partner was taking second place to my dick

if people wanna have a open relationship or marriage... and it works... good for them..... but for the ones of us that can be satisfied by love and caring more than what hole our dicks are in..... monogamy is fine, it works.... and I get to enjoy my nights in, during winter, instead of going out in the cold to find somebody to thaw the dammed thing back out again, just so I can stick it in them

just4mefc

Jul 14, 2010, 1:28 AM

Well, to bypass your preamble of bisexual misconceptions, blunderings, and presumptions...
how can a married couple keep their sex life new and exciting???
I would presume a hedonistic tangent, with lots of imagination, a manipulative/somewhat sociopathic psyche, and perhaps a few other despicable ingredients.

Point blank. If you love someone, you love them. Whatever sex you come up with will be fine for that relationship. It will be normal to expirement, wax and wane...
If you're not in love then no variation will satisfy you.
If you're bisexual, then you're bisexual. No amount/variation of sex with one gender can meet your basic needs.
Just some simple sex with both sides including talking, cuddling, kissing, touching, sucking, fucking.
Once you move beyond these basic satisfiers, you're venturing into mind fucking (including your own) with ego, control, and all sorts of other issues.

Bisexuality is mostly about having very strong sexual feelings for both gender.
If you want to ignore some of these feelings and stay puritanically straight, gay, or married, then do so and call it so.
To try to distract, sidetrack the issue... is... just that.
Sorry to be so mean and direct.

For the record both my wife and I are bisexual and monogamous. We have not played with others in I guess 7 or 8 years. We have a great sex life and are very open about each others desires and attractions to same sex. However, we are also aware that each might have attraction to other opposite sex people and we don't sleep with them either. The bisexual energy is alway around us but we do not cheat on each other. Not to say we will never have sex with someone same or opposite sex, I assume some day we will. But it does not limit nor cause distress in any way. We both love and adore each other and chose to be monogamous because we are happy and not controlled by our sexual urges.

No bisexual simply means CAPABLE OF HAVING FEELINGS TOWARDS EITHER GENDER. It does not mean needing BOTH. This is more justification for being promiscuous. Same as a str8 man saying baby I need redheads and blondes.

Bluebiyou

Jul 14, 2010, 2:07 AM

For the record both my wife and I are bisexual and monogamous. We have not played with others in I guess 7 or 8 years. We have a great sex life and are very open about each others desires and attractions to same sex. However, we are also aware that each might have attraction to other opposite sex people and we don't sleep with them either. The bisexual energy is alway around us but we do not cheat on each other. Not to say we will never have sex with someone same or opposite sex, I assume some day we will. But it does not limit nor cause distress in any way. We both love and adore each other and chose to be monogamous because we are happy and not controlled by our sexual urges.
Well, how self righteously wonderful for you two.

No bisexual simply means CAPABLE OF HAVING FEELINGS TOWARDS EITHER GENDER. It does not mean needing BOTH. This is more justification for being promiscuous. Same as a str8 man saying baby I need redheads and blondes.
No, bisexual simply means that you are somewhere between 100% straight and 100%gay.

You should try being REALLY bisexual.
If your esoteric banter was true then your 99.9999999% straight man could gladly marry another man and self righteously hold to the trueness of monogamy, just like you and LDD.
Now, try being REALLY bisexual... not just the 'possibility' but the heartfelt instinctual need.
where if you're with a woman, that part is satisfied, but not being with a man is like being alone and not trying.
Likewise, if you're with a man, that part is satisfied, but not being with a woman is like being alone and not trying.
Where being monogamous, despite every fiber of your being 'believing' in monogamy, feels like a gay man in a straight marriage whenever you're in a relationship with either gender.

Seriously, I don't knock you if your loving relationship holds.

But there are those of us who are strongly bisexual; not merely substitute, 'open', 'possible', or 'capable', but fierce attraction for both feminine and masculine appearance, wit, play, intimacy from intellectual to genital.

Long Duck Dong

Jul 14, 2010, 2:25 AM

a full bisexual would be a fucking seesaw.... trapped in the center between both genders and needing both genders in their life equally in order to be balanced...... not a person that can live and sleep with one gender... and suck the dick of another gender on a casual basis......

now I am not only full bisexual, but I have a mental illness.... they both conflict against each other.... the bisexual side craves the dual relationship, sexual or not.... and the dysthimia means that I struggle to cope with the pressures of a dual relationship..... hence I live a quiet and reclusive lifestyle and monogamous..... cos living on meds just so I can get out of bed in the morning, is not something that appeals to me

now I put up with judgments cos I am mentally ill, cos I am monogamous, cos I am faithful, cos I am open and honest about the issues I face....... etc etc etc...... and considering its from the bisexual community who bitch all the time about bi phobia and people not understanding........ its really fucking hilarious..... cos it makes them the biggest bunch of fucking hypocrites on the face of the earth.....

now I may be bisexual, but my partner is a living breathing loving and caring person, and deserves the same love and respect she gives me in a relationship.... not a role as a secondary partner for when I can not make a casual hook up...... so if I am wrong for treating my partner with all the love and respect she deserves.... then I will be wrong.... but I would rather be wrong for that, than wrong for treating her like shit cos my cock is not in somebody elses asshole and blaming her for that fact.....

its no bloody wonder I am ashamed at times to call myself bisexual.... look at the fuck heads it lumps me in with.....and I am sure there are other bisexuals that distance themselves from bisexual community for the same reason...... they do not want to be judged or have their partner judged, cos the crime of having a monogamous relationship and how wrong it is to love your partner enuf to be with them only

NEPHX

Jul 14, 2010, 3:28 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by NEPHX View Post
...blah blah blah.. (with a middle of the road good point thrown in)...

