Sex Positive?

[MarieDelta]

The web gives this as the definiton of Sex Positive:


In general sex positive has come to refer to a position that affirms that:
•Sex can be a positive force both in personal development and society.
•Consensual sexual expression is a basic human right regardless of the form that expression takes.
•People have the right to accurate and straightforward sexual health information.
•It is not appropriate to judge others consensual choices regarding how to have sex, who to have sex with, and how one defines their sexual orientation and identity.
•It is equally important to focus on the positive aspects of sexuality, like sexual pleasure, and not just disease prevention, prevention of sexual assault and unwanted pregnancy.
•Sexually is largely socially constructed, and there are few if any essential truths about sex.

So my question to you is, do you think you are sex positive?

Do you think that being sex positive is a good thing or a bad thing?

[Annika L]

Based on that definition, there is no doubt in my mind that I am Sex Positive. In fact, I have a hard time seeing many of our members here as not being...but I could just be projecting my own sense and values onto others...I'm no more above that than anyone else.

And given that I am Sex Positive, of course I think it's a good thing.:tong:

The last item in the definition gives me pause, though, as it appears to be somewhat self-contradicting. I would amend it to say "Sexuality is largely socially constructed, and there are few if any essential truths about sex, including this one."

[ThreeInOne]

The last item in the definition gives me pause, though, as it appears to be somewhat self-contradicting. I would amend it to say "Sexuality is largely socially constructed, and there are few if any essential truths about sex, including this one."

What they said!

[MarieDelta]

Based on that definition, there is no doubt in my mind that I am Sex Positive. In fact, I have a hard time seeing many of our members here as not being...but I could just be projecting my own sense and values onto others...I'm no more above that than anyone else.

And given that I am Sex Positive, of course I think it's a good thing.:tong:

The last item in the definition gives me pause, though, as it appears to be somewhat self-contradicting. I would amend it to say "Sexuality is largely socially constructed, and there are few if any essential truths about sex, including this one."

LOL

Doesnt that just become recursive though?

Isnt it enough to say that there are few , if any essential truths about sex?

If you add the last in there, then why bother to say it at all?

The statement you constructed seems to say that there may or may not be essential truths about sex.

Possibly would be better without the statement entirely, as it does seem redundant.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Well Marie, I am in a Sex Positive Lifestyle Group, and have been for many years now. So I guess that makes me Sex Positive cuz I positively love good sex...lol:tong:
Silly Cat

[just4mefc]

In general sex positive has come to refer to a position that affirms that:
•Sex can be a positive force both in personal development and society.
•Consensual sexual expression is a basic human right regardless of the form that expression takes.
•People have the right to accurate and straightforward sexual health information.
•It is not appropriate to judge others consensual choices regarding how to have sex, who to have sex with, and how one defines their sexual orientation and identity.
•It is equally important to focus on the positive aspects of sexuality, like sexual pleasure, and not just disease prevention, prevention of sexual assault and unwanted pregnancy.
•Sexually is largely socially constructed, and there are few if any essential truths about sex.

Well based on this criteria I say Yes I am very much sex positive. I think sex is very positive when applied under these constructs. Of course it can be a very destructive thing when these basics are not held in high regard.

[TamLin]

I feel bad for whoever isn't. They must lead sad, broken, unfulfilled lives. Except maybe, I dunno, Tibetan monks. Then again, even though they don't have sex themselves, I guess they could still feel positive about it.

[citystyleguy]

The web gives this as the definiton of Sex Positive:



So my question to you is, do you think you are sex positive? ...yep!

Do you think that being sex positive is a good thing or a bad thing? ...yep, again!(a good thing, of course!)

these statements are always rhetorical in their structure, a sort of self-fullfilment, in that people at sites like this would gravitate to the premis, and just the oppisite for people finding these same sites as repugnant.

as to the last statement, sexuality of each exists independent of social parameters, but the individual is confused for all the mixed messages fired at us by those very same social institutions and their adherents, hence the need for people to congregrate at sites such as these.

also, our identifier here, bi-sexual, which is grammatically incorrect, but as it is the commonlly accepted tag, then, what the hell, if that is what is needed by social institutions to give them something to identify me, so be it, but it will never limit my actions, nor truly define those same actions! :three:

[DuckiesDarling]

I feel bad for whoever isn't. They must lead sad, broken, unfulfilled lives. Except maybe, I dunno, Tibetan monks. Then again, even though they don't have sex themselves, I guess they could still feel positive about it.

Don't feel bad for me and I live a very rewarding, fullfilling life. Sex to me means not one thing without the intimacy that comes with or without sexual contact. Without intimacy sex is nothing but fucking, rutting, nothing in it will bring you closer to your partner without some semblance of intimacy. So I guess I'm Intimacy positive not Sex positive.

[TaylorMade]

One of my favorite Comediennes, Sheryl Underwood, describes herself as such. I'm close to it, but not entirely.

*Taylor*

[darkeyes]

Don't feel bad for me and I live a very rewarding, fullfilling life. Sex to me means not one thing without the intimacy that comes with or without sexual contact. Without intimacy sex is nothing but fucking, rutting, nothing in it will bring you closer to your partner without some semblance of intimacy. So I guess I'm Intimacy positive not Sex positive.Sex has always involved an intimacy to me.. whether it is one which is longer term with husband, lover or partner, or a quick shag in a graveyard or doorway, a passionate one night encounter with a stranger, within those acts there have always been at the very least one moment of extreme intimacy.. sometimes that intimancy was not at all positive, but it was there nonetheless.. and when masturbating there is little more positive than discovering and enjoying our own bodies? And fucking and rutting for their own sake, I always enjoyed a good rut (love the word), Darling, darling (but do lesbians rut???).. but for better or worse, there has always been an intimacy there from which I gleened much..

[MarieDelta]

Don't feel bad for me and I live a very rewarding, fullfilling life. Sex to me means not one thing without the intimacy that comes with or without sexual contact. Without intimacy sex is nothing but fucking, rutting, nothing in it will bring you closer to your partner without some semblance of intimacy. So I guess I'm Intimacy positive not Sex positive.

Hmm maybe its just me but it seems to say that if you prefer intimacy with your sex then good, if not then , good.

Doesnt seem to say a word either way.

However, I dont believe that you can have sex without intimacy of some sort. Even the briefest of transactions leaves both people changed.

[kitten]

Yes. I will go with being sex positive.

[just4mefc]

Sex has always involved an intimacy to me.. whether it is one which is longer term with husband, lover or partner, or a quick shag in a graveyard or doorway, a passionate one night encounter with a stranger, within those acts there have always been at the very least one moment of extreme intimacy.. sometimes that intimancy was not at all positive, but it was there nonetheless.. and when masturbating there is little more positive than discovering and enjoying our own bodies? And fucking and rutting for their own sake, I always enjoyed a good rut (love the word), Darling, darling (but do lesbians rut???).. but for better or worse, there has always been an intimacy there from which I gleened much..

Perfectly said! Now can we meet in a doorway somewhere to discuss this further ;)

[darkeyes]

Perfectly said! Now can we meet in a doorway somewhere to discuss this further ;)

ooo a proposition.. only ifya hav the rite bits.. tee hee:bigrin:

[Annika L]

Don't feel bad for me and I live a very rewarding, fullfilling life. Sex to me means not one thing without the intimacy that comes with or without sexual contact. Without intimacy sex is nothing but fucking, rutting, nothing in it will bring you closer to your partner without some semblance of intimacy. So I guess I'm Intimacy positive not Sex positive.

I share your value for intimacy. But does that value impact whether you are Sex positive? If so, which item in Marie's definition is violated or impacted if you personally require intimacy as part of your sexual contact?

[TulsaTriad1]

Doesnt that just become recursive though?
That's it!

I'm sexually recursive.

Not redundant, though.

At least I hope not.

;o)

[wrzwldo69]

also, our identifier here, bi-sexual, which is grammatically incorrect,

My mom taught English for 30 years but never corrected me on this one:)



these statements are always rhetorical in their structure, a sort of self-fullfilment, in that people at sites like this would gravitate to the premis, and just the oppisite for people finding these same sites as repugnant.

as to the last statement, sexuality of each exists independent of social parameters, but the individual is confused for all the mixed messages fired at us by those very same social institutions and their adherents, hence the need for people to congregrate at sites such as these.

also, our identifier here, bi-sexual, which is grammatically incorrect, but as it is the commonlly accepted tag, then, what the hell, if that is what is needed by social institutions to give them something to identify me, so be it, but it will never limit my actions, nor truly define those same actions! :three:

[DuckiesDarling]

Hmm maybe its just me but it seems to say that if you prefer intimacy with your sex then good, if not then , good.

Doesnt seem to say a word either way.

However, I dont believe that you can have sex without intimacy of some sort. Even the briefest of transactions leaves both people changed.

Actually for me the intimacy makes sex into making love. Anything else is just scratching an itch and there is nothing wrong with that but I prefer to be with a partner rather than some chance encounter. That's what I'm saying.

[DuckiesDarling]

I share your value for intimacy. But does that value impact whether you are Sex positive? If so, which item in Marie's definition is violated or impacted if you personally require intimacy as part of your sexual contact?

None of them, I just personally feel that for me I have to have intimacy with sex or it means nothing to me or to the person I'm having sex with.

[wrzwldo69]

is intimacy the difference between sex and fucking?


I share your value for intimacy. But does that value impact whether you are Sex positive? If so, which item in Marie's definition is violated or impacted if you personally require intimacy as part of your sexual contact?