NEPHX,
I don't believe you really 'listened' to the original post of this thread (that I was responding to directly).
Reread the original starting post. Contemplate it; where the author is coming from and where the author clearly sees as a destination point; his logical construction.
I'm pretty sure my words hold true, here, in this case especially.
?

One thing that is evident is its easy to contemplate your rudeness and ignorance on the topic.

Just to say "If you're bisexual, then you're bisexual. No amount/variation of sex with one gender can meet your basic needs." is so presumptuous (and such a general statement and bi myth). You elude to being bisexual requires, as a basic need, a person or the original poster, to need sex with more than one gender there by discounting the complexity of sexual orientation as if its a one-size fits all situation.

The poster could eventually get into a different relationship with another women or even a man and have vastly different personal results.

By your use of these historical bisexual myths in your post you only show your ignorance as you perpetuate those same myths while arrogantly pointing out out that the poster is responsible for believing/using "bisexual misconceptions, blunderings, and presumptions" which, and while that may be true by the poster, only serve to highlight your statements (with bright hot spot light) that fall into the same categories.

"Bisexuality is mostly about having very strong sexual feelings for both gender." Yet another ignorant statement. One could therefore conclude from such a statement that "heterosexuality is mostly about having very strong sexual feelings for the opposite sex." I guess, in your life, you have no emotional component? Not to mention all the other components such as physical, emotional, intellectual, lifestyle & social attractions to name a very few.

Your words don't ring any truer regardless of what the poster said. I commented on your statements as have others.

If you're going to "quote" me then do so, and don't replace my words.

NEPHX

Jul 14, 2010, 4:11 PM

a full bisexual would be a fucking seesaw.... trapped in the center between both genders and needing both genders in their life equally in order to be balanced......

now I am not only full bisexual, but I have a mental illness.

Your analogy seems pretty accurate to me in a way. Consider that, in balance, the seesaw isn't necessarily perfectly centered. Assuming the entire length, someone could balance it by being closer to either side. And, even over time, the oscillation (oscillatory cycle) could slow to balance and pick up other times hopefully WITHOUT hitting the ground. Actually, osculating right to left and back could be "balance" for some.

You balance things your way as noted and for all your personal reasons you list. The fact that you can not conceive how (what you call) a full bisexual could balance it assuming they fall close to center on a scale (of your choice) is reasonable.

I personally wouldn't call it being trapped but a gift I just was more common (maybe obvious is a better word), more accepted and more understood.

just4mefc

Jul 14, 2010, 5:18 PM

Well, how self righteously wonderful for you two.

No, bisexual simply means that you are somewhere between 100% straight and 100%gay.

You should try being REALLY bisexual.
If your esoteric banter was true then your 99.9999999% straight man could gladly marry another man and self righteously hold to the trueness of monogamy, just like you and LDD.
Now, try being REALLY bisexual... not just the 'possibility' but the heartfelt instinctual need.
where if you're with a woman, that part is satisfied, but not being with a man is like being alone and not trying.
Likewise, if you're with a man, that part is satisfied, but not being with a woman is like being alone and not trying.
Where being monogamous, despite every fiber of your being 'believing' in monogamy, feels like a gay man in a straight marriage whenever you're in a relationship with either gender.

Seriously, I don't knock you if your loving relationship holds.

But there are those of us who are strongly bisexual; not merely substitute, 'open', 'possible', or 'capable', but fierce attraction for both feminine and masculine appearance, wit, play, intimacy from intellectual to genital.

:bigrin: So now we are allowing 12 year olds and their arguments on the site eh? You are too sad to even respond too. I posted for the benefit of the real GROWNUPS here and perhaps a bit of education on your part or some anger management might be in order. Good luck with your bi self. In that, I mean BiPolar for that is the only REAL BI you actually present to be.

This is like speaking with GW Bush, just let them talk and their idiocy will reveal itself soon enough :bigrin:

Good Laugh though :bigrin:

NEPHX

Jul 14, 2010, 6:39 PM

... perhaps a bit of education ...

This is like speaking with GW Bush....

OMG, I had the same reaction and thought of "W" too... that's scary!

just4mefc

Jul 15, 2010, 12:45 AM

Bisexuals do wind up picking a sex or gender at least for romance and a relationship. I'm not talking about sexual attraction for bisexuals since for some of us that goes all over the place.

Some are forced into monogamy or picking a gender or sex to settle down with by a wife or husband that only wants monogamy but even if they have an open relationship the person or people who they are seeing on the side does not take the place or have equality with their husband or wife.

Some bisexuals do wind up finding out that they prefer a sex or gender for sex or sexual attraction but again they are never going to be completely straight or gay, or stop being sexually attracted to both sexes or genders.

Totally agree with you. I mentioned my marriage only as a counter to the statement you can't be bi, monogamous and happy. I still have attraction to both men and women and yet am very happy in my monogamous life. But I am lucky to have chosen this life. It was not asked of me nor was I coerced in some hidden way. The only request we make of each other is to never go behind the other back. If I were someone who had been forced to be monogamous, well in all truth based on my passed I most likely would have cheated. Certainly makes a big difference that my wife is also bisexual. Don't get me wrong I am certain we will both knowingly have same sex partners again at some point. It is a lot of fun after all. :tongue:

Of course having grown a bit from my early cheating days I will never be in that situation again. To crushing to my soul!

just4mefc

Jul 15, 2010, 12:48 AM

OMG, I had the same reaction and thought of "W" too... that's scary!

Must be fate ;) or GW was just a universal moron :rolleyes:

Bluebiyou

Jul 15, 2010, 1:50 AM

a full bisexual would be a fucking seesaw.... trapped in the center between both genders and needing both genders in their life equally in order to be balanced... ...

Couldn't agree more LDD.

I'm glad you and Duckies Darling have something wonderful going.

I wish you both 'heaven on earth'.

Bluebiyou

Jul 15, 2010, 2:31 AM

NEPHX
C'mon man. Get real.
I apologize for being rude; that much of what you said is true.
The original poster berated bisexuality in his first sentence:
"After reading the post "are you married and bi"---I see that bi-sexual acts are for the pleasure. No feelings, no connections,no obligations after, just for fun? No relationship, maybe you don't even have to like the person?
I know I got bored at home, with the same sex, day in and out, and unless she was going to try a threesome or more, what was left. Had affairs, but they turned out to be the same, and came with problems. So, the most exciting thing to try, was another guy. That's about the only thing left, I don't do animals,lol--
How can a married couple keep their sex life new and exciting???"
Okay so this guy is pretty transparantly all about himself. Not excited about the wife anymore so he tried affairs, "only thing left" is to try another guy.
I respond to this guy... "hey, if you're bisexual, you're bisexual." But I don't think bisexuality is as much the case as this guy's boredom.
NEPHX comes at me,
You can't say this!
You can't say that!
I realize that everyone reads into each post their own issues superimposed over the issues presented. I've done it myself on past occasions.
NEPHX
I don't need another enemy.
Yet your posts were so taken out on a tangent.
You know, if I see a man standing on the edge of a building ready to jump and end it all or
if I see a man drunk lying in the gutter of the street, or
if I see a man with a gun to me or someone else demanding something...
you know... I might say things in each of the situations that may not apply 100% verbatim to the others.
Here's a guy who's pretty clearly not bringing up 'true' bisexual issues, but aging issues of "the love is dying - what do I try to keep me entertained?"

okay?
and the GW Bush thing... shit... grade schoolers use this metaphor for catagorically rejecting someone. Hey NEPHX, you must be real in, a real hipster (1950-60s schoolchild slang).
C'mon, if you applied the same devotion to micro analysis to the poster that you did to me I suspect you'd probably be ripping him a new asshole.

And as for just4mefc... WTF? You didn't make a single point, just jabs.

I'll assume there's just a miscommunication/misunderstanding between us.
Although, NEPHX, you were correct in saying I was rude. And so I do apologize.

just4mefc

Jul 15, 2010, 2:46 PM

NEPHX

And as for just4mefc... WTF? You didn't make a single point, just jabs.

I'll assume there's just a miscommunication/misunderstanding between us.
Although, NEPHX, you were correct in saying I was rude. And so I do apologize.

Let me get this straight I posted a counter to your argument that bi people can never be happy if monogamous and you tell me I am not really bi and give some statement of bi is "have to have both" which is totally projection from you. You slam me and call me self righteous and well goodie two shoes for you. Because your absolute statement of what bi is was not agreed upon. You took the road of "I am real bi and you are not" a 12 year olds argument. So yes I jabbed back. But you drew first blood, not me. You attacked an innocent example of an alternative view. You are welcome to your opinion but I never argue with fools as another might not know who is who. Now if you want to back up and have a grownup conversation on what we disagree upon I will be more then happy to oblige. For now I stand by my previous post and leave the ball in your court. Your choice slam me or send an olive branch? I hope for the later, time will tell

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Jul 15, 2010, 3:16 PM

You guys that are being grumps need an Olive Branch alright...right across yer little butts! Ya'll quit spatting and being rude and get back to the subject at hand. :mad:
Can monogamous couples have an exciting sex life? Yes of course. IF they choose to keep excitement alive in the bedroom, and outSide of the bedroom. Try new things, explore new regions and new sensual pleasures. Explore, learn, evolve, and keep On learning what feels the best for Both of you. If you choose to bring in a 3rd party, then Do so. Do whatever your little hearts and minds and bodies desire..just be safe and have fun at it. :}
Cat